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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .
It gives me joy seeing men so deeply in love, they can be so humble at that time, they can be so forgiving ooooo and they can overlook shit from the babe, even when they see you on top man,dem no go mind but when dem no love you, even if you are a virgin mary, your honey will be like bitter leaf to them. Oga Op! I leave you with your girlfriend o,may God help you.

LilMissFavvy:
Let her get a job. Lack of funds could be the reason.

N if she losses the job nko. She will go back her ways. Please, note everybody is no fit for marriage

She is not ready to change yet,and I think she don't wanna change because for you,she is unrepentant,forget about her and look for someone else..

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

Bro, run as fast as you can.In fact, add my legs join and run away from that babe .

Biafrareform:
Okay, she doesn't send me money . I do the sending . She just sent that 6k after she received her allawee to help sort some stuff.

Well I get your point . I want to move past this, bit also want to make it right if is possible for her . Cos to me , everyone deserve a second chance

Dumb ass!!!
I wasn't planning to comment but nigga you dumb, your story be like wetin do my older bro.... Gf was whoring and he overlooked it... How can you over look something this important... You go hear am later...worse case scenario she go code am to please you, besides you'd never fully trust her... I wish you d best but where the fvck is your dignity?

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

Bobo, go and find work, u r broke! And thereby, you are not fit to be a fiance to any reasonable person.
Checking her phone is like a case of somebody that used his money to buy ogogoro and cursing the person that sold it to him.bod it your phone?
Oun oju nwa loju n to bro.

Toseenlove:
Niggur stop deceiving yourself, That girl has a Certified pot belly Simp financing her. You either play along and fleece her as much as you can or bow out with honor, My two cent. Ladies of these days no dey Joke with anyone, Their eyes dey shook like Hyena and are nothing to write home about. They are gathering as much SIMPS they can gather...[/b]

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Lol, how did you come up with the phone she uses . Truth is I have read all your comments , I have sieve them and have made my decision.

Thats not her phone , is mine . And is MI 9T.

If u want to retain your sanity, end the relationship now. They never change. The worst are those that date married men. It is called prostituiton as its wholly for money. Drop her now. They only time she can stop waywardness is when her beauty and appeal fails to attract customers. She needs only the roof and security you can provide and ur house will only be a base. Take it or leave it.

My brother,
That girl or rather Lady, is a smart girl, don't fall for her swindling words. Less you become a goner.
Nevertheless, try and and have a backup plan. You should know what I mean.
Hoooohaaaa...!

Boss u even have time ....... If am the one, i will end the relationship without her knowing the reason...... She should continue with the married man...... Yes is hard to do, but u have to.... To void training another man's children unknowingly...... Not just ending it it but she will pay for my time wasted, when I disappoint her to another girl on our wedding day, she will un

You're a mumu boy.. she gave u 6k fro. 33k..lol.. me wey woman come dey give 1 million naira nko..lol. young man u better face ur hustle. It's obvious u will be slaughtered someday. Let her enjoy her flings quietly. U dont need that type of woman oh...

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

You seem to have made up your mind to continue with the girl despite cheating on you. So, why are you here disturbing people with your story when you knew your mind is made up? Or are you looking for people to give you a reason to continue dating the girl?

The only words that caught my attention in the chat is

"Spear me that"

and

"Jezzz"

Na wah for some guys Sha... God forbid

RisenPhoenix:
You are at the borderline age when you are about to start shit. And you are already showing signs of misbehaviour in other ways. Do you really think that your alleged lack of a sexual partner is the only thing that gives you value as a wife?

Besides, I have known many women who claim to lack sexual partners yet have done and undone. Since women generally tend to have more definitions of 'sex' than Bill Clinton depending on the situation, I will not want to speculate on what else you might have been through. So sorry, but I'm not throwing out a statistic fixed after much careful consideration; merely on your ill defined say so.

In your quiet time, just remember all the things you did that no one must ever ever find out. Especially not your mummy.

I meant to write 'above', it was a typo. I am above 21, far above at that.

I have not done anything no one will ever find out, I write erotic stories for a living my guy, that is the worst thing I have done, and my mummy will never find out, because my mummy is dead, but thanks for your concern.

I respect myself, and so, I can never disrespect anyone I'm with. So many youths of today do not understand the importance of respect in relationships, and that is why most of them come online to make complaints like that of OP's and many others we have seen here.

Like I said, I do not conform to any of these things you have said, I don't care who you have met, you certainly have never met me, but I can imagine where someone with your mentality has been, so, I reckon you fully deserve whatever poorly-behaved girl you end up with.

Have a lovely night

Ishilove:
The only words that caught my attention in the chat is

"Spear me that"

and

"Jezzz"

lol, I didn't read beyond "Spear me that"

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safarigirl:
lol, I didn't read beyond "Spear me that"

Heh. My sister cold catch me, like the cold, steely head of a spear was pressed to my back.

This happened to me last year , we planned getting married after school , she showed love to the extent that she had to go on her knee to apologise in public when we had issues . I never wanted going through her phone but she kept on hiding it from after which her on finger print can unlock mine . I was planning to leave katsina on that day and she was planning for ilorin because it holiday period. We were together when my phone rang , my ex was calling and she never wanted me to pick up so she took my phone and left for her hostel to pick up her stuff , so I collected her phone because the music was on just to pass time while waiting for her . She never knew that her phoned wasn't locked and also she was chatting somebody while she left the phone . Guess what ? She was going to sokoto to spend the holiday with her ex boyfriend . I saw it and I felt like the world was coming to an end . Since that , I started seeing women like shit , LovePeddler , devil , killer etc.

AngryIgboMan:
Biafrareform, stick with this girl. I am telling you this from my heart because I have been there.

Do you know why that girl finds it hard to upload your pics on social media and why she keeps tabs with her fling when you guys where apart? ITS BECAUSE SHE IS NOT SURE OR GUARANTEED OF YOUR LOVE. SHE IS SCARED THAT IF SHE UPLOADS YOU OR FALLS DEEPLY IN LOVE WITHOUT ANY COMMITMENT FROM YOU, YOU WILL BOLT AGAIN.

Guy, I have been there before. Believe me when I tell you that I have had a similar experience to yours. I solved it by opening up to her that I love her deeply and gave her assurances that I will never abandon her. The next day, I was her dp for straight one week.

Please, that girl is a good girl from your narrative. If I may ask you, what are you abandoning her to? Do you know what is out there? Guy let me tell you that there are many females and few women. If you loose this understanding girl, you may find it hard to meet another. If are sure she cares about you, forgive her and move on with her.

I can also swear down that you hurt her badly before and she became messed up somehow. Guaantee this girl your love and see her conform. Thats if she cares truely oo. Only you can answer that.

Start by calling her over, sit her down and have a heart to heart to talk with. Explain to her how she fits into your future. Convince her that those guys are just using her for sex. Make her understand that she is a queen to you.

Let me gist you bro, 90% of Nigerian women cheat. I drive on Uber and I know what I see daily. Even top women Bank and business professionals cheat always. Its a cycle. Just manage and move on ok?

My girl cheated on me and I forgave her. You know why? I cheat too. Please lets stop this hypocrisy. If I may ask, don't you have a past too?

Please quote me if you need more advice or you need further clarifications. Thanks.

I prefare to remain single for life

Biafrareform:
Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

You are confused... U don't even know what you want

The extremely smart lady has not only succeeded in making a married man fall in love with her... But also a clueless single man too.

Things like this can only happen when a man doesn't have principles in life. There are some things in this life that should be off limits/ deal breaker to people.

Baba go and marry your girlfriend o. But be ready to enjoy/endure anything the marriage throws at you later.

Before I read, Golden Rule- *do not Snoop through your partner's phone if you don't want High BP*

You never know a woman until she shits on you

lack of honesty always show itself someday

The truth:
You must become deaf , dumb and blind if you want to stay married
Else, if you are honest, truth will come out someday and your love bubble will bust


Women play lots of tricks, but open your heart to God's love and let your sights be fastened on God's love and all will be well

Love to you as you heal your broken heart

Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

Self consolation abi i pity u look well before u leap not the other way round. Wen i jst saw corper ur story tire me join self.

safarigirl:
I meant to write 'above', it was a typo. I am above 21, far above at that.

I have not done anything no one will ever find out, I write erotic stories for a living my guy, that is the worst thing I have done, and my mummy will never find out, because my mummy is dead, but thanks for your concern.

I respect myself, and so, I can never disrespect anyone I'm with. So many youths of today do not understand the importance of respect in relationships, and that is why most of them come online to make complaints like that of OP's and many others we have seen here.

Like I said, I do not conform to any of these things you have said, I don't care who you have met, you certainly have never met me, but I can imagine where someone with your mentality has been, so, I reckon you fully deserve whatever poorly-behaved girl you end up with.

Have a lovely night

I've known more women than you'd care to want to understand madam porn writer, and I've heard all about that 'innocent purity' before that I can write an encyclopaedia on it. And guess what, I don't buy it one bit. I have seen too many 'innocent' girls take off for night clubs 5 minutes after pastor or Alhaji daddy drops them off at school and I have watched literally thousands of them come and get wrecked in our hostel slaughterhouse. You're different? Good for you. But it still changes nothing. I'm not about to drink poison because one person in a billion made unverified claims to have survived it.

My only apology is that I may have brought back memories of your mother in my comment. Had I known that she had passed, I would certainly not have done so. For that alone and nothing else, I am truly sorry. Good night yourself.

safarigirl:
I am a nice 21 and have NEVER had a sexual partner, say what you know, don't regurgitate bullshit propaganda spread throughout the bars that most of you irresponsible men frequent.

Do you think it is everybody that goes out everyday to meet people that they will sleep with under the guise of 'relationship'?

I don't know who you have met or been talking to, but I will not be lumped into this nonsense statistic most of you have readily spread about to justify your inability to find decent human beings.

We are at home, you don't find us on the streets, we exist. So, please, say what you know. It Is these 20-year old girls that married men have finished screwing some of you will end up with, because that is what you really deserve.

Are you now saying you are a virgin?

What you have shared is a very very bad signal. Please read my thread and story. You're dealing with a woman of easy virtues. I ignored the signals in mine and today, after ten years I am learning in a hard way

Biafrareform:
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I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

You know all these yet you posted the long epistle seeking for opinions. Apparently, your mind was made up even before creating this thread.
Your problem is excessive flaccid heart that is hugely pliable. The sex and cheap gifts from her have also contributed in confusing you.
Men do tag some women cheap. Bro, you're very cheap and without a standard! Good luck!

Biafrareform:
Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

Like are you mad or something?
How old are you? You sound so irritating and disgusting.
Ladies are dishing out advise to you and you still sounding like a FOOL with your dump responses?