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Tell us your own problem, I've never seen a man that his wife cheats with him in such manner and instead of going for a divorce, instead he turns himself into a CIA planting camera and unlocking phone for chats.

Tell us your problem, what is it that she has on you to made you this naive?. Could it be for some reasons you don't perform well in bed?

Didn't anyone read where she invited a supposed cousin and the OP allowing him stay with them?

She said that she has to fulfill the will of God in your life? Wow!

whatdowomenwant:
Lesson 1 already in process. I have called the DNA guys.

No matter how you look at it, I need some wisdom to proceed in this

Why do I have a feeling that u are already Hiv positive?

This story is not real, it can't be.

I can't believe I read all the epistles. Have you consider going for DNA with your children? Do that and I'll advice you .

Someone should help Op, I couldn't finish reading because of the length, man got his own problems but e never reach to write epistle so na testimony.

Op I would answer your topic question, yes she is still cheating.
sexual messages wite people other than you? Chasing someone else husband?. Wonder how you contained all of this sorry but she belongs to the streets.

I don't know if I should this one mumu abi na jazz because you are obviously not in your right senses, if you were to be from my village you would have been long dead for condoning such abomination. In fact Nwoke m eriri gi eri.

Anono why d guy still dey look for change in that ashawo he called his wife.. and him go still dey make love with her so?? Hian! Me I no fit oh.. Na another thing I go dey imagine for my head.

Skmoda360:
That man na mumu abeg.....she will never stop oooo

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2)

After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced.

My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe.

About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe.

About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here?

About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe?

About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more.

Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe.

In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office.

The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws.

She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now.

About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth.

She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that."

Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back.

Now my challenge is this:

Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative?

The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this?

I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers.

Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on.

Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying.

I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues

Please, everyone, counsel me.

What you posted here is baldadalsh!

Are you sure you are up to 22 years of age?
Do you actually need anyone to tell you that your wife is a nymph. I dont want to say that's she's a married prostitute!

You brought your case to the public so accept the trashy words..
She has slept with all those ones she kissed and so many other including Mr kola, your neighbour. So, can a man lick a woman VJ leaving her to enjoy herself while he just stands up with a full erection then goes home without using hisMoses's Rod to create a road in that redish sea? Not when she's attractive and pretty as you said.

Find an answer to that by yourself.
You are being manipulated.

Marriages have diff challenges; you found a cute spouse , he or she has body odour, find an educated ones, she's proud, find a submissive one, she/he doesnt know how to control their kids, find one like your wife, she cheats serially.

But your case is death attractive: why you need to either let go of your wife(beat option, or cage her at home completely(poor option) to avoid your loved ones including your wife you pity so much that you cant let go over adultery, write RIP on your pics- God forbid!

*** If you know the number of men who are bcause of loving their women to have refused to swing into action who are six feet below, you would Marvel!

bros na until your wife kill you before you know what to do in heaven...a cheating wife will lead you to Early grave you better divorce your wife and live happily

elmagnifico411:
Anono why d guy still dey look for change in that ashawo he called his wife.. and him go still dey make love with her so?? Hian! Me I no fit oh.. Na another thing I go dey imagine for my head.

I dey tell you my bro...so disgusting

whatdowomenwant:
I'm just trying to obey God sir. Please tell me what you think

You are a troll

Was she working wen u bth got married??go do Hiv test n paternity test.D truth is dat one of ur child may likely follow her footsteps

OlaitanAkanbi:
Now I realize why this lady cheat on you she knows you are very weak that is why she cheated on you
Na the one way she no agree she go tell you but the one way she do she no go tell you
Wake up

I don’t know how to explain this but are you guys sure this story is not write up

I am suspecting the story is a cook up story

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1)

I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend.

Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of:

"Cant wait to see you"
"I'm taking my bath now"
"Touch your boobs"
"I'm feeling you inside me"
"I will fvck you crazy"

She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like...

"I miss you so much"
"I will svck u to cum"
"I cant wait to see you"


Usually there are very deep ones more than these.

When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on.

But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her.

Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too."

She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real?

I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her.

I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls

Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc?

I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o).

I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her.

I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance

As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage.

She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her.

Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance:

divorce her now or be ready to die because she's a LovePeddler

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FOOLISHNESS STINKS ALL OVER THIS POST

Honestly i don't know what to say. So such human beings still exist. If u are my brother i will nail u to the cross . One day this woman will complete her mission and u will be six feet down there. Napia naut. Weak man

Op it's a pity that your wife is capitalizing on your love for her to manipulate you. From those things it's obvious that she hasn't told you a pinch about all her escapades. The choice is ultimately yours but your wife is an unrepentant cheat.

She'll still kill you las las

Asquare84:
I am suspecting the story is a cook up story

The story na photo copy I beg cooked up story

This is what happens when you forgive and marry a girlfriend who cheats.


It is always better for the cheat to be the man rather than the woman.

Op (whatdowomenwant) will wait till eternity before his wife will stop.

If you continue condoning shît like this, one day, one woman will disgrace your wife and your family. The embarrassment you think you are avoiding will be multiplied 10 fold. Brace yourself.

The next step is to take all the evidence you have to your lawyers first. Seek divorce before informing her family. This is because you have refused to keep them in the loop, in the past. This would be new to them and they would naturally prevail on you to pardon her.

You should not pardon someone that swears on her life while lying and still goes on cheating. You should not pardon someone who uses religion to manipulate her husband, faking her piety to God while collecting steady remorseless nackin outside her marriage. An adulterous wife will end your chance at happiness and end your life.

I hope the court grants you custody of your children, if not, they would be forced to watch their mother pîmp herself out to men. You must fight for custody. Such a woman has no business raising children.




I HOPE YOU REALISE THAT SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE.

no go find better thing do ,dey follow your woman nyash to nyash ....na early grave ooo

MedicH:
Lol. U said if ur husband chat another woman u will divorce. Then i ask u pack your bags and go where? Ebee ka i ma i na eje. Lol plss eeh no make me laugh. Harmattan de worry me.

i have my own house ... so!! I don't depend on my husband

AmazingDesigns:


I don't even know what to say.

.

^{I learnt quite recently and the hard way if I might add that as a good man, you need to be wicked and ruthless to the wrong persons}.

Spot on...

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1)

I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend.

Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of:

"Cant wait to see you"
"I'm taking my bath now"
"Touch your boobs"
"I'm feeling you inside me"
"I will fvck you crazy"

She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like...

"I miss you so much"
"I will svck u to cum"
"I cant wait to see you"


Usually there are very deep ones more than these.

When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on.

But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her.

Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too."

She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real?

I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her.

I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls

Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc?

I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o).

I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her.

I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance

As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage.

She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her.

Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance:

I'll b brutally frank here; U're a good man, 'bobo nice', n unbelievably naive! U also luv ur wife more than she loves u, she has no regard for u cos she knows you're a pussy nigga, she has ur mumu button. If u're not careful, ur wife will eliminate u just to b with her lover. If all u wrote is true, then , like some1 said above, it's just a tip of d iceberg, like 1%, there's 99% u don't know! Forget this woman/marriage, even d Bible gives infidelity as ground for divorce. Between d sanctity of marriage n d sanctity of life which will u choose? Wake up & take charge like d man u're supposed to be. Lastly, do a DNA/paternity test asap! You'd b lucky if 1 of ur kids is urs, maybe that will wake u up.

ruggedtimi:
lol if he catches his wife red handed he will say "maybe is my eye, i had issues with my eye ".

whatdowomenwant:
Thanks for this. I'm shocked at what practical things I could have done in the past other than just forgiveness. The psychologist I called today also insists that forgiveness is okay, but practical steps must be taken.

She also agrees DNA is the first step. And I'm doing that asap.

Regret: Never knew I would come to this point in my life.

Oga she was not supposed to know, u shld hav done it codedly. Dont also forget to test yourself for STDs, HIV etc. Also gather ur evidences, pics, chats, videos etc save them, don't delete, they'll come in handy soon.

" The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also VERY GODLY or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws."

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (2)

After much anger and shouting and reporting to one of her sister who is a woman of God, though I told her to not tell other members of the family. I really don't want my wife disgraced.

My wife has confessed to me that she only had an affair with two men since we have been married. And that it was in 2015. That she did it to make some money to take care of herself because according to her, things were rough for us at that time. Although I find that funny because she has never done any major thing at my house since we got married. She has never paid rent, never paid school fees, never paid hospital bills, or even giving me any cash money to support myself. Yes, I know we had some challenges around 2014 and 2015 but we were still okay - compared to most families. I don't know what to believe.

About the chats, she says that she may have chatted in those ways but she didn't have an affair with them, that she was just having some chatting fun and letting the chat flow. I insisted that there was a heart connection. But she is denying it. Still, I don't know what to believe.

About the licking and sucking, she says yes, that it has happened only once, around 2016, but there was no penetration sex involved. The guy was her gym coach, and she just had that moment of temptation. What should I believe here?

About the kissings and others, she says yes, she has kissed some two or three other men, but it wasn't tongue-to-tongue kissing. Just a random fling thing. What should I believe?

About the guy she introduced to me as her cousin in 2012 and I let him free in our house, which I later found chats that showed they were not cousins, she says she didn't do anything with him, just kissing twice and nothing more.

Now that makes it three major issues. Multiple sex with Two men in the past. Sucking and licking with one man, and kissing with about three or so. Then the continued erotic and sexual chats. But honestly, what should I believe.

In the last three days, I have been in a hotel fasting and praying for wisdom in this matter. She visits the hotel and we would talk and talk and talk and it would become tense, then she would go back to her office.

The truth is that my wife is a good girl, very hardworking in the home, and also very godly or you could say, loves God and prays. She knows how to take care of family, children, and inlaws.

She is insisting that all these are in the past, and would never continue into her future. That she is wiser now.

About the January 16th kissing in her office, she says she really has nothing to do with the man. She was just counseling the man about his sex life with his wife and in the end, it just happened, that it wasn't really a kiss, more or less like a peck, but done in the mouth.

She is begging me and saying I should let her fulfill the plan of God for her life with me. She says that I should look deep inside her, that I would know she's a good girl. She's always saying things like, "please save my soul. Only you can do that."

Although she's always very emotional. Even in her plea she would get annoyed and shout when I shout and express my anger. She does not know how to remain remorseful. She believes that the moment she apologizes that I should just understand her and welcome her back.

Now my challenge is this:

Is there a chance those are the only men she cheated with? Can she really have those chats without the physical fulfilment? Was she just bored all those years and because of my *low communicating skill*(according to her) she decided to have some fun? Is it possible she continued past those ones she confessed to after much forcing? Is she just naive or manipulative?

The truth is I love my wife and my family. And I know she does love me (so I think). I'm willing to let everything go and move on, but I am having all kinds of emotions, moving from sadness to grief, from anger to sorrow, to regrets, to vengeance. The different pictures of the chats, those men, and everything is just playing in my head and making me annoyed. How do I get healed in this?

I'm afraid, if I let her go, it will be very disastrous for her. No father, no mother, and unsupportive brothers.

Her not remaining remorseful is another challenge I have. She believes that I should just believe her and move on.

Please everyone, should I just believe everything she has told me, and stop at this juncture and move on, or I should do something she wouldn't forget? I really don't want her to be disgraced. Am I over dragging the whole thing. I am confused but praying.

I just need a heart-to-heart talk. If not that she hates third parties, I would have taken her for counseling again. But she insists we can trash our issues

Please, everyone, counsel me.

Bros you married a nympho or should I just say a flirt

It's either this story is fiction or the woman is using charms on op


Simple!!!

whatdowomenwant:
IS MY WIFE STILL CHEATING? (1)

I've been married for ten years now and we have three kids. My wife is everything a man will ever ask in a woman, but for her weakness around men. She's a great cook, a great home caretaker, and a great friend.

Four years into our marriage (2014), I discovered that she was always chatting errotically with men. I found out chats of:

"Cant wait to see you"
"I'm taking my bath now"
"Touch your boobs"
"I'm feeling you inside me"
"I will fvck you crazy"

She was reciprocating in all the chats with things like...

"I miss you so much"
"I will svck u to cum"
"I cant wait to see you"


Usually there are very deep ones more than these.

When I saw those chats I was shocked. I confronted her, she was furious that I dont trust her. I took her to our pastor for counseling, she initially refused going, but after much begging we went. After the counseling she apologised and we moved on.

But it didnt stop. Once in a while I would see things like that with other men, different from the ones we've trashed. She was always deleting her calls and chats. I would always be doubtful, but she would always assure me that she was just carried away with the chats and there was no real experience with any other man other than me. She knelt down one day and swore with her life, so I believed her.

Then this 2019 (9 Years into our marriage) around August, I stumbled on another chat. In this one, the guy sent her his penix. She thanked the guy for it. Then followed by many video calls. The guy then said, "I wont forget your wet Pvssy and fat ass." She laughed and said, "I feel like fvcking you. The guy said, I feel like drillin you too."

She forgot to delete the chats, and I saw it. When I confronted her she said that yes, the guy had licked her before but they didnt do it. That she didnt cheat. I was like, are you for real?

I took her to our pastor for counseling. She was mad with me, that i should just trust her and stop following her.

I've seen chats of: "I hope your husband is not around." She would say, "yes." Then they would begin to exchange chats of how they miss themselves, and kiss emogis and exchange calls

Sometimes I would delete all of them after she says I wont see such again. Around November last year, a woman forwarded my wife's chats with her husband and said she wanted to post them on facebook but discovered that I am a responsible man, and from her town as well. She told me to warn my wife and beg her to leave her husband alone. In the chat, you will see where the man said, "I cant forget the love we made in Lagos." You will see where the man says, "my dick is standing send me pic to view." My wife would say, "why not travel na, come down." The man would say, "I want to see you." My wife would say, " where and when?" etc?

I begged the woman and she promised she would not post it. I confronted my wife, she started crying and swearing as usual. Then she later said she has had sex with the man only 3 times, two times before our marriage and only once after our marriage, and that the last time was 2015 (note, that is 5 years in our marriage, that year, she was breastfeeding our baby o).

I always forgive her because I love her so much. And I dont want her to be disgraced. And she's really a great person. My family love her so much and revere her.

I opened a business for her last year. I do pay her motnhly salary too, and provide monthly upkeep for our 3 kids. I also buy food items in the house, and also give her cooking allowance

As we entered this year, 2020 we agreed to love ourselves more. But can you believe that on January 16, the cctv camera I put in her private office without her knowing it, showed her and one man (her former boss) handling themselves (their hands to be honest) and when the man was about to go, they got up and kissed. Note she worked for this man in 2014, 4 years in our marriage.

She came home and I confronted her, she cried and cried that I don't trust her. At first she denied ever kissing the man, but when I explained how it happened, she said, she cant remember. She is crying and blaming me for monitoring her.

Now on further digging I stumbled on horrible chats. Now this is the summary after confrontation. It took a lot of denials before acceptance:

Honestly some men get mind Sha.

This kind of woman who is a serial cheat won't just stay in my house.

I ll quietly collect my kids and let her go