Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Bj5all(m): 3:20pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
All these dysfunctional girls everywhere.
From your first narration, she needs time to heal from her former relationship and she should not make you suffer the flaws of her ex. If she washes her ex clothes and the relationship didn't lead to marriage, why should she transfer that mindset of not assisting you domestically.
That's a mindset of one that is still dragging her past with her, every new relationship deserves a new start with clean mind to make things work.
That being said, bro, marriage na life long event. From the way things are going, your marriage fit suffer. You are the man here and the head of the Home when you get married, so you have to learn to lead and if she doesn't want to be on the same page with you in actions, thought and reasonings, Please tell her to look else where.
There is no pity in this game, marriage is based on selection of the best partner for long term survival.
If you like waste your money and mumu yourself, last last na you go suffer. If you think life is tight when you are dating, just wait till you get married. Expenses will likely triple and you need your sanity to think and make money, plan for the family and think of investment.
Common dating you are already having headache, in marriage na die you go die 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by baralatie(m): 3:22pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: shes from a home no mother and her father doesn't care it doesn't take me anything to help her without dating her but why trying to use the dating game to use me the worst part she doesn't allow me to make love to her as of recent she started ignoring my sexual desire and doesn't care what pain I'm going through Oga if you want help her life move forward then help her life to move forward. as it stands it is more like ,you are the one manipulating her into a relationship and asking her to be a sex.ting ground with no responsibility from your part. she already has seen that you are using for plain sex . Oga na beg I dey beg o.if you want to help help.if you no wan help leave am |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by baralatie(m): 3:23pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Bj5all: All these dysfunctional girls everywhere.
From your first narration, she needs time to heal from her former relationship and she should not make you suffer the flaws of her ex. If she washes her ex clothes and the relationship didn't lead to marriage, why should she transfer that mindset of not assisting you domestically.
That's a mindset of one that is still dragging her past with her, every new relationship deserves a new start with clean mind to make things work.
That being said, bro, marriage na life long event. From the way things are going, your marriage fit suffer. You are the man here and the head of the Home when you get married, so you have to learn to lead and if she doesn't want to be on the same page with you in actions, thought and reasonings, Please tell her to look else where.
There is no pity in this game, marriage is based on selection of the best partner for long term survival.
If you like waste your money and mumu yourself, last last na you go suffer. If you think life is tight when you are dating, just wait till you get married. Expenses will likely triple and you need your sanity to think and make money, plan for the family and think of investment.
Common dating you are already having headache, in marriage na die you go die where did you get the impression that he wanted to marry the girl |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Olunmercy56(f): 3:26pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
abayomi27: It's your right to stay off from this kind of relationship. She's a liar, an opportunist and a parasite...kill her and call police. Yes, for you to have shown her your own contributions, what stopped her from adding a little to it? Must it be men doing everything for ladies, I don't understand. She really bleeped up by lieing Move on, she is a parasite 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by LaMujer: 3:33pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
smh.
I'm not sorry to say, but OP is not wise(i am actually being nice with that weird)
From all you said, why are you still with the girl? She doesn't even give a shit about you!
No matter how Nigerian ladies believe that "my money is my money, your money is our money" a Lady that cares about you would not be this heartless. She's making life a living hell for you, and you're still loving up. tbh, your type irks me.
A Lady that loves you doesn't need you to ask before helping you out, considering you carry her matter for head. The ones that are insensitive also help if and only if you ask. But this one you call your woman would neither help willingly, nor help when asked, only to create excuse. You're dating a woman with very stinking attitude, woman that's not willing to spend "her own money" on makeup. If she loves makeups that much, she should be taking care of it kenan
Smh, lemme not be a prophet of doom 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Bj5all(m): 3:35pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
baralatie:
where did you get the impression that he wanted to marry the girl Where they I say he was going to marry her? Does his write up sounds like he wants to chop and run? Does anyone ever get drained from a relationship they don't value? Why waste money and time to build relationship with a girl you want to dump and at the same time conplains about her attitudes? Who introduces a girl he wants to dump to his family members and ask her to deliver cake on his behalf? Who takes a girl he wants to dump to a friend's mother's burial? 2 Likes |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by HarunaWest(m): 3:35pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: what are you even saying even the rich ones don't want a gold digger I'm telling you that I don't like what she was doing more over are my not giving her what she wants not that I'm even broke I'm building my own house so I diverted my money that's the reason not that I'm broke go up there and read up MAN and stop acting like a p**y Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by SweetCunt97(f): 3:39pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
GRIMMJOE: Trying too hard as usual. Nope. I simply dissect issues. You know that |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by baralatie(m): 3:40pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Bj5all:
Where they I say he was going to marry her?
Does his write up sounds like he wants to chop and run?
Does anyone ever get drained from a relationship they don't value?
Why waste money and time to build relationship with a girl you want to dump and at the same time conplains about her attitudes?
Who introduces a girl he wants to dump to his family members and ask her to deliver cake on his behalf?
Who takes a girl he wants to dump to a friend's mother's burial?
Go through all his comments and you will see his exposed flaw which the girl picked up instantly. This relationship is based on plain "no responsibility to perform basis" but sex is involved the girl is from a no home support as claimed by him.He steps in to "support" with benefit of sex in return, she already is a victim in her last relationship where at the end the ex walks away with another "virgin". this present one does not want to pay her school like that (smart) but does not want marriage because he is building his house.it you be girl what do you think will going on in her mind 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by SweetCunt97(f): 3:41pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Olunmercy56:
Yes, for you to have shown her your own contributions, what stopped her from adding a little to it? Must it be men doing everything for ladies, I don't understand. She really bleeped up by lieing Move on, she is a parasite Only 9k in one's account? After more than one year of dating the op, she got a paltry 9k in her account says alot. No need for u to sound morally upright to appeal to anyone here OK... You probably yearning for Pms |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by OlawaleBammie: 3:49pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
HarunaWest:
Dude from the analysis so far, you are darn broke.. Stop dating for now, make money and enjoy your life.. You asking her for too much financial assistance and that's bad, she was on her own Na you say you love am say u was date am. Ladies like a guy they can rely on when it matters she feels that you keep asking her for money means in future, if she doesn't take care, she will be the one to cater for yah. Be a man, call of the relationship, be more comfortable financially, then from that vantage point, you can call the shots. DISGRACE TO M............ |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by OlawaleBammie: 3:51pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Only 9k in one's account? After more than one year of dating the op, she got a paltry 9k in her account says alot.
No need for u to sound morally upright to appeal to anyone here OK... You probably yearning for Pms Madam why na, do u know how extravagant she spends?? No wonder u need an abroad based man, so dat u can add 3 zeroes to that 9k. 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by OlawaleBammie: 3:53pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
HarunaWest:
Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all Just stop saying nonsense Mr Dangote. we know u re loaded, just shift and let the less privileged has some breathing space.. ahh |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by SweetCunt97(f): 3:53pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
OlawaleBammie:
Madam why na, do u know how extravagant she spends??
No wonder u need an abroad based man, so dat u can add 3 zeroes to that 9k. Extravagant and remain 9k? Besides this makeup dem talking about to give a sense of extravagance might not even b upto 2k |
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Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Allsingles: 4:16pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: Good day guys Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone So here we go I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture, On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it? Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted. Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me. So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend. To cut the story short We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip, So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos. Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me. So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money I just lock up. After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him, So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how I will like you to think about these things. There is no Trust, she doesn't trust what you can do with money. There is no hundred percent Respect for you because of money. She doesn't want to be supportive financially and this will affect you your financial growth. Because you are in Relationship with her she has concluded that you are going to be taking care of her financial task and believe me it will affect you negatively. Getting married to this type of girl will give you financial stagnation. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Meteng: 4:17pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
No long talk. She's after your money. If you doubt me, marry her and see 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Olunmercy56(f): 4:22pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Only 9k in one's account? After more than one year of dating the op, she got a paltry 9k in her account says alot.
No need for u to sound morally upright to appeal to anyone here OK... You probably yearning for Pms Madam, wake up! Go and hustle lady, stop depending on men!!!! Must man do everything for you?! Parasite! 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by Nobody: 4:23pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Op. I have only one question for you. Exactly what is your gain from this relationship where you are just spending all this money? List out for me the tangible, material benefits in descending order please. I need the list to advice you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by managingpartner(f): 4:26pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
From your write up, that lady doesn't love you one bit, she's just enjoying all the goodies you are giving her. The relationship is one sided. Be wise bro. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by jattopeter(m): 4:38pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: Good day guys Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone So here we go I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture, On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it? Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted. Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me. So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend. To cut the story short We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip, So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos. Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me. So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money I just lock up. After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him, So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how Am sorry to say this , you are not a fool pls don't allow any one to treat you as such. stay away from hungry ladies that want to use you as the means of survival. when planning to settle down you think of lady that understand you, know what you are passing through. Alas! the lady is not one. Take note: ladies always have 2 sets of men in there lives. 1. The fool she plays 2.The wise guy that play her. Pls which category did u think you fall into? sit down and re plan your self. my advice is subject to if what you narrated so far is the actual truth . Selah 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by 2Radii: 4:40pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Olunmercy56:
Madam, wake up! Go and hustle lady, stop depending on men!!!! Must man do everything for you?! Parasite! Dont mind dat one, na dem dey make men speak ill of women all d tym. See as she spoke like a gold digger. 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by ebijimi7(m): 4:53pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
baralatie:
Oga if you want help her life move forward then help her life to move forward. as it stands it is more like ,you are the one manipulating her into a relationship and asking her to be a sex.ting ground with no responsibility from your part. she already has seen that you are using for plain sex . Oga na beg I dey beg o.if you want to help help.if you no wan help leave am no bro I stop dating her automatically means no intimacy will go on again |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by ebijimi7(m): 4:56pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
HarunaWest:
Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all your contribution is out of it bro |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by ebijimi7(m): 4:58pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
baralatie:
Go through all his comments and you will see his exposed flaw which the girl picked up instantly. This relationship is based on plain "no responsibility to perform basis" but sex is involved
the girl is from a no home support as claimed by him.He steps in to "support" with benefit of sex in return, she already is a victim in her last relationship where at the end the ex walks away with another "virgin". this present one does not want to pay her school like that (smart) but does not want marriage because he is building his house.it you be girl what do you think will going on in her mind then you are lost I never stated that I'm not marrying her read everything man I wouldn't want to marry her and I would dit her down to talk about what she was doing that was hurting me? |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by ebijimi7(m): 5:03pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: Op. I have only one question for you. Exactly what is your gain from this relationship where you are just spending all this money? List out for me the tangible, material benefits in descending order please. I need the list to advice you. I swear man I have not benefitted anything the day she borrowed me money I heard a lot of things she said I'm not saying anything about her money is it because its her money but I'm giving other people money and this money was used to take care of her bro I was mad I broke account to pay her up instantly |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by baralatie(m): 5:09pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: then you are lost I never stated that I'm not marrying her read everything man I wouldn't want to marry her and I would sit her down to talk about what she was doing that was hurting me? like I said |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by SweetCunt97(f): 5:13pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
Olunmercy56:
Madam, wake up! Go and hustle lady, stop depending on men!!!! Must man do everything for you?! Parasite! So what exactly gave u d idea that I depend on men? Pathetic. |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by SweetCunt97(f): 5:16pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
2Radii:
Dont mind dat one, na dem dey make men speak ill of women all d tym. See as she spoke like a gold digger.
Bird of a kind.. Band wagon party poppers you lot are. |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by tunize(m): 5:19pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
See as woman dey use u play table tennis mtcheeeew see wen nxt she ask u for money, jst tell her sey money dey spread coronavirus government jst ban ppl fron tourching cash. LET THAT BABE BE. 1 Like |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by baralatie(m): 5:24pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: no bro I stop dating her automatically means no intimacy will go on again |
Re: I Felt I'm Not Secured In This Relationship by ghettochild4u(m): 5:25pm On Mar 21, 2020 |
ebijimi7: Good day guys Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone So here we go I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture, On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it? Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted. Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me. So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend. To cut the story short We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip, So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos. Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me. So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money I just lock up. After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him, So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how You are dating a liability n u have seen d signs yet u will still go ahead n marry such a lady that will never contribute anything apart from her toot, into ur life... If dem never use pant swear for u... Just break up 1 Like |