rummmy:
better chill before I change my mind... Back to the topic........

My guy if you understand this game very well, any of their words won't move you.

I shouldn't be saying this here but I just have to.

I'm sorry guys

U know what we do to them .

Anything i go into a relationship, i know its like an investment so w are always prepared.

I budget an amount of money to spend on U so you will see I'm not the stingy type till u are comfortable.

We wait for sometime to see if u will reciprocate...

If u are not doing that, we Bleep till I'm satisfied and map out how to collect the money back(if not all)

I have a car and I will always drive you around, till I tell u to borrow me some amount to fuel the car or it has a problem that needed to be solved urgently.

Just tell them you will pay it times 2...


Nah bro code I betray like this, make una no vex

For their mind, they are very smart

Lol

nora2018:
She has not answered the question which goes thus '' what did you give him during his birthday "? if she can answer this question to my satisfaction then, i will know if the nigga is stingy or not.

God bless you bro

BABANGBALI:
didirin, if you want to pay her for sex, it's your life and your money go ahead and be settling her for sex. So your reason for giving her money is because of sex abi?what then is the difference between her and olosho?ode ni e man. Money miss road.

Nigerian girls want to copy European but they are not ready to do what the European girls do. Rubbish

Oloshi what then Do you have to offer as a stingy Guy, after Fu*king her?

Nooil:



Is it that you guys didn't see where the said bf spent money buying drinks for his friends? Where did he get the money from? You people should stop supporting wickedness.

His guys that were there for him when he has nothing, he shouldn't spend on them?

Lol

[quote author=Paxie55 post=90013676]

You guys should just shut up. I'm sure you guys are less than 20years. What are you saying? Sidnt you see where she said the guy prefer to follow his friends around than find a career? Like you guys didn't see where she has asked him to look for something to do?
Can you guys saying this rubbish stay with a stingy male friend that always come to your house to feed and never contribute shi shi? Stupid comments all over here.


Thank you my dear.
I had to study this critically before commenting. We are all entitled tp our own opinion yet, what i deduced from what the writer said is that

1. The guy in question prefers to depend on his friends rather than build a career for himself.
See this according to the writer:- "sometimes I was just hopeful, he is waiting for a big job. He isn’t even too serious about job searching ,it’s so passive to him , I don’t care if he’s a teacher , or a sales boy or a filling station attendant , just get busy. He said he can’t do it"

Let me use my sister as a case study here. I am so sorry this might be too long.
My sister started dating a guy from the day she went to school to do her registration as a new student. Note:- they had met earlier bfore she accepted on that day. They dated from 2006-2014. While they were in school, the guy was so intelligent that he concentrated on his academics (He even helped my sister academically) but as u know, no one is perfect. The only issue my sister complained to us about was the fact he never bought her anything (Yes, we do not expect so much from a student) but he ought to at least do the little he could. I would say he was stingy cos whenever my sister was going to his house, she would go with her own milo, milk, ingredient for soup or stew and a few others. So one day, i asked her if her boyfriend doesn't have in his house that she was always going with that and she confided in me and said he wouldn't let her touch any of those. He even hides them. She got to know when she asked him for butter to eat bread and he said he did not have but when he was not at home, she checked his traveling bag and saw a new container of butter. She wept out her eyes that day, wondered why the guy lied and was confused to even conclude her boyfriend was a stingy guy. On his return, she asked him y he had lied, he said he was sorry and that he did because he was not ready to open the so called butter. Alot went on. (We are from an average family and everything we needed to be comfortable were provided for us so my sister was not a liability and saying i love you was not and is just not enough. Love goes beyond that and even the tiniest of things matters.

I told my friend about my sister and her relationship and he advised i let her be since she had chosen him which i did.

Fast forward to service year, they served in different states. Still, the issue of him not giving a dime to her continued and there she was hoping when he gets a job after service things would get better. She saw the signs she knew she couldn't cope with yet she KEPT HOPING" just like the writer.

2. Thank you again to whoever wrote this below

"Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?
For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle. babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen. Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense. You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you."

Back to my sister's story:-
They were done with service and a year passed no job which is most times normal.
She picked up a marketing job with a bank and advised him to do same just to add to his C.V guy refused, teaching job too he also refused and said "HE CAME OUT WITH A 2.1 AND COULDN'T IMAGINE HIMSELF DOING SUCH JOBS" my people, that was when my sister realized she had wasted 8years with her boyfriend who had no focus. At that time, he lived with his parents and felt too comfortable. The painful part of it was my sister kept hoping till the guy left her o. No quarrels, no nothing. This was how it happened:- She went to visit him and after she left his house he did not call to find out if she had gotten home and she called to tell him she got home safely but he did not pick her calls. He did not reply her msgs. That was how days passed, weeks passed, months and years no calls no text, she tried and she waited all to no avail. Then she made up her mind to move on. She was pained that he left with no explanation despite the fact she was patiently waiting till the time he would be made.


I am so sorry for writing this long story but the point i am making is, You people should be careful of how you judge the writer. She only summarized and i feel she was not after his money. She only wanted him to stay focused and do something at least but he is waiting for a white colar job on a platter of gold.

Well, thankfully, My sister (35 years old) is happily married with a son now and even working as a full time staff with NNPC. We are all happy for her and We give thanks to God.

Before you criticize a person, put yourself in their shoes. As a man, i know what it takes to take care of my wife and children and i am doing the little i can to take care of them. You do not have to build a skyscraper for a woman for people to see you are trying. NO! just show some concern and any woman with a conscience will reciprocate. My wife is the most appreciative woman i have ever known and i thank God for that. I say again, a woman needs to be catered for no matter how small. As for the guy the writer was dating, i hope he realizes soon enough on the path he is trading. Those his friends will get tired of him soon and then he would wake up to the reality of life. I have learnt to face my fears at all cost and take up responsibilty for every of my actions. may God help us all

My dear writer, i hope u learn from this Story

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Thank God for you and the decision u took. I use to be like this your BF. I was very unserious with life, depended on Family wealth n friends to help me. Later I became tired. It was my GF that bailed me out, she empirically advised me. Without fear, she spoke sense to me. My pride wanted me to be angry, but when I had a great time with myself , I saw she was right. TODAY I AM INDEPENDENT MINDED & I AM ON COURSE TO GROW. MY DEAR, PLEASE MOVE ON. YOUR BF DOESN'T HAVE SENSE YET. BUT IF YOU TRULY LOVE HIM, STAY WITH HIM AND PUT ALL THAT SENSE INTO HIM , BY FIRE BY THUNDER.



BE WELL

kalex0:


My guy if you understand this game very well, any of their words won't move you.

I shouldn't be saying this here but I just have to.

I'm sorry guys

U know what we do to them .

Anything i go into a relationship, i know its like an investment so w are always prepared.

I budget an amount of money to spend on U so you will see I'm not the stingy type till u are comfortable.

We wait for sometime to see if u will reciprocate...

If u are not doing that, we Bleep till I'm satisfied and map out how to collect the money back(if not all)

I have a car and I will always drive you around, till I tell u to borrow me some amount to fuel the car or it has a problem that needed to be solved urgently.

Just tell them you will pay it times 2...


Nah bro code I betray like this, make una no vex

For their mind, they are very smart

Lol

haha

Paxie55:

Shut up. I clearly saw what I quoted.
Bleep and deh go, how does that affect me? You Can only attract what you are.

Sorry o virgin mary

Keep deceiving yourself

Nooil:


Please, kill any thought of going back to him. No guy can ever be stingy with a girl he loves. They will always try their best to give something, no matter how little. A guy that loves you will even borrow money from his friend just to treat you right.

If he is not spending on you, you mean nothing to him. You're just a means to an end. Probably not his taste. When he finds someone else he fancies, he will leave you without thinking twice.

Don't waste your time and effort investing emotionally on someone that doesn't have you in mind. It will end in tears.

Borrow money from his friends to treat you right

I swear to God, I will surely milk u dry after doing that.

I swear

See yeye talk

Infact, you are mad

StrongandMighty:

Since you're working take care of yourself, He's neither your father nor your husband.
It's better you change the notion that someone you're dating owes you a financial responsibility.
Sister he doesn't owe you a dime.

Abi oo!!!

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

I wont comment on this till I hear the other side of the story. thank you

johnkey:
But Bros this your comment just confirmed the op as olosho

That's not the point bro . Why would you have a Girlfriend, and not give her a dime. According to what the girl said . It belittle a Man when all what he does is Sex. And nothing more. Forget this Bants that Girls like money , wetin. Make them like again ? Your dick? So you can call them Asewo. Everyone loves money. We guys can do anything for � we can cheat on our babe for money. So what's the troll about. If you get money u no go dey reason all these things. Imagine having a gf, you don't spend a dime and you want to be having sex Everytime, does that even make any sense. Abi na so you self dey do Brother? Well I trust you. I know you take care of your woman well.. my Fiancee is a beautiful Lawyer she collects 300k per month, I collect 140k , but courtesy demand I should do my duty. Because of the Love I show her, she always gives me loan anytime.and have lost counts of the amount she has given me personally. She assisted me in securing the land I bought .. 2million Naira. Imagine the amount she would had Contributed. And have started spending on her before she told me her salary .. And she is trying in terms of Loving. Treat your woman right. It's a Pride as a Man.

Ladylite:

Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

lol ..we all know both parties are at fault in acrimony, the woman didn't believe in the man dream and she wasnt perfect enough, the man cheated on the woman who have sacrificed a lot for him..so whats ur point

You can't expect us to believe your own version of the story, I know if the guy is to give his own account...it will be different. The guy was not moved obviously because your demands are too much.

Lilytrota:
[ote author=StrongandMighty post=90013098]
Since you're working take care of yourself, He's neither your father nor your husband.
It's better you change the notion that someone you're dating owes you a financial responsibility.
Sister he doesn't owe you a dime. . But he can be gbenshing her abi?

she is gbenshing him too. it takes two

Nooil:



No. Her only fault is being quiet for too long and voicing out at the wrong time. That's what happens when you don't address issues immediately. When you finally do, it's always the wrong timing. That birthday money she asked is not because she wanted the boy to go and steal. She was just trying to see if he would ever be willing to spend on her.

Look at it. All through their service year, he didn't spend a dime, rather, he comes to her house to eat. She might have thought, maybe he doesn't have the money. Let me support him to get.

This went on for a year (NYSC). After that, he refuses to get a job. Still not giving her money. Ok, job problem, which he can solve if he wanted, but bluntly refused to.

Then all of a sudden, he has money to spend buying drinks for his guys. Where did he get the money? Ok, someone gave him.

Can't he also get money from someone to appreciate his girlfriend once in a while? Let's try to have empathy abeg.

When someone invests emotionally in you, try to be appreciative no matter how little.

what makes you believe he was the one who spent for all the drinks he bought on his birthday? his friends might probably do all the bills just to support him.. So please think wisely before taking decision

What are u to judge right?

What's the meaning of this then

Lol

chigoizie7:

Go get a job and stop being a leach

She have a job.

audi alteram partem









I rest my case

Leaving the guy might do him good, perhaps he'll come to his senses when you leave but please let it be clear to him that you're leaving because he's so comfortable the way he has no income and depends on his friends.

[quote author=nairaland0753 post=90038488][/quote]
Awww. Learnt alot. This summarises the statement that says "A guy that is stingy to you doesn't love you" . Men are natural providers for the ones they love, but when they do not love you, they try hoarding things from you. Thank God your sister ended up well.

That's why I beileve that staying with a visionless and unfocused my is an egregious example of low self esteem.

Juoflife1:
Babe you have broken up with him right? Pls move on and don't look back

She should move on right
Lol

The way you guys advice yourselves like there is one rich dude there waiting never seize to amaze me...

Enter another relationship, if u are not bringing anything to the table

Nah sorry be your case

OK I think I need a guy...
By the way, no one has called me since morning, someone shld pls call me 07086034238, bored...

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

..........all I see in your write-up is the usual disgusting entitlement mentality from an average Nigeria girl........you dumped ur bf because he doesn't give u money,when did your boyfriend suddenly become ur father with the sole mandate of taking care of ur financial issues

Fool is boyfriend a Job stupid girls thinks getting a boyfriend is a job

Love is love, money is money!!!


Nobody should tell me . "Love is sweet o, if money enter love, it is sweeter"

Na big lie!!

You only like the money. Love was never sweet to you!!

You only want everything to be a 'bed of Rose'

So the issue you have on ground is how to celebrate birthday? This birthday thing have turned this generation to foolishness...

Having entitlement mentality is not good. Relationship is for both parties to build each other and not to parasite. His friends may have contributed to his birthday in one way or the other. Guys do that. Not everyone wants to teach especislly in private school. Teaching occupies ones mind,prevent you from having time to seek other opportunities and you earn peanut with insults. I don't think your guy is stingy. His priorities may be misplaced but any guy that can buy friends drinks on his birthday is not stingy. You did not give him any money or gift on his birthday ,so why do you think he owes you on your birthday. It may even be his reason for telling you he has no money to give you on your birthday.

DeFixer:


Don't ever settle with an insecure man, ever.

Newly registered user moniker
also the first post. Welcome to the LAND you have considered. Avoid trolling.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Babe how much did you send him on his birthday ? Please answer the question. I can see that you are dumping him because of your birthday. Why ladies carry birthday for head self ? Who did this thing to you people ? Now tell me, can't you do your birthday on your own with collecting a dime from a man ?
However it is good you left him at least you can find someone serious,so that the next time we hear about you is that you have gotten a new job and the wedding date has been fixed

Tirips:
OK I think I need a guy...
By the way, no one has called me since morning, someone shld pls call me 07086034238, bored...

You won't be bored when you say yes to that dude in your area asking you for a relationship. You better say yes now before the guy looks for another babe

All I see here are more comments from premature boys nd few comments from mature guys.

No matter how broke or low earner u are as a guy, eating or taking from ur spouse without doing a little in return is outright nonsense.....
girl dey use her money prepare food for u,still dey advice u about ur future,but u just sit down like wood.
as a man ,shame go catch me if my girlfriend dey feed me or not nd I nor even do small thing for her.

without one needing to tell him, he suppose dey plan for her birthday,knowing how occasions are things women take serious naturally...Women love gifts on their days,no matter how small it is.

he is earning little cash,he was able to fund his own birthday.... it would be annoying to not even do something small for u girl, only telling her u spent all ur money on ur friends.

the guy is not a man,he is not serious about u,that's the truth.

u not the type that bothers people with ur needs....
just stay off the relationship because this love is one sided.

Uzomaglovani:
Abeg let me hear word jor how can you build a stingy guy? Mtcheww it quit painful when your stick to one man and he is not taking care of you assuming she is cheating she for nor worry....... listen women only build a supportive man and pray for him to be more successful,,,,,,,,,,,,, how on earth can you pray for stingy man when you know dat when the blessings manifest he won’t share or appreciate you with

exactly, thank you