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Philomathhh:
Yes, I broke up with my boyfriend almost a year ago. He was the most amazing human I ever came across and still is. The reason why we broke up is still a bit vague to me (partly because, I was to leave the country and I felt he still had amazing years ahead of him), but I initiated it. I trusted him to the point that it never bothered me whenever he immediately snatches his phone from my hand; I never really had to bother about anything I find strange in his phone (not that I found any). He was loveable, caring, smart and the most handsome human I know.

After 4-5 months, we reconnected, and I have never that amount of pain in my life during the time we got talking. I was hurt that he wasn't mine anymore, and I could sense that he was hurt too. Each time we talk, I end up shedding a few drops of tears. I was almost acting like a maniac; stalking him on all his social media handles, connecting with the people that were his friends on social media, looking up each of his friend's bios, reading his diary on NL with the hope that he says he wants me back, or at least he misses me. I'm not the kind of guy who likes to express my emotions with him, and he never knew what I was going through at that point. I try to talk 'normal' and try to act like I care less about the whole situation. I was mad, I felt I was losing my mind and I had to see a psychologist. From what I got to learn from the psychologist, I realized that as long as we hold onto each other, as long as we are still in touch, we wouldn't give room for healing from the hurt. The psychologist said, "Sometimes, you meet the right person, it's just the wrong time." Sometimes the strongest thing you will ever do will be to let go of someone. It will be painful, you will suffer guilt, and you will second-guess yourself, but for your own sanity and quality of life, you just have to let go.

I had to delete his number and blocked him thinking I would heal, I was wrong. I'm sure he is over me now (I can tell from his diary), and I'm happy he's not hurting anymore (I remember him telling me how sad he becomes whenever I don't talk to him in a day, and instantly I became sad). The hardest part for me right now is getting along with any new guy. I have set him up as the standard; it's not like he had it all, but he was just perfect to me. Every guy I meet, I end up convincing myself that they aren't a quarter good like him. We are still pretty young, we've got a lot of years ahead of us. This phase for me might take long to fade off, but I hope that someday it gets to heal and I can meet someone who's half as good as the man I truly fell in love with.
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Unrelated : Since we stop talking, "These days" has become my favorite song--"I hope someday, we'll sit down together and laugh with each other. About these days, these days."

Why are you gay

Divay22:
Small small dey lie na

don't doubt him, 90% or more of men don't love any woman till they die, their only true love is mostly their mother, and then maybe their daughter.


Most times what guys misunderstand as being in love is being in lust or being in need of emotional food called sex. Sex is love to men or let me say majority of men, whereas care (spending on them, providing their needs) is love to ladies. So don't argue a guy that tells you he hasn't loved any girl because truly many guys haven't and even married men

So u have tendency of cheating.

okpalaAnambra:
He needed sex I guess while u didn't want same

Lol, nairaland guys like gist sha.

Ishilove:
My stowee is: he was hot headed and immature, I was stubborn and immature. We broke up in a flurry of rage and when both our eyes cleared it was too late.

We are still friends though. He is the only one who hails me with a high pitched ''biaaaaatch!!'' and I reply with "your left nyaaaaaash!"

Kai, Freezle my love.

He told me: "Ishi, in my next life I will seek you out, and if we can't be lovers then, I will be your child."

Me too baby, me too...

HUH?!?!?!?

Authority717:
Lol...what's the balance now?

I don't understand

Kiddogarcia:
the way she was supporting maryam sanda during her trail was frightening. she kept blaming the husband for cheating.the thought of her words couldn't stop echoing in my head,I just had to let go of a very good girl

so u have tendency of cheating.

Fountainofyouth:
He's not ready to get married, till 2 years time, I don't know if I'll still be available then, I offered to wait for him, he said no that what if he disappoints me at the end or I do too, we don't see often though in the same state cos he's busy and I'm busy, I like to bring up issues just to get his attention and when everything's seems boring, his bp rises when we have issues, same with mine, we hate each other when we fight but refused to let go, when we are together its all mushy mushy and love, but when on phone or chats, we fight every 2 to 3 days, with me being the instigator most times,

We are still together, more like a situationship, cos it feels like there is this need for us to be together, like a magnet or something......

I'd have not believed this if I've not witnessed this... My conclusion on such is that you are(the lady) is crazy. Lol
Life's indeed complex.

franchasng:
don't doubt him, 90% or more of men don't love any woman till they die, their only true love is mostly their mother, and then maybe their daughter.


Most times what guys misunderstand as being in love is being in lust or being in need of emotional food called sex. Sex is love to men or let me say majority of men, whereas care (spending on them, providing their needs) is love to ladies. So don't argue a guy that tells you he hasn't loved any girl because truly many guys haven't and even married men

Certainly not true. Men do truly love.

TolaniLuv:
I’m happy masculine men are coming to their senses now. Mental toughness is not about masculinity. It’s when you can control yourself under any situation.

A woman can do that as well. The question is, is there still that difference between a man and a woman? That masculinity that sets certain men apart?

proclinician:
Lol relax.

Don't you think it is?

This is ridiculous.

That is unfair what you did. You could see that she is hurting inside. Haba? Even when she asked you if it's funny and you carried on. That's called cyber bullying.

Bblessing37:
Dude just came up one day and told me he needed space.after everything I did for him. Go over to his place every weekends ,to cook, clean and , wash for him ,even assisted him with cash times without numbers,when he had non. I almost commmited sucide when he told me it was over between us.cus I was so much in love with him . Guess he was just using me, and never loved me. Heart breaks are painful sha. I had to pick up my broken pieces and move on.. I wish him good lucks. But I know he will never find a woman like me.

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You love him More than he loves you

Giving a guy money,cooking his meals, washing his cloth, he will never value you, rather when he is done, he will dump you like a rag

Is he married to you already that you are doing all these

Why can't I be?

nengibo:
Why are you gay

ubumoh:
so u have tendency of cheating.

don't judge me when you've not met me,I might,I might not.but the way she was supporting maryam was an eye opener, I started seeing the huge imperfection in her

Ekehwinz:
My babe said that I'm a distraction to her spiritual life. She called off our relationship of 3years.

Omo dis one strong.

Not that I really loved her cos she initiated the relationship and we were kinda dating, she was ready to do anything in this world for me just to make me happy cos her love for me was 90 percent of the whole love while I have the remaining 10%. But I was warned about her on 3 different occasions that she was sent to destroy my destiny. The last time was by my mother in a dream in a hot afternoon..... The only time I have ever seen my mother in a dream. And I broke up with her..... She became so buttered about me... Although we still bleeped ones 3 years after the breakup but she's not been very happy with me even up till now 10years after breakup

Bad guy

OmoAlakija:
Because I fckd her in the a*ss while she was sleeping

Coolcalmcollect:
yea had to leave a girl when she said no sex before marriage, but came to me in tears about her incomplete school fees....that she needed 80k to complete it....and i told her to take 200 airtime and call her dad/mom.

Sir, You are the best!!!

Respect!!!

Bros Na so you dodge stray bullet as you no get bullet proof

Kiddogarcia:
the way she was supporting maryam sanda during her trail was frightening. she kept blaming the husband for cheating.the thought of her words couldn't stop echoing in my head,I just had to let go of a very good girl

Philomathhh:
Why can't I be?

Same reason it's wrong to be a pedophile

Bros no worry all Ella Na coded olosho

rex444:
awwww my petite ...Ella...with bubble butt that can kii d world...madt to d core and very smart ... but I told her no lies before we started dating ....3 years after she started to tell stories that don't add up...started putting some calls on silent ...

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I gave a family friend a ride. She accused of of stuffs, cursed, called me all sorts and I didn’t reply back. Till today.

Bros pass me her number I no get wetin I Dey use money do abeg

A305:
Early this year, I met Sandra (Fictitious name) on IG , we flowed well, went on a date and every thing seems great - she's so beautiful with curves, big boo bs, curvy big butt just like I love them, well read and adventurous.

She respects me being Atheist even though she's hardcore MFM member- she works and earns, she's quite a fashionista.

On the third day after our date and beginning of a new relationship - I had to call her up to break up because she was a high maintenance chick, insecure and isn't as intelligent to satisfactory personally.

She asked me - "A305, Did I ask you for any money yet for you to say am a high maintenance chick?"

I replied - "Nope! But it will happen in the future"

Her - "So you mean I will make you broke?"

Me - "I don't even have money to start with and not ready for a relationship now" and hung up.

Babe be posting break up lines on WhatsApp status like .....All I want is you but you causing me chestache.

There is this girl I meet while in school she is a great woman.but sadly I had to let her go because her crave for attention and love I can't give.

bogdaddy:
Bros no worry all Ella Na coded olosho

hehehehehehehe......nah am not worried ...it was quite a memorable experience and no , she's not coded olosho

The one I let get away. I regret it sometimes.

Divay22:
Small small dey lie na

Everybody na small boy to u.
Faceless forum don give u mind to talk na

Ade24682:
She was way older. I swear I could have made her my wife.

On the same page bro

Exodora:
You think is funny

Exodora sorry about your experience.

sassiemyk:
Yes. Genotype incompatibilities. We were both AS. Havent recovered till date though she's married now and I'm still finding it difficult to do same myself

No break up is as painful as genotype incompatibility .
I am currently in that dilemma right now,in a new relationship but my mind screams and go back to my ex

Nooil:
Lol, nairaland guys like gist sha.

Hahahahaha...what else could he be asking for that could make u go away from God..u think am naw