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WilliamsTheGrea:
Bro she is not even reasoning her ex.

The problem is just the child.

ubunja:
actually I don't mind what anyone calls my baby mama. That lady is my intimacy gadget forever. Whoever marries her will have the luck of perpetually eating my sloppy seconds cause to this day we're still having sex. Lool. Alpha Fvcks Beta Bucks.

ubunja:
yes us baby daddies are still sexual with our baby mamas.

And its sweet sex because now we're just fvcking and not spending a cent. The simps in their lives are doing the financing.


And when our kids are grown they'll come looking for us. Blood is thicker than water. It's a sweet life.

Arthur21:
That is why I never delved into the NL version of red pill ,albeit I follow other mgtow and red pill pages. Till date they live on a wack definition of an alpha male(since a large number of them can't measure up to the real standards of being alpha). Follow other red pill pages on IG,Facebook et Al and you will be ashamed of the ones on this forum.

How can a masculine man who ought to be courageous bend to archaic/medieval psychologies?

I have no reason to hold some guys on this forum to esteem, no wonder ladies here call them dogs and western men are suffering from the lashes of feminism.
We mess up over here,and the sane men over there get scourged instead of black men.


That said,marrying a single mom is better than marrying some buffoons on this forum such as funmistiqueen, ri.ele,lillmissfavy et Al that are without kids.


Let no betnaija player chatting with free WIFI quote me!

OH, WHAT A SIMP LIKE ME.

WilliamsTheGrea:
I even asked her that question just now. She said it's a foolish question. She and her pikin don enter room go sleep.

Martinez39s:
What the OP's single-mom girlfriend did is the classic manipulation technique called bait and switch. Ubunja can shed more light on this. After she had entangled him in the web of the illusion called love, gotten him emotionally invested in her for a long time, and giving him sweet sex, she decided to break the news because at the time of hearing the news, the OP would have been too lost in his love for her to get angry and call off the relationship.

ubunja:
How A Woman Gold Digs You.
.....

THE SINGLE MOTHER.
Women are emotional manipulators.

Meaning a Single Mother will wait till you've emotionally bonded with her after weeks of nonstop sexual intercourse then drop the bombshell: "I have a kid".

By then you're too emotionally invested to pull out. So you start rationalizing the situation to yourself: "Ofcourse I never wanted to raise another man's kid... But this boy is handsome and well-behaved.... Didn't uncle Tobias also raise another man's child?... But this woman herself is beautiful. ... This can be my chance to have a gorgeous GF!"

And so you become Step Father. Your money raising another man's sperm product.

Whenever a woman waits until you've fvcked her to your heart's content then brings out her kids, just know it's a manipulation. A woman who means well will tell you upfront she has kids. But then again that would scare you off. So...

........

Martinez39s:
What the OP's single-mom girlfriend did is the classic manipulation technique called bait and switch. Ubunja can shed more light on this. After she had entangled him in the web of the illusion called love, gotten him emotionally invested in her for a long time, and giving him sweet sex, she decided to break the news because at the time of hearing the news, the OP would have been too lost in his love for her to get angry and call off the relationship.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

ubunja:
yes sir. The classic bait and switch.
Remember my write up:

HOW WOMEN GOLD DIG YOU:

I have brought the relevant part here:

Korllami007:
You get the drill. She sets her plans really well. Op thinks that the love she's showering him and her good character is real, not knowing that it's part of the game plan from the onset.

He will probably learn hard way if he doesn't cut her loose.

Martinez39s:
Exactly. All the niceness and love bombing were part of her plan. She needed to play nice and smart to incentivise and rope the OP into marrying another man's left over and take care of another man's seed with his hard earned cash when he could get a fresh product and raise his seed.

She, just like all women, has no love to give and she just need the op as a disposable ATM to take care of her and her kids. She is disguising her mission as love/sex. If you know the legendary trojan horse story, you should understand this meme.

Martinez39s:
Exactly. All the niceness and love bombing were part of her plan. She needed to play nice and smart to incentivise and rope the OP into marrying another man's left over and take care of another man's seed with his hard earned cash when he could get a fresh product and raise his seed.

She, just like all women, has no love to give and she just need the op as a disposable ATM to take care of her and her kids. She is disguising her mission as love/sex. If you know the legendary trojan horse story, you should understand this meme.

daddytime:
Wow.....

I'm sitting here and just wondering how you'd handle your own blood if he or she turns out to be more hyper than your babe's son.

You mentioned how you hate noise of any sort, let's just say you definitely ain't prepared to have any kids of your own.

It is obvious you have zero love for this kid and I'm afraid to tell you that, you can't love a momma and hate her toddler kid. From the woman's side, that'd be a no-no.

It's best to "die" this relationship and bury whatever it is you feel for this woman because e no go work.

It's a good thing you are letting it out on how you truly feel instead of to go dey use shame chop winch.

Meat wey person dey forbid e no dey use teeth share am.

If you can't love a kid no matter the circumstance, you'd have same problems with yours for sure and you'd be venting out your frustrations on your spouse and before you'd say Buha....you don open another thread here say your one year marriage don get k-leg.

A child will always return the vibe given. In his innocence, he's able to pick up on your hatred for him which of course won't help him love you in return and the subtle tantrums is what you'll get as his way of protesting/rebelling. Show him some love and you'll be amazed how calm he'd become.

I pray you grow up fast and find a way to handle this pretty well.

Let her go bro....

Arthur21:
how come your errand boy Martinez is not here yet?

XhosaNostra:
Go fùck yourself.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Martinez39s:
Don't mind her. She and other obnoxious trolls should be paid no attention. On my thread below, you needed to see how she and diğmygold (aka lilwetdićk) were insulting and cursing me (from pg 10-12) because of the memes I posted on my thread. I wonder what she will achieve with her information on Ubunja. Will it affect the validity of Ubunja's messages? NO! Do we redpill men care about her information? NO! Just leave her to waste her time.


https://www.nairaland.com/5695941/many-memes-redpill-guys-get

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Michellekabod2:
Its hilarious indeed,is there anything like a good or bad little child? How can a normal person have problem with a four year old kid....??

To be honest the Op needs to seek mental help(this ain't normal). A four year old kid??
That means he can't live with a wife,he isn't fit for marriage because after a month he will have issues with her.

He should let this lady go,its not by force to marry her.

But be rest assured that whoever he gets married to subsequently with will have issues with him . if you can't stand a four year old kid can you stand a nagging wife?

This is abnormal. A four year old kid?chai

Michellekabod2:
Its hilarious indeed,is there anything like a good or bad little child? How can a normal person have problem with a four year old kid....??

To be honest the Op needs to seek mental help(this ain't normal). A four year old kid??
That means he can't live with a wife,he isn't fit for marriage because after a month he will have issues with her.

He should let this lady go,its not by force to marry her.

But be rest assured that whoever he gets married to subsequently with will have issues with him . if you can't stand a four year old kid can you stand a nagging wife?

This is abnormal. A four year old kid?chai

Omar09:
I don't know if y'all failed to see the problem here or chose to ignore it.

That kid isn't his! That is why he is finding it difficult to tolerate him. Putting the kid at more risk of traumatized childhood and resentment for fathers (step father).

This is why I do not support men marrying SM. It doesn't end well for either of the three. On rare occasions does it end well, and check very well, the man na mumu for that marriage if it ends well.

Came4amod:
U get sense .. how is it possible to have issues with a 4 year old .. the op is just a self justifying prick.. and he tried to derail the matter by telling us the girl told him after 7 months .. I feel you .. the problem is not the child but .. he is thinking about what people will say having another mans child in his house .. 26 years old wan marry .. better calm down ..

Chocolatte01:
hope he finds out her true person soon...
I despise cheats with a passion...

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

ubunja:
ALPHA FVCKS, BETA BUCKS

Bad Boys impregnate, Simps raise.

Skepticus:
You are a good reason why the OP shouldn't marry that scheming single mother.

Your trashy manners is typical of a badly raised child.

awakeuche:
This was just too brutal, are you sure you're a woman, you sound cold.

LOGOBELT:
I can't believe this comment is from a woman

jawalis:
You really sounds like a gentleman. But here’s the problem. Don’t you think she’s humbled cos of the fact that she’s a single mother (After One) and she knows for sure that NO MAN WILL ACCEPT HER WITH A CHILD THESE DAYS. Let her not behave well or be comported like all those shit of good girl she’s faking and see if anyone will look her direction. Forget her humility or whatever mask she’s putting on as a camouflage to wipe off her ugly past. And you are calm enough to believe or assume she’s decent. Where’s the decency in ladies Nowadays. Listen; because she’s not used to social Media doesn’t make her trustworthy, it might be due to circumstances. Who knows where she met her ex who’s the father of the boy. Her so called decency decency or other freaky questionable qualities that got you attracted might be a product of her lesson leant in the harder way. Btw, she’s just 24 and already had a 4yrs old boy and you believe she’s good, decent, churchy and lots of shit. Bro stop thinking with your heart. Let your brain take charge of the reasoning. She told you over her dead body! Meaning she’ll chose the child over you and you are there protecting her and feeling butterflies for that chameleon who already manipulated you and already on the verge on caging you into taking responsibilities for her looseness. And she’s expecting you to condone what her own mother cannot tolerate. What a pity. Paying his school fee isn’t bad. Honestly. You can do more if you have the financial capacities but not at the expense of your happiness. From your words here: it’s clear you aren’t comfortable with the whole thing and she’s not ready to let go. There are lots of single girls out there who you can wife. Forget about these feeling issues. It weakens you.

Came4amod:
U should be blocked on this platform .. u r just derailing a simple issue .. no lady will talk like this .. its obviously a young immature guy

And for this post na you be the mumu

Tunagee:
Bro, u dey complain,you have not even fanthom the fact that the child's dad will soon start coming to your home to check his son, giving him access to your wife and old feelings can still come back.
Secondly, have u thought of the fact that when u start having your own kids, and you don't treat them equally, it can also spark another violence? Have u thought of the fact that your wife may never like you correcting the child too harshly. Have u thought of the fact that that child's welfare is what she is interested in, and not you?
Have u thought of the fact that she can never love you deeply as that child cos she is with so u can take care of her child. I won't advise anyone I know to marry a single mother, am sorry!