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ken711:
Bro, your comment has truly touched a nerve in me. I'll listen to you bro..even though today she has been calling, even as I am writing.

I just have to move on.

Bro I have been in ur shoes before, I once spent on a girl just like u did but later I realised how dumb I was. The girl doesnt deserve you at all. Cheating on you and u still dey rent house for her. You just rented a place for her to carry numerous guys that was why she opted for u to rent the house on the island.. Mark my word she will give u instructions on when to come and not when to come cos she dey run her parole with other guys. Get sense bro.

you don't deserve a slap or beating for your obvious mistake of falling for a wrong person, it is a mistake every man who chases after woman in search of true love must make, you have fallen and made that mistake , now it time to wakeup and wiseup. be strong and call it quit if you feel it should go off.

davosea:
thruth be told man,you need a sledge hammer on your skull

After reading ur comment xterday nite bro, I haven't been able to catch a single sleep
I have been laughing since
My whole ribs don dey pain me

Guy you bad

You are just one idiot looking for attention on nairaland

Taribizy:
All the money you have spent on this relationship has nothing to do with the girl. You're thinking you can buy her loyalty which is wrong. Reverse the roles, do you think she will give you 400k to save your life?

Now thats a wise man

Calling you a fool is an insult to the fools we have on earth, just go and write your will biko.

On a serious note though, cut her loose before it's too late, a word is enough...

ken711:
"That was one smart decision I made, I did it in my name"

Smart keh, she agreed to that so that you will continue to renew the rent whenever it expires

humilitypays:
na Americana na, he forgave a cheating girlfriend, what else won't he accept, he is definitely a dunce and the type runs girls pray for every morning during their deadly morning devotion

From my thesis be is not a warri boy can do this...400k no do my sister weeding sef

@OP: You haven't even bought her a car yet and you are complaining. It's best to always finish what you started, just endure more for a while.

When you are done, explain everything that transpired between both of you to a close family member, preferably your mother or elder sister and be certain to get the best advise.

We wish you all the best.

Your mumu don do.

babyfaceafrica:
my only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...please help!


If you pay for any other thing.... I will tell amadioha, Sango and Thor to deal with you.. You never learn your lesson.. This type of gals that ritualist are looking for.. Nansense and ingredient

it will not end with paying for bed,next will be to pay for mattress,next blanket,you have made a critical error by letting emotion and vanity cloud your rational thinking,I am not a woman beater but if one dares slap me she will receive serious beating that day,only that slapping part shows you treat the arrogant lady with kids gloves and shut off your mind to all her bad characters just because she is beautiful,now that she has her own apartment be careful of your life,don't ever go there unannounced to avoid stabbing with kitchen knife.

Poster don't lie, you like the girl pu,s,y

ken711:
Bro, your comment has truly touched a nerve in me. I'll listen to you bro..even though today she has been calling, even as I am writing.

I just have to move on.

How did you meet the girl?

Where did you meet the girl?

Yes it may true,u dnt av to invest ur self on 1 stupid girl whereas she dnt love u atall rather collecting ur money and invest it on another guy....wise my nigga

People just cooking up all sorts of stories because of frontpage.

Low sf esteem.
I used to be like u wayback in 07
Not till my funds dried. My eyes tear go back.
If i dey wt anybabe now. Na 2k. 3k flr transport.
No time 4 no stupid relationahip
No time to date poor ghetto girls
Na na na.
U just dey pay like white...
She don see mugu. She don see mugu.
Dis dosent feel 2 good.x2
Why me o. Doom doom kedu(mad bass)
Why me. Bich tell tha truth dont lie to me.
U be slave for love



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7j5KECjKhxM

Lol. See as wande coal lean
See dbanj tight gay shirt

Thats the case when you buy love or believe you can change the world because you get small change coming in then you feel even leeches can be tolerated and as always you wouldnt seek our advice before you spent. How can you begin what you cannot finish. So after one year who renews the rent? I dont understand guys lately you want to prove you care, who says you have to. If all the jobless women get so much from guys like you all make it seem you think they will still be on the street? Guys most of youre not rich,stop acting like one.Hope they havent taken your name someplace because thats usually the next stage.

Why are you disturbing yourself over a lady that has nothing for you except for your money?? Cut her off your heart. If only you would listen to advice.

ken711:
"That was one smart decision I made, I did it in my name"

Lol.. @ smart decision. There is nothing smart about dating a beautiful monster. I don't believe you though. Too dumb to be true.

So fools still dey this country? It is like you had been jazzed.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

You are a handsome guy, studied abroad...... whatever, but your foolishness is from another planet.
Mr technical adviser, your fist paragraph solves your self inflicted wahala.

Bro collect ur key, tell her to go back to her parents. Why would she wana escape her parents house? Use the house for an office space or better still just rent it out to some serious persons in need of accommodation to get some of ur cash back. Trust me, u will thank me later.

I don't tolerate nonsense, i will beat her that anytime she sees me, she will run. Ladies Beating Me
What A Bleep

Stop being a fool all in the name of nice cool headed guy!

Stop d relationship now.Let her go.It is like ur prayer has been answered.Don´t u read news papers or listen to news.One day she may kill u o.She is not good for u.forget her bros in ur own interest.

lilyheaven:
The money would have been enough to pay her bride price. How can you pay your house rent and that of your girl.
Now you want to buy bed, as what na ? Matrimonial bed?

Not for a girl from that family.
In the list you will see stuff like Android phone for brides father and mother( not parents oh),
Moccasin shoes for bride's brothers, 20 crates of trophy for youths...amongst other ridiculous demands.

Cc kroger

Have you sent the money?

If not for the anonymous nature of Nairaland making ppl to freely tell their stories. There are things I wouldn't know can actually happen.

This is unimaginable, it's unthinkable. I never believed such a thing can happen.

Weak men sucks!

Your a kind man. Don't tell her its over cos she can still manipulate you back in the relationship. Tell her you've been sacked and she will do the calling off by herself that way you will find some peace.

you have done your best for her,dn't let any girls hit you because of your hard earning money. i will advise you to break up with her now or she kill you if you mistakenly married her.

This makes me remember kelly handsome song “Maga don pay, shout hallelujah

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

What you lack my brother is self confidence. I used to be worse than you as an introvert that I was. I was trampled upon until I took that bold step. I never looked back. It was one reason a became a litigator.

You know introvertnex and litigation don't mix right? But I disowned my own father who looked down on me at 16, cos I needed to change my story if I was to become something meaningful in life. But we are back now, and he now has maximum respect for me.

You don't need anybody to be you. You are more than enough for yourself. You don't need any body to boost your confidence and self esteem.

If I were you, I will end the relationship with her immediately and walk away. I won't look back even if she becomes an angel all of a sudden. The devil is also an angel, and still visits heaven. The Bible book of Job clearly reveals this. So screw her and move on.

Have some confidence in yourself. You don't need her and mark my words, you don't complain about what you tolerate. Don't complain if you want to keep forgiving her and tolerating her demonic, manipulative, infectious, cum parasitic character. Relationship ought to be symbiotic.

If you keep tolerating her, you will die before your time, as the next lady you need will do far worse. It's in their nature. Every lady has this natural attitude, including our mothers.

You do not need a beautiful lady to validate yourself confidence/esteem. You will always be in a fix and a merry go round if you continue like this. Change yourself and wash your face. Don't become another Samson. You might not get a second chance.

One simple truth I have come to discover in my few decade of existence, is that a lady will never submit to a man that does not have balls. You clearly don't have balls. You can always grow balls, start growing some immediately.

So, my simple advice is take some time off relationships and learn to be alone. Rediscover yourself. Live alone and grow some balls. Stop giving attention to every tom, dick and harry in the name of outward beauty and romance. Men don't need beauty and romance. Pursue a home/dream builder in a lady, beauty and romance will added on a platter.

Go for a lady that will help you turn your one kobo into 5naira, and not one a squanderer. Please read Nathan Brandon's psychology of self esteem. It will change your mentality. I will recommend more books if you are ready to learn. Daniel 9:2.

It will help you cure your lack of self esteem. You are a man, and there are shortage of real men out there. So the earlier you become a man that a woman will invest in, because she is afraid to lose him to another lady, the better for you.

What if I tell you that you are a maga, a real good first class premium maga, and she is busy exploiting you to cater for the needs of another hommie she is afraid to lose? I don benefit before, so I know wetin I dey yarn. Girl don use another guy money flex me wella, giving my Pusey and real cash on a platter, while that guy dey beg to see pant. Still, I nor send her.

End that relationship before it ends you and your job. Life is too short to tolerate what you cannot entertain.

Walk away with the lessons you have learnt, and become a better man. Beauty of the body will fade, but beauty of the mind is ageless.

Boys go for beauty of the body, while real men chase beauty of the mind. Go for a lady that has beauty of the mind, and is ready to build an empire with you. You can easily and always invest in her to acquire the beauty of the body you seek. Money can always take care of that. No body ugly when money dey to buy good cream, food and cloths.

But of what use is a beautiful grave? A woman without dreams and character is nothing but a beautiful grave. She will one day drag you into her grave and bury to dreams therein.

I rise.