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Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Lexicon123: 5:57pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
cococandy:� on point �. Taking such things to heart are some of the major causes of marital issues today. Everyone needs to be comfortable in my house. If I can't bear it, I won't allow them come in the first place. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by seunfly: 6:00pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Exodora: May be they way u were brought up, in our house anybody can cook and you dish yourselves. Infact my wife and mother in law are happy with this and wished they had done that in their family because I go to kitchen anytime I'm hungry and I cook my meal while my younger brother also do thesame thing, infact my wife and mother in law love my younger brother's food more and told me behind my wife's back that he is a better cook than my wife. I really don't see any problem in this thing, I guess op is jobless and domineering kind of person who always want unnecessary attention and reference. Like I said before op is the one with problem here, you saw him do it before marriage and u did not talk but u want to change it just 3 months after marriage. You lure the man and his family to accept u before showing her colour. Who is next, mother in law abi? 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Uniquekriss(m): 6:00pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Charleys:die there na. Do we start clapping for you that u were a good boy-man to your brother's wife? Better go and think of how to own your own home make others begin come. Once bros is married, u as a man should limit your visit, if u go don't spend more than 2days to retain your respect cos no matter how much your brother loves u, when gbege[s][/s] burst ehhhn, your bro would stand by his wife |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Exodora: 6:01pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus:I wonder where you left your sense , what will she gain if her husband send his own brother away .Don't you think is more to the one she is already facing .That guy needs to be called to order my friend . My sister stays with my cousin but she doesn't go to her pot for the sake of the husband .That is called Respect even she is way to older than her yet she gives her that respect. People like you are the major problem of Nigeria cos they don't see with their eyes 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Uniquekriss(m): 6:07pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Try it in my brother Ijeoma's house, u and your body odour will leave that house that day, infact ehhhn, the way he would explain it to other family members ehhhn, all of them would turn against u. Fear d power of a slow-poison wife. Don't say I told u |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by crackkhaus: 6:08pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Exodora:I'm sure you have not eaten any healthy food today 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Exodora: 6:08pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
seunfly:My immediate elder brother cooks at times , when he feels like this is exactly what I want to eat right now or today but he does not dish them , rather he calls us me and my sister , my brothers does that when they are alone with my mum but once we are around they try no shit! |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Etiyeokwe: 6:13pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Op, you are not far from a bad woman. From agreeing with your husband that no visitor will stay beyond two weeks in your house to your brother-in law should not go to the kitchen to scoop food when he is hungry. You noticed this when you were still dating but pretended to endure it in order not to lose out. Three months into the marriage, you want him to stop. Op, what are you? Do you have parents? What about siblings? If your mother comes to your house, she should not stay beyond two weeks? What about your mother -in -law? I used to visit my elder brother when I was in school. She would always ask me to go to the kitchen and take food. Today, I am married. I have a cousin brother who usually comes to our house. Sometimes my wife will be in the store when he visits. She usually releases the house key to him and asks him to go the house and eat. Sorry Op, are you from Mbaise? Those people? Dem sabi only me and my husband. 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Exodora: 6:14pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
1StopRudeness:Nothing like nothing seeing them as family. My sister stays with my cousin that is same age with me but she doesn't go to her .If she is not around she takes any snacks she finds or go out and buy one but she never goes to her pot because of how the husband will feel that is called Respect.Mind you she is older than her but because of something that I can't start saying here she respect their privacy. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by CoolAmbience(m): 6:20pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: I think that your husband has to step in and be decisive about the issue. They have a family house, so why is your brother-in-law always at your home? This is your husband's call. Speak with him clearly and respectfully about this. I hope things don't escalate such that you flare up one day out of frustration, leading to something unpleasant. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Suremikky(m): 6:23pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
cococandy: Gbam 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Suremikky(m): 6:28pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Ginaz: Mtcheew 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by victorian(f): 6:29pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
bukatyne: Wow! Really? So u are ready to cut off from your mom and sisters because u are married? Na WA o May God help men whose wives are planning to isolate them from their families. Too bad 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by bencarson007(m): 6:32pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: Madam, you are gonna get a lot of wrong pieces of advices from here... First of all note that this is your new home... So kindly let the little bugger know that. That you allowed him dip hands into your cooked food when still dating don't give him the right to do so now that you are married. I am a man and I always do something... I protect my woman... What brings her peace and happiness is what I will do... My kid bro won't dare dip hands in my wife's pot when she didn't give her express permission. Some little things we take for granted are actually relationship spoilers... If the kid bro had any sense, he would know that he needs to respect the home owner and not come and start disregarding her... Auntie your husband is your problem... If he allows this shot to continue, then he respects you not... I once told my family members to stay the hell away from any woman I bring home... If she make any wrong moves that don't go down well with them, they should tell me and allow me do the discipline part rather than them talk to her in ways that would cause fraca... It's called protecting my woman... Fix that little bugger before he bleeps you up... Little rascal 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Sultan5(m): 6:33pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
cococandy: Amazing stuff! Wish everyone was wise like this. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by victorian(f): 6:48pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace, sorry to say u are not a good woman. I'm sorry but that's the truth from my own point of view. U remind me of my younger brother's fiance. She tried everything to split us apart but my brother didn't heed to her devices. And she doesn't know how to cook sef, while I'm a perfect cook. When her complains became too much that we are too close, my brother told her look better go and meet my sister to teach u how to cook. Because I love good food. If you can cook like her, then I won't be going to her place every week to eat. I don't joke with good meals. And this is a girl with parents. While I and my brother were orphans. What kind of training parents give to their children, I just don't understand anymore. She still won't come and meet me to teach her but she can eat like a glutton by the time Im done cooking, then she will smiles to my brother, wow! Your sister can pursue someone back to the village o, the meal is sweet. Sighs. And at the slight sign of ill-health from my. Bro, she broke up with him. Please don't break up the bond between brothers or brother and sisters. It's bad. Be considerate. Take his younger brother as yours. He's free with you thats why he dishes his meal himself. Anyways I love how life always deal with women like you. Just pray the younger brother does not succeed in life or else God can turn the tables around if your wahala becomes too much for the youngman. That's when u will understand when it means not to be petty or selfish with what u have. Everything we have in this life and what we've achieved is by the grace of God. God can decide to take all from you and take his younger brother higher than the one bedroom flat u are feeling on top of the world in. It has happened to people before you, so please change that attitude and let the brothers enjoy their bond. Be guided. What's even food sef? That u will be so worked up and complaining about? Ordinary food! Just too bad. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Sultan5(m): 6:50pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: My question is simple have you sat him down and spoken to him about any of these issues before? If not then it's not entirely his fault. You must share the blame too. When dealing with young people you have to let them know what they can and can not do. If you don't they will assume its ok and keep doing it. Not because they hate or disrespect you, but because you haven't told them otherwise or set boundaries. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by YorubaPrince: 6:51pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
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Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by quickberry(m): 7:18pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: Lame! Try to be tolerant.....wives(including u) of this generation don't want to see their inlaw(s) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by bencarson007(m): 7:24pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Timileyin1234: What's your point sir... What that little bugger is doing is wrong and he needs to Bleep off it cos he is gradually pissing this woman off.... Haba |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Octopusssy(f): 7:24pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
congo4ka:You're expert at detecting who is a dog and who is bitch because your parents are animals. They met on the streets, rutted on the streets and reproduced a stinky, slimy slug- YOU. Please keep the story of your life offline. You're ignored henceforth. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Octopusssy(f): 7:31pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
merahki:Oh yes I am. What you see is what you get. I don't give shit_, so I don't accept it. I'm very easygoing until you invade my territory. The reason why some people have problems in their marriage is they pretend to be who they aren't. Let everyone know you and what you're capable of so that all of creation will bear witness that you never hid your true nature. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Kingininge(m): 7:31pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Ginaz: Which other people? ? This is his brother's house for crying out loud. The young guy must be free! He was even living there before the wife so the wife should tolerate him. You can't company a friend's family's house to your brother's house.... |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by bencarson007(m): 7:49pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Timileyin1234: Got you bro... But there are also some devilish virgins too... Bros as for the BIL, he error as he take dey drag kitchen with madam... That's her sanctuary... Bros no go there... I greet you bros |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Atolu01: 8:05pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
OP, kindly do not mind the vast majority of comments so far, as Nigerians, generally; and their men, especially; are bereft of emotional intelligence. There is nothing wrong in expecting the same courtesy you would have shown in another's house, to be shown in your house. Everyone has what they like + what annoys them. You are not petty for acknowledging what you don't like, and working to change it. Everyone is "mature" and "perfect" online, but go offline, and see how they quickly respond to issues that hurt them. Does he even tell you "welldone", or acknowledge your cooking? I suggest you talk to him, and set proper boundaries. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by seunfly: 8:17pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Etiyeokwe: @ I want peace. Kindly note this. |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by AmaHopeOn: 8:20pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Iwantpeace: he badges into the room. Another one. Madam, just shift. There's nothing we could tell you to change your seared mind. A large chunk of people here are now trolls. Trolling you cos you sought for advice. Isokay My prayers are with your amazing husband. God will sure see him through. He is got so much shenanigans to put up with. May God also grant you the grace to be a better wife |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Nnemuka(f): 8:29pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Papanwamaikpe:you need a job |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by osborn4u: 8:31pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
chihes:Madam, it shall be well with you. Ah! One of the rare breeds. Sense full your head 1 Like |
Re: My Brother-In-Law Dips His Hands Inside My Pot Of Soup by Papanwamaikpe: 8:33pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Nnemuka:I have one already |
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