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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by SoNature(m): 10:31pm On Mar 17, 2020
FrLukas:


Only if she's a virgin o.

If monster-sized dicks have turned her kini into an expressway, your dick might just feel like it's being thrown down a hallway any time you chook it inside.

I think we tend to hype sex

Many girls out there don't really enjoy it for one reason or another

Those are the kinds of girls who don't fancy big things

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by pocohantas(f): 10:31pm On Mar 17, 2020
Neither does not being one guarantee a stable marriage. I find this topic as ridiculous as people telling me to marry a man that doesn’t have good money because money doesn’t guarantee a good marriage.

Please choose your own battles o.

Virgin or no-virgin. If both parties have sense, they’ll achieve considerable success.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Adeagbo77: 10:32pm On Mar 17, 2020
Vega100:
Disclaimer This thread does not in anyway encourage promiscuity nor does it propergate indecency but rather it underscores some real facts for young ladies to be aware and more mindful of what's ahead.

So a very close friend of mine I happen to know very well married as a virgin, this was about 11 years ago. After about a year of blissful marriage, her marriage turned hell in the ensuing years that followed, she never opened up to me until last week when she did; she is blessed with kids, but her husband has been giving her hell in the marriage, abuses her, both physically, mentally and emotionally, carries various young girls and flaunts them to her face. She is about calling it quite. This is a girl I know very well as we grew up together, and I can vouch for her on many fronts, one thing I know about her is how genuine, cool headed and humble she is, she's someone meek at heart, I am sure she wouldn't create problems for her husband in a home, she was just unfortunate falling into the wrong hands

I also happen to come from a large family with 5 sisters (all married), from all my sisters, the one with the best marriage is the one that lived more of a party life style in school, attended many parties etc, and the one with the worse marriage was the one that married a virgin (actually, she has the kind of personality I wouldn't be surprised might cause problem for her , her husband and husband relatives, as she could be selfish).

My point is, for the Ladies, being chaste and maintaining high morals is something any parent will be proud about and will long for their child to uphold; but do not see that as all you need to portray yourself as suitable enough "wife material". Marriage is something very dynamic and complex, it entails a lot, and has to do with both you working on various facets of your life (of which sexuality is just one) as well as being able to choose an appropriate partner for yourself.

Do not see being a Virgin as the price you have to uphold for your husband, as it doesn't in anyway guarantee a good or perfect marriage (far from it), it is rather more dependent or perhaps a fine and infallible blend of various facets of your life viz a viz personality, charisma, behaviour, sensibility etc. as well as your keen sagaciousness in choosing an appropriate partner who is sensible and will be very well compatible with you..

Just a food for thought sageful minds can ruminate and mull over!!

Thank you very much for your time.

Yours truly

Vega100
It's a matter of choice or available lady within your reach. Whether virgin or non-virgin the best thing that can happen to a man is to get a good well-mannered and cultured wife. If that's complemented with a nice and responsible husband, the marriage will be an enviable one. All the same, there's nothing as sweet as marrying a virgin with qualities of a good wife. Any time, any day that man would continue to cherish her. I am talking from experience. When I met my wife as virgin, I gave her special gifts and bought a big ram for her father. Ladies don't be deceived, you would be more appreciated by your husband if you marry as virgin.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by walexy06(m): 10:34pm On Mar 17, 2020
Me that want to marry a virgin, am I even a virgin? Please no need to live double standard life.. Let virgins go for virgins n others as dey please.
One thing I know is, all virgins are ugly, I am a living example.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Nobody: 10:34pm On Mar 17, 2020
@op. With all due respect, people like you tend to miss the point entirely. Like I told someone earlier on another thread, think of it this way; a degree in a profession (think engineering, architecture, accounting, medicine) does not guarantee that the holder will be an outstanding professional. He could be good or he could be lousy at his profession; it all depends on other factors. However, lacking a degree in his profession most certainly guarantees that he won't be good at that profession. Likewise, virginity on its own does not guarantee a stable marriage; true, but lack of it almost certainly guarantees an unstable marriage. Just as a degree is the basic requirement when presenting your cv for a job application, virginity should be the basic requirement for marriage. Our forefathers knew what they were doing when they used to celebrate the stained white cloth on the marriage night. They weren't doing it for fun.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by okpalaAnambra: 10:35pm On Mar 17, 2020
utenwuson:
Women who married as virgin shouldn't be shouting I was a virgin I was a virgin.... It's not only virginity that keeps the home, most people who marry as virgin don't date the man they married so they hardly understand him....

The day I off was the day one woman was disturbing her husband with I was a virgin before I married you bla bla bla... And the husband gave her a punchline.... Yes... You were a virgin before I met you simply because no sane man could indulge you, you even need to pay me by indulging you... I off....
Arrant nonsense...Neither does whoring about guarantee good home..but a virgin does

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by BadBradley: 10:35pm On Mar 17, 2020
Vega100:
Disclaimer This thread does not in anyway encourage promiscuity nor does it propergate indecency but rather it underscores some real facts for young ladies to be aware and more mindful of what's ahead.

So a very close friend of mine I happen to know very well married as a virgin, this was about 11 years ago. After about a year of blissful marriage, her marriage turned hell in the ensuing years that followed, she never opened up to me until last week when she did; she is blessed with kids, but her husband has been giving her hell in the marriage, abuses her, both physically, mentally and emotionally, carries various young girls and flaunts them to her face. She is about calling it quite. This is a girl I know very well as we grew up together, and I can vouch for her on many fronts, one thing I know about her is how genuine, cool headed and humble she is, she's someone meek at heart, I am sure she wouldn't create problems for her husband in a home, she was just unfortunate falling into the wrong hands

I also happen to come from a large family with 5 sisters (all married), from all my sisters, the one with the best marriage is the one that lived more of a party life style in school, attended many parties etc, and the one with the worse marriage was the one that married a virgin (actually, she has the kind of personality I wouldn't be surprised might cause problem for her , her husband and husband relatives, as she could be selfish).

My point is, for the Ladies, being chaste and maintaining high morals is something any parent will be proud about and will long for their child to uphold; but do not see that as all you need to portray yourself as suitable enough "wife material". Marriage is something very dynamic and complex, it entails a lot, and has to do with both you working on various facets of your life (of which sexuality is just one) as well as being able to choose an appropriate partner for yourself.

Do not see being a Virgin as the price you have to uphold for your husband, as it doesn't in anyway guarantee a good or perfect marriage (far from it), it is rather more dependent or perhaps a fine and infallible blend of various facets of your life viz a viz personality, charisma, behaviour, sensibility etc. as well as your keen sagaciousness in choosing an appropriate partner who is sensible and will be very well compatible with you..

Just a food for thought sageful minds can ruminate and mull over!!

Thank you very much for your time.

Yours truly

Vega100
prolly a dumb thread from an insecure OP trying to do covert social engineering to promote retired hoes

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by walexy06(m): 10:36pm On Mar 17, 2020
utenwuson:
Women who married as virgin shouldn't be shouting I was a virgin I was a virgin.... It's not only virginity that keeps the home, most people who marry as virgin don't date the man they married so they hardly understand him....

The day I off was the day one woman was disturbing her husband with I was a virgin before I married you bla bla bla... And the husband gave her a punchline.... Yes... You were a virgin before I met you simply because no sane man could indulge you, you even need to pay me by indulging you... I off....
If you no off you wicked. The woman no go fit close her mouth.. I am a virgin yen yen yen yen yen
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by okpalaAnambra: 10:36pm On Mar 17, 2020
emkz:
While we need to interrogate the correlation of virginity with marital stability, what did your childhood friend do to trigger such erratic behaviour from her husband? Except he is a mad man, this story is one-sided.

Virginity and stability in marriages are anti-correlated; keeping your body chaste without paying attention to developing your character will not insure a successful marriage. I can marry a prostitute who has abandoned her ways and has turned a new leaf than a virgin with a questionable character.
That's if only the prostitutes are always good and virgins always bad as u guys generalize

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Munzy14(m): 10:36pm On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:37pm On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:


Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself. grin grin
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.
Guy, your brain is intact.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ramon212: 10:37pm On Mar 17, 2020
Did your friend meet him when he already had a job(doing well) ?
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ksstroud: 10:38pm On Mar 17, 2020
Baseless and rubbish post...

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Nobody: 10:39pm On Mar 17, 2020
So much kids on this forum,reducing a woman's morality to between her legs..
When you comment they will say you have a lose kitten if you are a lady and a Simp if you are a guy...lol

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ksstroud: 10:39pm On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:


Likewise marrying a non virgin girl does not guarantee successful marriage. I no fit carry ocean keep for house and the same ocean will have strong waves that can wreck big ships because I cannot come and go and kill myself. grin grin
If you marry a non virgin girl with good character, that's your luck. If I marry a virgin girl with good character, that's my double lucks.

Where you dey make I dash you 2Chilled bottles of your brand with Nkwobi...
Don't mind the pointless post...

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by NextD18: 10:39pm On Mar 17, 2020
What an interesting thread!

Comments here gives me hope that men are getting wiser.

Keep the comments coming! I'm highly impressed!

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by samtinx(m): 10:40pm On Mar 17, 2020
SoNature:



This is FALSE
I believe in all the paternity and the "DNA saga, that men have been falling victims to,off lately have never come from marrying a virgin.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Munzy14(m): 10:40pm On Mar 17, 2020
Lamanii22:
Can we say that "virginity" is an added factor coupled with good character...
Exactly... from the story the lady is a virgin, but character might be her case..

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by samtinx(m): 10:43pm On Mar 17, 2020
ImaIma1:


In this day and age, do men discuss with their siblings and mother about whether their babies are virgins. Even the mother will ask him if he's a virgin and why he thinks he deserves one
Yes they do sweetheart,and that's why premarital sex is not encouraged at all, from where I come from and what we believe

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Nobody: 10:44pm On Mar 17, 2020
ALABACONNECT:
This is like the difference between new and tokunbo. You could try both and get the difference

For your Tokunbo smart TVs, ACs and Soundsystems, check my signature

Lol. After pointing out that Tokunbo is not as good as new, you come advertise your Tokunbo TVs, ACs and soundsystems. Oga you be bad marketer o.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by angelfallz(m): 10:45pm On Mar 17, 2020
unmask:
I am not interested in marrying a virgin.....most are usually not adventurous and socially awkward.
How many virgins have you met?

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Seunallly: 10:45pm On Mar 17, 2020
pocohantas:
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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by bisoye11(m): 10:45pm On Mar 17, 2020
To swear for this op just dey hungry me..infact, why come online to air your devilish opinion.

The reason for majority of broken home now is because of infidelity,if a virgin can't keep a home ,what guarantee a non virgin been better?

Infidelity is a sin and a curse to this generation and this applies to both gender.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by fullblast(m): 10:46pm On Mar 17, 2020
Marriage is all about crisis management. Are you a good crisis manager?
That should be the topmost requirement before delving into such serious Union.
Virginity has nothing to do with it.
Just like the op, I'm not promoting promiscuity.

Way back in school, I know a lady who kept her virginity but loves anal s3x and 69 position. Is this one a Vee? Lol! But She's married now. At least I know something the husband will never know.
I just pity those that have fetish for Vees. You can't be certain that it's tested or untested Ok. Lol!

Experience, they say, is the best. Most of the outgoing ladies end up marrying the best husband materials. Remember, I didn't say ALL of them.

My advice: Build up yourself in all ramifications. Do not stick to handouts only because life is a jig-saw puzzle.
Prove most things (DO IT YOURSELF). This will earn u firsthand experience. Hence you become a better crisis Manager to EASILY overcome the twists and bends in life.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by angelfallz(m): 10:46pm On Mar 17, 2020
Dpharisee:
This is another sophisticated story from Koronu media grin

You can advise your in-law to do a DNA test on the kids of your partygoer sister with 'successful' marriage, I am sure he will return her the next day to your family with his findings wink
The spoilt girls will give less trouble sometimes to avoid raising eyebrows about their past
I swear my mind went in that direction too.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by bukatyne(f): 10:47pm On Mar 17, 2020
unmask:
I am not interested in marrying a virgin.....most are usually not adventurous and socially awkward.

And adventure & social unawkwardness can't be learnt?

I agree with the OP that Virginity doesn't guarantee good marriage: lack of doesn't either.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by angelfallz(m): 10:48pm On Mar 17, 2020
Ayoswit:
Staying faithful to your partner is the real deal here. Some ladies who married as virgins are easy target for other men lustful sexual desire especially if their spouse isn't faithful to them. Virginity is a woman's pride no doubt but a lady with a great personality whether she is a virgin or not should be a better option for a man that wants to settle down maritally.
Compatibility is what you're looking for. However, for me I'll be looking for a lady I'm compatible with among virgins.

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by samtinx(m): 10:50pm On Mar 17, 2020
iswallker:


So they were asking if she's a virgin or not... Be uase I am nkt understanding.. undecided
next time you try to quote/correct me, please make sure you, might have read through and understand the topic and my own personal opinion which is expressed in the comments section.And if you don't understand my opinion keep on reading it until you get there. wink
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by 02Kebreal(m): 10:50pm On Mar 17, 2020
Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala. grin grin

It's a food for thought.
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by NextD18: 10:50pm On Mar 17, 2020
angelfallz:

Compatibility is what you're looking for. However, for me I'll be looking for a lady I'm compatible with among virgins.
Smart!

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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by angelfallz(m): 10:50pm On Mar 17, 2020
Long and short of your story. The best type of woman to marry is a virgin that you're compatible with.

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