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Eulalia:
What about those who got married at the age of 18 and up till now @ 50, have not conceived even for once? Some never had till they died.

Stop viewing life from only one angle. This life is kinda twisted and doesn't always work they way we think it does. So, stop basing certain things as the ultimate in life. Some married early and were wiped off the surface of the earth in one day. So, its not enough reason to "marriageshame" anybody.
Once you're alive and in good health, thank God and try to give yourself peace and be happy until He makes everything beautiful. Its not always as bad as people make it seem.

Wayne4uall:
I understand u but I want u to understand this.. Stop looking at life from a negative side... Are u trying to tell me that because ppl do have plane crash you won't travel to Europe if you have the opportunity.... You have to look at life from a positive direction.. Stop thinking about people that got married and die the next year or ppl that got married at the age of 18 and waited till 35 years before having a child... Let me tell u this only ppl that are fed up in getting a partner says marriage is not the ultimate thing in this life.. Marriage is sweet when you married the love of your life.. You cant be alone for ever you will need someone to fill the space in your heart.. God that created eve to support adam knows what he was doing...

What eva u do in this life.. Be positive

BotafogoJunior:
leaave that idiot,you should have known he is a primary school leaver. You should have known from his previous,tell him to answer your questions he no go fit,na weyrey him be!!

BotafogoJunior:
lil peezy,you are a plain idiot,weyrey na him you be

Millz404:
30 over 30 spotted?

faith2kool:
In your late 20s, everyone starts getting concerned about your marital status. Your aunts, parents, older siblings, friends and even frenemies. Once you hit 30 and are still single, more pressure builds up. Ladies especially are subjects to this pressure more than guys.

Guess what, when these ladies appreciate that you mean well for them and you want them to get settled, sometimes it’s too much and wishes that you would just let them be. Check out these things that single ladies in their 30s are tired of hearing:

1. The clock is ticking

She knows this already but probably, she is yet to meet her match. So, you don’t have to rub it in.

2. You should just get a kid

First, not everyone wants kids. Secondly, maybe she has been trying to get a kid because she also knows that the clock is ticking but the efforts haven’t born any fruits, yet.

3. All your agemates are married

Really? This is the last thing you should tell a single girl in her 30s. She knows that her agemates are married but she can’t just marry a random guy because she wants to be like her peers.

4. It’s time you find yourself a man

Well, maybe it’s not yet time for her. You don’t know what her priorities are. Just let her be.


5. What are you still waiting for?

People wait for many things. She could be waiting to be financially stable or she could be waiting for a Mr Right. Because sometimes it’s not always easy to land on a man who matches your standards.

6. I know of a good guy who is still single

Unless she has requested to be set up with a guy, don’t try to hook her up with your male friends.

7. People will be thinking you are your kids’ granny

This is just mean.

8. You should join tinder, there are good guys there

By the time she is 30, she undoubtedly tried or considered trying online dating but for some reasons, she chose another route.

9. How are you still single?

People will be like, ‘you are so beautiful, how come you are still single?’ But beauty is not all that matters

10. Maybe you are just too picky

No, it’s not about being picky. Sometimes Mr Luck is not on your side and you end up kissing a little more too many frogs.

Source: https://tigblog.com.ng/2020/04/26/10-things-single-ladies-in-their-30s-are-tired-of-hearing/

bluefilm:
Eyaaa.

I don't such 30+ ladies such things.

I am not that wicked and heartless.

I only tell them that Shiloh is waiting for them.

faith2kool:
In your late 20s, everyone starts getting concerned about your marital status. Your aunts, parents, older siblings, friends and even frenemies. Once you hit 30 and are still single, more pressure builds up. Ladies especially are subjects to this pressure more than guys.

Guess what, when these ladies appreciate that you mean well for them and you want them to get settled, sometimes it’s too much and wishes that you would just let them be. Check out these things that single ladies in their 30s are tired of hearing:

1. The clock is ticking

She knows this already but probably, she is yet to meet her match. So, you don’t have to rub it in.

2. You should just get a kid

First, not everyone wants kids. Secondly, maybe she has been trying to get a kid because she also knows that the clock is ticking but the efforts haven’t born any fruits, yet.

3. All your agemates are married

Really? This is the last thing you should tell a single girl in her 30s. She knows that her agemates are married but she can’t just marry a random guy because she wants to be like her peers.

4. It’s time you find yourself a man

Well, maybe it’s not yet time for her. You don’t know what her priorities are. Just let her be.


5. What are you still waiting for?

People wait for many things. She could be waiting to be financially stable or she could be waiting for a Mr Right. Because sometimes it’s not always easy to land on a man who matches your standards.

6. I know of a good guy who is still single

Unless she has requested to be set up with a guy, don’t try to hook her up with your male friends.

7. People will be thinking you are your kids’ granny

This is just mean.

8. You should join tinder, there are good guys there

By the time she is 30, she undoubtedly tried or considered trying online dating but for some reasons, she chose another route.

9. How are you still single?

People will be like, ‘you are so beautiful, how come you are still single?’ But beauty is not all that matters

10. Maybe you are just too picky

No, it’s not about being picky. Sometimes Mr Luck is not on your side and you end up kissing a little more too many frogs.

Source: https://tigblog.com.ng/2020/04/26/10-things-single-ladies-in-their-30s-are-tired-of-hearing/

OneChanceTaxi:
Keep living in fantasy land

zionmde:
After extorting and dumping good guys Wen they were younger. After all d "u are not my match""u are not my type" "u can't takdme care of me" " I don't do broke guys" "I don't do guys dat don't drive cars"
Karma is a big bitch

by God's grace Shiloh will hold this year
they should get their mantles ready

SirMichael1:
Oga, a lady telling someone you're not my match isn't a big deal. It's more like setting standards. You guys bothering over ladies that don't give a damn about you should stop. You can't expect me to lower my standard because I'm getting old.

For instance, I dislike chubby girls, don't expect me to go for any because I want to get married in haste. Something that would last a lifetime??! I can't please.

zionmde:
ok and u don't know dat most times u are not my match is financially
a lot of ladies today will gladly want to get married to guys they once told "u are not my match".

anyway let dem continue, they will soon see their match in Shiloh

Karleb:
The same way people who can't make money will say 'All is vanity".


Take it or leave, finding a partner is one essential part of our existence.

Eulalia:
The men also feel the heat too as they clock 30 and right into their mid 30s.

I remember a guy once telling me, "Chi, I am ashamed. I hardly go out these days" for fear of being reminded of his martial status. And the worst thing about men is, when they get to that age, they find it difficult to marry their hearts wish. You know a woman in her 30s can still take care of herself and look under 16 and a young boy will see her and marry her. But once a man gets to certain age theyll be looking so old and hard, if you know what I mean. And this can be a turn off for most girls
/ ladies. Dunno why it is so though.

Back to the matter. Only a lady who lacks focus and understanding will be perturbed by such questions. A 50yrs old man can still get marry to a 25yrs old girl but it can't be possible if its a woman

bukatyne:
Funny thread.

Truth is that most people (male & female) who are at married at a age range they set for themselves begin to pressure themselves first.

I see ladies nearing 30 and above always willing to meet the next guy or get a husband to marry and we celebrate them when they do. We even pray for some ladies doing well that is why I laugh when I read some posts on NL aka fantasy land.

The men are not left out and i know how many guys peeps try to match make or some whose new toasting line is 'I want to marry' and they are 100% serious.

I know someone who dated his wife online for a few months before marriage.

God help those who are looking for partners.

LilPeezy:
Are u insulting me to get her attention or what? Cos I can't remember quoting u bro... so why the insult?

Eulalia:
You think it applies only to ladies? Even men face the same questions. So, it goes both ways.

OneChanceTaxi:
Keep living in fantasy land

Eulalia:
The men also feel the heat too as they clock 30 and right into their mid 30s.

I remember a guy once telling me, "Chi, I am ashamed. I hardly go out these days" for fear of being reminded of his martial status. And the worst thing about men is, when they get to that age, they find it difficult to marry their hearts wish. You know a woman in her 30s can still take care of herself and look under 16 and a young boy will see her and marry her. But once a man gets to certain age theyll be looking so old and hard, if you know what I mean. And this can be a turn off for most girls
/ ladies. Dunno why it is so though.

Back to the matter. Only a lady who lacks focus and understanding will be perturbed by such questions.

Greatzeus:
Stop shaming single ladies who are 30 plus. Remember what goes around comes around. It might be your daughter or sister's turn tomorrow.
Not all ladies who are 30 plus neglected men who could have been their husbands as you guys always claim,not all of them were run girls who wasted their 20s. Some were just unlucky to have been used and dumped,some focused on career and self development which might have affected their relationship status,some were just plain unlucky not to find a husband at the right age.

SirMichael1:
You're missing the point. If you're not her match financially, then let her be. It's her life, you can't force someone to love you when you're not her match. If to meet her match will take 30 years, then let her look for her match. Don't force anyone to get married or ridicule them for not getting married. It's a lifetime commitment and you have to be happy in it.

kalufelix:
Most at their prime, do usually forget that new models are been rolled out...And then before you are done with your make up you realize the phase is gone...sadly, people begin to assume there must be something inherently wrong with you not to have gotten married ... On a more serious note this 30+ ladies thread has become annoying.. I know many men who started considering marriage @40 and married @42/43 ....No be everybody go marry abeg and there is no age limit...

southniyikaye:
those words got me too.
Men become handsome as they age, women becomes sun wrinkled newspaper as they age

Wayne4uall:
Forget about men in their 30s.. Most men in their 30s don't have the dream of getting married any time soon..... I am in my early 30s been the last born my mom as never for once asked me who is my gf.,Even wen u was still under her roof...she is not putting pressure on me because I am a male and I still hav time, I am planning to introduce my gf to her anytime from now but I don't tink my gf is ready to settle down she is in her early 20s....
To my own point of view forget about been 30 or 40 years of age, most of the problems is lack of money.. No one wan make him wife or children suffer and good thing

May God bless all the guys out there so that they can take care good of their family when the time comes.. Amen

seanwilliam:
wrong!.. a lady close to 40 who is yet to marry go know say e no funny .. limit dey bro

..

A man can marry at anytime provided he has MONEY


Not all women can marry at anytime even if they have money.... they would just be turned to sugar mummy/cougar..

Highest age for any lady anywhere should not be more than 35.. no matter how beautiful you are at that age, there is 98% probability that you would not marry your choice..

A man of 70 would still marry his choice and father a baby

Eulalia:
The men also feel the heat too as they clock 30 and right into their mid 30s.

I remember a guy once telling me, "Chi, I am ashamed. I hardly go out these days" for fear of being reminded of his martial status. And the worst thing about men is, when they get to that age, they find it difficult to marry their hearts wish. You know a woman in her 30s can still take care of herself and look under 16 and a young boy will see her and marry her. But once a man gets to certain age theyll be looking so old and hard, if you know what I mean. And this can be a turn off for most girls
/ ladies. Dunno why it is so though.

Back to the matter. Only a lady who lacks focus and understanding will be perturbed by such questions.

IAMBlesssed:
Lies from the pit of hell.I personally known two ladies in their forties that got married this year. You guys are not God..
Anyways there re lots of kids on NL..

seanwilliam:
that is a case of 2 out of 100.. this one no be lots of kids matter.. if you know you are too old to be here, find thread that is in sync with ur age