XhosaNostra:

ubunja:
Find your own girl to give a baby. Don't settle for left overs

No matter how well-behaved and loving a single mother is, remember she's well behaved and loving BECAUSE SHE WANTS YOU TO RAISE HER KID. Never forget. If she didn't have that kid she wouldn't be talking to you in the first place. Just remember.

ALPHA FVCKS, BETA BUCKS

Bad Boys impregnate, Simps raise.

Firstorderwizard:


Ubunja really dealt with this girls.
Go get a job,men are getting wiser now.
*Takes another red pill*

Lostz:
something tells me you are actually own the site you mentioned. you are only trying to gain traffic using ubunja fame on romance section

Firstorderwizard:


Ubunja really dealt with this girls.
Go get a job,men are getting wiser now.
*Takes another red pill*

sexylassie:


i have job already and i will resume by 8 am tomorrow morning, can you say you have a job for tomorrow

you are not wise, if you cant see a fraudster called Gbenga Akinwole trying to organise a scam.

WilliamsTheGrea:


Yes she doesn't. She doesn't even have friends, she is always at home most times, only goes out when I tell her we should go out or except she goes to her trainee work as an auxiliary nurse but she is done with that...

Firstorderwizard:


If ubunja is a scammer, I'm ready to be scammed again and again.
His miseducations saved me from the tight clutches of a manipulator. Ubunja have come to stay and not even a thousand of your type can stop him.

sexylassie:


ok

Firstorderwizard:


If ubunja is a scammer, I'm ready to be scammed again and again.
His miseducations saved me from the tight clutches of a manipulator. Ubunja have come to stay and not even a thousand of your type can stop him.

Lostz:
you trying to resurrect your dead blogging career using ubunja? no one care about where he came from or what he does. those who like his message will still like them. stop being an idiot

sexylassie:


then you are not wise, what stops a another woman from scamming you as you claimed if you cant listen to warning.

a sheep cant think for himself

Lostz:
he is not asking for money on nairaland or selling anything with his ubunja moniker

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Chocolatte01:
This thread would soon get run down by Nairaland's alphas. None of whom would put their sentiments aside and comment without bias...
Op it's obvious the relationship wouldn't work out well because you do not love the child. It's not the womans fault but yours. The child might not be bad but your dislike for raising up another man's son would blind you of any of the kid's good points.
You mentioned that you love peace. If you have a child with your girlfriend, would he/her disturb too?
Don't waste either your time or hers. Simply let go now...
But if she's so good as you have portrayed, know you might be throwing away a diamond to later pick up a mere stone.

Dande55:
Cos she got pregnant doesn't mean she flirt. My friend got preggy the first day she had sex.

daddytime:
Wow.....

I'm sitting here and just wondering how you'd handle your own blood if he or she turns out to be more hyper than your babe's son.

You mentioned how you hate noise of any sort, let's just say you definitely ain't prepared to have any kids of your own.

It is obvious you have zero love for this kid and I'm afraid to tell you that, you can't love a momma and hate her toddler kid. From the woman's side, that'd be a no-no.

It's best to "die" this relationship and bury whatever it is you feel for this woman because e no go work.

It's a good thing you are letting it out on how you truly feel instead of to go dey use shame chop winch.

Meat wey person dey forbid e no dey use teeth share am.

If you can't love a kid no matter the circumstance, you'd have same problems with yours for sure and you'd be venting out your frustrations on your spouse and before you'd say Buha....you don open another thread here say your one year marriage don get k-leg.

A child will always return the vibe given. In his innocence, he's able to pick up on your hatred for him which of course won't help him love you in return and the subtle tantrums is what you'll get as his way of protesting/rebelling. Show him some love and you'll be amazed how calm he'd become.

I pray you grow up fast and find a way to handle this pretty well.

Let her go bro....

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello
My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Please I need matured advice

RisenPhoenix:
Op. You are spending your hard earned money on a woman and her child with another dude; feeding, school fees, birthday parties. My question is...

What benefit are you deriving in return; either now or expected in the future; that you cannot derive from a younger, fresher woman?

And by the way, don't listen to all the single mothers on this thread advising you to be a 'good man' and take care of the child like yours. They're only protecting the business of the sistahood.

sexylassie:


i have job already and i will resume by 8 am tomorrow morning, can you say you have a job for tomorrow

you are not wise, if you cant see a fraudster called Gbenga Akinwole trying to organise a scam.

akaahs:

Guy I no go lie to, I dey boil like boiling water. How can u take care of someones child while u aren't comfortable doing that just in name of love with a girl whom have chosen her son happiness over urs. Common on!!! Be a man and do well to leave that girl because she ll never love u above that boy who isn't ur blood.

sofiscatedmoron:

Nna eeee, quite the babe na,, is she ur mother or sister ,,send her packing joor,, u are too young for all these, there are so many young pretty girls out there to love u,, she will end up cheating with her ex

lefulefu:
una don make Ubunja a nigerian by force
Gbanega Akinwole..classic ..a yoruba zimbabwean

WilliamsTheGrea:


Bro she is not even reasoning her ex.

The problem is just the child.

Bankowner:
Oga see, I have someone who married a single mother with a three year old son, today the boy is 16 and you can never tell that the man isn’t his father. So quit whining and do the needful if truly you love the girl or kindly get out of her life so doors can be opened for the right person to fill the gap.

You sound awfully selfish to me though!

ubunja:
OP's getting easy sex, that's why it's so hard for him to disengage. That single mother pussy too sweet and too easy.

Korllami007:


He sounds selfish to you, but the woman that told him she has a child after 7 months of dating him is what?