Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

pls be honest to him, but in case my genotype is AA so we can marry if ur interested just contact me

Chi59:


Thanks. Pardon my curiousity.
Why did she feel that you were risking your lives?

he must have been AS while the girl is SS which ultimately put them into trouble of having SS kid as well

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Lying shouldn't be an option... What if he finds out later on.. Be truthful.. Honesty pays.. And I pray that you will find someone that would love you truly regardless...

Chi59:


The truth has robbed me of 4 good guys. How many more will I lose to the truth?

Those 4 guys you lost weren't for you in the first place... A lie might rob you off the good guy...

Tela101:
Don't even think of lying, because your partner won't forgive you when he finds out.

It happened to my mum. My dad was SS and my mum didn't know, luckily for us she is AA.

Although my mum didn't leave when she found out, they were always quarrelling because of it.

I think she didn't leave because, they already had the three of us.

Hmm

Chi59:


You need a brain check

He was being truthful albeit rude and too blunt.

Nimmadiji:



Simmer down no one is fighting you.

You're contradicting yourself, you titled this thread "should I lie to him" meaning you're considering it.

I simply asked whether you would be okay if he failed to tell you his situation if you were in his shoes. Take this example: you marry a man, you later find out he may not be able to impregnate you. How would you handle that?

And the lool was for the unnecessary self promotion. I wasn't making fun of your situation. I'm sorry.

Another thing to consider is the financial implications. The husband has to very rich because falling occasionally sick could gulp millions.

goodman41:
pls be honest to him, but in case my genotype is AA so we can marry if ur interested just contact me

Just like that?

Yahoo boys won't cease to amaze me.

deltateam:


Just like that?

Yahoo boys won't cease to amaze me.

Lol. Yahoo boys how?

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

I personally don't see any problem With sickle cell. It's better you say the truth, you would find someone who loves you just like that

omobamatrix:
If you are a man, will you marry a ss? It is fate that you may need to draw closer to already married man. Could be easier to be a wife2. My one cent!

I hate normal women but like broken ones, I would have the perfect tragic love story. Like Shakespeare

Lightangel65:


I personally don't see any problem With sickle cell. It's better you say the truth, you would find someone who loves you just like that

Reread the post

donstan18:

Madam! Your low self esteem is disturbing. Stop boasting and advertising yourself. You are this and that, yet men keep running away from you!

Do you think a man in his right sense will get married or comfortably date a sickle cell?

Kindly tell that man you are loving, so that you don't end up ruining his future, life and family with your deceitful plans.

You need to repair your brain!!!!

Are they not people.. Did they choose the genotype

Phooooo

Chi59:


No. So far, I haven't let anyone into my "holy of holies"

This may be the reason why they are disappearing, not the HbSS.

annford:

You're not being curious at all. well, she was always digging up stuffs online.....got misled and all. I'm AA while she's SS. we went to 3 different hospitals for tests and I always came out AA. she felt something might happen and then, boom! we'd have kids with SS. Stuffs like that don't bother me as long as the one I love is truly happy.

I really wish both of you are dating now... you're a Star Bro.
Wish you well

Please never lie about your genotype. Just continue praying, God will bring your own man your way.
I have a family friend who is a SS too and she's happily married with two children now.

Keep holding on to God.

Ecne:


I really wish both of you are dating now... you're a Star Bro.
Wish you well

Bro, it didn't work between us as she was defiant. I begged but she wouldn't give in so I had to let go. I'm happily married to the love of my life and so blessed to have her in my life.

Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

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Chi59:
I haven't been fortunate with guys.
My first attempt at a relationship failed woefully.
And so did the second, third and fourth.
It isnt entirely without a reason though.
I'm SS. I have been a Sickle cell advocate for many years. I don't shy away from talking about it on any level.

Apart from that fact, I'm beautiful, smart, funny, very lovely, outgoing (even as an ambivert). I poses a healthy level of empathy, self esteem and confidence.

Physically I'm tall, slim, moderately endowed. I have been told that I look healthier than some "healthy" people.
So I don't know, what am I lacking?
All the guys I've been in love with, for one flimsy reason or the other just disappear for no reason. Just like that.

Of course, I don't hide my genotype status, but then they seem cool with it. Months later, he disappears and leaves me heartbroken.

Now I find myself liking someone again (the fifth guy). We haven't gotten that close but I'm scared. Should I lie to him? What do I tell him?

Don't ever lie. It would hurt your self-esteem in the long run.
The other guys who disappeared out of your life were not dit for you. Nothing to do with your SS status trust me.
Don't you have friends who are not SS? Ask them who many times they have lost boyfriends. You would be surprised.

Hmmm

Chi59:

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annford:




Bro, it didn't work between us as she was defiant. I begged but she wouldn't give in so I had to let go. I'm happily married to the love of my life and so blessed to have her in my life.

Congratulations.
I'm guessing you finally went back to your ex.

Chi59:

Congratulations.
I'm guessing you finally went back to your ex.

Nope. God gave me the woman for me. That was after you blocked me and deleted my number and would neither take my calls nor return them.

annford:





Nope. God gave me the woman for me. That was after you blocked me and deleted my number and would neither take my calls nor return them.

Right after I refused to "fight for love" as you expected me to
I remember calling you days later. You were still revolving around your ex, and I simply took it that you weren't serious. I wish you well.
BTW, has your project kicked off?

My sister if u must marry, ahbeg marry AA. Dont worry i promise u this year,u will find love.Ijn.

25tolife:
My sister if u must marry, ahbeg marry AA.
Dont worry i promise u this year,u will find love.Ijn.

Smiles. Thanks for your kind wishes.

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Right after I refused to "fight for love" as you expected me to
I remember calling you days later. You were still revolving around your ex, and I simply took it that you weren't serious. I wish you well.
BTW, has your project kicked off? [/quote



You were the one acting up. I tried reaching you to explain things to you but you suddenly made me an enemy. You blocked me on Facebook, unfriended me on Facebook, blocked me on WhatsApp and just built barricades around yourself. I was sincere with you and told you everything. About the Project, we are done with it. It was to be launched on the 6th of April but for the Lockdown thing. My concern right now is how it will all pan out because the Economy of the Country is in total jeopardy. I wish I knew what to do.

[quote author=annford post=88454587][/quote]
Your actions made me lose interest in you... fast. So I walked away before it got messy. Nevertheless, I'm glad everything turned out the way it is.
Yeah, about the project. That's a good one.

sowilli:
the truth can’t rob you of true love. The truth is preparing you for a better one. Nothing can stand against the truth. Truth is Truth. Whoever leaves you because you stand for the truth will not last if you lie to them either. I tell you from experience any decision and relationship based on lies CAN NEVER last.

Fact!!!

annford:
You were the one acting up. I tried reaching you to explain things to you but you suddenly made me an enemy. You blocked me on Facebook, unfriended me on Facebook, blocked me on WhatsApp and just built barricades around yourself. I was sincere with you and told you everything. About the Project, we are done with it. It was to be launched on the 6th of April but for the Lockdown thing. My concern right now is how it will all pan out because the Economy of the Country is in total jeopardy. I wish I knew what to do.

It's very obvious the bitchh has attitudinal problems, that's why she can't land a man who'd stick with her long enough to marry her.

Her bitchiness is what is driving men away from her. And for as long as she continues in that vein, she'll remain single. Her eyes go clear when she realizes she's destined to remain a spinster all her life due to her arrogance and conceit.

Can you imagine, unfriending you on facebook, blocked you on WhatsApp? She'll soon realize that she's doing herself when she go reach menopause and no man to call her husband.

I detest prideful ladies that have nothing to offer especially this particular one that is a sickler that will put a lot of unnecessary burden on the husband, but instead of being humble so that she might get someone that might consider her plight and marry her, she's putting up some nasty, nauseating attitude. Tufiakwa!

Chi59:


The truth has robbed me of 4 good guys. How many more will I lose to the truth?

Hi, I just saw your post and decided to type something. How is your relationship with the fifth guy? Did you tell him?

I want to suggest that you try hanging out with doctors. They are more likely to accept the health ish because they understand how it works.

Most guys are scared chickens, especially when they do not understand something. Since you're outgoing, you won't have a problem.

Above all, just pray and trust God blindly. He will perfect everything in your life at the right time.

Nooil:



Hi, I just saw your post and decided to type something. How is your relationship with the fifth guy? Did you tell him?

I want to suggest that you try hanging out with doctors. They are more likely to accept the health ish because they understand how it works.

Most guys are scared chickens, especially when they do not understand something. Since you're outgoing, you won't have a problem.

Above all, just pray and trust God blindly. He will perfect everything in your life at the right time.

I didn't attempt it. I'm building myself now. Thanks for asking.