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JERRY1925:
Well for me.. Not yet broken up yet, but it seems inevitable.
She Love me so much and also love her parents.
We have struggled because her parents do not approve my tribe.
Sometimes i see the confusion on her face. Its really affecting her.
And making matters worse her parents has insisted she work her NYSC to her home town saying she will meet their tribal person.
This left us hanging. She keeps assuring me that i should be calm.. But i know women. I just feel its over deep down.

get her pregnant

Homeboiy:
Everybody na small boy to u.

Faceless forum don give u mind to talk na

This Nsukka boy u no Sabi read ? He said small small de lie, he didn't say small boy..

XhosaNostra:
We weren't really dating, just getting to know each other, but I was still unsure about him because he was short & kind of boring. He was eligible in every other aspect though- educated, extremely intelligent, good paying job, nice flat, a great cook etc. What made up my mind about him was something I'm sure many people wouldn't consider such a big deal. I found him a little cowardly lol. He was scared of dogs. He actually shrieked when two little ones were coming at us! I was like, um okay, no, he's not for me. I like guys with a bit devil may care in them, not one that screams like a banshee.

so because he was scared of dog he is a weakling? U never talk wetin dey yr mind. V u heard of d word phobia or trauma?

angelfallz:
Wow this sure does bring back memories. She is a Yoruba lady. Very gentle and innocent and shy. Loyal to the core. She had a wonderful gap toothed smile. We met at the nysc orientation camp.
She basically opened my eyes to the reality of male and female relationships. One of these realities is, and men please take note; once a girl likes you, she likes you. She'll be doing things for you that you didn't even ask her to, infact it is you the guy that would be begging her to calm down that her Iove is too much.
We had to break up because she wanted to get married, and at that time I was still learning my trade, and I didn't know if I was going to be successful in my trade. So financially I wasn't ready.
I'll never forget our WhatsApp conversation that evening, she kept on giving me opportunity after opportunity to put a timeline on when I would be ready but I couldn't.
I'm a firm believer in ladies getting married as early as possible, It would have been very horrible for me to have given her an abstract timeline that I was not even sure of. She being a beautiful, homely, God fearing lady she naturally attracted guys.
So we broke up because I wasnt ready.
Her name is Oreoluwa.

Yoruba girls dey love like craze ooooo....


I love them sha..

I virus a couple of them during my NYSC .. P...U...S...S.....Y. So though....

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OmoAlakija:
Because I fckd her in the a*ss while she was sleeping

Oturugbeke

franchasng:
in movies, some actors are assigned bad roles to fulfill the movie maker's script or goal. Somebody must be the killer in the movie, somebody must be the bad girl that sleeps with other ladies's husbands, somebody must be the armed robber, etc.


Evil was designed alongside good to fulfill a desired end goal. Death was designed alongside life to fulfill a goal. Everything in life have a positive and the negative.


Life is like a movie, actors may not like a role but even if they don't like the role, it is only the movie producer abi director that can change their role on appeal, and that is if the movie director agrees to change their role as requested if not the actor have no other option but to perform the role preassigned to him or her by the director or producer.


The people acting the bad script side of life have no option because it was their assigned roles, only the ones who don't like the role can appeal for a change in role and if the movie producer or director wishes and have someone else to replace them with he may agree or reject.

Even Holy Books support this that life is predestined. Go and read about Pharaoh and the Israelis. Pharaoh was made to harden his heart even without his consent so that Egypt will be punished.

You are only being logical which is normal for a normal human like you to be. You are being logical as in, you are wondering why must somebody be predestined to be Hitler to kill millions That why must somebody be predestined to be a terrorist killing others That why must somebody be predestined to be killed by armed robbers Etc, it is not their decision to make, it is the decision of the script writer to make for reasons best known to the scripter just as actors cannot decide their roles or how the movie should end.

If you think you can decide how your life will end, then you are a dreamer because how you will die have already been predestined and you can only wish otherwise and appeal for change which may or may not be granted for reasons best known to the script writer of this life you are living.

Was there anything like Boko Haram in the 90s or 80s It was destined to come upon Nigeria when it did and if it's destined to end at a certain period, you won't even know how it will end, but it will just gradually come to an end like movie cinema.


I have written a full book about this, if you read it, your eyes will open and your perspective about life will change entirely

How can I get this book

A305:
Early this year, I met Sandra (Fictitious name) on IG , we flowed well, went on a date and every thing seems great - she's so beautiful with curves, big boo bs, curvy big butt just like I love them, well read and adventurous.

She respects me being Atheist even though she's hardcore MFM member- she works and earns, she's quite a fashionista.

On the third day after our date and beginning of a new relationship - I had to call her up to break up because she was a high maintenance chick, insecure and isn't as intelligent to satisfactory personally.

She asked me - "A305, Did I ask you for any money yet for you to say am a high maintenance chick?"

I replied - "Nope! But it will happen in the future"

Her - "So you mean I will make you broke?"

Me - "I don't even have money to start with and not ready for a relationship now" and hung up.

Babe be posting break up lines on WhatsApp status like .....All I want is you but you causing me chestache.

Sorry to say but you are an idiot.

piroskey94:
How can I get this book

Still in manuscript, wait till I am done and publish it...will most likely share the published date here on Nairaland, so you can follow me

I learn new information from your article , you are doing a great job . Keep it up mcdvoice

franchasng:
Still in manuscript, wait till I am done and publish it...will most likely share the published date here on Nairaland, so you can follow me

will do bro. Can't wait to read it

Ekehwinz:
My babe said that I'm a distraction to her spiritual life. She called off our relationship of 3years.

I've had to take a similar excuse. She later regretted it though and sort to get back but I had moved on

simplepee:
Sorry to say but you are an idiot.

He is not an idiot like you feel for breaking up with the girl for being kind of exorbitant to keep.....he doesn't need to wait till she asks him for upkeep money, her lifestyle alone will tell her future.....smart men are proactive, preventive than reactive and defensive. From the smell of a fart, you can tell how strong or watery the shiit will be


If you check records, all rich and successful men married conservative women in their first marriage as first wife, maybe later after they have become wealthy, they can be carefree in choosing second wives and mistresses, that is why most first wives of rich men (not men born into wealth) are usually frugal, reserved and also industrious women....but second wives, third wives are usually slaymamas married for the showoff


So any single lady looking forward to marrying a focused, ambitious, and potential rich or successful young man must learn to be frugal, conservative in her lifestyle and of course industrious too. But if you want to be a mistress to music stars, E-money crew, a girlfriend of Yahoo boys and drug traffickers, or a 4th wife of a wealthy man like Regina Daniels, then you can join the slayqueen crew and be living that expensive single-girl lifestyle










.....but at the end of it all, your destiny makes the final decision

Ishilove:
You probably interfere with her prayer life and have not helped her grow. God over everything, and if you don't share the same ideals with hers concerning spirituality then you gatto step...

That's probably what she concluded before calling it off.

I agree that I'm not in the same spiritual level with her and in no way have I ever had to interfere in her growth. I always do encourage her to keep up with the faith. But it is what it is.

A305:
if he is a good guy who communicates and spoil you with attention, keep him.

Yea, but what if I'm no longer attracted to him?

rex444:
awwww my petite ...Ella...with bubble butt that can kii d world...madt to d core and very smart ... but I told her no lies before we started dating ....3 years after she started to tell stories that don't add up...started putting some calls on silent ...

petite,cute face,fair complexion,curvyhips with bubble butt,ontop big boobs...they can never be faithful.Worse if she is a teen.

Bblessing37:
Dude just came up one day and told me he needed space.after everything I did for him. Go over to his place every weekends ,to cook, clean and , wash for him ,even assisted him with cash times without numbers,when he had non. I almost commmited sucide when he told me it was over between us.cus I was so much in love with him . Guess he was just using me, and never loved me. Heart breaks are painful sha. I had to pick up my broken pieces and move on.. I wish him good lucks. But I know he will never find a woman like me.

Unless you're Beyonce pretending to be a nairalander, I don't understand where this guts came from.

Chuukwudi:
Me too. Me too. I'm trying to get over it... How did you manage? It's so difficult for me.

Relationship is a two way thing bro. Always pray for the best and hope for the worst. With that in mind, you won't be mentally messed up.

Archangels2:
I've had to take a similar excuse. She later regretted it though and sort to get back but I had moved on

She broke up with me with such excuse sometime ago and had to come back apologising, I accepted her back and here we are again. She said we can still be friends and I told her 'park and go'.

Exodora:
I know he cheat but the one that annoyed me more was when I caught him with my cousin . I just pretend I didn't see them and that was the end. I don't even have time to start explaining anything to anybody .

...cheated...

XhosaNostra:
We weren't really dating, just getting to know each other, but I was still unsure about him because he was short & kind of boring. He was eligible in every other aspect though- educated, extremely intelligent, good paying job, nice flat, a great cook etc. What made up my mind about him was something I'm sure many people wouldn't consider such a big deal. I found him a little cowardly lol. He was scared of dogs. He actually shrieked when two little ones were coming at us! I was like, um okay, no, he's not for me. I like guys with a bit devil may care in them, not one that screams like a banshee.

lolz. Intsasa entle

Yujin:
Culture affects mode of fighting. SA men are exposed to fighting with weapons while the Nigerian men you saw are exposed to fisticuffs. The aggressive level differs too. SA men vent their anger on anyone without consideration while Nigerian guys are less brutal on women.
From the way you sound, even a lovely regular SA guy can't put up with you. I quite understand you though. A good number of SA women are independent minded hence the high number of single parents.

Ahhhhhh, here we go again! The strawman argument. No man must want me blah, blah, blah. FYI, I don't have a problem attracting or keeping men. I'm the one that's picky when it comes to relationships because I'd rather be single than be with someone I don't click with on all levels.

Austineva:
lolz. Intsasa entle

Thanks. Nawe

Ishilove:
Believe their women

I'll take your word for it

XhosaNostra:
I have slippers. Satisfied?

My ass doesn't need saving, thank you very much. I'm no damsel in distress. See, this is the major problem I have with some of you here. You can dish it out, but cannot take it. Who made the comparison & belittled others 1st?

don't mind his silly head,a typical Nigerian guy.

A305:
Early this year, I met Sandra (Fictitious name) on IG , we flowed well, went on a date and every thing seems great - she's so beautiful with curves, big boo bs, curvy big butt just like I love them, well read and adventurous.

She respects me being Atheist even though she's hardcore MFM member- she works and earns, she's quite a fashionista.

On the third day after our date and beginning of a new relationship - I had to call her up to break up because she was a high maintenance chick, insecure and isn't as intelligent to satisfactory personally.

She asked me - "A305, Did I ask you for any money yet for you to say am a high maintenance chick?"

I replied - "Nope! But it will happen in the future"

Her - "So you mean I will make you broke?"

Me - "I don't even have money to start with and not ready for a relationship now" and hung up.

Na husband she dey find...some of these beautiful endowed ladies hardly get married and i don't know why.

sEGXY2:
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone amazing, really like me but you had to break up for some certain reason. Why?

I've been on this boat before. I was in a relationship with this amazing babe but our ideals of a fulfilling relationship was totally different. She's beautiful and amazing but our different ideologies made us totally incompatible.

What's your story?

Mine is just the same. We shared the same temperament.

XhosaNostra:
If that makes you sleep well at night.

Please, just relax and stop responding to them. Do have a nice weekend

Giddiebabalaw:
She told me that her pastor told her that I will definitely leave her that if she is recalcitrant about leaving me alone, that I will disappoint her in the end. She attend one of the white garment church and effort to convince her that am here to stay prove abortive. She believe her pastor more than God.

nah.... the right expression is “she likes her pastor’s dick more than yours” PERIOD!

Ishilove:
My stowee is: he was hot headed and immature, I was stubborn and immature. We broke up in a flurry of rage and when both our eyes cleared it was too late.

We are still friends though. He is the only one who hails me with a high pitched ''biaaaaatch!!'' and I reply with "your left nyaaaaaash!"

Kai, Freezle my love.

He told me: "Ishi, in my next life I will seek you out, and if we can't be lovers then, I will be your child."

Me too baby, me too...

Freezle needs to come back to you now that you have gradually transformed from a headstrong lady to a strong-minded lady . . . and will soon become a complete principled lady.

sEGXY2:
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone amazing, really like me but you had to break up for some certain reason. Why?

I've been on this boat before. I was in a relationship with this amazing babe but our ideals of a fulfilling relationship was totally different. She's beautiful and amazing but our different ideologies made us totally incompatible.

What's your story?

If the person was amazing,why the breakup? If your ideas were totally different please oga,what exactly makes her amazing and yet so disposable? As far as I am concerned any ex was never amazing and that is why I was able to leave.
Unintelligent people all responding to the fallacy of ambiguity... Amazing means faultless.