dancok:
ah, ur younger sis nko, cousin, hahaaha

None, Sorry

I cant stop thanking God for driving me into that decision at age 32. I would have probably still be waiting. Got into marriage with nothing. Now with 3kids and never knew a better yesterday.

The beginning will surely look like a battle, but you will stabilize with time and will remain grateful to what/whoever compelled you afterward.

This country is more f**ked than we really think.

daddytime:


You can't blame them dear.

Wetin person no know him no know.

Experience teaches best.

Marriage comes with its blessings is what has landed many into troubles and some children turning into miscreants. That some got married on nothing and things eventually fell in place for them doesn't necessary suggest a cause and action.

Elimon:
For me I think I need to get a job before marriage...but at the same time I need to have a kid before 26...I like it that way...after all,to be a baby papa is not a sin this days
Pablo Escobar

One of the reasons wey girls dey carry another man pikin give una. No be by gbas gbos ooo, just take things turn by turn.

Jamesrock:


God bless u OP!!!

I really enjoyed this ur topic. I’m 26; No job and just concluded service last year! All things being equal, I hope to get married before 30 but the issue is I find it hard to see one to love me truly!!! All these babes aren’t down for broke guys!!!

I think love comes with understanding who you are and what you represent. In the mean time, why not seek genuine friendship and then take it further as time goes on?

Dexlomo:


I think love comes with understanding who you are and what you represent. In the mean time, why not seek genuine friendship and then take it further as time goes on?

I’m on that too...

It pays to marry one’s friend

stormborn28:




Hope u still have the money? If you don't, keep d pity tales to yourself cos women don't like stories of I Get Am Before but Misused it.




Judge yourself

No need

Impostor:


I no fit laff abeg, why travel out now to start hustling abroad? You can make it here. What is wrong with impregnating her? Ona go ruff am together. There's more to life than money. Family love surpasses most material things

Oga, what justification have you I repeat for the umpteenth time? You have not walked that path and can only insinuate since you even earn decently well enough. Try to put that into consideration so that you wouldn't be seen as someone who talks for the fun of it.

U1:


You see that's what I was saying about taste. It doesn't have to be both of those two examples.

If you'd be spending 20k on fare in a month, you shouldn't be paying so much on rent. That much on transport makes more sense for someone living on the outskirts, where accommodation is typically cheaper. It's either this or that.

Those husband and wife most certainly would have lived in a "face me and face you" kind of place.

A life of struggle? What are most Nigerians used to? The struggle still doesn't stop them from making children, even too many in some cases.

Hmmm...….yet we want to end the poverty in the land, the child molestation we read about, the increasing number of miscreants etc. How do we intend achieving this if we encourage this lifestyle?

seanwilliam:
This life sha, as young guy like me wey no get stable source of income now, how e one take be?? And most naija girls are broke . I dont even have problem with dem being broke, the problem is their entitlement mentality....
Well as I dey so, I no fit kill myself atall, I go enjoy myself well well for this bachelor, and I go marry when I'm comfortable.. I no fit kon start my life with suffer suffer.. if I get this degree finish, na to travel go Scandinavian countries go do masters and find one shima, give am beta belle make she give me beta pikin..
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To people that are ready for marriage, no matter how, you still have to be comfortable small before you go consider settling down.. e better not to marry atall than to marry and begin to suffer yourself, yourwife and your innocent children..
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Afterall jesus no marry now.
If pressure too much on u, then become a baby daddy.. atleast you don get seed for ground..
Also if you are not really ready for marriage, there is no point in dating naija girls cos most of dem will just suck u financially, emotionally, materially and other ally
I no sure say this country get hope again..


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P.s. to anyone reading this my ranting abeg make una begin husle earlier ooo.. if you hit better money once, use am build house first.. after that one find beta investment and continue with your husle..

Do anything wey fit give you money , it might sound crazy, but no one is going to ask u how u take make money except SARS and Efcc.. ..
Afterall, orijin is a wonderful brand..
Aro1
Nextd18

You spoil everything when you say make we build house first except na shanty you want make we build. Person wey get better money need sabi invest am for short/medium term investment while the person dey hustle extra money.

I no buy make people rush marriage but I don see people wey be say their salary put together sef ma no enter N50k and dem born pikin. Las las, the children dey become family responsibility and dat one sef na another wahala. I go one friend wedding na so the parents say make the eldest sister come siddon with dem because na she train am. I be like wait, no be her mama be dat, dem say d mama no spend on top am say na person wey spend suppose siddon. I just tire. I no ready make another person raise my pikin and for my case, no be money hold me but other things and na when I realize say I get power to overcome am naim I think of marriage. We still get our challenges but God dey help us surmount dem.

Las las, for dis kind time, I no go tell you say make you go Jand for graduate studies but instead of Scandinavian, you fir consider Australia, New Zealand, Canada, or America because of ability to stay back after studies.

ainas247:


You Time is your time bro
I have seen people that got married at 23 but they are still waiting for their First child at 45

Sir, your time is your time
Just thank God for whatever position you are.

Peace!

The bros no know say no be kpa, kpa, monkey in snake shadow dey bring pikin.

Dexlomo:


Hmmm...….yet we want to end the poverty in the land, the child molestation we read about, the increasing number of miscreants etc. How do we intend achieving this if we encourage this lifestyle?

It's not about encouraging a kind of lifestyle, but about making a point.

Getting married doesn't necessarily mean starting to roll out the children immediately by the number. Besides, I am an advocate of about three kids being enough per family and that's even for "comfortable" families.

But I don't think I completely understand your point about ending poverty in the land. You think that's possible in a country like this with many over-selfish people? Think again. Poverty still exists in the US!

homiben:


Talk that talk broda!... Breeding is the only investment black men belief in... We breed to survive!! These guys b planning on early breeding, for quick ROI...
Please guys let's not forget fishery, poultry piggery etc... These also are very lucrative ventures o

Breeding for ROI, no be for naija ooo. I know many people wey don near 40 wey parents still dey support abi no be naija you dey refer to? Society wey dey get tougher with each passing day...….

Dexlomo:


You spoil everything when you say make we build house first except na shanty you want make we build. Person wey get better money need sabi invest am for short/medium term investment while the person dey hustle extra money.

I no buy make people rush marriage but I don see people wey be say their salary put together sef ma no enter N50k and dem born pikin. Las las, the children dey become family responsibility and dat one sef na another wahala. I go one friend wedding na so the parents say make the eldest sister come siddon with dem because na she train am. I be like wait, no be her mama be dat, dem say d mama no spend on top am say na person wey spend suppose siddon. I just tire. I no ready make another person raise my pikin and for my case, no be money hold me but other things and na when I realize say I get power to overcome am naim I think of marriage. We still get our challenges but God dey help us surmount dem.

Las las, for dis kind time, I no go tell you say make you go Jand for graduate studies but instead of Scandinavian, you fir consider Australia, New Zealand, Canada, or America because of ability to stay back after studies.

you are right especially about the last part.. I bin think say getting admitted in all these Scandinavia countries dey easy pass Europe and America.. concerning that house stuff, well if i were the one i would try to build house first, then any other money after that would go into investment.. the house doesn't need to be built in Lekki na, na just normal portable nuclear fam apartment.. atleast that is an assurance incase things no turn out as expected for investment..

U1:


It's not about encouraging a kind of lifestyle, but about making a point.

Getting married doesn't necessarily mean starting to roll out the children immediately by the number. Besides, I am an advocate of about three kids being enough per family and that's even for "comfortable" families.

But I don't think I completely understand your point about ending poverty in the land. You think that's possible in a country like this with many over-selfish people? Think again. Poverty still exists in the US!

Poverty will always remain however, the proportion of those living below poverty is what the West strives to reduce. In our case, the number is rising. On the other hand, if you marry you no born, dem go start dey halla you again say wetin you dey wait.

seanwilliam:
you are right especially about the last part.. I bin think say getting admitted in all these Scandinavia countries dey easy pass Europe and America.. concerning that house stuff, well if i were the one i would try to build house first, then any other money after that would go into investment.. the house doesn't need to be built in Lekki na, na just normal portable nuclear fam apartment.. atleast that is an assurance incase things no turn out as expected for investment..

The way we see investment differ sha so follow your own path and risk appetite. In terms of admission and visa, every country get im own and the better thing be say you just need know wetin the requirements be and try meet am up.

Dexlomo:


Poverty will always remain however, the proportion of those living below poverty is what the West strives to reduce. In our case, the number is rising. On the other hand, if you marry you no born, dem go start dey halla you again say wetin you dey wait.

Let me just sign off on this matter with this: there's no security in this world. There's no guarantee that you will get all you will ever need before getting married.

Also, there have been cases of people for whom things took a dive for the worse after marriage. They were comfortable and well to do before getting married.

The key thing is being "responsible." Don't do more than your power can handle. Continue to be better and let God bless the rest. Children are a blessing, for example, but it makes no sense to have many IMHO.

No security in this world, sire. The current coronavirus virus outbreak has already altered the financial situations of some and looks likely to do more in the coming - no one envisaged it.

Only God takes care of us. Seeking His guidance is the most important thing. If he gives the go-ahead, just forget about other seeming impediments.

SweetCunt97:
Guy economy hard. That she cannot afford it doesn't make her a bad person na... Does it?

just by yourself look at your double standards Nigeria eh all of una na Hypocrites

Chukapage:
just by yourself look at your double standards Nigeria eh all of una na Hypocrites

How?

SweetCunt97:
How?

You told the other guy that girls no wan hear "I get am before" but here you are defending another lady that couldn't give ordinary #100 glo airtime chai!

iLegendd:


Your head is correct.

Africa, especially Nigeria, is a disgrace. I pray coronavirus kills everybody let this nation go into extinction.

F*cked up place with poor mentality.

haba! Bro what's up with you nah?? kill everybody ?? Thank God sey God no be man oooooo I swear....op goofed big time by suggesting getting married and breeding in poverty but to wipe 200million people?? Chai!

Chukapage:
haba! Bro what's up with you nah?? kill everybody ?? Thank God sey God no be man oooooo I swear....op goofed big time by suggesting getting married and breeding in poverty but to wipe 200million people?? Chai!

The lawlessness and stubbornness in this country is alarming.

[quote author=iLegendd post=87702079]

The lawlessness and stubbornness in this country is alarming.[/quote) we only hear of plane crashes but we don't hear of the thousands that safely reached their destination .... THINK AM!

Chukapage:
You told the other guy that girls no wan hear "I get am before" but here you are defending another lady that couldn't give ordinary #100 glo airtime chai!

Definitely narrative. If you don't have money as a guy, good and fine.. But don't try to save face yarning about past feat, past flexing in money. Simply keep it simple, I get am before no b property.

SweetCunt97:
Definitely narrative. If you don't have money as a guy, good and fine.. But don't try to save face yarning about past feat, past flexing in money. Simply keep it simple, I get am before no b property.

Aunty na your hypocrisy be this just look at it .... NIGERIA

Chukapage:
Aunty na your hypocrisy be this just look at it .... NIGERIA

Bia Chuka ozugo.. Biko Kam nulu ifedi

SweetCunt97:
Bia Chuka ozugo.. Biko Kam nulu ifedi

This nwa otu. Lol

francdec4:
Wish I did or saw this kind of advise earlier. Had stable job and good profession but was busy sharing my money n salary to relatives who ironically started their own families early and who felt entiled....dont get me wrong nothing bad in helping others and relatives but then at one's neglect of vital life exigencies, it's somehow. Now am 37 and eager to do it as soon as possible. Sad but that's life. Younger ones learn, from 26 and 27 for men, just do the needful, pray and build your Empire together.

Bro, All i can say us hmmm

And all i can do is gaping my mouth.

this is beyond

nazablossom:
Look for already working ladies now. They plenty wey dey find husband. Some are even ready to share bills with any man that is down for marriage.

like yhu to introduce one to me biko

The black race has been using this mentality the OP stated to continue in recycling poverty into generations and it won't stop any time soon. Marriage should not be your utmost priority rather becoming a success in which ever endeavours you found yourselves. Does it matter if you give birth to your first child at 50yrs, as long as they have a successful future to welcome them into. When people marry without viable means of survival, they just continue to feed from hand to mouth and breeds children along the line then the poverty race continue in that generation. Or what else do you think brings about the majority of poor people living in a country called Nigeria. Have you asked yourself why poor people breeds like rats? While they continue to whalloh in poverty? Just try to get it right no matter the age then your next generation will continue to make exploit of what you have laid down by then they can marry even at 20 and still continue the success story. Chase success first and make sure u get it, then your children will take it from there, then they will be among the generation of wealthy people. Nobody will remember how poor you were then. Just like nobody remembered how poor dangote, otedola, adenuga, Ifeanyi Uba great grand parents were.

pcguru1:


I completely disagree not the black race, but Nigerian , we are stifled in this country by corruption and mismanagement. The black race in proper environment are thriving and contributing sadly to western development. We are our own architect of our demise. None of us are ready to serve when out in that position to effect changes, it's always personal interests. Nigeria cannot move forward, this coronavirus has exposed the issues with us. We are not a nation that plans ahead for the future. Sadly relocation is no longer the answer amidst this wahala.

Quite contradictory. If it's not the black race but a Nigerian issue, why are the rest of the black race contributing to western societies and not fellow black societies?

SweetCunt97:
I remember sending such to guy, only for him to complain that how could I have sent only 100naira, say I no value am. Ungrateful soul he was.

How men request tins from women, even with pride still baffles me.

Even calls, am not comfortable receiving them from ladies, i wil have to drop their calls and call them back.