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So many pained responses on this thread

Elder0001:
Lol. Who is fighting with you?

Your mentality tho...

if "fight" is all you saw in my post, then you need to get the eff-off my mentions and go seek psychiatric help.
I love you though, always running to comment on my posts.

Intresting !

smallsmall:
You said it all, with the bolded part of your post!
See ehn, l can cook more than my wife sef because l was raised cooking, by my Mum, right from when l was taller than the Stove!
And l just dont dump and mix ingredients, l have delved into the "Science of why some food taste better than others" and believe me, as good as my wife can cook, she admits that eating what l cook occassionally, makes her day!

But God forbid she says to me "If you can cook yourself, then you are not eating in this house" or l wake up and say to her "You have to add your own half to Children's Tuition".

We both have our roles in that house but th eother person can assist in your role, strictly by Choice.
I cook anytime l want to or have the time and l enjoy doing it during those times. As a DIY person, l like doing house chores (I can practically repair anything in the house, though l spoiled a few in the process, during my learning curve ) but it will really, really break the relationship if my wife ever insists l do something in the house! The operative word here is "INSISTS".

What l have come to understand is that the Women that enjoy marriage, are not necessarily th eones that have chains of degrees or earn $500,000 or have very long nails with tatoos all over their body, they are the women who know how to allow their husband take care of them, without insisting or pushing it as A DUTY.
If you love a woman/wife, you will do anything for her but how can you love a woman who has turned herself into a COMPETITOR in the family home? E nor dey work o.

Spot on. I think some wise women know this.

Palema007:
Please I want to leave Nigeria ooooo

Ibeto?

Biglittlelois:
You see all the points you mentioned, especially 6 and 7, most guys will ignore it simply becos of the need to be abroad, they don't care if those ladies make them their slave, but if this points are that of Nigerian ladies living here, especially the independent ones cos they most times have these traits, these thread would have been on page 10 by now filled with insults, look at some of the slow platinum diggers above asking where they can meet them, bunch of hypocritical leeches lol.

Na wa for you oo, there is a difference between how it’s done over there and here in Naija. Anyway I don’t intend changing your mind set

Crispels:
Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

The summary of ur write up is they want the perfect man. That’s fine. I hear u.

They want tall dark and handsome and very successful plus honest, cooks and clean. Ohh I forgot to add with a PhD too and has money like Puff daddy . That’s a nice dream or maybe fairytale, I also want to date Beyoncé(not kidding). So I guess we on thesame page. Lolz

They better make sure they fit the bill and are equally perfect cos nobody is gona work his butt out to be perfect for a nagging or unworthy gals.

Nice to see they have good and high standards bt in the real world very few people are close to perfect bt u can make each other perfect or close to what u want.

flyingpig:
Pdudd come and have your say

Hahahahaha. Wetin you want make I talk na?

smallsmall:
if "fight" is all you saw in my post, then you need to get the eff-off my mentions and go seek psychiatric help.
I love you though, [s]always running to comment on my posts[/s].

You seem to be mistaking me for another person.

Crispels:
No. That's Fehinti. She's Nigerian-American and she just graduated from GSU in Atlanta.

Okay.

People tends to love home when they left home

space booked this thread go long

Crispels: CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

Crispels:
Are you based in the US? Your comment is too general and stereotypical. Your experience with a few cannot represent the behavior of girls within the entire Nigerian community here.

I was under the impression that you were also speaking from your own 'personal experience' or are you not the one that made the above Caveat?
So, it is your own experience that is not general and stereotypical and represents the opinon of all of us?
Issokay, l 'giffup', just Negodu.

Admitwithschola:
My brother, thanks for sharing your perspective. This is strange.

you are welcome Sir

B2B5000:
There is nothing really interesting about dating Nigerian-American women. Most Nigerian-American girls are unmarried. This is because most Nigerian-American boys are not checking for them. Go to Houston, Maryland, Atlanta, and other cities. The number of unmarried Nigerian American girls could fill warehouses. The first reason is that when they are in the States they act American and most Nigerian men are looking for traditional but modern Nigerian wives. When the traditional Nigerian wife becomes western then there is no longer an incentive. Due to this reason, more and more Nigerian men are marrying white girls, successful girls of other nationalities and ethnicities. Do you know that joke in Naija that all the fine Naija girls outside Naija are in London? Well, it's not a joke. Most of the really fine Nigerian girls outside Nigeria are in the UK and Canada. There is also stiff competition from girls of other African nationalities. Most Nigerian-American girls cannot hold a candle next to Ethiopian, Somali, South African, Egyptian, and Rwandan women. These women are also well educated and very successful. Nigerian women in Nigeria are even finer than the Nigerian-American contingent. But to be fair there are a few exceptions which are far and few between.

We all know that there are a large number of Nigerian American girls who have relocated to Port Harcourt, Lagos, and Abuja. We also know that they are moving from relationship to relationship. When Naija boys get close to them they are easily demystified. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. My advice is that if she doesn't play her role or tries to give you BS about how she is not your cook slave? Get rid of her and replace her with someone who plays her position better. Please look below at their competition. These are women who like Nigerian boys.

Damn,the second girl is so fine. She is totally my specs.

I need to see what other African ladies are like. Only dated a cameroonian before. These Rwandan and Ethiopian chicks are good looking.

no mind them. story story. all naija girls regardless of where they are secondly nationalized too na hungry bastards with entitlement mentality

even if they have money them must chop your own

E dey run for our blood ni for them to be leeches

blame it on One of our Ribs that was removed to create that Gender.

If i was Adam i would have told God to not worry about my lonliness that i prefer to be alone and to dey do my SOAPY for garden of eden jejely

Freestainworld:
how about Nigerian-Pakistani girls?

Crispels:
Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

You forgot the most important part:


Majority of them are ugly and you know successful Nigerian guys prefer them sweet sixteen, sexy chicks with flat tummy like rope, straight full legs and big ass like Dangote trailer and moderate standing boobs to augument



The only thing a successful Nigerian guy need from a girl is her physical beauty, sexiness and some brains in case him give her belle make she no born dumebi

Just as every family in Nigeria is unique, Nigerian families in the United state also prioritize different values. I've met humble, down to earth Nigerian american girls, and have seen proud and snobbish ones. Some are just like any Nigerian girl, and some are very American.

If you want to date a Nigerian American girl, forget all your assumptions/generalizations and do it with an open mind, cos it all depends on the individual.

Freestainworld:
how about Nigerian-Pakistani girls?

I am creating a thread for Nigerian-Burma girls, they are Nigerian girls whose great grandfathers and fathers went to Burma war but couldn't return back to Nigeria after the Burma war, so they nationalised in Burma. My thread will help Nigerian guys intending to push drugs towards Burma who also want to date their Nigerian-Burma sisters

Ramos16:
You have not brains, your obsessions on how to control women is the sole reason for this article, it is rettarded and dumb

Is cooking for a man control? Jeez na wa for us oo forming woke. The Latinos and Indians still cook for their families even the Americans cook for their families so why the F would it be a bad thing for a Naija gal to cook for your family. If my wife works longer hours than me then when I come back I can cook for her( to make time for family discussion and night play)and the children( because I can’t allow my children to starve)but insisting that I should do the cooking no way for me.

omoyankee3:
Just as every family in Nigeria is unique, Nigerian families in the United state also prioritize different values. I've met humble, down to earth Nigerian american girls, and have seen proud and snobbish ones. Some are just like any Nigerian girl, and some are very American.

If you want to date a Nigerian American girl, forget all your assumptions/generalizations and do it with an open mind, cos it all depends on the individual.

if not for papers and citizenship, no Nigerian guy would want to marry them.


All the guys daydreaming to marry an American or Canadian girl, na poverty de cause am, no be clear eye....it's all for survival, you all know it that if you become financially successful, u will stop seeing any class of ladies as special but only see them based on how sweet and enticing they appeal to your JT


In fact if things were okay in Nigeria, no Nigerian guy would want to marry outside his village, na condition bend crayfish

SavageBoy:
Oga just keep quiet

Sense is a kilometer away from your brain

You had better master the difference between "no" and "not" before you come here and be insulting yourself

Lol, look at this ode, what do you know about spelling, park well before trailer jam you, dimwit

Samiah33:
Is cooking for a man control? Jeez na wa for us oo forming woke. The Latinos and Indians still cook for their families even the Americans cook for their families so why the F would it be a bad thing for a Naija gal to cook for your family. If my wife works longer hours than me then when I come back I can cook for her( to make time for family discussion and night play)and the children( because I can’t allow my children to starve)but insisting that I should do the cooking no way for me.

.

Oh please spare me that bullshit and self righteousness

Crispels:
Below is a video of three Nigerian-American girls’ virtual date with Falz some days ago.


https://www.instagram.com/tv/CB1VUV1AfFC/?igshid=owzr0qmv5au5

And now the price of beans.. Is.....

Freestainworld:
how about Nigerian-Pakistani girls?

I haven't laughed this hard to a Nairaland comment in a long time!

I gree you FreeStainWorld!

madridsta007:
LOL.

I get many invites for dates and lunch and all that when I’m there for visits.
The OP is true. They are super ambitious, independent driven, quite rich and, in all cases I’ve seen, desperately want to settle down. I remember going for a wedding— I was still in the second year of my PhD— and this man, having realised that I was from his region in Nigeria, tried “selling” his daughters to me. Beautiful, exciting prospects.

But it was very clear. None of them would actually act as a “wife” when married. They had all the tendencies of bossing one, instructing and leading the man in the marriage.
And you can’t blame them. They need the marriage because, they really believe it is the “cool”’thing to do.
But they are not ready for what, Biblically and traditionally speaking, constitutes a “wife”.

OP stop whitewashing them and tell your readers the good and challenging aspects of these our lovely sisters.

What happened to nigerian American men.....
Or those ones no dey marry or na white women den dey follow....
At least the nigerian british girls marry their male colleagues very well here in uk...
Even though their own craze no be for here....

SIRTee15:
What happened to nigerian American men.....
Or those ones no dey marry or na white women den dey follow....
At least the nigerian british girls marry their male colleagues very well here in uk...
Even though their own craze no be for here....

The Nigerian American men generally do not look at their Nigerian-American female counterparts for the said reason.

An example: A white/Latino woman will generally make the effort to cook... An African non-Nigerian would do the same thing. Our Nigerian-American beautiful lady wouldn’t generally do so.

The craze of Nigerian-British girls no be here. It’s no longer a London thing. Same craze in Birmingham, Leicester, etc, in those girls. I respect their choices, believe me. But when they expect their fellow Nigerian males to become Westernised in what are trado-ideals to the males, this is where I have a problem.

U go fear profile na.

Crispels:
By birth and heritage, Okonjo Iweala’s children fit the description of a Nigerian-American. Below are their profiles. Typical of my point on ”ambition and success”

GeneralPula:
Radarada

Thank you abeg. Very yeye post. Wetin concern us with Nigeria-American girls and their standards. I feel the op is sponsored to hype these girls.
Let him talk about Nigerian-America guys na

humilitypays:
You forgot the most important part:


Majority of them are ugly and you know successful Nigerian guys prefer them sweet sixteen, sexy chicks with flat tummy like rope, straight full legs and big ass like Dangote trailer and moderate standing boobs to augument



The only thing a successful Nigerian guy need from a girl is her physical beauty, sexiness and some brains in case him give her belle make she no born dumebi

You are wrong. The majority of them are not ugly. In fact, most of them look beautiful.

Dicktion:
These naija folks are way too obsessed with America that it makes one wonder if there's no better place

Over obsessed my brother, our people go rest now as Trump don ban Nigeria

cray91:
no mind them. story story. all naija girls regardless of where they are secondly nationalized too na hungry bastards with entitlement mentality

even if they have money them must chop your own

E dey run for our blood ni for them to be leeches

blame it on One of our Ribs that was removed to create that Gender.

If i was Adam i would have told God to not worry about my lonliness that i prefer to be alone and to dey do my SOAPY for garden of eden jejely

Most Nigerian-American girls are not leeches. They don't even want you to pay for their food or drinks when they hang out with you.