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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Skyfornia(m): 9:22am On Apr 08, 2020
Following... interesting

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 9:24am On Apr 08, 2020
After that experience on nairaland yes it was 9k that I got but the many ideas I was given and the encouragement to live on really pushed me to give life another chance.


I was crying while writing that epistle and putting it on nairaland and even having to comvince some guys to understand I was real and not a scammer was tough on it self but that night that depression left because of the calls and encouragement I got from nairaland and the next day I sold something at home and paid to learn how to fix CCTV camera instead of just been at home wallowing in self pity or doing jobs that was killing instead of bringing in money.


I began learning how to fix CCTV and by November because I took it so serious and with lot of determination to learn it i was done learning and someone told me to take my job to social media that I could get more clients and thanks to Joe Abah on Twitter he was so gracious enough to help me retweet my pinned tweet on my Twitter handle and I got lot of views that day and some potential clients, yes I haven't done a big job yet but there is now a reason to live and smile again and be a better man


January 1st my shola called me to wish me happy new year and I wished her as well and i asked about Samuel and she said he misses me and from her voice I could tell she wasn't feeling too fine because that wasn't her normal voice but I decided not to care again, how I wished I pushed to know what's was wrong with her


She told me she would like to see me for something inportant but I said we weren't gonna see until I get a car and make money again how foolish I was and she said no wahala and that she would always love me no matter what and I just waived it aside and moved on with life until the 25 of February i think when I got a call as early as 6am by her friend that knew we were dating and she asked me if I had heard, I asked her heard what and she said Shola is death.


I asked Esther if she was mad what kind of dirty joke is that and she swore it to me that it was true and immediately my heart sank again and those sleep in my.eyes vanished into thin air and I immediately dropped the call with Esther I called Shola's line and it was switched off, i went to her WhatsApp to chat hwr up but her last seen was January 8 and I called her Mom and the Mom confirmed it.


Oh goodness my heart was broken, I cried, I cried, i cried oh I cried that morning again. And i began to reminisce of how she helped me during those times I was still playing football, her laugh, our pictures together, those times we made love, those times we took our kids to the eatery together, those times we planned to get old together, those times she helped me press my hip with hot water, those times she would steal her mom's 1k or 2k to give to me to travel to play football, those times she was there when my mom died, those times i was sick and she would stay with me till I get better, those times she would fight anyone and everything for me and during this moment I didn't think about her hurting me again, I didn't think about her dumping me or cheating on me, I even blamed my self that if I hadn't rented that apartment she could still have been alive and while still mourning her a few days later her Mom called me and asked me those questions

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by coronavirus19: 9:34am On Apr 08, 2020
cheesy Very foolish boy
Veryfoolishboy:
cheesy THIS is a miracle. I say this is a miracle.
SOME BODY SHOUT HALEYLUJAAAAAAAA

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by konkonbilo(m): 9:36am On Apr 08, 2020
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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Angelacruz: 9:57am On Apr 08, 2020
Baba abeg no quote d guy again,if u wat to comment go to reply.Some f us were d use nokia x2 are not finding it funny
Rawhumper:











So sorry bro,ur Story Looks real but u know we dont know scammers from The real Thing.
I hv a beautiful Lady i met her last year she is with a five yr daughter both Are really fair and gorgeous.She told me the father of her daughter is already married but she didnt know about it till after her marriage.
But after Reading ur Story i am havin a change Of mind... i dnt give her much.She Loves me,tho am goodlooking (not really photogenic) dont sorry myself about women as i can get 16yr old gals to date me as well without giving them much at my age now.She once told me many men Are pestering her for marriage but for many months has stuck to me....the truth is i hv others but i love her More.When we walk even in darkness pple turn to look at her cos of her Beauty.I intend been serious with her but i Hope she wont come up with sumtin one day....
She doesnt demand,most times am d one begging her to collect what i hv for her.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:10am On Apr 08, 2020
When Shola's mom called me her first question was do i know who the father of Samuel is and I replied and said yes of course it's her grand daughters dad and she said to me I'm the real father of Samuel and that her late daughter reiterated it 2 days before she died guys I went crazy again.


Why me, why me, why me was the question I was asking my self. Why is all this thing's happening to me was the question that just kept repeating itself in my head.


I went to see my boy and the connection was instant ooo just carrying him again after 6 months send shivers down my spine and now I'm just waiting for his Grandma to tell the other guy that Samuel is mine.


I have already started sending my kid small small money again for his up keep Lol even tho not much because I don't even have much now but i would do everything within my power to give this Young kid the best of life that me and his late mother my queen his mother planned for him even when I never knew he was mine.


Wow I'm done. My hands ache. Just wanna say thank you to Seun Osewa for this beautiful forum, thank you to Joe Abah for retweeting that tweet even tho it hasn't yield devident yet but thanks and thank you to those beautiful souls that saved my life with that 9k I know you remember me and I say God bless you.


and to those on the verge of suicide I tell you that you can overcome and it's not the end of the world for you and Whatever you are passing through has an end ok and I need you to realize people somewhere is passing through the same or even harder situation than you. Don't give up, don't stop praying even tho I lost my faith a lil but don't lose yours because only the almighty can do all things.


To my young sister's reading this please be contented with what your man gives to you. The course of sholas death was so painful when I heard but please my dear sister dont date a Yahoo boy for any reason or even go out with one.


I tell you Yahoo doesn't work again and what they do now is Yahoo plus and some of this guy's are heartless and don't care about anyone than just to make that fetish money amd they would use you and any other girl they find to keep that money coming.


To my Young King's reading this don't have a girlfriend in your 20s please. Use that time to develop your self. Work hard to make yourself better as getting a girlfriend would really slow you dowm from attaining that top you want to go.

And last Please if you are too weak to move on or too tired to live again and you think suicide is your escape please speak out, yes some would laugh at you and call you names but speak out as there is that one person that would listen to you.



I LOVE YOU SHOLA AND REST IN PEACE

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by JustPerpetual(f): 10:16am On Apr 08, 2020
Thanks for sharing. Inspired me

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Usmanzy(m): 10:18am On Apr 08, 2020
God bless u for sharing

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Angelacruz: 10:21am On Apr 08, 2020
Abeg cum continue

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by prince2pac(m): 10:23am On Apr 08, 2020
It's never easy.... Sometimes you look back and wonder how you got where you are today...


We must overcome

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by sageb: 10:26am On Apr 08, 2020
Quite an interesting story. Even though you have to work and walk in the dark alone, don't give up. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Drince: 10:27am On Apr 08, 2020
Nice Rip shola. A lesson to one is a lesson to all. I learnt one or two things in your life story.. I pray each step i take works for me.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Kevsmart88(m): 10:28am On Apr 08, 2020
Lots of lessons to extract from this piece, enough of the threads on nairaland bashing women all the time. We need more of this to serve as life lessons to the younger generation. Seun if you're reading this, it's high time you put a stop on so many denigrating threads flooding nairaland about our women cos that's all we read on romance sections these days. Be strong fella, keep the hustle real and diversify, be present in that young hommies life cos that's the perfect gift she left you painful you didn't call back to hear her affirm the legitimacy herself. Finally when the time is right, find a woman that will give you the peace you seek and fill the void shola left....peace bro!

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by shamsin6300(m): 10:29am On Apr 08, 2020
[quote author=Tankunland post=88215811] When Shola's mom called me her first question was do i know who the father of Samuel is and I replied and said yes of course it's her grand daughters dad and she said to me I'm the real father of Samuel and that her late daughter reiterated it 2 days before she died guys I went crazy again.


I almost cry on this last part.
Even though I am just a student datx struggling to survive,,,,,,, I really regret nt helping u with the little I have back then. People tend to used social media to scam people which in turn affect those that are really in need.

Wish u the very best in life Sir.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Godsonjolly: 10:38am On Apr 08, 2020
Hmm.. Was a nice piece, touching, inspiring, awesome, great and wonderful. Thank God ur days of darkness are over and light has come... All is well that ends well.
@ OP, are you Ajayi

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by faithfull18(f): 10:39am On Apr 08, 2020
Touching.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Eberechi24(f): 10:42am On Apr 08, 2020
Aww, what a sad story. RIP shola.

Lefulefu, come and cry with me.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:44am On Apr 08, 2020
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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by madampresident(f): 10:45am On Apr 08, 2020
Wow!

Youngman, the lord is your strength.

Have you considered writing as a career, even if it's part time? You write so well.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:46am On Apr 08, 2020
Godsonjolly:
Hmm.. Was a nice piece, touching, inspiring, awesome, great and wonderful. Thank God ur days of darkness are over and light has come... All is well that ends well.
@ OP, are you Ajayi
nope you know I wanna keep my animosity right? But my name is close to ajayi but not ajayi

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:49am On Apr 08, 2020
JustPerpetual:
Thanks for sharing. Inspired me
you welcome my lady

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Anonime1105(m): 10:50am On Apr 08, 2020
Hmmmmmm!
Such a sad story!

ThankGod you came out Stronger!

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:52am On Apr 08, 2020
cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry cry

So touching...



But why would Shola hide Samuel's paternity from you while you were already taking care of him like a son? That doesn't make sense.

Anyways RIP to her.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by ThothHermes: 10:53am On Apr 08, 2020
Life is spiritual. It is what is on your head that determines what goes on around you.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by heniford2: 10:55am On Apr 08, 2020
Reading this stuff really made me have hope last year here i asked for help from pals cause i was going through hell could not feed nor do anything people said i was scam Buh someone here helped me by giving me 5k dat 5k saved me from killing myself even know I'm still struggling its hard Buh i want to thank that beautiful woman who transfered that money to me she never called me to check if i have gotten the money i swear within me that day to always help people in mad situation bros am proud of you once again thanks for sharing i can't help it i just shared tears know. lol

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by damtan(m): 10:56am On Apr 08, 2020
Eeehya. It's been long I felt emotional sad RIP to Shola

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by fredopareto(m): 11:00am On Apr 08, 2020
Rawhumper:
brotherly ..marriage is a black market..u can't predict..if it doesn't work for him. Doesn't mean it won't work for U.BT read dis story and prepared ur mind for any thing. Either good or bad..u won't b caught unaware.. One love bro










So sorry bro,ur Story Looks real but u know we dont know scammers from The real Thing.
I hv a beautiful Lady i met her last year she is with a five yr daughter both Are really fair and gorgeous.She told me the father of her daughter is already married but she didnt know about it till after her marriage.
But after Reading ur Story i am havin a change Of mind... i dnt give her much.She Loves me,tho am goodlooking (not really photogenic) dont sorry myself about women as i can get 16yr old gals to date me as well without giving them much at my age now.She once told me many men Are pestering her for marriage but for many months has stuck to me....the truth is i hv others but i love her More.When we walk even in darkness pple turn to look at her cos of her Beauty.I intend been serious with her but i Hope she wont come up with sumtin one day....
She doesnt demand,most times am d one begging her to collect what i hv for her.
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by seanwilliam(m): 11:00am On Apr 08, 2020
omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Godsonjolly: 11:02am On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
nope you know I wanna keep my animosity right? But my name is close to ajayi but not ajayi

I know u wanna keep ursef anonymous. But I think I know u. I'm not saying I know u in person or have seen u tho

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Elimon(m): 11:04am On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
Mom got me the job as an hotel attendant in January of 2017 after I stopped playing football due to a nasty hip injury I had some 4 months earlier ( I was a very good footballer as a youngster and when I finished my secondary school education in the year 2008 I decided to play football instead of going to a university. I Went to the national under 17 camp i won't mention the year and was dropped because I couldn't pay a bribe of 2M as I was amongst the final 35 player's. We would talk about my football career some other day).


And because of my hardworking nature my boss liked me very much and with an innovation I brought to the hotel I was made an assistant hotel manager in just 5 months in the job and With this new innovation the hotel made lot and lot of money and I made some cool cash as well. I made an average of 5k per day and at times 20k each weekend while my salary increased from 13k to 50k.


I started to make lot of money and got my own small one room apartment meanwhile all this while I had a girlfriend that had a lil daughter that I saw as mine. I loved my girlfriend so much and took care of her as well as spend a lot of money on her and her little girl because I loved her as she was there for me while playing football and because her daughters dad was none existent in their life.


Unfortunately my mom died November of that same year without enjoying my money as I would have wanted and I spend virtually all of my savings to bury her in my home state( we from the middle belt) and during this time of mourning my girlfriend was very dear to me, she would cook for me and my family that came to Lagos, she would go to market, wash my aunt's clothes and she was there as any good girl should be and that made me love her even more but I remember immediately I got back from the burial in January of 2018 she told me she took her daughter to go see her dad and spend some days with him and I asked her if anything happened between her and the guy and she said NO.


I was too emotional drained to press any further and i think by February of 2018 she told me she was pregnant and WOW was my reaction, I asked her who was responsible and she said me of course and I asked her what she wanted to do with the pregnancy and she said she wanted to get rid of it, I told her to keep it but she insisted of getting rid of it and sincerely I didn't press her much and I gave her 20k that same day and a few days later she told me it was done and I believed her but a month after she left her mom's to go stay with her grandma at iyana ipaja.


I would asked her when she was coming back home and she would reply she doesn't know. I would asked her can i come see her she would tell me NO and that she doesn't wanna see me and we continued this way till she called me one day probably around MAY of 2018 and told me she couldn't date me again as her baby daddy is now responsible and wants to take care of her and his daughter again.


I told her that at least let's see and discuss these face to face but she said we couldn't see me again. I asked her wasn't I treating her and her baby well she said I was, don't I love you both enough she said I do, don't I bang you well enough she said I do then what happened was my final question but she couldn't give me a satisfactory answer so right there I just ended the relationship and moved on with my life.


And my life was just work, church, work again. Around September of that year that I went to Facebook and saw my girlfriend and her baby daddy in a traditional yoruba naming ceremony setting. I was confused but she did the abortion na I wondered so who has this child that shola carried I asked my self, so I messaged her on Facebook and asked her what's happening and she told me she has something to say to me.
Most painful part of the whole story

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Godsonjolly: 11:05am On Apr 08, 2020
seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry embarassed.. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland

You very correct. Esp number 1 and 2. Most people fail to realise the concept of doing the right thing at the wrong time. His story just changed my mindset. I'm happy for him cos he was given a second chance to learn and become more sensible.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Anonime1105(m): 11:05am On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:




and to those on the verge of suicide I tell you that you can overcome and it's not the end of the world for you and Whatever you are passing through has an end ok and I need you to realize people somewhere is passing through the same or even harder situation than you. Don't give up, don't stop praying even tho I lost my faith a lil but don't lose yours because only the almighty can do all things.

Suicide is never an option!



To my young sister's reading this please be contented with what your man gives to you. The course of sholas death was so painful when I heard but please my dear sister dont date a Yahoo boy for any reason or even go out with one.

I tell you Yahoo doesn't work again and what they do now is Yahoo plus and some of this guy's are heartless and don't care about anyone than just to make that fetish money amd they would use you and any other girl they find to keep that money coming.

Some would never listen



To my Young King's reading this don't have a girlfriend in your 20s please. Use that time to develop your self. Work hard to make yourself better as getting a girlfriend would really slow you dowm from attaining that top you want to go.

Thanks for this!


And last Please if you are too weak to move on or too tired to live again and you think suicide is your escape please speak out, yes some would laugh at you and call you names but speak out as there is that one person that would listen to you.


Most people would be quick to judge even before understanding the condition of the person being judged, alot of Nlanders are evil, they woulake you hate the decision but you got to speak up regardless! lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed


I LOVE YOU SHOLA AND REST IN PEACE


Amen

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