You know it won't work right from time and you want Nairalanders to give you advice, what advice do you need, read your Bible well, the advice is there.

one of you should try to convert maybe it could help the situation
anyway you talk from 12:00am to 05:00 am how you dey take do am you mouth no dey pain you?

Oh boy this is not crying matter oh,you need to pray hard to God to show you the way and ask her to pray also then you will know what next.

emerged01:
@teebaba30,your story was exactly like mine.
We made it happen 2012,now we have two lovely boys, don’t let religion be barrier. Though it takes pure understanding from both partners to have a lovely marriage life,most especially from your partner because she will spend time more with the kids.
My wife is very supportive and a good mother to our kids,though we have not achieved all we aim for but if I had put religion first,I don’t think the impart of her intelligence on my kids would ever be possible with anyone else. Don’t let religion make you lose a true partner. If you lose her you may have a rough journey with someone else.
There was a day,my son was given a take home on bible knowledge. My wife snapped the assignment and sent to me through WhatsApp because she doesn’t have deep bible knowledge. I sent her a part of the bible that she needed to read to get the assignment done,of which she did without given my boy a concern about our religious difference. I believe with understanding it will be a smooth journey for both of you.
If both parents realize our serious both of you are,I believe they will eventually give in. At first my wife’s father turned down her request to marry me but a year after her father couldn’t but supported her. Be smart don’t let anybody give you a reason ( religion) to quit a beautiful relationship when you have a good reason (love) to hold onto your future partner.

thank you for this, i am in thesame situation too

I am not understanding
for marriage to happen
must we be of the same religion.e.g. between
A Muslim(Man and Woman)
A Christian(Man and Woman)
Perhaps, majority of us are Traditionalist if we go do proper background check

Since both of you are Afonjas, go ahead with the marriage plan. You can elope if you want.
I dated a Muslim during my service year. Whenever I leave Warri for Lagos, I also ask her to leave Ilorin and come to Lagos and she does, but that didn't sway our conviction that we can't marry due to our different beliefs. We just wasted time together and moved on later.
Lesson, two cannot work together unless they agree.

Ybaby:



Are the parents living with them after marriage

I mean how will the marriage be conducted??

But Yoruba media always tell us that there is nothing like Moslem and Christian in Yoruba land.

Make una continue dey lie.

Gander:

Fountain university is a Islamic faith-based university. So this said woman obviously has more than enough good Muslim men to choose from.
But op want us to believe that the lady wants them to abscond. Bla bla bla.
I don’t believe this op is telling the truth.

Well, u may be right but based on data statistics, this kind of thing happens a lot in Nigeria especially amongst Yoruba people.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

I was in your shoes some times ago, and I let her go. But today I am regretting it.. Forget religion my brother, tinubu and his wife and Christian and Muslim, are they it happily married?

liquidfaya:
I'm just stunned a woman can allow herself to date a man for 11 yrs. Like WTF

11 - 7 = 4 (they lost contact for 7years)

omotola90:
I mean how will the marriage be conducted??

The bride's family conducts the ceremony or the settle for just court - 2 witnesses

ChiefAfonja:
No one wants to associate with a terrorist organization

Run for your life

You are so gullible and naive,better go and get exposed,I bet someone who lives in a cafe is more exposed than you.Coment like a sane human being not like a retard.

hmmmm.... o loud

That is never a problem. I got married to muslim infact she even a Alhaja today we are still happy n fine.. so no problem wit that

Teebaba30:


Not direct eleven years like that, we lost contact for like 6 years, but later reconnect this year.

u lost contact or something went wrong btw u2...

u mean u guys lost contact in 2013/14 since then there was no better ways of reaching each other, only for her to hit you up on facebook now in 2020.

and after good 6/7years u start to fool each.

you both lived a normal live in the past few years but now after few month reunion people cannot let go of each other... superstory lon so jere.

becareful no dey come nairaland n com dey post iranu for here

Ybaby:


The bride's family conducts the ceremony or the settle for just court - 2 witnesses

it still boils down on one thing... It boils down on the parents of both of them. What I can deduce from what op said is that his parents are adamant marrying a Muslim... Likewise, the girl's parent kicks or abolishes her marrying a Christian.... So? The aforementioned options is a no no...... OP.... Never swallow a bitter pill... Far from funnymate bro.. Don't start what you can't finish... Just let go...

Teebaba30:


She even say something like this before that I should impregnate her, that with that her dad might consider, But I resist from doing that.

good. Not a good path to follow

My best advice is to get her pregnant, after a while like 2 yrs after birth both parent will learn to accept dem, den dey can get married

womenareapes:
what is light got to do with darkness
Mr man leave that woman, that religion is from the devil.
Marrying her is like marrying into the devil's family. You won't have rest of mind,
She will force your child to be boko haram,
Your child will inherit violence behaviour, her family members will be sending you death threats.

Your children if male will have pedophile behaviour ( that's to say your male child will be chasing after under age girls)

Your life will be totally miserable to the extent of committing suicide.

Your wife will later sleep with her fellow Muslim brothers while getting married to you.

You are the perfect example of a retard.what a bias fellow,You are so gullible to the extent that your brain can't seem to assimilate what is going on in the world.Comment with sanity not like a mentally deranged being.There is no iota of Truth in the nonsense you just posted.All I see is pure hatred.Try and embrace a positive attitude towards life.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

You are wicked. Dating someone daughter for 11yrs?

Na same issue I dy now self

Teebaba30:


She even say something like this before that I should impregnate her, that with that her dad might consider, But I resist from doing that.

I believe you are a Yorùbá and you know who an ọba is. Don't impregnate daughter of an ọba nor should you run away with her. Both of you should be patient and allow issues to be solved before you go ahead.

Besides, you guys reconnected back like a month ago as you put it, that means Corona infested month and you guys have accelerated discussion to the point of marriage. Have you solved your womanising issue? Marriage or love can't make you stop it, it takes a lot of growing up to do.

She's a princess, that means a lot so don't try anything rash for the sake of your future and this who have invested heavily on you.

My Advise will be to make sure you are both ready to face the reality ( out casting by relations who you might need for help in near future). If you are through with that , then will she allow to convert to your religion? If yes , go to the registry to consummate your marriage. The grandchildren will resolve the crisis .

Note :

It will not be easy at the beginning but with time ,the whole matter will resolve itself.

Sparro:
She is way smarter and she is the one really in love. From the antecedents to the present situation, owing to her suggestion and readiness to foot all bills, she is the one in love. If you love her as half, u wouldn't have objected to her plans.

Spot on... you just read my mind. The guy too dey fear. I go carry kING pikin run. Na dem go dey find me to accept the whole marriage plans.

Teebaba30:


This is kinda harsh fellow, why the statement, Carry ur evils ways"
Anyway it is well.

Farki:
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DexterousOne:


Just keep quiet

Lee84:


Hypocrite! Because he is Christian, he will bring moral bankruptcy.. Is it not the girl that refused to let go. Hypocrite!

What are these olodos yapping about sef.

I still maintain that the morally bankrupt OP should carry his immorality somewhere and leave the innocent Muslim lady alone.

Did you eediats not see where your low moral and corrupt kinds kept on telling the OP to impregnate the girl.

Where is it written in your holy book that fornication is a good thin?

stuffs4me:
Teebaba30, as a Christian you are not qualified to marry a Muslim lady and your girlfriend knows that.

You as a Christian will bring nothing but moral bankruptcy to the Muslim lady.

Carry your evil ways and go and meet your fellow kind and leave that Muslim lady alone.

Your types are the reasons for Nigeria's backwardness, Christianity and Islam promotes morality, it is the individuals that chose their ways, in both religions you will find morally sound and as well corrupt individuals. This mindset of yours can only create bad image to the religion you are claiming.

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

You know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

But just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keeps crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

Guy you are wicked .Is it now you are asking this question ? Why didn't you ask yourself this question when you first said "hi" to her .It is now you want to ask that question.Who do you want to dump the lady for after 11 years of ....Let me stop there .You can't dump her .So yea, it can work ..you shouldn't quit your relationship. Happy married life in advance

liquidfaya:
I'm just stunned a woman can allow herself to date a man for 11 yrs. Like WTF

They've been dating since secondary school!

Teebaba30:


Have called her times without number for her approval in ending the relationship, but she never opt in

tosin stop the relationship... Religion is very wide. u wont like the aftermath.