oyatz:
My brother, don't divorce your wife.




Everybody engage in this kind of chatting with Ex-partners ,some even wishing they had done things differently and marry each other. Virtually every married man/woman have nursed such ideas in their hearts.

Your wife just happened to expressed it through chatting and unlucky enough to be caught.

Seat her down, show her the 'screened shots' evidence of the chatting and tell her not to repeat such things. Then start being more loving, caring with lots of fucking.

False assumption. Not everybody continues romantic chats with their exes after marriage. I deleted the numbers of my exes and even changed numbers after I married. I had an ex who refused to let go. She even found my new number and started calling. I started blocking all numbers I suspected it was her, and stopped picking unknown numbers. It was after about 2 years into my marriage that she stopped all the rubbish.

If you don't want to eat meat, don't put it under your nose or tongue.

A married man or woman has no business constantly chatting on the phone, unless it is actually business. What will they be chatting about?

And why do you think the responsibility of being more loving, caring and fucking rests solely with the husband, in addition with proving for the material and emotional needs of the family

blovesther:
that is the defense men are putting up. in order not to take care of another man's child from a cheating wife....is it not better he doesn't know because what you don't Know will not kill you than what the men do to women by bringing another child in from their mistress? my brother what goes around comes around

which man brings another woman's child to his wife? Which woman will even allow a man to take away her child and give it to another woman while she's still alive? Women that even torture motherless children are whom a man will bring another child to? Even if the bastard will come, it will be when he is fully grown and the step mother will normally treat the child with resentment. She will never spend her children's resources on the bastard so the bastard doesn't even affect the woman at all apart from her crushed ego of knowing she doesn't have the best pussy in the world.
Are you serious? You will want your brother to spend all his life working to take care of a child that is not his because what you don't know won't kill you?

grossintel:
You want to call of a marriage of 2 years over a chat with no prove she's actually cheating for real. Let's be rational here, what she's doing is wrong but could also be as a result of emotional distress. It could be that your marriage larks romance and affection and you should talk with her over this.
PS Nairaland romance section is filled with jambites, many of them are still under 16 and calling your wife a LovePeddler, SMH.

. Let's be rational here, what she's doing is wrong but could also be as a result of emotional distress.


Stop sugarcoating a distasteful act.. Their is absolute no excuse to what she did.. So if a man loses his job and gets depressed.. Should he cheat?

ghettochild:

Correct advice,. First off shes not cheating... The OP didn't tell us if she replied him with randy words... This period so many people are hooking up via chat.... Its normal for a man to msg a woman whether married or not n express his interest even if they ain't aquintances... Its the woman that will decide to fend of the advances or not... Whether she sees it as a big deal or just something normal..
As long as he dint see any traces of them sharing nude pix..
His wife isn't cheating.. That bros need to buy small sense

Its normal for a man to msg a woman whether married or not n express his interest even if they ain't aquintances.

Who made that normal?.. I don't chat married women nor call them even we were friends before

olabrinks:
You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, you’re suicidal or something very significant has happened, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

Wo gbenu sohun joor.....shoro leleyi so lenu bayi.

Abeg go and cook, if hunger dey wire you.

jesmond3945:
you would only act when she is about to practicalize. As for now just keep her under watch.

you would only act when she is about to practicalized....

How will he know when they will practicalize it?.. Na winch... Prevention is better than cure

Although I pray that their marriage solidify and not crumble, however she shouldn't be deceived that the cheating guy will marry her if her husband divorce her.

He will only fvck her for 3-6 months and get bored and there after other men will start fvcking the hell out of her like tommorow no dey.

She will miss the present financial roles being played by her husband. She will most likely need other men to play that roles and trust men...they won't do it for free.


It's difficult for most of the young eligible bachelors to legally marry a single mother who was divorced by her former husband on account of adultery. There are so many younger ladies out there looking for guys to marry them.


Divorce more often than not put the women in disadvantaged positions.

grossintel:
I didn't say it was he's duity alone, you don't just quit your marriage over a chat, when you clam down and think about it, it won't make any sense. That guy could be someone who liked her and didn't make any move because of financial difficulty. She might just be using him to kill boredom with no real intentions to ever meet him. I have a lot of them on my phone but I know it's never going to happen. If he chooses to quit the marriage over this please he should do so she can marry the guy who has her time, everything is not about money. If he wants to work it out and fix those loope holes in he's marriage it's still he's choice.

mignone:

What a reasoning! All I hear these days jst keeps proving that ppl do not understand d magnitude of marriage vows. Take it or leave it, none is less weightier- infidelity committed by a man/woman. Only our society makes it appear so.

Marriage today is overrated...

oyatz:
My brother, don't divorce your wife.




Everybody engage in this kind of chatting with Ex-partners ,some even wishing they had done things differently and marry each other. Virtually every married man/woman have nursed such ideas in their hearts.

Your wife just happened to expressed it through chatting and unlucky enough to be caught.

Seat her down, show her the 'screened shots' evidence of the chatting and tell her not to repeat such things. Then start being more loving, caring with lots of fucking.

Everybody engage in this kind of chatting with Ex-partners ,some even wishing they had done things differently and marry each other.


You and who?... An ex is an ex.. Gone..... When she now becomes married... They are deleted.... I don't diss out what I don't take

daewoorazer:


Did you read the part where he said his supposed bride answers to sweet names?

History555
Don’t be a simp.
Seperate with that mf ASAP. I’m telling you this because these women nowadays bring BASTVRDS home. I’m saving you DNA costs bro. Also STD/HIV lab costs and treatment too.

While you’re separated, find another girl and then divorce her


be a man and stop disgracing the dangling balls between ur thighs

You hit the nail in the head bro because that woman will not stop until she achieved her aim by sleeping with that dude....

mignone:

I hope u'll still be able to hold ur head high at 65/70 yrs, considering what u uphold now.

Of course I will if I live that long in good health.

ehmmy11:


It's clear u didn't investigate well during courtship you should have dodge this bullet. Alot of girls marry who is ready and not who they truly love.

Nice one, nah so one babe wan use marriage tie me down after she don test run d°cks finish awon omo ale jati jati...

babyfaceafrica:


. Let's be rational here, what she's doing is wrong but could also be as a result of emotional distress.


Stop sugarcoating a distasteful act.. Their is absolute no excuse to what she did.. So if a man loses his job and gets depressed.. Should he cheat?

That's not cheating bro, at least not yet. And then again it's marriage we're talking about here, not some 3 months old relationship leading no where, they made their vows to stand by each other, he should discuss with her and find out what's lacking in their marriage.

grossintel:
That's not cheating bro, at least not yet. And then again it's marriage we're talking about here, not some 3 months old relationship leading no where, they made their vows to stand by each other, he should discuss with her and find out what's lacking in their marriage.

That's not cheating bro, at least not yet.


My people will say... Na from clap dance dey start

blovesther:
lolzzz because this is what they would have advised if it were the other way round

If you as a human being can't give a sound advice just because of other people way of talking shit, then you are no different from the miscreants and you are a slave to every miscreant.

OP do what you feel is best for you.

Martinez39s:
GreatResearcher1, you need to read this topic, and see the kind of advice simps and women are giving the op.

Abeg make we leave them. Dey no dey tell person, after 20years in the marriage and he discovers that all his supposed children from his wife are not his but from the dude she was chatting up, by then he would have sense. Let him continue to listen to simps and women, let them push him to his doom, it's his life.

ghettochild:

Correct advice,. First off shes not cheating... The OP didn't tell us if she replied him with randy words... This period so many people are hooking up via chat.... Its normal for a man to msg a woman whether married or not n express his interest even if they ain't aquintances... Its the woman that will decide to fend of the advances or not... Whether she sees it as a big deal or just something normal..
As long as he dint see any traces of them sharing nude pix..
His wife isn't cheating.. That bros need to buy small sense

oga what are saying must u see nude pictures before person go know say something is wrong somewhere. Chatting with a married woman is not wrong but what are they chatting about in the morning and at night? How to stop the spread of covid-19 I guess.

Dammylois:
If it were a woman a larger percentage of you guys here would have advised that she 'fight' for her marriage. Men obviously can't take 1/10th of what they steadily dish out

You're right and all agree with your first statement in general. I really do see cheating irrespective of wife or husband as the same though: A Betrayal.

But the logical me would probably tend to be more cautious and advise a woman be more patient as they can be because a man more often than not, comes out of marriage unscathed compared to a woman in this SOCIETY.

I personally wouldn't advised the man to dissolve his marriage because of his wife's flirting in the context of the picture he has painted on the situation. But that's not because I want him to 'fight' for his marriage.

Besides, what do people really mean when they say "fight" for your him or her. "Fight for your marriage?" What?

I really don't want to have to "fight" for anyone. Because honestly, you'd always lose.

Marriage should mean commitment to and acceptance of every qualities your spouse possesses. Hence, you STOP LOOKING FOR A BETTER ALTERNATIVE OUTSIDE OF YOUR SPOUSE AND MARRIAGE. If your look, you'll surely find.

There's always a richer man, a more beautiful woman, a kinder man, a more intelligent woman, a more romantic man, a better cook.

In essence, there's always someone who is better at something compared with your spouses.
BUT REAL MEN AND WOMEN STOP LOOKING FOR THAT PERSON AFTER MARRIAGE. THEY JUST STOP.

So OP, tell your wife to stop looking for what she already found; YOU.

It shows the guy
Was her bf
And she loves him
But she could not wait for him to make money before she married you...
That is capable of fucking your wife...
Its either you stop her
Or
Wait for you to have strong sexual evidence
because they would eventually Bleep.

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

Marriage is not a bed of roses. Have you never called any other women besides your wife words of endearment ? Imagine you want to divorce over a conversation. Marriage will be hit by big issues. Confront her and forgive. Pay her attention. When women start to look elsewhere for affection you aren’t doing something right

blovesther:
she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

Sorry... Biggest lie, its hard for a chart to change

ghettochild:

Correct advice,. First off shes not cheating... The OP didn't tell us if she replied him with randy words... This period so many people are hooking up via chat.... Its normal for a man to msg a woman whether married or not n express his interest even if they ain't aquintances... Its the woman that will decide to fend of the advances or not... Whether she sees it as a big deal or just something normal..
As long as he dint see any traces of them sharing nude pix..
His wife isn't cheating.. That bros need to buy small sense

Useless talk. Spits!!

LedRock:
Abeg make we leave them. Dey no dey tell person, after 20years in the marriage and he discovers that all his supposed children from his wife are not his but from the dude she was chatting up, by then he would have sense. Let him continue to listen to simps and women, let them push him to his doom, it's his life.

emmaodet:


And when has losing a woman to another man been unfortunate?
Abi na even best thing to happen to a man.
A cheating wife runs away from her hubby to an Ex or side bobo and you call the hubby unfortunate?
Instead of him to go to church for Thanksgiving.
So you actually think feeding, housing, clothing etc a woman in marriage is to the man advantage? That the woman is doing the man a favour for doing that? I think you overestimate you women's value in marriage.
Let the side bobo carry the liability for 2 months now weda him eye no go clear and gets tired of an Unproductive Liability that has all the time in the world to look for what to do to support the home rather using such precious time to hook up and chat with a side bobo.
I blame guys a lot. If we say make men no marry now so that the Unfortunate woman will be on the street now running up and down on how to survive and pay her bills, they will say we are crazy.
If the job of the man is to make sure another man doesn't get my woman, then pls tell what is the work of the woman too?
A consumer? Financial drainage? Liability? Sex object? Unproductive, unrepentant serial cheating liability?
Spits*

You are dropping sense left, right, and centre on this thread.

SweetCunt97:
What gave you d idea that her heart is in the convo. She may simply be catching cruise with d chats and nothing therein.

Is this how people easily dump their marriages these days? Nawaoo

Ah!

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

Is not a must to comment or give give advice on some issues.

jumpampass:

Useless talk. Spits!!

...

Extremely useless... That guy comment tire me.

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

What Op did not tell us is that:
1. He use to abuse his wife
2. He also cheats on her
3. He no sabi Bleep
4. He doesn’t take care of his wife
5. The wife always feel used and lonely
6. He doesn’t respect his wife
7. He doesn’t help to take care of their baby
8. He’s always away
9. He doesn’t allow his wife to go out
10. He beats his wife

Now the wife had to resort to finding solace from anyone willing to give it to her.

This does not justify the wife’s cheating but there’s always cause and effect.

I assumed the above because Op did not provide complete info about everything.

Kokoboss:
People are funny.. Someone said pray for her. Imagine. Can prayer do this? This kind trash doesn't need any stupid prayers... I can't take this man.

same bro. A cheating Fiancée or wife must be sent packing

You claimed to be married yet she password her phone, for what reason exactly? I don't just understand marriage these days...

I'll advice you to give her a second chance but with fierce warning, something she'll never forget in a hurry. If not she'll find another way to chat with the guy again and this time, he'll bang her. A word is enough for the wise

sylvez:


What Op did not tell us is that:
1. He use to abuse his wife
2. He also cheats on her
3. He no sabi Bleep
4. He doesn’t take care of his wife
5. The wife always feel used and lonely
6. He doesn’t respect his wife
7. He doesn’t help to take care of their baby
8. He’s always away
9. He doesn’t allow his wife to go out
10. He beats his wife

Now the wife had to resort to finding solace from anyone willing to give it to her.

This does not justify the wife’s cheating but there’s always cause and effect.

I assumed the above because Op did not provide complete info about everything.

Do you know the Op in person?