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Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

Boss13:
I want MEN to read this comment. This is what a WOMAN is writing. Pick out the deceit in this comment - Guess what, many women are like this.

Intrepid01:
But some girls don't mind sha....a young lady I've been friends with, she just graduated from Unilag. Around December/ January I told her wanted her to conceive for me and she was cool with it. infact we recently dsussed it again and she's still cool with it. I asked her if I Dad won't be angry, cos her mum is late, she said her he won't be mad at her at all. Unfortunately me I was just joking about it but the pretty babe is damn serious about it.

Hermionegranger:
The truth is that no arrangement you have with this man will end well.
1)If you agree to become his baby mum, You'll grow to hate him for putting you in that situation, your children will grow up as bastards and one day he may surprise you by getting married to someone else despite the fact that you have children for him because he might not want to tie himself to a woman that threw her self respect away to stay in a horrible situation.
2) You eventually convince him to marry you, he'll end up hating you and would turn into a monster and make life a living hell for you. He might even divorce you or just simply abandon you and move away from the house you both share.
Never convince a man to go against what he has made up his mind to do. End your relationship and cut all ties with him so you can heal properly. It will hurt unbelievably and sometimes you'll think the emotional pain would kill you or drive you to kill yourself

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.
My dear girl, a man in his 30s that wants you to be his baby mama is a very irresponsible, selfish and useless man.

My
I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

MedicH:
By corroborating a conjecture? I mean I didn't say anything neither do I belong to a low demographic clout.

Dicktion:
Feel your pain ma. Sorry but not sorry
However, it's never too late to switch lanes. From a friend

Ningen:
This is a man that doesn't want to marry you.
But you want to coerce him into it.

Are you that desperate for a ring?
A superficial deception to paddle a lie??

You talk about wanting a good home;
But here you are, ready to build one on a straw.

If you have to BEG and CONVINCE him to marry you, then surely he DOESN'T see your worth. It's all a facade; He will never be committed to you.

Your goals do not align. Find a new path.
There are men out there that'll tick your box.

bjreal67:
Why are all so many people emphasising on marriage being a thing of favour to ladies??

You are single and see different episodes in marriages even that lifestyle of some celeb and you just console yourself that marriage is a thing of favour or you won't marry. ... Check your mental, physical and spiritual health you need help

Real men who are responsible get married. Life itself has issues marriage not left out.

@confusedgirl869.. the truth is your man as watched so many episodes and has resolved to have baby mama, this you don't want to be.
A failed relationship I see my sister move on you don't need to cajole or beg him to marry you, someone somewhere will take you up and blow you mind more than your expectations.

Conquer that voice in your head telling you "you can't get a better than him elsewhere"

chris51:
My dear, a man in his 30s who wants you to be his baby is irresponsible, selfish and wicked.

Do not quarrel with him but start withdrawing from him. Let it be strictly, NO to sex again. If you are good enough for sex and not good enough for marriage, then forget him.
If you are a disciplined and we'll behaved girl, a good man will appreciate you.

No sentiments. Stop going to your boy friend's house. Give him small time to think. If he is not interested in marriage, call it quits.
Good luck

chris51:
My dear, a man in his 30s who wants you to be his baby is irresponsible, selfish and wicked.

Do not quarrel with him but start withdrawing from him. Let it be strictly, NO to sex again. If you are good enough for sex and not good enough for marriage, then forget him.
If you are a disciplined and we'll behaved girl, a good man will appreciate you.

No sentiments. Stop going to your boy friend's house. Give him small time to think. If he is not interested in marriage, call it quits.
Good luck

chris51:
My dear, a man in his 30s who wants you to be his baby mama is irresponsible, selfish and wicked.

Do not quarrel with him but start withdrawing from him. Let it be strictly, "NO" to sex again. If you are good enough for sex and not good enough for marriage, then forget him.
If you are a disciplined and we'll behaved girl, a good man will appreciate you.

No sentiments. Stop going to your boy friend's house. Give him small time to think. If he is not interested in marriage, call it quits.

He may be eyeing another girl some where. The problem of sex is that it is mistaken for affection. At 35 he is looking for a baby mama. Please run.

Good luck

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Confusedgirl869:
Hmmm bae, what about my parents? Especially mum after all the home trainings she gave, wouldn't she think I disgraced her? Being the first daughter, you know how our parents think na.

IME1:
How can ones aspirations be to be a baby mama, baby papa and irresponsible partner

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

Mayng01:
Truth is bitter, if only you would accept and execute it. Request for some rooms to breathe from him , keep that for a while like that, & make sure sex too isn’t involved anymore during the task. If truly you’re meant to be together, he will come back for you & tell you he is ready, if he does not, God has not destined you for each other. Pray to God for your man and he will surely locate you. Unleash yourself from infatuation & face reality, the fact remains from his comment, you will be used and dumped................ a word!

ekhai:
I DON'T BLAME HIM BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS A SCAM. THE ONLY LOVE STILL EXISTING TODAY IS THE LOVE OF GOD FOR HUMANITY. EVERY OTHER LOVE IS CONDITIONAL. REMOVE THAT FAVOURABLE CONDITION AND SEE HOW THAT LOVE WILL CRASH LIKE A PACK OF CARDS.

olaniyilukman:
Which love exactly are you people shouting up and down, love doesn't exist and the same thing goes for religion.. Stop being deceive with these unrealistic concept

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

SweetCunt97:
Switch which lanes exactly? Tolerate stupidity or what? Or tolerate silly perverted jokes? Which one?

SweetCunt97:
Don't go and face ur medicine.. Nde quack

Freshestboy1:
My dear I have watched a movie with this your story and what the above advice is the best suggestion ever and this is exactly what they did in the movie and she got her man back,don't fight with him but tell him you can't be a baby mama and go back to your home and continue with your life,there are several married people still happy in their home,just go back to your life,don't call him or visit him,let him miss your importance in your life,besides there are other men also waiting for you.