Eulalia:



I wasn't referring to the lady but the guy who didn't do the right thing by first performing the marriage rites on her before impregnating her. Now hes in a dilemma and wants people who are not in his shoes to help him figure out what to do.

Just go easy on me. And you have no right mentioning my generation. Ok?

Crazeman03:
Thanks to everyone who contributed positively, will follow your advices. We went to see a doctor for consultation in General Hospital, I was told thesame things no one's needs to know and she can breastfeed also. And it's Good since she open up to me. He Even went ahead telling some stories about some Gene who can't contract the virus and also most ladies don't tell there partner even when the married ones because they believe there viral load is low and can't pass on the virus.

If your viral load is very low and undetectable, there is zero chances of passing the virus. . If undetected=untrasmittable.

Adesamogun:
Advisers. Our People will say. Person wey never die no know wetin go kill am.
Oga let me just say this there are 2 sides of a coin. Every Lady has a problem she carrying about. Some Nagging, some family issues and problem. Everybody has their own wahala. Na part of your own be this. Don't tell anyone except you so so so trust their judgement. About breastfeeding. Na that one small pass. At least she is likely not to cheat. Keep yourself safe too by ensuring she takes her medications since you no use protecations. Seek further counselling from Sensible/correct Elders

uruba23:
Well just handle it maturely perhaps you should relocated when the baby comes,and claim you are in South Africa or better still go there

Koboko444:
Then the heading of your post should have been - both me and my girlfriend are HIV positive and she is pregnant. However I suspect you are a liar from the pit of hell and this whole story is a figment of your depraved imagination.

gaby:
Enúgbe

I don't even know what to advise but I'm proud of you loving her in spite of her HIV+ status.

May God bless you guys.

Something must kill a man.

Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.


Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

KINGreignn:

Sit down and sincerely ask your self these questions.
1. Do you truly love her?
2 .or you're just it out of compassion and sympathy and pity?
3. Or you're in it for the sex?
4. Do you see you two going far in this union?
5. What values have you imbibed in her and also what values has she imbibed in you?

Millenniumlady:
Why won't she feel that way when you keep bringing up your relationship issues here

Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

Crazeman03:


They will ask questions.