Coolcalmcollect:
yea had to leave a girl when she said no sex before marriage, but came to me in tears about her incomplete school fees....that she needed 80k to complete it....and i told her to take 200 airtime and call her dad/mom.

XhosaNostra:
We weren't really dating, just getting to know each other, but I was still unsure about him because he was short & kind of boring. He was eligible in every other aspect though- educated, extremely intelligent, good paying job, nice flat, a great cook etc. What made up my mind about him was something I'm sure many people wouldn't consider such a big deal. I found him a little cowardly lol. He was scared of dogs. He actually shrieked when two little ones were coming at us! I was like, um okay, no, he's not for me. I like guys with a bit devil may care in them, not one that screams like a banshee.

Monkeyprick:



Do you understand the magnitude of what it means to remain chaste until marriage? Refraining and denying yourself this youthful exuberance and not giving in to the pressure ?
Unless you're battling character deficiency, you're a very special woman. You should be proud of yourself.
I met my wife of 5 years as a virgin, a 28yr old at that time . The joy it gives each time i remember i am her first knows no bound and i made a promise to myself and my God never to lay any other woman aside my wife till my daughter lay me down to meet my maker.
May God forgive me, i don teach her bad bad bedroom skills though

OmoAlakija:
Because I fckd her in the a*ss while she was sleeping

XhosaNostra:


Relationships are more than just those things. I guess it would then depend if there's a spark.

Ishilove:

My stowee is: he was hot headed and immature, I was stubborn and immature. We broke up in a flurry of rage and when both our eyes cleared it was too late.

We are still friends though. He is the only one who hails me with a high pitched ''biaaaaatch!!'' and I reply with "your left nyaaaaaash!"

Kai, Freezle my love.

He told me: "Ishi, in my next life I will seek you out, and if we can't be lovers then, I will be your child."

Me too baby, me too...

Kiddogarcia:
the way she was supporting maryam sanda during her trail was frightening. she kept blaming the husband for cheating.the thought of her words couldn't stop echoing in my head,I just had to let go of a very good girl

XhosaNostra:


Loooooool. Ndiyakuva. It's like uyi-ou egrand Umtshate ke I live in Gauteng. Wena?

biggy26:

Bros, you didn't give her, fine. But nothing wrong with what she stood for. You guys weren't just compatible.

XhosaNostra:


LMFAO. Let's not go there. I grew up around daring men who grab a knife by the blade, hence I cannot be with a weasel of a man. South African men set that standard for me, not foreign men. Nigerian men talk & take off their clothes South African men, DO. They're not big talkers or strippers. South African men are many things, but cowards & sissies, they're not. They have way too much aggression to be cowards.
TBH, I think I may be too much for a typical Nigerian guy to handle

Youngpo413:
very true,they can only get wet a bit when another guy don cum inside already...but if you are the first for day,na the right side of you (coçk near the cap)go suffer am,because u cant cum quick except u turn her upside down,kneel astride and insert from behind...seeing those bubbling, bouncing butt will make you cum in a very small quantity.

vickydevoka:

Man I swear u just remind me of my past. Are u a prophet.

Chi59:

You're countering yourself.
You dated a guy who gave you peace.
People who are really in Christ give peace.
Do you see you've not made a point?
And what's so special about being a virgin anyway? I am. And I don't feel a tad special.
Babe, I hope your case is not a classic story of "my pastor said"?
Because as I've observed the more religious a person becomes the less logic they apply to issues.

Wickedfacts:
I was younger and loved her dearly. She was working but I was just starting out in business. She regularly adviced me on business and helped me arrange my financials for pitches and proposals. When I eventually resigned from paid employment to face my business fully, she couldn't bear the uncertainty of income. She began finding faults in me and eventually dumped me only to get married 3 months later to one returnee big boy back then. That was the worst thing that ever happened to me. For 4 good years, I couldn't date anyone. I just faced my business.

I met her at a mutual friend's wedding in Port Harcourt mid last year and we got talking again. She told me her husband accused her of being behind his misfortune and turned her into a boxing bag. He beats her at will and both families are tired of separating their fights. I told her there's nothing I can do to help her. A part of me wants to help but I won't. Sometimes, you repay evil with evil.

Divay22:
Nah

Chuvin22:


Exactly what They wanted.. she, Her mom, and dad. But truth is I can’t do that unless I have finally decided she is the one I want to marry.

And you know why I can’t make final decision yet? Because I don’t know her yet. For someone I see only like once (4 hours) in 3 month. We talk mostly on WhatsApp and calls for three years. I can count how many times we were together.

Take note, I have visited this girls family on a Christmas before... so her siblings and parents knows me. I don’t want to start creating the impression of marriage and now disappoint everyone when I now see something I don’t like.

But I can’t settle with someone without a mind of theirs. The parent has full control over her.

We still talk though. When ever she can now make decisions for herself, fine. We pick it up from there. If she meet someone else too, fine. Congrats to her.

A 25 year old girls done with NYSC still under her father’s roof and struck obligations? A 25 year old girl without a life outside of her home.

I am willing to take advice from you. Just suggest something.

CsRockefeller:


I have been following her comments from the first page and like you said, she just didn't justify leaving that guy, she couldn't make any point after you asked if she has found such peace in any brother.

I can't tell if a "Daddy" or "mummy" influenced her decision but I could sense fear was the main reason she left the guy. Like you said, people get less logical as they get very religious and it makes you wonder if God did a bad job giving us wisdom.

I know we have to trust in the Lord, and seek him but many a times we already have the answers to our questions. That's why he gave us the Holy Spirit, to guide us to all truth, and he the Holy Spirit lives in us.

CsRockefeller:


If you were my brother, I would advise you to go back to her. See, in this day and age we have sheep's moving without shepherd, they are bound to be eaten by wolves and lions.

Her parents are doing what a fire does to Gold, they are purifying her so that when she finally comes out, she will be the best there is.

I'm hoping you don't have bad plans for with regards sex and co, but if you have good intentions, be patient, at the end you would be glad you did.

At 20 many don't even listen to their parents, she's a graduate done with service and still sees her parents like a god, she will take that humility and respect to the next house she enters, hopefully her husband's house.

Don't let her go, you have a jewel at hand, just be a little patient.

Chi59:

That guy never talk. Maybe he was planning on chopping and cleaning mouth.

Wickedfacts:


She saw him as a fool and it is good he directed her to her parents. Let them take care of their responsibility.

CsRockefeller:


Maybe.

CsRockefeller:


I have been following her comments from the first page and like you said, she just didn't justify leaving that guy, she couldn't make any point after you asked if she has found such peace in any brother.

I can't tell if a "Daddy" or "mummy" influenced her decision but I could sense fear was the main reason she left the guy. Like you said, people get less logical as they get very religious and it makes you wonder if God did a bad job giving us wisdom.

I know we have to trust in the Lord, and seek him but many a times we already have the answers to our questions. That's why he gave us the Holy Spirit, to guide us to all truth, and he the Holy Spirit lives in us.

Blackmiserable:


I like gist sha. Did you become bornagain and decide to call it quit or you called it quit because he was trying to get intimate contrary to your convictions?

franchasng:
don't doubt him, 90% or more of men don't love any woman till they die, their only true love is mostly their mother, and then maybe their daughter.


Most times what guys misunderstand as being in love is being in lust or being in need of emotional food called sex. Sex is love to men or let me say majority of men, whereas care (spending on them, providing their needs) is love to ladies. So don't argue a guy that tells you he hasn't loved any girl because truly many guys haven't and even married men

PrimadonnaO:


Was he of a different religion, cultist, Yahoo boy?

Slimdada:
In as much as you decide who you want to be your friend and talk to,but When you care for someone more than they deserve, you get hurt more than you deserve." I don’t like forced conversations, forced friendships, forced interactions. I simply do not force things. If we do not vibe, we don’t vibe
No matter how much money u make
Loneliness can be boring,

I need a girl I will call my own,somebody that I will call
And she will pick up and tell me
Hey papi I'm home alone
Where Re u?
hurry up and come back home���‍♀️

Nooil:


There were lots of reasons. But what made me take the final decision was because of my relationship with God.

Divay22:

Come lemme love you then