Hey People, I need help

I'm single, over 30 and under pressure from
Parents, Friends and just about every one around me to get Married.

Haven't met the right guy but still praying to.

My question is this:

How do I deal with the pressures?
How do I cope with the pressures?

I'm really looking for ways to cope with
this and would really appreciate sound advise.

Thanks people

OP.
Best way to get rid of the pressure is Getting married!
And if you know you are not ready yet/still wannna have fun . . . .Just frame up something ,like tell them you have gotten some1 but still checking him out if he's the right person and that sooner you will introduce him to them. . . . .Simple!

Its not an easy task and am sorry you also did not plan along the line,since women have cycle,you need to produce a baby if nothing is coming up.

olas2u:

Its not an easy task and am sorry you also did not plan along the line,since women have cycle,you need to produce a baby if nothing is coming up.

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wtf?
Lmao.
@post, Simply ignore them, its your life not theirs, afterall marriage is not a do-or-die affair neither is it by all means, don't let them push you into something you'll regret someday. Just take it easy, one day at a time, one day, Mr Right will surely surface. Take care.

poster

why deal with the pressure the only people giving you the pressure are those around you. if i were you id just let them talk and get married when i do. what happens in situations like yours is that you may settle for less than you are worth so be strong and find the one who you really want and desrve. if it happens fine if not [size=4pt]settle when you hit 35[/size]

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single life I'd advise that you focus on your career, create achievements for yourself, improve on your physical appearance every single day. All these things will keep you busy and your mind off your single status. And who knows, someone will get to notice you esp when you have made something of yourself. In short: work on every aspect of your life, marriage may then come before you know it.

maedan:

single life I'd advise that you focus on your career, create achievements for yourself, improve on your physical appearance every single day. All these things will keep you busy and your mind off your single status. And who knows, someone will get to notice you esp when you have made something of yourself. In short: work on every aspect of your life, marriage may then come before you know it.

Thanks Maedan, that's the "soundest" of advise I've read so far

You're welcome! Wake up every day and just be grateful for LIFE, first thing foremost! Let others worry about the other stuff!!

singlelife:

Thanks Maedan, that's the "soundest" of advise I've read so far

I believe the only pressures we feel arebthe ones we choose.
Do u feel d need to get married? Don't deny it cos someoneelse said it n don't fake it cos cos u want to please.
Finding a life partner is not a walk in a park it's more a walk through rose bush u'll b surrounded by beauty but get d occassional sting even wen u find d rite person so only the stout of heart n sure of mind need apply.
Don't get into tizzy n like maedan said appreciate ur life n every day.

Pay deaf ear to them till the right man comes along. If you hurry things, you may just end up with the wrong man.

In this age/time we live in, you have to pay deaf ear to society and do things your way.

rokiatu:

Pay daft ear to them till the right man comes along. If you hurry things, you may just end up with the wrong man.

In this age/time we live in, you have to pay [b]daft [/b]ear to society and do things your way.

OOps, no offence but the right term is "deaf ear" not "daft ear", LOL.

thanks

rokiatu:

Pay daft ear to them till the right man comes along. If you hurry things, you may just end up with the wrong man.

In this age/time we live in, you have to pay daft ear to society and do things your way.

But you can hear her saying she's above 30 and only God knows whether she's in her late 30's and you advice her to put a deaf or daft hear to pple,  haaaaa haba if it were you will you do such??

rokiatu:

thanks

cool .

seedord247:

But you can hear saying she's above 30 and only God knows whether she's in her late 30's and you advice her to put a deaf or daft hear to pple, haaaaa haba if it were you will you do such??

LOL okay my one mistake is gonna make headline.      

But seriously what do you want her to do? She will just have to wait for the right man. People will always talk.





@poster, take your time dear. The questions never end, but hey better single and still waiting for Mr Right than being unhappily married (which it seems many people are)  Next time something like this happens ask the offending party how they'd rate their marriage on a scale of one to ten.

^^^^ Lol, no no that's too rude and personal, instead she should ask them to please give/find her one (a husband) since they are so concerned. "pressure to get married", as if the woman see groom and run. No be if she see groom she go marry?? Pple sef!!

Thanks ooo, you get where i'm coming from

rokiatu:

Thanks ooo, you get where i'm coming from

no1 forget about your age- I know everyone will try to write you off and give an expiry date, thats the mentality most have unfortunately. Just take it that its ignorance and ignore. You should know that some only like to knit-pik the 'wrong' in others.Most wont even notice anything good youve done with yourself but rather just lament over the fact your not married!
no2 I think you need to let parents, friends and relatives understand that your happiness is most important to you. And you wont get married just to comfort them. Being married for the sake of it isnt as great as it seems.
no3 take your mind off the matter, if you dont you may seem desperate and attract the sort you dont want to.
no3 ENJOY your single life!! I cant even stress how important it is! I dont understand why a woman will feel her happiness is predicated on the presence of a man! You should travel around, embrace your friendships, get to know yourself, read loads, fulfil your fantasies, singlehood is freedom! you have nothing to worry about, you dont have to compromise, you dont have to worry, your not restricted.

'discovering yourself' may seem horridly cliché-ish, but alot of women have only ever been in relationships, can tell you everything you need to know about their partners, but nothing about themselves. If anything to me thats a wasted life, basically lived for another. Most women end up like this when they go into relationships, giving up on dreams, severing careers and compromising their happiness. You should enjoy the freedom you have with yourself while it lasts, cos a marriage will end it.

queensmith:

no1 forget about your age- I know everyone will try to write you off and give an expiry date, thats the mentality most have unfortunately. Just take it that its ignorance and ignore. You should know that some only like to knit-pik the 'wrong' in others.Most wont even notice anything good youve done with yourself but rather just lament over the fact your not married!
no2 I think you need to let parents, friends and relatives understand that your happiness is most important to you. And you wont get married just to comfort them. Being married for the sake of it isnt as great as it seems.
no3 take your mind off the matter, if you dont you may seem desperate and attract the sort you dont want to.
no3 ENJOY your single life!! I cant even stress how important it is! I dont understand why a woman will feel her happiness is predicated on the presence of a man! You should travel around, embrace your friendships, get to know yourself, read loads, fulfil your fantasies, singlehood is freedom! you have nothing to worry about, you dont have to compromise, you dont have to worry, your not restricted.

'discovering yourself' may seem horridly cliché-ish, but alot of women have only ever been in relationships, can tell you everything you need to know about their partners, but nothing about themselves. If anything to me thats a wasted life, basically lived for another. Most women end up like this when they go into relationships, giving up on dreams, severing careers and compromising their happiness. You should enjoy the freedom you have with yourself while it lasts, cos a marriage will end it.

Very well said, esp about enjoying your freedom!! I know pple might wonder how she can "enjoy" being single at that age, but you make sense. Also, I'd hate to be in a r/ship where I can't say I lived my own life! I'm not encouraging over-independence but girls should learn to find personal worth and not seek it in from a man/husband.

That said it must feel really cool to be married and when I'm ready, I'll give my best but as for that freedom, I MUST ALWAYS HAVE IT, RING OR NO RING !!!!

^^^IWO OBIRIN YII TUNTI(or titun, not sure) DE. Oo ni pa mi pelu erin sha

let us just look at it this way, sey na only Guys meant to woo babes if the lady is interested in getting married she should go out there and search and talk to any guy of her choice and if she can't do that alone i can be of help

seedord247:

let us just look at it this way, sey na only Guys meant to woo babes if the lady is interested in getting married she should go out there and search and talk to any guy of her choice and if she can't do that alone i can be of help

Ashawo

Ileke-IdI:

^^^IWO OBIRIN YII TUNTI(or titun, not sure) DE. Oo ni pa mi pelu erin sha

Yes o, all of the above . I don come again, which one you dey . Any man wey put me for house and thinks he will control me from my breathing to my goals and dreams, hmmmn, God will not even let me "find" such a husband .

@ poster ,firstly,i would advise you change your name from 'SINGLE LIFE '.Then go to GOD in prayers if u r a xtian.

chidozman:

@ poster ,firstly,i would advise you change your name from 'SINGLE LIFE '.Then go to GOD in prayers if u r a xtian.

seconded more also if she a Muslim she should pray to Al-Mighty Allah for guides and protection on this marriage of a thing

nice discuss

When you are single all you see is happy couples . . . When you are married all you see is happy single. . . To marry or not to. . . My dear just ignore them, create fun for yourself, look nice and beautiful as ever and enjoy your life. Try to achieve something new to keep you fulfilled everyday. . . Finally be happy no matter how hard it may be just be happy, that's all that matters in life. . . Happiness.

African_queen:

When you are single all you see is happy couples . . . When you are married all you see is happy single. . . To marry or not to. . . My dear just ignore them, create fun for yourself, look nice and beautiful as ever and enjoy your life. Try to achieve something new to keep you fulfilled everyday. . . Finally be happy no matter how hard it may be just be happy, that's all that matters in life. . . Happiness.

Then plz tell us where she can buy this happiness when most of her juniors have get married finish and you are here telling her to be single and be happy and do you know that the Happiest of day of a woman is when she get married.