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WTF did I just read?
A cool Dude married an a.sshole for a wife. It's gonna be a long ride for you, man.

This shiit is not real.


No sane man will talk like this.

So I'm going with superstory

HarunaWest:
Mr Man.. You married a flirty lady.. She can't and won't stop..
(In Posterity)
Truth is me I flirt as well, if my wife cheats, fine I go vex buh I won't send her packing as far as say e no much..From the post so far, you haven't been really faithful to your wife as well so it seems your feeling guilty sending her packing.
Meanwhile change her phone and SIM cards, restrict her movement, put tight measures in place.. Forget pastor and prayers it won't solve any problem.. You might even be shocked that pastor sef is eyeing your wife too.
You have to ask her what the problem is, have a heart to see art talk, ask her if she's still in love with you or not so you guys will know what to do. Marriage isn't by force nowadays, fvck till death do us part..That one na old slogan.. Speak to your wife.

Are u not reading all the 'talking' he has been doing with her??

I hate all the 'sit her down and have a heart to heart' talk. Is she a baby ni?

Baba please leave your wife and find someone that will give you peace of mind

Margy:
See op... if you are truly in love with your wife, and you are sure you are the father of those kids, and your wife loves you but can't stop flirting.... and even after counsel she hasn't changed. And you truly want your family to work.

Take this advice!.. when having a heart to heart talk with her... boom.. do a blood covenant.. who ever flirts..cheats or in any sexual mood with any person...madness straight.. make sure the blood is flowing plenty during the covenant.. i swear.. this will put fear into her!

Which lady wanna be mad��

Mtchewwww... Rubbish advice.

lewis512:
The more I try to understand this the more I put you at fault , glad you know you are a weak man and what have you been doing to help yourself in such situations, what if all the kids you think you have are not yours ? What if you are infected with serious STDs ? Think about it na , reporting to pastors and all the sorries won’t cure all of those I believe

That guy is fuqin with you. He ain't real neither is his story bro

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1)

I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend.

Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of:

"Cant wait to see you"
"I'm taking my bath now"
"Touch your boobs"
"I'm feeling you inside me"
"I will fvck you crazy"

She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like...

"I miss you so much"
"I will svck u to cum"
"I cant wait to see you"


Usually there are very deep ones more than these.

When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on.

But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her.

Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too."

She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real?

I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her.

I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls

Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc?

I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o).

I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her.

I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance

As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage.

She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her.

Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance:

Op doesn't like his sanity you better dump that cheating hoe reading this post gan is annoying me

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2)

After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced.

My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe.

About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe.

About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here?

About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe?

About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more.

Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe.

In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office.

The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws.

She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now.

About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth.

She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that."

Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back.

Now my challenge is this:

Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative?

The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this?

I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers.

Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on.

Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying.

I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues

Please, everyone, counsel me.

If I read this trash to the end make heaven nor release my blessings.

Usually when I read family dramas on nairaland,I read comments to understand peoples take on things, but on this thread i couldnt read the comments because all the things you wrote up there vexed me and spoilt my whole mood.

Oga i have nothing to say to you, since you want to continue being stupid for this new year well done sir.

Mr man, you're still sleeping. Kindly open your eyes.

Whatever you posted up there can only happen in dreams and movies.

Ken4agent:
Blood covenant na long thing.......just plant magun on her and d rest is story

i support this if u still love her ... mr mugu

whatdowomenwant:
Sir, this is no joke. I'm in the middle of this.

Am I really a weak man?

I'm just trying to save my marriage. 10 years is not 10 days

what's 10 years ... 20 years I catch u chat with another one kind that's the end ...

Mr Man, are you sure you're your child's father ?
.

whatdowomenwant:
I'm not cheating sir. When I saw the chat of August, I felt I really needed to help her sexually. So I bought some dildos for her because I now understood that maybe I'm not giving her satisfaction, even though I do try sha. And I've told her to tell me whatever she wants when it comes to sex and I'll do it.

I do really try in that area

how come you singled that sentence out of all I had to say. Anyways

Since that's the case, confront her with evidence and ask her why she still cheats. This is no joke o. She must tell you the truth. Real communication. No third party. Move out and stop your husband duties to her, provide for the children o. But the extra has to stop. Work on you. Pray for yourself. Just leave her alone. Don't touch her. She's hurting you and you deserve to know why. Does she still love you? I still think you should send her away, even if it is for a while.

May you have the strength to pull through.

Bro you're weak.. she will never respect you.. those kids might not ne yours.. theres a 70% chance they aren't yours.. throw that bitch out now.. a woman who cheats can kill her husband... they there dey ask stupid questions.. this is why we need to eradicate simps

Margy:
See op... if you are truly in love with your wife, and you are sure you are the father of those kids, and your wife loves you but can't stop flirting.... and even after counsel she hasn't changed. And you truly want your family to work.

Take this advice!.. when having a heart to heart talk with her... boom.. do a blood covenant.. who ever flirts..cheats or in any sexual mood with any person...madness straight.. make sure the blood is flowing plenty during the covenant.. i swear.. this will put fear into her!

Which lady wanna be mad��

u are freaky

You are a very weak man so you're irredeemable.
No need wasting advice.

J111333:
You are a very weak man so you're irredeemable.
No need wasting advice.

A weak man today can be strong tomorrow. Kindly give your two cents bro.

I am already learning a lot.

Lesson 1: I have called the DNA person.

Kennedyiheme:
Bro you're weak.. she will never respect you.. those kids might not ne yours.. theres a 70% chance they aren't yours.. throw that bitch out now.. a woman who cheats can kill her husband... they there dey ask stupid questions.. this is why we need to eradicate simps

Lesson 1 already in process. I have called the DNA guys.

No matter how you look at it, I need some wisdom to proceed in this

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1)

I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend.

Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of:

"Cant wait to see you"
"I'm taking my bath now"
"Touch your boobs"
"I'm feeling you inside me"
"I will fvck you crazy"

She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like...

"I miss you so much"
"I will svck u to cum"
"I cant wait to see you"


Usually there are very deep ones more than these.

When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on.

But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her.

Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too."

She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real?

I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her.

I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls

Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc?

I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o).

I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her.

I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance

As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage.

She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her.

Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance:

Is this shi real or a made up story?

laughitall:
what's 10 years ... 20 years I catch u chat with another one kind that's the end ...

I dont think it's easy like that.

Actually, I do think in the past that the chats may just be for fun. I've been wondering the possibility cos you need to come close to my wife. She's very close to God and doesnt joke with spiritual things.

But boy, I am learning today.

MrDoGood:
Mr man, you're still sleeping. Kindly open your eyes.

Whatever you posted up there can only happen in dreams and movies.

I didnt make nothing up in this story. I have all the evidences. But a part of me is still willing to give my wife a chance.

I am learning already in this thread, so kindly bring on your two cents

adedayo3193:
Is this shi real or a made up story?

I am in the process as we speak. Never made up

luminouz:
That guy is fuqin with you. He ain't real neither is his story bro

This is a true story sir.

whatdowomenwant:
I dont think it's easy like that.

Actually, I do think in the past that the chats may just be for fun. I've been wondering the possibility cos you need to come close to my wife. She's very close to God and doesnt joke with spiritual things.

But boy, I am learning today.

na u Bleep from the beginning.. the earlier the Better ... now that u are beginning to wise up do the needful don't fall for her lies and deceit she's devil in human form ....RRRUUUUUNNNNN

henriettttta:
Brother wey mumu



BTW who produced d movie

See brother.......
See brother......
Brother wey mumu...

Mehn!!!!...

Stop bn scared of watching things go bad

Stop trying to protect that useless LovePeddler...she obviously doesnt even love u or give 2 about u

Make up your mind to divorce her...plan it properly...save up ...make plans for the kids then properly shame her....let her family members know about her action...keep evidence of her confessions then move out of the house or pursue her depending on which one works and file for divorce....This is emotional abuse grade 1 ...You might end up bn dead due to a disease or a jealous lover or even her in an attempt to cover things up or runaway with someone else....Be a f...king MAN!!!

Please start using condoms when you have sex.
Do DNA test on your kids
Then you will know what to do.

Let me just say this is fiction, cos I can't believe there are still men capable of sitting on a keg gun powder ready to explode anytime. Bros wise up and stop wasting your time nothing you can do in this case other than to divorce her and move on. Otherwise na six feet you go land before you know it. That is if you even do.

Please run for your life brother
She will get you infected oh
Or she will end up killing you
Let her go a bitch is a bitch



Please I beg you run oh
She can kill you

What will make a man lick your wife pussy
The guy will surly Bleep her for sure
Please run for your life she can do anything worst
She is addicted to it if you keep on telling her to change or caring her to church
She will still be scoping you and fucking outside
If you don’t run now don’t be surprise to come home and see your friend fucking your wife

What fuckery is this?