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Chi59:
Let them attack. The truth hurts. There are single men who have created posts in romanceland on how they fvck married women. I've seen a couple of them. But these bats will never condemn those guys.

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AkeNathan:
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this guy must be a fan of big ass

Ceska:
As much as I do not support dating married men or women. I have to say it as I see it. You see this life and marriage? It has no formula. I have seen ladies that were wayward when they were single getting married to the best of husbands, and have also seen very morally upright ladies getting married to devils as husband. Not sleeping with a married man while single is not a guarantee that your husband will be faithful. A man or woman who wants to cheat in marriage will do so , irrespective of how wonderful their spouse is. I think the success of marriage boils down to the characters of the two people involved. People also commit other very much grievous sins asides sleeping with people's spouses. That too can be the origin of their problems later in life.

u hav a point.btw u look gorgeous. Watsup

Liposure:
u hav a point.btw u look gorgeous. Watsup

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Rapmoney:
There's always a reward for it. Especially, those little girls, mostly between 17 - 23. They will comfortably lick the navels of potbellied grand daddies!

Hahah those once can make one do what he don't want to do.

Rapmoney:
There's always a reward for it. Especially, those little girls, mostly between 17 - 23. They will comfortably lick the navels of potbellied grand daddies!

30 something years old women are d worst

Rapmoney:
Sure, I understand your point of view but I focused on sleeping with married men because I think it carries a matrimonial curse or nemesis.

Same thing for a young man who sleeps with married women because he wants financial or material gratification. Nature cannot be mocked; there's a force of agreement existing when two people come together as husband and wife.

absolutely right

Sleeping with married men is very bad, disrespectful and dangerous, I pity ladies that indulge in it, adultery is one sin I will never commit in my life.

But the OP, a lady that haven't slept with a married man before might also end up with a cheating husband, life is not fair.

not fair at all.

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Is the Word Concubines, New to You? They do nothing wrong and there isn't any repercussions. The cycle must continue, if you like date married men or Not, it can't stop a man from having a Concubine, just very few men don't.
In Northern Nigeria despite the Leaverge to own 4 wives, the men there are still having Concubines. That should tell you something about who a man is.

Your story hits 3 things at once: patterns, consequences, and that “what goes around” feeling.

On the pattern you saw in school:
You noticed she chased married men even though money wasn’t the driver. Parents were comfortable. So it wasn’t survival - it looked more like thrill, validation, or chasing status/power that comes with “Chief” and “Engineer” titles. Hard to advise someone there because the payoff she got wasn’t financial. It was attention + access.

On the marriage + Facebook posts:
That flip from “no retreat, no surrender” to cryptic posts about cheating husbands is painful to watch. Like you said, it didn’t take a babalawo to connect the dots. When you spend years in other people’s matrimonial space, it’s almost impossible not to normalize it for your own home too. Trust gets thin.

Your proverbs drive the point home:
“Wetin dey go around, still dey come around” and “Person wey bring wood wey ants full…” Those are old for a reason. They’re about cause and effect, not punishment. You’re not celebrating her pain. You’re pointing out the math of actions.

The part about young women/men at the end:
You’re basically saying: boundaries start with “no contact details”. And that loud “I don’t do married men” from people you didn’t ask… yeah, that’s a red flag people miss. Clear conscience doesn’t need a press release.

I get why you didn’t push hard back then. Nobody wants to be the “fun-destroyer” in uni. Sometimes people have to live the lesson themselves.