Nooil:
I broke up with a guy that gave me peace. I mean, this guy is tall, handsome, intelligent, yet not for one day in our one-year relationship did I have a cause to doubt his loyalty. But I had to break up with him due to some personal reasons.

He is truly the best I had dated. He'll always tell me, "Your type is rare." Always told me I was beautiful too when I referred to other girls as beautiful.

And the way we chat and 'yab' ourselves on WhatsApp, I'll always go back and read our conversations just to laugh. Once told him I do it, and he said he does the same! So many beautiful memories. We were extremely compatible.

Some times, I think to myself, I probably made the wrong decision. But in the end, I know it wasn't. My love for God should always be greater and without compromise.

For God or for men who can grab a knife by the blade; who are masculine to the core... Continue deceiving yourself shogbo

lakezone67:



For God or for men who can grab a knife by the blade; who are masculine to the core... Continue deceiving yourself shogbo

Lol, one of my greatest attraction to that guy was his masculinity. You don't understand what a full package is until you get one.

Nooil:


Lol, one of my greatest attraction to that guy was his masculinity. You don't understand what a full package is until you get one.

Lol a full package, begs to wonder if you're a full package yourself

lakezone67:


Lol a full package, begs to wonder if you're a full package yourself

Lol...go to bed.

Yes, I broke up with my boyfriend almost a year ago. He was the most amazing human I ever came across and still is. The reason why we broke up is still a bit vague to me (partly because, I was to leave the country and I felt he still had amazing years ahead of him), but I initiated it. I trusted him to the point that it never bothered me whenever he immediately snatches his phone from my hand; I never really had to bother about anything I find strange in his phone (not that I found any). He was loveable, caring, smart and the most handsome human I know.

After 4-5 months, we reconnected, and I have never experienced that level of pain in my life during the time we got talking. I was hurt that he wasn't mine anymore, and I could sense that he was hurt too. Each time we talk, I end up shedding a few drops of tears. I was almost acting like a maniac; stalking him on all his social media handles, connecting with the people that were his friends on social media, looking up each of his friend's bios, reading his diary on NL with the hope that he says he wants me back, or at least he misses me. I'm not the kind of guy who likes to express my emotions with him, and he never knew what I was going through at that point. I try to talk 'normal' and try to act like I care less about the whole situation. I was mad, I felt I was losing my mind and I had to see a psychologist. From what I got to learn from the psychologist, I realized that as long as we hold onto each other, as long as we are still in touch, we wouldn't give room for healing from the hurt. The psychologist said, "Sometimes, you meet the right person, it's just the wrong time." Sometimes the strongest thing you will ever do will be to let go of someone. It will be painful, you will suffer guilt, and you will second-guess yourself, but for your own sanity and quality of life, you just have to let go.

I had to delete his number and blocked him thinking I would heal, I was wrong. I'm sure he is over me now (I can tell from his diary), and I'm happy he's not hurting anymore (I remember him telling me how sad he becomes whenever I don't talk to him in a day, and instantly I became sad). The hardest part for me right now is getting along with any new guy. I have set him up as the standard; it's not like he had it all, but he was just perfect for me. Every guy I met, I end up convincing myself that they aren't a quarter as good as him. The metric I use to scale them up is something I cannot still figure out. We are still pretty young, we've got a lot of years ahead of us. This phase for me might take long to fade off, but I hope that someday it gets to heal and I can meet someone who's half as good as the man I truly fell in love with.
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Unrelated : Since we stop talking, "These days" has become my favorite song--"I hope someday, we'll sit down together and laugh with each other about these days, these days."

He's not ready to get married, till 2 years time, I don't know if I'll still be available then, I offered to wait for him, he said no that what if he disappoints me at the end or I do too, we don't see often though in the same state cos he's busy and I'm busy, I like to bring up issues just to get his attention and when everything's seems boring, his bp rises when we have issues, same with mine, we hate each other when we fight but refused to let go, when we are together its all mushy mushy and love, but when on phone or chats, we fight every 2 to 3 days, with me being the instigator most times,

We are still together, more like a situationship, cos it feels like there is this need for us to be together, like a magnet or something......

Philomathhh:
Yes, I broke up with my boyfriend almost a year ago. He was the most amazing human I ever came across and still is. The reason why we broke up is still a bit vague to me (partly because, I was to leave the country and I felt he still had amazing years ahead of him), but I initiated it. I trusted him to the point that it never bothered me whenever he immediately snatches his phone from my hand; I never really had to bother about anything I find strange in his phone (not that I found any). He was loveable, caring, smart and the most handsome human I know.

After 4-5 months, we reconnected, and I have never that amount of pain in my life during the time we got talking. I was hurt that he wasn't mine anymore, and I could sense that he was hurt too. Each time we talk, I end up shedding a few drops of tears. I was almost acting like a maniac; stalking him on all his social media handles, connecting with the people that were his friends on social media, looking up each of his friend's bios, reading his diary on NL with the hope that he says he wants me back, or at least he misses me. I'm not the kind of guy who likes to express my emotions with him, and he never knew what I was going through at that point. I try to talk 'normal' and try to act like I care less about the whole situation. I was mad, I felt I was losing my mind and I had to see a psychologist. From what I got to learn from the psychologist, I realized that as long as we hold onto each other, as long as we are still in touch, we wouldn't give room for healing from the hurt. Sometimes the strongest thing you will ever do will be to let go of someone. It will be painful, you will suffer guilt, and you will second-guess yourself, but for your own sanity and quality of life, you just have to let go.

I had to delete his number and blocked him thinking I would heal, I was wrong. I'm sure he is over me now (I can tell from his diary), and I'm happy he's not hurting anymore (I remember him telling me how sad he becomes whenever I don't talk to him in a day, and instantly I became sad). The hardest part for me right now is getting along with any new guy. I have set him up as the standard; it's not like he had it all, but he was just perfect to me. Every guy I meet, I end up convincing myself that they aren't a quarter good like him. We are still pretty young, we've got a lot of years ahead of us. This phase for me might take long to fade off, but I hope that someday it gets to heal and I can meet someone who's half as good as the man I truly fell in love with.

I'm sorry are you gay?

She broke up with me cos I indeed messed up..

Such is life . Now a better man.. No regret, no remorse

angelfallz:
Wow this sure does bring back memories. She is a Yoruba lady. Very gentle and innocent and shy. Loyal to the core. She had a wonderful gap toothed smile. We met at the nysc orientation camp.
She basically opened my eyes to the reality of male and female relationships. One of these realities is, and men please take note; once a girl likes you, she likes you. She'll be doing things for you that you didn't even ask her to, infact it is you the guy that would be begging her to calm down that her Iove is too much.
We had to break up because she wanted to get married, and at that time I was still learning my trade, and I didn't know if I was going to be successful in my trade. So financially I wasn't ready.
I'll never forget our WhatsApp conversation that evening, she kept on giving me opportunity after opportunity to put a timeline on when I would be ready but I couldn't.
I'm a firm believer in ladies getting married as early as possible, It would have been very horrible for me to have given her an abstract timeline that I was not even sure of. She being a beautiful, homely, God fearing lady she naturally attracted guys.
So we broke up because I wasnt ready.
Her name is Oreoluwa.

True talk bro

And gehs like DAT don scare for market

Yes, amongst every other thing.

Fountainofyouth:


I'm sorry are you gay?

Philomathhh:
Yes, I am.

Okay.

Nooil:


Chai...grab a knife by the blade! That's masculinity to the core. What most men are lacking now.

I’m happy masculine men are coming to their senses now. Mental toughness is not about masculinity. It’s when you can control yourself under any situation.

Bblessing37:
Dude just came up one day and told me he needed space.after everything I did for him. Go over to his place every weekends ,to cook, clean and , wash for him ,even assisted him with cash times without numbers,when he had non. I almost commmited sucide when he told me it was over between us.cus I was so much in love with him . Guess he was just using me, and never loved me. Heart breaks are painful sha. I had to pick up my broken pieces and move on.. I wish him good lucks. But I know he will never find a woman like me.

Is a pity, are you available? I'm looking for a soulmate myself and ready to settle down

Nooil:
I broke up with a guy that gave me peace. I mean, this guy is tall, handsome, intelligent, yet not for one day in our one-year relationship did I have a cause to doubt his loyalty. But I had to break up with him due to some personal reasons.

He is truly the best I had dated. He'll always tell me, "Your type is rare." Always told me I was beautiful too when I referred to other girls as beautiful.

And the way we chat and 'yab' ourselves on WhatsApp, I'll always go back and read our conversations just to laugh. Once told him I do it, and he said he does the same! So many beautiful memories. We were extremely compatible.

Some times, I think to myself, I probably made the wrong decision. But in the end, I know it wasn't. My love for God should always be greater and without compromise.

He needed sex I guess while u didn't want same

XhosaNostra:


Lol, but the guys are here trying to portray something different. Who do I believe?

Believe their women

XhosaNostra:


I'm going by the Nigerians I've seen here. That's how they fight. Talk, talk, talk, take off shirt & then talk some more. Like watching the chippendales at work
South African guys love knives. You hear the click of an okapi opening & you know it's about to go down. Anyway, I'm not a fan of violence, so I really don't care who fights dirtier. My statement was to rebut the claims made by the other guy.

You are American. Yiddish Chippendales are cultural expressions.

She left me when I was unemployed. And the next month, I got a job with a very good pay as a beginner.

Nooil:
I broke up with a guy that gave me peace. I mean, this guy is tall, handsome, intelligent, yet not for one day in our one-year relationship did I have a cause to doubt his loyalty. But I had to break up with him due to some personal reasons.

He is truly the best I had dated. He'll always tell me, "Your type is rare." Always told me I was beautiful too when I referred to other girls as beautiful.

And the way we chat and 'yab' ourselves on WhatsApp, I'll always go back and read our conversations just to laugh. Once told him I do it, and he said he does the same! So many beautiful memories. We were extremely compatible.

Some times, I think to myself, I probably made the wrong decision. But in the end, I know it wasn't. My love for God should always be greater and without compromise.

He gave you peace and you broke up with him cos of your love for God.
Alright, did you later find a holy brother who gave you as much peace?

Coolcalmcollect:
yea had to leave a girl when she said no sex before marriage, but came to me in tears about her incomplete school fees....that she needed 80k to complete it....and i told her to take 200 airtime and call her dad/mom.

Hahahaha. Sweet father Lord.

Ade24682:
She was way older. I swear I could have made her my wife.

chaiii... bro, am facing the same thing here ... since 2weeks ago now that we had breakup, she no wonna go

I started dating khadijah after our waec and had to break up after two years. Breakup was mutual, we knew our religious differences would always be an issue.
I got salvation and she also became a very devoted Muslim.

We're still friends even after 9 years of breakup. I'll always love her. Our love was pure and very strong. We would have easily gotten married if not for the differences.

She's married now though and I'm super happy for her. But guess what? I haven't been in a relationship again since we broke up, even till now.

JubrinElSudan:
She went to US, I started withdrawing from the relationship.

Lol...what's the balance now?

Somebody have said what I wanted to say...... I think somebody here have dated my ex girlfriend oooo

Ekehwinz:
My babe said that I'm a distraction to her spiritual life. She called off our relationship of 3years.

Me too. Me too. I'm trying to get over it... How did you manage? It's so difficult for me.

She’d say:
“Daewoorazer! I’m coming to your house on so-so day, if I don’t meet you at home, we’ll have problems and I’ll curse all your friends. It’s like they are mad abi...you’d better choose between me and your pathetic friends “

On that very day, I actually had no place to go but I called an impromptu and unnecessary meeting over bottles of Heinekens.

Obviously, she called to tell me she’s on her way but I told her I’m fucking busy with my friends.
Also texted her: “and yes, I choose these fucking bastards”


She thinks I’m a regular loveydovey guy....emi IKA!

She’s no way amazing...just generous or does that count?


Breakup was messy, she don curse me taya sotey I block her everywhere

DMerciful:
So it means people who will go to heaven were predestined to. Hitler did nothing wrong because it was predestined. Satan did nothing wrong because it was predestined. Bokoharam are fulfilling predestiny. What a moronic thinking?

in movies, some actors are assigned bad roles to fulfill the movie maker's script or goal. Somebody must be the killer in the movie, somebody must be the bad girl that sleeps with other ladies's husbands, somebody must be the armed robber, etc.


Evil was designed alongside good to fulfill a desired end goal. Death was designed alongside life to fulfill a goal. Everything in life have a positive and the negative.


Life is like a movie, actors may not like a role but even if they don't like the role, it is only the movie producer abi director that can change their role on appeal, and that is if the movie director agrees to change their role as requested if not the actor have no other option but to perform the role preassigned to him or her by the director or producer.


The people acting the bad script side of life have no option because it was their assigned roles, only the ones who don't like the role can appeal for a change in role and if the movie producer or director wishes and have someone else to replace them with he may agree or reject.

Even Holy Books support this that life is predestined. Go and read about Pharaoh and the Israelis. Pharaoh was made to harden his heart even without his consent so that Egypt will be punished.

You are only being logical which is normal for a normal human like you to be. You are being logical as in, you are wondering why must somebody be predestined to be Hitler to kill millions That why must somebody be predestined to be a terrorist killing others That why must somebody be predestined to be killed by armed robbers Etc, it is not their decision to make, it is the decision of the script writer to make for reasons best known to the scripter just as actors cannot decide their roles or how the movie should end.

If you think you can decide how your life will end, then you are a dreamer because how you will die have already been predestined and you can only wish otherwise and appeal for change which may or may not be granted for reasons best known to the script writer of this life you are living.

Was there anything like Boko Haram in the 90s or 80s It was destined to come upon Nigeria when it did and if it's destined to end at a certain period, you won't even know how it will end, but it will just gradually come to an end like movie cinema.


I have written a full book about this, if you read it, your eyes will open and your perspective about life will change entirely

koffos:
.. shiit.. why you talking down on Nigeria men like that .. was about to save yo flat board ass from the weaklings you call men .. well keep doing your thing with them .. just tell me if you've got melons on those chest of yours why you dodging that?? .. are those flat too??

that is no way to talk to a lady. If they didn't teach you while growing up, learn it now as an adult.... I am assuming you are an adult.

Bblessing37:
Dude just came up one day and told me he needed space.after everything I did for him. Go over to his place every weekends ,to cook, clean and , wash for him ,even assisted him with cash times without numbers,when he had non. I almost commmited sucide when he told me it was over between us.cus I was so much in love with him . Guess he was just using me, and never loved me. Heart breaks are painful sha. I had to pick up my broken pieces and move on.. I wish him good lucks. But I know he will never find a woman like me.

sometimes he may never find, sometimes they end up finding a woman far far better than you if it is predestined to happen to them. Life is predestined, don't sweat too much about it, you can only do your best and wish for the best, it is left for your destiny to decide how your entire life will unfold, you, I and we do not have much control over our life and how it will end, this is the sad truth humans don't want to accept

What a loving lady I missed as a result of our genotype and in the name of tribal differences. She is from River State and a be Yoruba. Ahead of me in NYSC but we met there. You know now....our parents palaver esp mine.

Chi59:

He gave you peace and you broke up with him cos of your love for God.
Alright, did you later find a holy brother who gave you as much peace?

If you know that the peace of God passeth all human understanding, you won't ask this question.

sEGXY2:
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone amazing, really like me but you had to break up for some certain reason. Why?

I've been on this boat before. I was in a relationship with this amazing babe but our ideals of a fulfilling relationship was totally different. She's beautiful and amazing but our different ideologies made us totally incompatible.

What's your story?

I have been there.

This babe was the best girlfriend I ever had but she wasn't a beautiful girl. My friends and family tried to stop me from starting the relationship in the first place for same reason but I refused. Everyone turn to like her when they knew her.

I broke off when the relationship was about to get intimate because I didn't want a future with her.

XhosaNostra:


I'm going by the Nigerians I've seen here. That's how they fight. Talk, talk, talk, take off shirt & then talk some more. Like watching the chippendales at work
South African guys love knives. You hear the click of an okapi opening & you know it's about to go down. Anyway, I'm not a fan of violence, so I really don't care who fights dirtier. My statement was to rebut the claims made by the other guy.

Culture affects mode of fighting. SA men are exposed to fighting with weapons while the Nigerian men you saw are exposed to fisticuffs. The aggressive level differs too. SA men vent their anger on anyone without consideration while Nigerian guys are less brutal on women.
From the way you sound, even a lovely regular SA guy can't put up with you. I quite understand you though. A good number of SA women are independent minded hence the high number of single parents.