They don't deserve you....Life goes on

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

NYSC brought them together of course, and that is why I want HND NYSC to be different from that of DEGREE.

Op put yourself in her father's shoes, you train a girl, you give her the best form of Education you can afford in the Country, Now she is of marriageable age she brings someone that is way less qualified and Educated.

To be honest with you, what kinda of Jobs will people with OND/HND get in Nigeria, only a handful of them get good paying Jobs, the discrimination is systemic , and most of them end up with low paying and contract Jobs. You clearly do not fall into her social class and you didnt even attend one of the best Polytechnics in Nigeria.

My advice forget love now, go and work on yourself, improve your skills,Education, Get a good Job, make money. Girls will come and you will be proud of yourself....

Now you can easily be taken for a Gold digger.

stuffs4me:


You failed to make it to university and it automatically became glorified.

Keep deceiving yourself because I know it still pains you that you were not smart nor intelligent enough to make it to the university.

See mumu, with your university and all the bsc all of over Nigeria how many jobs have you got? And what technical skills you got ? Just theory with no applied.... lol it’s obvious you are one of the local morons that beat there chest of being a useless university graduate with nothing to show for , u better go and learn a skill , a polytechnic graduates who studied quantity survey would feed you and your family without stress, if you like graduate from one of the glorified university in Nigeria , when you travel out of Nigeria to get a the same yeye degree u got u yuh still gonna start from scratch..and by then you would remember I said it’s all glorified . get some exposure bruv

ENIGMATIC2023:
They don't deserve you....Life goes on

Nahh; the guy don’t deserve them!!!
Why can’t he up his game

Frezhkid10:
...a third class degree in convenant is better than a distinction candidate in any poly...forget argument...I am a poly graduate and I know what I am saying

I disagree with you ...I don’t know what your course of study is tho...but this is not entirely true. I have HND and BSc certificates in Architecture...each has its own specific edge over the other in career development.

PureGoldh:
Bro....see eeh,just be urself....No dey worry urself over dx issue.

If the girl in question was designed for you by God.... something extraordinaire wey pass Zeeworld go happen between the two of una...even her family go turn up for you.

There is a man for every woman and there is a woman for every man.

I wish you all the best

Pure gold say it is all.....be a man if she yours she will surely come

Two things I vow never to do


Choose a career for my kids

Choose a life partner for my kids

Dont quote me, it's a choice, my prayers is that I fulfill my duties to them as a parent emotionally, physically and spiritually .

davidadenrele:
Brotherly,

I feel your Bro, it's amazing that even in the year 2020 some parent could still discriminate about academic qualification to marry, and you will begin to wonder if academic qualification is the yeard stick for success, most successful men today that i know today never owned a degree most were even college drop outs not to talk of someone that had a Higher National Diploma.

However I will advised you not quit, if you do it means you don't deserved the girl from the one set, not good comes easy, you have to fight for it I will advised you do the following.

1. Get enrolled to any of the reputable University for a degree or a post graduate studies, schools like Unilag, Backock, University of Ibadan e.t.c.

2. You haven't mentioned if you have rented an apartment if you have not ensure its a nice area, like Maryland, Adeniji Jones, Surulere, Yaba, pls ensure its near and we'll package environment.who knows the mum could decide to come on a secret mission to see if you are up to the man you said you claimed to be. Afterall a real man should have a decent place of abode before deciding about marriage.

3. Guy for Lagos packaging na be the secret oo, you've got package your self well, do you drive if you don't it's high time you get a small ride even ifts Golf 4 but atleast a decent ride for start.

4. Find every way to win over her mum, the father has spoken but the mum is the final decider after the most mum are fully attached to their daughter.

5. Pray very well, if possible fast prayer move mountains with God all things are possible pls don't give up quitter don't win, winner don't quit.

I wish you all the best.

in one word, he should just do everything possible to impress the gal's parents.

carpdiemz:



See mumu, with your university and all the bsc all of over Nigeria how many jobs have you got? And what technical skills you got ? Just theory with no applied.... lol it’s obvious you are one of the local morons that beat there chest of being a useless university graduate with nothing to show for , u better go and learn a skill , a polytechnic graduates who studied quantity survey would feed you and your family without stress, if you like graduate from one of the glorified university in Nigeria , when you travel out of Nigeria to get a the same yeye degree u got u yuh still gonna start from scratch..and by then you would remember I said it’s all glorified . get some exposure bruv

Typical rantings of a major failure.. It is nobody's fault that you failed your exams. Deal with your failure.

You hate people who have achieved the success that you have failed to achieve. You hate the universities just because you were not intelligent enough to make it to the universities.

You are a failure and will forever be.

stuffs4me:



Typical rantings of a major failure.. It is nobody's fault that you failed your exams. Deal with your failure.

You hate people who have achieved the success that you have failed to achieve. You hate the universities just because you were not intelligent enough to make it to the universities.

You are a failure and will forever be.

I don’t have time to be ranting with you , it’s obvious your are suffering would have employ you but I don’t need dull brain like you , u must be the first person to have a degree in your family a failure and a fool forever.... a champion at producing bastards. U gonna regret u start the curse .... u will continue failing and forever u shall . Had my university degree abroad and not in Africa

AkupeMBANO:

The niggar sounds like a gold digger to me though!!
he dey find rich man pikin. Men should believe in themselves and work their way through to the top. look for a lady from a humble background, and marry. with God on your side you must blow!! and most importantly stay incharge of your marriage without any miscreant looking down on you.

We can not say categorically that he is a gold digger cus he said they met during NYSC and he might not probably know her background then. My own observation is that the guy is not ambitious, dreamer and a goal getter and the man saw that in him during their conversation. Not everyone will start big but our dedication and determination to be become big drives us to greatness, the man himself might not start up big but he worked his way up through dedication and duggednes and those are the basic attribute the man expected but the guy could not present his manifesto to reflect those things.

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Let's be realistic here, can u send ur daughter to private university for B.Sc and M.Sc, sending millions of naira and she now told u her BF is a factory supervisor. The man no get fault o

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

LOL , the last part of your post really got me laughing . Funny enough , if the roles were reversed this is exactly what the men would say. most people commenting on this thread are just being unecessarily emotional

BigJoe19:
Do you know that some people's parents that are in polytechnic are richer than those in private University?

They don't know

humilitypays:
Yes you have a point, but brother let me brag small, I am a born genius. If I was a white, I am supposed to be in the league of late Albert Einstein and co.


The person you are chatting with here finished reading Physics by Abot while I was in SS1, started studying Physics, Further Maths, etc right from Junior secondary. There was no Internet in my time.

I conduct physics and chemistry experiments in my room as a Junior secondary school student. When I got to senior secondary, chemistry, physics, further maths, etc were like book of my bible stories for kids for me. I was way above my mates right from nursery school.

I was a wonder kid. I won lots of school awards growing up. I do multiplication, division of even decimal figures with my head without calculator.


I helped so many people write waec, jamb, etc and they all passed. I was just too good academically.

I read virtually anything readable; holy books, science books, newspapers, magazines, even awake I never missed any of their publications all thanks to my wonderful Jehovah Witness friends that visit regularly for Bible study then.


I hardly go out cos I was engrossed with reading anything I see. I finished oxford dictionary page to page, Bible almost.


My point is, life experiences have taught me a lot, academic degrees, paper qualifications are nothing....wisdom, intelligence, success, smartness is not by your academic degrees or qualifications.


I didn't further after my first degree cos I saw no need, I saw that academic qualifications are a waste of smart and talented people's time, so I quit but I am far more exposed, learned, knowledgeable and better than most professors.


My mates call me prof till date cos they say I am a born prof.


So you guys should quit those paper qualification crap u use to measure people's success, future and intelligence, it's foolishness

that's is the real education bro thumps UP

carpdiemz:


I don’t have time to be ranting with you , it’s obvious your are suffering would have employ you but I don’t need dull brain like you , u must be the first person to have a degree in your family a failure and a fool forever.... a champion at producing bastards. U gonna regret u start the curse .... u will continue failing and forever u shall . Had my university degree abroad and not in Africa

See this grand failure oo.. Pls answer the question Mr. Failure.
1) Who's fault was it that you failed your exams?
2) Who's fault was it that made you faile JAMB so many times?
3) Who's fault was it that made your parents to waste their money only for you to fail in school? Olodo wey you be
4) Who's fault was it that made your life into a wasteland?
5) Who was it that made your life a permanent failure?


The answer to the above is yourself.
You are the course of your wasted and failed life.

You are here getting stomach pain just because people are succeeding in life. It is your type that will fall sick just because your neighbours are succeeding in life

stuffs4me:



Yeah.... But he held on to her when he discovered she had a bright future and from a well to do family.

The OP is just a gold-digger as he cant convince anyone that he never met other diploma girls of his status but he is adamant on marrying a successful lady from a rich family

if you live long a enough life will teach many lessons. Poverty in Africa is a big problem that people mistake love for gold digging.

12345baba:
Shey u love her? Just go back to school and get a bI
sc nah. All for love nwanne.

It's not about Bsc...She is from rich home that's why she was sent to Private University.... Public university students are also poor and they are not in the same social class with private universities

Alaganature:


Boss you don't need to attack him..from the looks of things..she is from a wealthy home so there is tendency that her parents can pay any bills just to give her child the best education.. someone who went to Ire might just be an opportunities for him to even get the degree..abeg no just conclude like that instead advice him.

Brother, the whole stuff narrated was part of my life experience and I advised base on my experience and how I escaped the embarrassment. I am sorry of I by any way insulted the OP . I was rubbished by a polytechnic lecturer in Federal Polytechnic Ede who happened to be a foster father of the lady then and how I responded was what I advised and I ended up marrying another person that is better than the one I was rubbished because of

Certificates/degrees are man-made hence sinking sand! What a foolish man the girl's father is! What degree has Buhari, Tuface or Burns Boy?

stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

And your proud kind wants to go to heaven or even a church goer presently!

seuncyrus:


LOL , the last part of your post really got me laughing . Funny enough , if the roles were reversed this is exactly what the men would say. most people commenting on this thread are just being unecessarily emotional

hypocrites and heartless souls everywhere.

yet these fake souls go to church and mosque claiming to know God in their pride.

in civilized societies, academic or financial status aren't factors in relationship.

In Kiss Daniel's voice..........laye..laye o, baby mi ko jo

OriOko88:

Your post just portrayed you to be someone suffering from the Stockholm syndrome. You go dey ok laslas

E pain u

elefind:


you are a fool, you don't understand English as a language.
a graduate can be at any level of education, high school,
college, polytechnic, university.
please learn. fool

I don't insult people, Do your research very well before disgracing yourself in public

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University....

Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

OP, don't be deceived. It's not really about BSc/HND Stuff, moreover your write-up attest to the fact that you're scholarly to a good extent. Her dad only said the best thing that would make his daughter see reasons for his disapproval. Certainly, he knows his daughter better than you, and how best to get her to comply even if she struggles through it for a while. OP, the real reason is because you don't measure up when ideally, you should be far above her or at least at the same level, and not just academically. I believe her dad is a Yoruba man, and God help you if he is from Ekiti State.

Meanwhile, you shouldn't feel bad at all, nor hate the man rather you should thank him. Why? In reality, he saved you from future misery, not necessarily from him but his daughter. Because that thought pattern is not exclusive to her dad o. I dare say more resides in the lady though she is not exhibiting it at the moment. And to be honest with you, it's not the fault of either of them (both the one showing it now and the one that will show hers later). They are rich and connected while you're not. You just don't measure up. Sorry, but that's the raw fact!

See, it's not easy to get a husband these days, particularly with continuous pressure from parents so she is settling for you because she is out of options. But she would crumble your ego countless times in the marriage as she would re-echo that and more to you. You said she is good, bla bla bla. Of-course, she's got to be. It's only a crazy lady seeking marriage that wouldn't be good. Have you even placed her on series of tests to confirm important virtues? Or you're among gullible guys whose senses have been overtaken by supposed love, only to get shocked at what they married? Anyway, she is not living with you so you don't really know her content as you think. And don't wait till that time when she would start displaying it to you in the marriage because that would be the day you would realize that her dad was really nice with his. For me, love isn't enough for marriage. In fact, I think a man should enter into a relationship with a lady he loves but only marry a lady he is confident he can live with, all the days of his life.

If you forcefully go ahead and marry her, the only way you would make that marriage work is for you to actually become financially successful. And if you ever become successful, it would already be too late because the marriage would have been severely battered. In fact, you wouldn't see her as someone who patiently (humbly) lived with you throughout the struggling period. And depending on your type of person, you could successfully ignore the anger/malice that would have brewed up over time and live with her happily ever after. But some things are easier said than done, that is even if you ever become successful. Because the atmosphere that would continually be generated in that marriage would easily breed poverty/misfortune, repeatedly.

It would have been manageable if her dad was the one that accepted you and she is the one struggling to because her dad would always fix her head on your behalf during the early days of the marriage and also help (connect) you to quickly become successful to balance things up. So Oga, help yourself by coming down from that horse you are trying to mount and go and marry a lady you would be able to successfully head without foundational issues (unending headache) as such would guarantee your marital and financial success, and all other forms of success in life.

OriOko88:

Your post just portrayed you to be someone suffering from the Stockholm syndrome. You go dey ok laslas

While your reply portrayed u to be someone suffering from schizophrenia

igbowoman:


Why all these foolish questions?Do I owe you explanations?

Lol...Illiteracy is bad!
This one didn't branch school.
So quick to spite venom.
Evidence of bitter marriage

nitoriolohun:
but y ? Everything here is valued at do you know who I am ?
For the fact that op can convince the said lady for a date means he is a smart guy. Not everyone is privileged going to the university talk more of a private owned
The man shld more be concerned abt the guys maturity, intelligence,personality n his spirituality over educational qualification because it can b obtained later on.
Pastor kingsly of David christain center met his wife according to him when she was doing her master's n him with just OND without a job. My uncle married his wife with bsc with just HND.
It is the poor girl I pity for because she's the only victim I see here shld Op move on and the girl find it hard to get a responsible man. She will hate that man for life.
The Op too might just be another victim if he strong-headed marry that girl because any of his shortcomings will be linked to his educational qualification n this might affect his home.
Op success is a revenge but it's more beautiful when you dnt get successful to spite people who provoke you to work harder .

True!

elefind:

you are a fool, you don't understand English as a language. a graduate can be at any level of education, high school, college, polytechnic, university. please learn. fool

A graduate is a person who has successfully completed a course of study or training, especially a person who has been awarded an undergraduate or first academic degree.



Can u c d word ESPECIALLY

humilitypays:
I laugh at you, "when he is done", so you think he is the only one doing Msc in Chemical engineering that will be rushed with a Shell Manager job once he is done The problem most of you young people have is you listen to inexperienced people like you, you don't take professional advice from seasoned professionals, you prefer to believe what people say not what is happening in reality.


Master degree is only helpful when you have lots of relevant work experience in your field...unless you want to join the inexperienced league of Nigerian lecturers with PhD and no relevant experience, teaching nonsense in Nigerian higher institutions and turning Nigerian institutions to mediocre because they only teach what they read on paper without any real life experiences gained from work.



If you like waste your meagre resources on Msc without work experience, that Msc certificate will lay in your wardrobe as an artifact for your grandkids

Exactly!