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Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Jodha(f): 8:18am On Jan 03, 2020 |
Mcslize: Yhu could have easily done this without.... giving me an unnecessary mention... 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Mcslize: 8:45am On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jodha: I mentioned you because your advice from a guy's perspective was wrong and I wanted you to read why we saw it as a wrong advice. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 10:09am On Jan 03, 2020 |
AstroG:One of ubunja disciples spotted, u don't know what true love is about , have u ever fallen in love b4 or have u had your heart broken by love.if yes u won't talk like this. What d OP needs is encouragement, anyone can make d mistake he made. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 10:14am On Jan 03, 2020 |
OP, I think d lady is playing mind games with u meaning she has no boyfriend anyone. I think she is trying to bring out d lion in U to do d needful. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by rosy1992(f): 11:04am On Jan 03, 2020 |
If she does not want you just move on. You will eventually see someone better than her. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 11:29am On Jan 03, 2020 |
AkandeJoseph99: This was where you lost her. Now, that a girl doesn't ask doesn't mean she doesn't need anything and so you now relax. Fine she'll keep quiet and be watching but I tell you, if another guy just comes and buys her stuff or start catering for her needs, you'll automatically be friend zoned. I mean...tell me what I'll be doing with someone who only wearies me with talks abd not try to appreciate me or show he really cares about me? And the other guy that spends for me is a mugu right? No now...we are human beings. If una like, bash me. I dont hide my own. While there are men who believe its not right to take care of a woman, there are some who still believe they should take care of their woman. So if your own love na for mouth, youll see better G that will come and beat you hands down and knock you off the picture then you'll go be crying like a baby in your closet. We all saw it here when Chiomas ex couldn't contain it and started posting old pics of when they were together after Chioma don port. no be craze be that? So be there forming macho man while the smart guys who know how to take care of a woman keep doing you guys ewa. We know there's always that girl that makes you kolo even though you're here forming hulk hogan. We know. Op, forget her. She don go. Next time relax and open teeth say she no ask for anything. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by luminouz(m): 11:32am On Jan 03, 2020 |
Missy89: Ewwwwwwww.... |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by luminouz(m): 11:33am On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jewessgratitude: *sighs* Your matter taya me aswear... |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 11:39am On Jan 03, 2020 |
luminouz: I tot I warned you never to mention me again? Please I'm officially and formally begging you now, DON'T MENTION ME AGAIN! I dont have any biz with you. I dont know you and don't even want to know you. Please! Ha! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by MizzPhoney(f): 12:02pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
I'm kinda wondering why this always happens. Why will you keep so much company with someone for that long without opening ur mouth? Sorry, she loved u too, but as the stereotype goes, the guy must toast first. When u did not, some else did. Move on. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by AkandeJoseph99(m): 12:25pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
I bought her somethings which I had to force her before buying, she would just say she doesn't wanna follow you for benefits, not like I don't like spending, I even told her I would like spending on her. I just found out this guy does not even have anything and is not spending a dime on her. Jewessgratitude: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by luminouz(m): 12:59pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jewessgratitude: Please, I'm officially and formally begging you now....I WILL NEVER STOP MENTIONING YOU DEAR. YOU DONT NEED TO KNOW ME. I JUST WANT YOU TO SEE ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE TO THIS LIFE. Please! Ha! Its a new year naaa,dont be grumpy |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by manlawal(m): 1:41pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
AkandeJoseph99:how old are you |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Salvado1: 1:50pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Shibaraba:over plenty my man girl no suppose do guy for any man ooh |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by lisabty22: 1:57pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Mcslize: dear take this advice ghost her the more you call the more you keep getting messed up. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Subzero047: 2:03pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
AstroG: Some of these guys are teens so you should understand |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 2:04pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jodha:I thought I have seen it all ! Oya,nigga ( akandejoseph99) go and start composing love anthems on how to be reminding her your "love" for her on a daily basis Funny enough, there is one street guy(s) that have never told her how much he/they loves her,but doing everything the guy you're advising to be keeping love alarm on top one girl head can't do with her At Op,just hoping you go get sense & stop taking relationship advise from random women,unless those very few women,very very few, that can be very brutal and honest with you. You're still growing up Akande,I guess the 99 in your monicker means you were born in 1999,with time you will understand better,we all where there,and some are still going through that phase we go all out killing ourselves for people, especially women that don't give a fu*k about our feelings, it's all part of the learning processes in life. So clean up yourself,and move on with life,time have a way of healing wounds & pains. Take care.. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 2:06pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
AkandeJoseph99: I hear you. Then may be you were just dealing with her casually. Sometimes over confidence that shes already yours due to the way she showers you with attention may make you relax and not give her the assurance she needs to trust you. So she'll be double minded and if another guy comes and reciprocates that attention, she'll easily divert. This is 2020. Any man still behaving like a kid or playboy will have himself to blame for it. Girls are not smiling. So if you see that one you truly love, dont toy with her. If you know you dont want her or you're not ready, free her abeg. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by pauladonis(m): 2:33pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jodha:If a girl loves you, she loves you... If not, you can decide to make your every breath a declaration of love for her and she will still tell you she's busy and doesn't have even a minute to pick your calls. I'm also in a funny relationship like that right now... For months now, I send good morning and good night messages to her everyday like clockwork, call her all the time and tell her exactly how I feel about her but even for her to listen to songs I send to her is a problem, she's "always busy" I asked her how far just before the new year and she's telling me to give her time to get herself together before she can reciprocate my feelings. I just told her to take enough time to get her shit together without me. This is 2020, if anyone needs to think for months before she can even admit that she feels something for me, then we are obviously not meant to be together. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
AkandeJoseph99:Scarcity creates value,always remember that. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 2:48pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Mcslize:Akandejoseph99 please take these advice. Please do ! 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Wenkivincent: 3:01pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
TUANKU:brother that's too hash Nah.... beside love is not about sex......but eh i can't date without having a piece of her cake |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by Nobody: 3:09pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jewessgratitude: So you expect op or a guy to be spending or impressing a gurl/lady that categorically tells him she feels nothing & can only see him as a mere friend. citing chioma as a references doesnt correlate with OP case, chioma was in a gurlfriend to the Ex & now to davido, in my xperience with all ladies i discover, giving a gurl sometin when she never asked means "these guy is trying to impress me for coochies". impressing a gurl propels fake love most times. If spending on a gurlfriend is recorded as loss overlooked, what do we call spending on a gurl that takes very opportunity to clear d spender he is just a friend. your advice is just a proof that gurls are wicked & covetous if u don't want him don't want is money as well. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by demsy21(m): 4:20pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Please Op, I'm sorry to interrupt. I'd like you to answer the following questions. I feel I'm the other guy. In wich state is the girl staying? Which school? What is her initials as in first letter of her Surname and so on? Ps: I'm not trying to hurt you emotionally, i just want to know. Because your story is somehow similar to my own situation. AkandeJoseph99: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by AkandeJoseph99(m): 4:28pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
25 manlawal: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by AkandeJoseph99(m): 4:35pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
What's your own name? I am in Abj. demsy21: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by pansophist(m): 4:41pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Jodha: Wrong advice. Even if he didn't tell her he loves her, his actions is clear and can not be misinterpreted by her. His constant calling, messaging and care about her affair sends a strong message than words will ever do. Even if he tells her that he loves her, ask her out and do everything you said, she will not accept and look for a scape goat to blame, instead of telling him straight up she is not interested. The girl simply is not into him, and he is forcing himself on her. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by nuelsam: 5:04pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
Op, u wanna hear the truth? I mean the bitter truth? U sound needy u are clingy u are weak u can never have her if u keep doing this to yourself.....infact u indirectly chasing her away with this sickening attitude......its obvious u dont understand the game at all......the way forward is the way backward, call it off.........stop acting like u care even if u do......if she calls, pick, act like u dont have her time and cut the call.....i tell you, her brain go reset..... Yeah its hard cos u put yourself into enought shit already but u gats level up for real.....all the sit her down and talk to her will only give u the Mr FriendZone medal and nothing else bruh. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by demsy21(m): 5:21pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
You are answering with another question. Just tell me her initials. I do go to Lagos many times for business and research stuffs, but i reside in Osun for now. AkandeJoseph99: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by maak400: 5:28pm On Jan 03, 2020 |
AkandeJoseph99:I want to believe that you’re a teenage boy that is just experiencing “love” ( i actually don’t believe in it ). If you like kill yourself because of a girl that someone is possibly fvcking right now, that’s your palava. You have a future to build and a dream to accomplish, but if you feel destroying your life with drugs and alcohol because of a girl is more important then carry on bro. |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by oyatz(m): 11:16am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Fraudulent LOVE identified. 1) The OP is a young man and inexperienced in Man-woman affairs. 2) The OP made the girl his Num-1 but the lady made him her num-2. In November,2019, she finalized the deal with num-1 and they started a relationship. 3) The OP is only pained because of the way he rated the lady. Nothing so special or irreplaceable about her. 4) Every correct guy has this kind of experience at one stage in their lives. It's called 'HEARTBREAK'. After this baptism of fire, the OP will become a man! He will be the one breaking ladies hearts. The OP's Heart can't be broken again because he won't give his heart to any lady again. Jodha: |
Re: I'm Having Sleepless Night; She Said She We Are Just Friends by oyatz(m): 11:24am On Jan 04, 2020 |
Not exactly sir. Men and Women think differently about love/relationship. The OP can follow the two categories of advice- one given by the ladies and the other given by the men, asking him to forget about the lady and move on. 1) If the OP follow the ladies' advice to beg or talk to her, it can work. The demerit of this is that the OP will perpetually be in her debt and postponing a possible evil day. 2) If the OP follows the advice of the men and move on, he will be more mentally stable and emotionally matured MJBOLT: |
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