smat101:
[b]UpDate[\b] I didn't beat her this morning, but I gave her hot slaps and then counsel her. She cried and from the look of things the cry was very remorseful...
Thanks to Ishilove
Enwhen
eduman365
Misstearious
flyingdutchman
Lexusgs430
airex...
And Everybody that gave meaningful advice..

Remaining that guy, I've really thought about it...
[b]I will just take some guys with me [/b]in the evening and warn Him thoroughly without being physical unless if he starts it... And make it clear to him that she's underage and he should stay clear...

I am scared for my future children

I wonder how my mum and dad did it?
Parenting isn't easy especially in this present world.

You sure she ain't just trying to scam the dude?
Moreover,the guy may not know that she's just 14 years old.

Rukkydelta:
I am scared for my future children

I wonder how my mum and dad did it?
Parenting isn't easy especially in this present world.

GIRLCHILD... GIRLCHILD, GOD PLS DENY ME OF THE GIFT OF A GIRLCHILD..

Sorry oh Op........This is what you get when all our secular music videos are filled with nudity, Erotic sex related scenes, even some Gospel music videos are not left out....

At the back end of the videos, those shameless Video directors would shamelessly tag their names as: Clarence peters shot it, Patrick elis shot it, Mattmax shot it, TG Omori shot Nonsense....

smat101:

I just finished talking to her like an hour ago, and she is still wanting to give in to sex...
I think if I beat her it will help her remember what I told her.

U are more Right than some of these Loose fellows here. Pls orientated her well b4 leaving.

If you ever get to read this, i really think that you have here a golden opportunity to teach your sister, to have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Guide her to make her decision herself, share your own story. How you handle this will determine for life her confidence in you!

The truth is that your sister urge is much once she starts to open no closing o ,take her away, slap her, tell her you and your mother would be taken her for Virginity test every month try and be doing it once in a while she go fear, tell her that your guys would be watching her lastly tell her she can have a boyfriend when she is in final year

If she was my sister,I would screenshot the chat create a new fb page ,post the chat on his wall and cover the name of my sister...I would write extensively on the stupid act of paedophiles ,exposed the guy ,explain how he chats with minors to have sex with them....disgrace his entire generation.For my sis, stern warning would suffice...Then I show her more love and compassion...treat her better than I used to.

This is difficult cos everyday I see my sisters and I see beautiful young women and I'm just scared of all the predators walking around out there. How do I begin to talk to them so they can protect themselves as best as they can. But first and foremost you have evidence of the chat and evidence that the guy is planning to solicit sex and pornographic content from a minor, hopefully you can chase this with help from some child rights groups and the guy can be put away for a long time. I'm 22 and whenever I talk to my guys I find out a lot of them are having sex with 16 and 17yo and when I talk to them about it they'll come with the reasoning that they have big breast and are physically mature, and that after all if you don't do it they'll still do it with another person so they're just collecting their share. Very flawed reasoning as I can't date or have sex with a girl under 18. I just wish more people were like me in action and in thinking especially when it comes to things like age and consent.

TAKE HER OUT ON DATE. BUY PIZZA AND ICECREAM. SHOW HER LOVE AND BELIEVE YOU ME, SHE WILL NEVER SEEK ONE OUTSIDE. HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SISTER NOW THAT SHE IS VULNERABLE. BE THE BOYFRIEND SHE SEEKS IN A BROTHERLY WAY. DO NO BEAT HER. BEATING WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF YOU ARE LIVING WITH HER BUT SINCE YOU JUST VISITED, ANOTHER METHOD WOULD BE BETTER. LET HER SEE HOW YOU WANT HER PROGRESS AND WHY GOING AGAINST IT WOULD AFFECT HER.

smat101:

iPrevail, she is a very hardworking, respectful and intelligent girl...
Beating her can NEVER make her rebellious instead it will make her very scared and embarrassed.

Please, I have a question for you, you never mentioned in your post if she told the said guy her true age. Did she tell the guy she is just 14? If no, leave the guy out of this, most girls form what they are not online. Take nairaland for instance, we have plenty under age fellows here dragging things with their elders, same goes on other forum. Going after the guy when your kid sis. has been forming a big girl online will result to a case that will backfire on you should do anything bad to the guy and the case reach the appropriate quarters. Check the chats very well and also your sister's profile on Facebook to ensure that her identity shows that she is a minor and the guy is still after her innocent kpekus. You can only take action against the guy knowing that he is aware he is going after a minor.

Oh

Where is your location.. let me join you in messing the guy up

Counsel her.
Beating would worsen the situation.

There is nothing you can do to change the mindset of that little girl, except divine intervention

sonnde:
this is one of d problems we have in Nigeria. Must We Wait 4 problems b4 we tackle them. Even, police wil say 'report every suspicious movement to security agencies'. My Take Is, Inform D Police asap

Nigeria police will say he wasn't caught in the act. Trust me . They will end up saying maybe the man is just pulling.the girls legs. That's is the accused pays well

smat101:

I just finished talking to her like an hour ago, and she is still wanting to give in to sex...
I think if I beat her it will help her remember what I told her.

it seems you have already made up your mind to beat her up..Sha beating her won't stop it, talking to her seriously will do.while talking to her you can draw her ear Sha let her know how bad the path she's about to tour is

Counselling is good....if she is the type that listens and heeds to advice she will refrain from such... The society does not help matters as many models and celebrities they adour and worship are not good examples to emulate...I have a minor at home who loves Tiwa Savage, a yet to be divorcée and a mother of one philandering and flirting with wizkid.....she is no good public figure to emulate but organizations celebrate them and make them brand ambassadors. Who does that? While graduates roam the street unemployed being tagged yahoo yahoo. All this misplaced priorities will come back to hunt us as country in the future. Reporting the guy for me is a no deal....he might even claim ignorance...facebook is a jungle....whatever happens there is at owners risk....18+ kinda stuff...your sis shouldn't have an account there for starters....she is as guilty as the guy but then gullible and naive inclusive.... Children of this days, u will be shocked at the things they know already...RMD said his whole family are marlians and I wonder the ages of those in question....naira marley is vulg and raw....and his popularity is a detriment to the people he might influence.... Thank God its not a ritual case which is not out of the question.... Getting rid of that guy will pave way for another and me I don't condole jungle justice.... Call the guy warn and advice him to stay away from ur kid sis or u will involve the police....then talk to ur kid sis, advice her and make her ur best friend so she can tell u any and everything.......no beating, no police....use wisdom and spychology and u shall be fine......i once molested an underage girl who didnt look her age tho i knew she wasnt 18, despite i had no carnal knowledge of her yet I regretted my actions till date.....most guys are blinded towards reason when such urge comes...I am more disciplined now, got into a healthy and serious relationship.... ....our values have been traded with the yoppy lifestyle infesting the society where everything is driving by money.....

smat101:

Thanks Enwhen

In addition to what Enwhen suggested, if possible, distance her from the guy for now by, probably, sending her out to a strict relative just for a short holiday.

During the holiday session if your sister, then get the guy and see if you can reason with him. The truth is that you don't know the caliber of person the guy in question is. So, be careful not to poison the food your family may end up regretting eating because they want to quench hunger.

I rest my case.

I don't support evil, but remember you get girlfriend, handle this matter with deep intelligent

Its always good to monitor all these small kids. My wife younger brother is just 13. He used my wife phone to check his Facebook page on chrome and didnt log out before he travelled. Most of his chat was with opposite sex. Asking them out . asking for nude pics , meeting up for kisses and so on. Its really annoying what this kids are turning to

If I hear u well by beating her she will stop hmm the most sensed. Baba u no get sense at all u better call her and advice her as a caring brother. May God lead her to the right path