Impostor:


Agreed, but in a population with mass unemployment, you are more likely to run into an unemployed lady than employed one. If you randomly meet someone on the streets, she's more likely to be unemployed. Even the churches are the same.

I agree. Just take your time, don't rush into anything to avoid had I known.

See Lamentations!!


A thread for broke guys.

Helinues Sarrki.

WhatIf:


I saw her when she 18, trained her on Desktop publishing, and I thank God, the rest is an history.

Rich family then?

Gandollaar:
Rich family then?

I trained my wife, and by God grace, she is what she is today by my hustle!

unibenakpos:
in Africa the goal is to get married and raise kids, we want to be 38 when our children are leaving the university. As for me, I'm too patient to run into anything i cant afford, i wont get married until i can afford to do so simple. I'm even eyeing age 40 for marriage

WhatIf:


I saw her when she 18, trained her on Desktop publishing, and I thank God, the rest is an history.

She was 18, you were 33?

Gandollaar:
See Lamentations!!


A thread for broke guys.

Helinues Sarrki.

You wrong, not for broke guys. We just sharing like experiences. Besides I was onces a broke guy, it takes time but every broke guy you see today will not remain broke

WhatIf:


I trained my wife, and by God grace, she is what she is today by my hustle!

Ok what has she become?

So you are a man huhn. Why use female as your gender code

MhizJoyce:

Where he works? You expect him to mix business with pleasure abi? I'm a man like him and I won't advise him to do such.

I will never understand this obsession Nigerian men have for this failed social construct called marriage
Nigerian men be forever attracted to suffering

mycare:
So you are a man huhn. Why use female as your gender code

Don't worry, I won't reveal the content of your DMs

Many young guys complains of no good girls out there and neglecting who they really are, aside hustling and bringing money home, many guys are poor intellectually and do not know how to handle anything( finance, relationship, advice patience.....). There are good and reasonable girls out there (the percent might be low) who are ready to settle down with a reasonable guy that is hustling and earning little, but because many guys are good for nothing other than making money. We expect ladies to settle down with us or struggle with us knowing fully well that we don't have anything to offer too aside bringing money ( poorly intellectual guy will only attract his type who will be after money alone)

Gandollaar:
Ok what has she become?

Dangote i tink dis does not concern you, besides u re not supposed to b here, go to auto section plsss

MhizJoyce:
Don't worry, I won't reveal the content of your DMs

Nigeria is a screwed country.

Most problems people have in the country are money related.

You will see 40 year old men still single or not dating.

Impostor:

She was 18, you were 33?

WhatIf pls answer this question, i want to learn something and tell my daddy.

adexpa:
Many young guys complains of no good girls out there and neglecting who they really are, aside hustling and bringing money home, many guys are poor intellectually and do not know how to handle anything( finance, relationship, advice patience.....). There are good and reasonable girls out there (the percent might be low) who are ready to settle down with a reasonable guy that is hustling and earning little, but because many guys are good for nothing other than making money. We expect ladies to settle down with us or struggle with us knowing fully well that we don't have anything to offer too aside bringing money ( poorly intellectual guy will only attract his type who will be after money alone)

U re right all tru but not wen u got to ur last sentences

Okoroawusa:

In as much as I am not against marriage then hustle n take care of the kids, you ended up not offering this young man any advice or explain how you have been able to maintain a family for many years despite not having a steady job nor how your daughter ended up attending the best private secondary schools in Ijebu-Ode.

He simply meant, just get married and stop looking at pocket level.

SweetCunt97 thankiu soo much oo, i appreciate ur good deeds.
u decerv a snake meat and palmie for this.

RonaldoVido:


He simply meant, just get married and stop looking at pocket level.

Ok

OlawaleBammie:


Dangote i tink dis does not concern you, besides u re not supposed to b here, go to auto section plsss

Haahhahahaha

Abii nau

Gandollaar:
Haahhahahaha

Abii nau

Am really learning from dem elders there, dont spoil market for me abeg.
those people u re tagging only tink in one direction oo, dont call dem here plsss

Pls, it is not compulsory to marry. So, don't make people.that re not.marry feel bad. Everybody have his or.her own timing..the kind wahala wey some people dey face because of the wrong marriage wey dem don enter pass hellfire.
The customary court is full with marriage divorce case because of the two nonsense things that join themselves together and calling themselves husband and wife..pls help our society to get rid of bastard children.marriage is.not compulsory...

If.you want to.learn about celibate, you can dm me.

Impostor:
Hello NLders

I just want to share my experience. I want people to learn from others.

So recently I started dating and meeting women with the mindset of getting married as everyone around me keep shouting that I am getting overripe. Some are even wondering if everything is ok downstairs lol. How can you not be married up till now? You know those types of comments. But how could I have gotten married when unemployment no release me until 36? Nigeria is something else. It was at that age that I finally landed a decent job. I am even lucky to be where I am now.

So many youths are underemployed/under paid. Less than a month ago, a good friend who is also my course mate messaged me to express his frustration at teaching somewhere for 50k and he said he's now ready to make money anyhow even if it will take someone's blood . It's just a threat out of frustration.

The problem now is that I don't know if there are still good women like our mothers in this country. I have met so many young girls that I have stopped trying, the quest and hunger of these girls for money is just too much.

You are unemployed and you want me to buy you an iPhone of 150,000 Naira and she was making so much noise about it. Meanwhile I use a phone of 30k lol. Almost all the ladies I am meeting are unemployed and expensive. I met one girl awaiting NYSC, she told me straight up, that I will have to be taking care of her, that she's tired of dating broke guys so she has decided that any man she wants to date will have to be responsible for her completely. It sounded like a transaction. Though she's a very pretty, tall girl but I am not even after all those facial beauty.

Another lady told me she has half of her rent and she's looking for the remaining half. The stories are so many, I could write a book with them. I don't even know how to get working class ladies. But I have now realized that Nigerian ladies are not even the problem, it's the economy. Many young ladies are struggling just like guys and the only way they can meet up with their bills is by dating 3/4 guys.


Advise from my experience.

After my NYSC, over 10 years ago, I had this mind set that I won't get married without a job or funds to take proper care of my family. I think that mindset MAY be wrong, so many people still think this way.

I will advise you look at it again because it may take you 15/20 years after University to become comfortable (not your portion). Let me be sincere with you, this Nigeria is getting worse by the day especially with the type of leaders we have, who think only of themselves and their families/tribe.

For example, you can see for yourself what is happening with the outbreak of Corona Virus in the country. After 2 infection, people started advising that we should stop foreign flights, they refused until so many infected people got into the country, now they are running up&down. If we are lucky to get good leaders after now, it may take another 30 years of continuous good leadership to save Nigeria.

My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.

Be wise money is not everything.

Even without being told I have started making plans but the question is missing rib can't be In naija because wife no dey simple. Female mindset have really Changed. Am considering a lady of 20yrs oh oo

unibenakpos:
in Africa the goal is to get married and raise kids, we want to be 38 when our children are leaving the university. As for me, I'm too patient to run into anything i cant afford, i wont get married until i can afford to do so simple. I'm even eyeing age 40 for marriage

God bless you for being reasonable.

Impostor:


That's what we are talking about, at 38, If I had gotten married at 28, my child will be 10 now. I commend your boldness to have started a family. If you wait till you are comfortable, before you realize that this country is sick, time would have passed.

This matter is not complex but only required a native intelligence. Granted, u got no money to marry comfortable and feed a baby that may come by the way. One possible route to take is to start small, marry according to your pocket and composed yourself not to get more than one child as your status predefined. We are not God u may shoot or fire ur wifey in d other room and result is multiple pregnancy or at best twinning stuff. Do not blame yourself or run away as it is an extenuating circumstances and very much beyond u. Its a decision from above the sky. Moving on, the baby comes around finally while u are still struggling. The next and important decision is to seek for and adopt a reliable and compulsory family planning method to allow u gather yourself till nature smile on u. And d family planning decision is reversible as soon as u "chop up". This latency allows u to take care of yourself, your wifey and ur baby and gives u latitude to plan your life. There are many stations in life.

This is one basic way to do it and be mindful is not a guarantee for everybody but is a template that one can use to enjoy life even though u are poor in pockets and good paying jobs. For those who truly know thyself and believe strongly that all must be set before thinking of making a family, you are also not wrong most sincerely.

Eeyah, no script to life though.

Impostor:

She was 18, you were 33?

I was 28 then and she was 18

Ballary:
This is really an inspiring post, getting married earlier is the best, but how many women do you think will settle for a struggling or broke guy.

To raise a family is not really easy in this present naija, only very few decent girls can cope with a struggling guy, l'm in my late twenties,I really want to get married at least by 30.

But the way things are going,it will be really difficult,to even get an understanding babe is also a major issue.

No b as bitter kola sound e dey sweet.

OlawaleBammie:


WhatIf pls answer this question, i want to learn something and tell my daddy.

I was 28 then while she was 18

WhatIf:


I was 28 then while she was 18

dat means u dated her for good 5years...

hmm, dis is inspiring.


wait oo brov, i hav this notion dat 7 or more age gap between two lovers is huge not until u said this.

Gandollaar:
Ok what has she become?

She is a Company Secretary by God's Grace