A friend of mine just opened up to me about her relationship. She said when she met her man, she assumed she was younger than him because he looked so big and more mature than her and he also acts mature than her.

One day, they were discussing their age and she found out she was older, so she had to lie about her age. The relationship went on and the love grew stronger, then a day came, she asked him if he can marry a lady older than him, he said 'never' she asked what if it's just one year? He still said ' never'. Then she asked him that what if he later found out that his girlfriend is older, what would he do? He said he would end the relationship.

She said she couldn't bear it any longer and so she opened up to him about her age. That she's a year older than him. She wants him to know before it's too late. After opening up to him, she was expecting him to end the relationship but he didn't. He's still coming for her, he still loves her and wants to marry her. But she's withdrawing from the relationship because of what the guy said earlier.

Please advise her. I will show her your comments

me self my Babe senior me for 3years oh. I be 27 my Babe na 30+...

Modified: Why is the lady trying to withdraw from the relationship, is she not in love with him again... Sometimes we guys, we just talk anyhow... May be the guy never meant what he said cause he was thinking he is her senior

Trayceey:
She wants him to know before it's too late. After opening up to him, she was expecting him to end the relationship but he didn't. He's still coming for her, he still loves her and wants to marry her. But she's withdrawing from the relationship because of what the guy said earlier. Please advise her. I will show her your comments

The lady should stay with him. I think the guy love her, his behavior as reverse his earlier statement and already addicted to her.

Atteraino:
me self my Babe senior me for 3years oh. I be 27 my Babe na 30+

And she didn't get worried about it
The moment mine got aware that she's older than me she just lock up saying we should just be friends I laff tire that day

ZINIBANKS:

And she didn't get worried about it
The moment mine got aware that she's older than me she just lock up saying we should just be friends

nope... She wasn't... But she never believed at first untill she saw my birth certificate, but she is not worried..

Your friend is making a mountain out of a mole hill. They've been dating and probably love each other to the extent of talking about marriage, so age doesn't change anything at this point.

Audio friend... You will show her our comments indeed... Since he has unknowingly confessed his deepest thoughts its unwise to force yourself on him even though he might try to act otherwise.. Same way you dont disregard what a man says when he is angry ...Even after the anger..

Wow!! The truth is most ladies like being younger to their partner which I'm inclusive.
I can't date a guy I'm 1 day older than him so i do understand how she feels.

As long as the guy will respect her there shouldn't be a problem bt I'm doubting because most Nigerian horseband always want to feel superior nd authoritative.

Petyprincess:
Wow!! The truth is most ladies like being younger to their partner which I'm inclusive.
I can't date a guy I'm 1 day older than him so i do understand how she feels.

As long as the guy will respect her there shouldn't be a problem bt I'm doubting because most Nigerian horseband always want to feel superior nd authoritative.

she's not worried about being older than the guy. She's worried about that statement he made

Age ain't nothing but a number, but when you grow old as a man, you will understand the advantage of marrying a younger woman.
When you become weak and frail and your wife is also weak and frail because she is older than you...how do you cope if you don't have money to hire a nanny or your kids are gone?

I am tired abeg

Trayceey:
she's not worried about being older than the guy. She's worried about that statement he made

Bt the guy already reassured her right? That should prove he's still interested in her.

When my babe asked me my age, i lied cos i already did a background check and discovered she was older than me. Why would she ask me? I thought. Age is just a number, i don't think I'm disturbed if my patner is older, i mean there is patriarchy.

Fast forward, i had to come out clean cos it was getting serious, like nigga was in love. I guess she was a bit shocked but then she's strong. She was probably disappointed, it was vivid, and i opted to feign ignorance but then she had to get over it.

Turns she's few months older than i am. Will it affect the union if we get married, i mean she is cool and accord me the usual respect. She is like the perfect wife material. Peradventure we get married, will she still be loyal and i know she has these mood swings, girl can be weird at times.

I have my fears though, cos it was a turn down for me, when she asked. How i managed to still like her baffles me. I still think it was unnecessary. I can't imagine myself asking a girl her age, i rather dig it up myself.

Lol. She's a myopic one.

There are lots of succesful couples out there with huge age difference; female being older.

Tell her to check up on Megan Markle, Brigitte Macron, Shakira, etc who cared not about age.

ZINIBANKS:

And she didn't get worried about it
The moment mine got aware that she's older than me she just lock up saying we should just be friends I laff tire that day

so did u guys end the relationship?

Let me ask Ifa and Ogun, Am coming...

IamDavids:
When my babe asked me my age, i lied cos i already did a background check and discovered she was older than me. Why would she ask me? I thought. Age is just a number, i don't think I'm disturbed if my patner is older, i mean there is patriarchy.

Fast forward, i had to come out clean cos it was getting serious, like nigga was in love. I guess she was a bit shocked but then she's strong. She was probably disappointed, it was vivid, and i opted to feign ignorance but then she had to get over it.

Turns she's few months older than i am. Will it affect the union if we get married, i mean she is cool and accord me the usual respect. She is like the perfect wife material. Peradventure we get married, will she still be loyal and i know she has these mood swings, girl can be weird at times.

I have my fears though, cos it was a turn down for me, when she asked. How i managed to still like her baffles me. I still think it was unnecessary. I can't imagine myself asking a girl her age, i rather dig it up myself.

Niggar if the difference is not too much you can continue but if it's is niggga nairamarley sang a song japaaa is the title

Trayceey:
so did u guys end the relationship?

She later started acting somehow after she knew I was a bit younger than her and she mistakenly told me she have a daughter niggar got no other choice but to just free her

Well it depends on the guy's orientation, I have met a couple of guys that dont mind dating and getting married to ladies older than them, I have a friend that I'm older than, though its a year difference, he asked me out and doesn't see anything wrong with us being together but I brushed him off 'cause I prefer older men.

I understand the awkwardness in this sha, as I have had a similar experience. In my case, the babe was even 3 years older.

Truth is, many guys would not mind dating/marrying older girls if not that many ladies don't know how to control their toungues in the heat of an argument.

Imagine having a little fight with your babe and she goes like, "I never knew you could be this childish" "stop acting immature" etc. How would you as a guy feel.

Ladies have this nasty habit of using the weakness/disadvantage of their partners against them when things go south. And even if they don't do it intentionally, they will still hurt you because whenever they are angry with their partners, they always talk before they think.

So except the babe is constantly loyal, down to earth, sensible and respectful, there are going to be issues.

Petyprincess:
Wow!! The truth is most ladies like being younger to their partner which I'm inclusive.
I can't date a guy I'm 1 day older than him so i do understand how she feels.

As long as the guy will respect her there shouldn't be a problem bt I'm doubting because most Nigerian horseband always want to feel superior nd authoritative.

You are right,most ladies prefer their man to be older cos it kinda make u feel secured and submission becomes easy.Aside that an older partner is more experienced and tolerant.

if the guy is to be her husband then she should be the one to respect him not the other way round.
The question she should be asking herself is will she be able to respect him knowing fully well she is older than him.

Aside from age does the guy have other qualities to command her respect.

lastly if quarrel burst I hope she won't start shouting I am not ur mate up nd down

Trayceey:
A friend of mine just opened up to me about her relationship. She said when she met her man, she assumed she was younger than him because he looked so big and more mature than her and he also acts mature than her. One day, they were discussing their age and she found out she was older, so she had to lie about her age. The relationship went on and the love grew stronger, then a day came , she asked him if he can marry a lady older him, he said 'never' she asked what if it's just one year? He still said ' never'. Then she asked him that what if he later found out that his girlfriend is older, what would he do? He said he would end the relationship. She said she couldn't bear it any longer and so she opened up to him about her age. That she's a year older than him. She wants him to know before it's too late. After opening up to him, she was expecting him to end the relationship but he didn't. He's still coming for her, he still loves her and wants to marry her. But she's withdrawing from the relationship because of what the guy said earlier. Please advise her. I will show her your comments

Age na jst number, na who old fr body be de matter.
Thr is ntin wrng wit dating an older lady, in fact they seem to udersatnd u mre, rathrthan all dis 1999,2000,2001, borns.

Eileene:


You are right,most ladies prefer their man to be older cos it kinda make u feel secured and submission becomes easy.Aside that an older partner is more experienced and tolerant.

if the guy is to be her husband then she should be the one to respect him not the other way round.
The question she should be asking herself is will she be able to respect him knowing fully well she is older than him.

Aside from age does the guy have other qualities to command her respect.

lastly if quarrel burst I hope she won't start shouting I am not ur mate up nd down

The bolded is bound to happen,even guys do say that not to talk of when the lady is older.

Age is just a number ... Happiness is paramount

worried for what...mine was 18yrs older and even sweeter than the young gals i previously had...would av married her bt she was already married and didnt kno from the start because she hid it from me...

No friend jor.... You are the frd

Age isn't just a number trust me, it goes a long way.

Marriage/engagement wahala.
Op I have advice for u, just take a walk, maybe u can visit beach, reflect about life, I believe u will find solution to your relationship wahala

Na age u dey marry Abi Na human being??

stupid question