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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by baralatie(m): 11:15pm On Jul 02, 2020
WeddingWebsite:
A source of Income is important
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by nanauju(f): 11:20pm On Jul 02, 2020
Why would a man with no source of income, no matter how little think of marriage. Do y'all think marriage is a joke or what
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Alaga2222(m): 11:21pm On Jul 02, 2020
sexylassie2:
don't to listen to garbage. Dating is different from marriage.

A man without job that wants to marry is a foolish man and the religious books say we shouldn't associate ourselves with a foolish man.

Stop saying nonsense. Are you high? Geerrraarraahhiiaaa

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by toprealman: 11:22pm On Jul 02, 2020
Wait let them free Hushpuppy and Woodberry......I guess they are 'gainfully employed"
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by oluwasegun007(m): 11:28pm On Jul 02, 2020
Just watch as the love go sour like 7 days egusi soup
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by shiwex: 11:29pm On Jul 02, 2020
Nope......same way a man should not marry a lady without job.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Toks2008(m): 11:33pm On Jul 02, 2020
mofedamijo:
It depends alot on the couple, Mike bamiloye was jobless when he git married, today he owns a tv station and produces movies overseas, C.E.O Cosharis was so joblessly broke that he couldn't get a clothe for his wedding, today he owns one of the biggest car dealership in Nigeria, most of this billionaire today had nothing when the got married. Some Nigerian guys in U.S today were not working, their fiancé took them to the U.S and today they are medical doctors. It just depends on the couples and their savings. Some guys are not working, but they have managed to save $18,000, Some are working and the amount in the account no pass $2,000. Its good for a man to be working before marriage, however, its better if he has a good savings in the account and doing side hustles before main job comes.

I saw a nigerian guy on Upwork who earned over $70,000 in the last 5 years as a freelancer, he might not be working at the moment, but i want to believe any reasonable guy in his position would have saved at least $25,000. Even though he might not have a client for 7months, he his still better off with the guy who works 9-5 and earns 200k naira monthly. May God help the MEN and bless their supporting strikers, the woman.


insightful.
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Nobody: 11:39pm On Jul 02, 2020
Egbon Toks, una welldone o

A lady should rather marry someone with potential...else na suffer

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Nobody: 11:50pm On Jul 02, 2020
Airforce1:
This thread isn't for me

Lol I like that
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Sharatan(m): 11:53pm On Jul 02, 2020
Toks2008:
Well, the simple answer anybody will give is a resounding NO....but should a man marry a lady who has no job?... I guess that is a norm but wait for this...what if a lady marries a man with a job and then the man losses the job afterward?...will she leave him?.... Now you thinking...

Don't get it twisted...it makes no sense for any man to go into marriage without a job or a means of livelihood especially when a man’s potential is harder to see than the number of commas on his bank statement forgetting the fact that wealth acquisition is progressive, a continuum aided by hard work and determination...

I strongly believe that the reason why there is so much emphasis on a man's financial status as a criterion for marital suitability is because of the financial dependence mindset of many ladies on their men. In my opinion, when it comes to making money, there is no weaker sex hence I see nothing wrong with a lady who has a job or means of livelihood getting married to her man even if he has no job at that point in time...Job will always come and there is no guaranty that the one who has a job won't lose it.

A lady who finds it cool dating a man that has no job and happily performs wifely duties for him should not have issues with marrying the same man? Simply have a low key wedding and work hard together with him to build finances before making babies rather than allow yourself to be used as an intimacy gadget by the ''jobless guy''.

Ladies have equal opportunity to be financially independent just as the men and every lady must strive to be financially independent so that she can be with any man of her choice rather than marry a man simply because he is financially capable and also avoid using a job which can be there today and be gone tomorrow or financial status which is subject to change as a yardstick to being with any man.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by tiswell(m): 11:55pm On Jul 02, 2020
Ahmed0336:
Odikwa very riskyyyyyy.

I doubt any reasonable jobless guy will want to get himself into such mess!!! My question be say how dia pen*s dey take erect knowing fully well knowing that they are jobless?
na their pen*s dey erect pass sad
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by ravensckar(m): 12:15am On Jul 03, 2020
I think we're missing the point here!

The OP is technically asking why is it wrong for a jobless man to contemplate marriage but not a big deal for a jobless lady to do so? Why the double standard?

As far as I'm concerned, the first sign of a lady who is ready to marry is having a good job.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by benji93: 12:17am On Jul 03, 2020
Generally, when it comes to making money women and men are not at the same level, not for lack of ability, but lack of opportunities. You should understand them when they prefer men with some financial security. Men have more opportunities available to them. Some of the women owe their successes to their beauty and shape, once someone with better shape comes into the picture they may fall down the pecking order. Their access to financial wealth is not as secure or open as that of men. Besides for most relationships where the woman is joyful grin and the man is jobless, men usually become insecure. There's no way a jobless man will not think the lady is taking it somewhere. grin. Some may say, there are marriages in which the ladies are far more successful than the mean. True, but how many can you find in a given sample. And personally I would not advise a woman to marry a jobless man. she can try a relationship with a Jobless man, but marriage, emphatic No.
Toks2008:
Well, the simple answer anybody will give is a resounding NO....but should a man marry a lady who has no job?... I guess that is a norm but wait for this...what if a lady marries a man with a job and then the man losses the job afterward?...will she leave him?.... Now you thinking...

Don't get it twisted...it makes no sense for any man to go into marriage without a job or a means of livelihood especially when a man’s potential is harder to see than the number of commas on his bank statement forgetting the fact that wealth acquisition is progressive, a continuum aided by hard work and determination...

I strongly believe that the reason why there is so much emphasis on a man's financial status as a criterion for marital suitability is because of the financial dependence mindset of many ladies on their men. In my opinion, when it comes to making money, there is no weaker sex hence I see nothing wrong with a lady who has a job or means of livelihood getting married to her man even if he has no job at that point in time...Job will always come and there is no guaranty that the one who has a job won't lose it.

A lady who finds it cool dating a man that has no job and happily performs wifely duties for him should not have issues with marrying the same man? Simply have a low key wedding and work hard together with him to build finances before making babies rather than allow yourself to be used as an intimacy gadget by the ''jobless guy''.

Ladies have equal opportunity to be financially independent just as the men and every lady must strive to be financially independent so that she can be with any man of her choice rather than marry a man simply because he is financially capable and also avoid using a job which can be there today and be gone tomorrow or financial status which is subject to change as a yardstick to being with any man.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by gwama: 12:28am On Jul 03, 2020
Yes, why not??
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Yankee101: 12:29am On Jul 03, 2020
Why?

She loves suffering or what?
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Nobody: 12:29am On Jul 03, 2020
How many time will they ask this question. I haf taya for this question.
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by JaffyJoe(m): 12:31am On Jul 03, 2020
I'm not going to blame any choice anyone makes on this matter. For me though, I became jobless after horrid experiences with two companies. Basically went back to square one. Dusted myself up and channeled energy to earning online. I don't have a white or blue collar 9-5 right now, yet, I make triple of what I earned in my previous work places today. I don't even leave my house doing these things.

Some married brothers in the neighborhood be like "eeya God go do am", unknown to them that I have more savings and assets than they currently do. I say that to say this, financial freedom isn't about having a 9-5. Dame DASH 101.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by femalecobra: 12:37am On Jul 03, 2020
If you are strongly led and even at that he should have something doing giving him small change to buy airtime at least for example. God could be instructing you directly to marry a jobless man sometimes because he sees the future. He may be the one to love you well and give you peace because you loved him when he was nothing in addition, You may be the one that would set him up as per give him capital and he would grow the largest business estate and make money that you could never have in your life. The important thing is that you have to be led to take such move of faith.
It’s also possible he hammers big time and one company calls him. after the marriage.
So for a jobless man, you would be marrying his PATTERN with faith not what you see at the moment. By pattern I mean, is he hardworking, does he have strong drive to achieve a certain calling and it’s Just condition that make crayfish bend for inside water OR is he the lazy type waiting for miracle.
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by chigoizie7(m): 1:18am On Jul 03, 2020
The question should be, should a lady without a job be talking about marriage?

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by mercyson(m): 1:26am On Jul 03, 2020
sincerely, without mincing words, YES. Two cannot walk together unless they agree. Another note here is, the man may be incapacitated to do certain things due to his jobless state

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Happyguy201: 1:37am On Jul 03, 2020
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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by chocboi78(m): 1:44am On Jul 03, 2020
What will they be eating?
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by olmoRoc: 1:48am On Jul 03, 2020
NO!
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by lighternote: 2:29am On Jul 03, 2020
Then once the wife is pregnant with pregnancy doldrums, you'll read on Facebook, "man killed pregnant laxy wife who doubles as feminist" shocked

Men are egoistic and no rational thinking man should venture into marriage without any source of income. The psychological impact could be devastating except for naturally lazy ones.
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by abdullkabar(m): 2:53am On Jul 03, 2020
angry angry
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by jaxxy(m): 3:14am On Jul 03, 2020
Biglittlelois:
You like to dish out unnecessary banters waiting for war of words from both genders, then sit on the fence, watching and smiling as it happens, without choosing a side or a clear cut message.

Are you trying to say that it is better for a lady to marry a jobless man because he can get a job later, than marrying a man with a job who can also become jobless later?

Are you also trying to insinuate that marrying a jobless man who can also have a job later, can't also loose the same job

I think what he’s trying to say or insinuate as u call it is marry a man for more than just because he has a job or the type of job he does. Why? Cos a lady isn’t ment to be 100% dependent on a guy, bf or husband.

A lady can and shud have a job too. So if the man suddenly has none she can stand as a support she was supposed and ment to be and not a total dependent. So he has a point.

However a man without a job shud not be getting married right then cos the 1st responsibility is on him and the woman supports which is also important and good and irrespective of who is richer of the two.

Toks2008
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Nobody: 3:22am On Jul 03, 2020
sexylassie2:


Who marries who in our culture?

the man or the woman?
Oh feminism does not exist in that area. Ok

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by louiziana(m): 3:59am On Jul 03, 2020
Well, I won't call anybody myopic here and I don't encourage laziness but we should be more flexible while thinking. I personally know someone who learned trade in Onitsha and moved to Lagos when he was around 21, his highest qualification was SSCE. Business was not going well as expected so this same guy gambles playing whot and bet9ja, even asking me for a small loan to stake sometimes. One evening while drinking beer at a bar after bet9ja winning, he met a chubby lady at their shawarma spot and offered to pay for hers. She just smiled and said okay, my guy asked for her number and she did not give it to him but asked for his number instead, he thought he had lost as usual.
His phone rang after midnight but to cut the story short, the lady just visited from America and she is a citizen, teaches primary school children in the U.S and holds a masters degree. She knows the financial capacity of my friend but decided to help him. She sent him a car within 6 months worth 2.5m after leaving for the U.S, came back to Nigeria some months later and sponsored their traditional wedding, bought him gold, nice clothes and stuffs.
Today my guy is in Philadelphia working with the help of this same woman, they now have a son, my guy is talking about millions of naira now and still an SSCE holder. This woman spent her first 16 years in Nigeria before moving to yankee. Now imagine if she had the same mentality as a typical naija woman...Male or female, anyone can help or support each other, stop being selfish if you have the power and means to help someone. How many naija women with MSc fit marry SSCE holder for here? Most would say he is not in their social class.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Maobichek: 4:17am On Jul 03, 2020
Biglittlelois:



I'm trying to understand how my energy is your problem.
. War have started already oh!
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Maobichek: 4:18am On Jul 03, 2020
RedPhoenix:


It's yours. What's mine with your misfortune
. Please calm down ok.
Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Maobichek: 4:23am On Jul 03, 2020
MrBrownJay1:
only a fool would marry a jobless man/woman...
. Why would you say a jobless woman cos our society don't frown at such; the society we found ourselves is ok with jobless women when it comes to marriage but no, no, no to a jobless man and ones you marry a woman, she becomes your responsibility, thank you.

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Re: Should A Lady Marry A Man With No Job? by Maobichek: 4:28am On Jul 03, 2020
Toks2008:
Lalasticlala what is your take?
. Thank you for this thread, I want to have one-on-one chat with you, my mail is maobichek@yahoo.com.

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