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| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by baby124: 4:35am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Smh... keep deceiving yourself. Your mum is a young woman with blood flowing freely in her veins. Trust me, she has boyfriend keeping her very young and agile. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Nobody: 4:42am On Jul 05, 2020*. Modified: 11:00am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:When i saw the headline, I thought i was going to read something serious. OP abeg grow up. Your girlfriend didn't do anything wrong , it's just a matter of care she has for your mum. And with her words, it shows she cares so much about her. She had adviced, but the final decision is left for you mum to take , not you. On the other hand , I feel a sense of selfishness being exhibited by you. You don't want to share your mum with another person. You don't want to withstand the feeling that another man is sleeping with your mum, obviously it doesn't go down well with you(not minding if that brings her happiness). To prove your selfishness, view it from this angle, if your dad were alive and he's 52 years while your mum is late (God forbid) , do you think your dad will remain single forever ? Or if you were at her age and your wife is late, will you agree to remain single forever? Bros abeg grow up, let's us not begin to pick on women unnecessarily. Note that the reason your mum could decide to remain single could be based on so many factors which could not just be only about your dad. When women are in their menopause, their sexual drive reduces . Before you nail yourgirlfrinds , put yourself in your mum's shoe as a man, if you yourself can remain single for life at that age |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Sixfeetbelle: 4:43am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Kenstufez:Can you stay by yourself for five years without having contact with another human being? Do you think marriage for people in that age group is about sex? What they need is companionship, someone in their age group they can discuss Fela and Nigerias independence and biafran war and all that history with. Their children won't understand most of these things the way someone in their age group will. Using my mom as an example, she tells us stuff about her childhood but we relate to only half of it. However when she's with my dad or her sisters (who only visit at christmas) she can even forget we exist, just to tell you how connected they feel. My sisters and I used to joke that we can go missing when she's gisting with them and she won't notice, just to tell you how companionship goes a long way. I'm certain once we leave that house for our individual homes; and peradventure my dad is gone, she'll feel lonely. It happens to everyone eventually. So stop thinking remarring is all about sex. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by ReeLoaDead(m): 4:47am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Romanoff:Eya, sorry to hear that dear. I would have offered myself but then things could get a little awkward when we run into each other on NL. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Sixfeetbelle: 4:56am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:Till death do us part is all the conviction you need to know what to do with her suggestion or not. Unless your parents didn't marry with that vow. Asides, forget religious people in this scenario as most of them are hypocrites and that's why they're loosing relevance in the society today. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by unmask: 5:02am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:unfortunately you are about to graduate and your reasoning is still below par. Your mother remarrying at that age is so that she doesn't get lonely if she doesn't like the idea then good. And next time stop linking everything to sex.....life is way deeper than that And like people will say "you go learn" |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Chigold101(m): 5:14am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:marriage officially ends when one of the partners dies. What if it were be your mom that died, would your Dad still be single the mourning her till now? Your girl friend made a valid point, your mom is still young enough to remarry or would you want her to have a FEB? If you loss your wife, won't you remarry at 52…? |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by lordswill03: 5:14am On Jul 05, 2020 |
This one is thinking ahead of his brain. Who told you you'd be the one to die first I'd you marry her. What about you, would you not remarry she does first? |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Omojudy: 5:16am On Jul 05, 2020 |
eRex:If I were not married and met you, I would have married you! |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Carter4luv(m): 5:19am On Jul 05, 2020 |
this is wat d the bible said. 1 Corinthians 7:39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Kobicove(m): 5:19am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:It's obvious you're still a child. There is nothing wrong with the suggestion your girlfriend made. Any marriage contract automatically ends once one of the partner dies. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by KosiGee(m): 5:21am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Authoreety:It’s the girl’s opinion and how she sees the world. I didn’t think that the op should worry too much about that or feel too sensitive about this. That’s why they are dating, he has all the opportunity in the world to know what’s best for him and if both of them could live together as couple. If he feels offended by what the girl friend suggested or the thoughts that comes out of her, maybe this is a handwriting on the wall signalling him to move on with his life. I think that the girl was being thoughtful and worrying about the guy’ mum being lonely and all by herself. Could be the way she’s being orientated. I’d feel slighted too but I wouldn’t feel paranoid about that. It’s being 5 years since the woman lost her husband. In most of our cultures and tradition...depending on what part of the country that you are from, women remarrying is frowned upon and almost a taboo but it’s not the same with women. The mum’s response might be due her upbringing, beliefs or her enduring love and respect for the man that she has lost. Maybe she wouldn’t feel the same for any other man or even think about it. As for the op or most of the people criticising the girl, would they say the same thing if it was the other way round? Would the op feel slighted if the girl friend had asked him to advice the dad to remarry if the dad was still alive? For the op as well, would he think of remarrying and getting a new wife if God forbid it he lost his wife abs stayed alone for 5 years? Let’s be honest. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by owillowill: 5:28am On Jul 05, 2020 |
are you looking for an excuse to send your girlfriend away??¿??
abet stop assuming nonsense.
she's just showing concern in a way she can.
nothing more |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by emerged01(m): 5:30am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Your girlfriend has not said anything wrong,it was only an opinion, it is your mum’s choice to remarry or stay alone. I also think your girlfriend believe your mum loneliness may affect your relationship or marriage in future as your mum may see your home her home which makes most wives disagree with their mother in law. Your mum loneliness may put fear in any lady you may want to have relationship with. it is not now left for you as a wise man to take decision that will not only Favour your mother when you are finally married. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by nkwuocha1: 5:32am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Isobug:You be mumu proper ![]() I'm sure you don't clearly understand the version you're reading.Open your Bible from the beginning of the chapter,Donkey! |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by hermesprogidy(m): 5:33am On Jul 05, 2020 |
I totally understand your sentiment, no one wants to imagine their mum receiving cane, especially male children. What did you expect your mom to say? for all you know, your mum is receiving some nice dick somewhere. At 52 your mom is still young, in fact some women's libido peaks at this age. Your girlfriend is making sense, and if you stop dating her solely because of this inane reason, then she probably dodged a bullet. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by sunnyp20(m): 5:34am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Honestly way more matured Romanoff: |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by oshorstan(m): 5:37am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Well, the OP is very immature. Your gf is such a sweet girl who cares about the companionship of your mother. she only offered a way not. That is a proof that she loves your mum. It is not a must to remarry. I have seen young and old widows who have swore not to touch any man n they're disciplined about it. that's a typical Eagle like behavior. My Late Cousin (50) years didn't remarry after her late husband died 23 years ago. Forgive her pls |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by KenModi(m): 5:38am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:Marriage is more about companionship than sex. At that age, sex would be the last thing on your mind but loneliness knows no age. And we both know what loneliness can lead to and what follows after that. Grand children can never fill the void of a partner’s companionship. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by sunnyp20(m): 5:39am On Jul 05, 2020 |
God bless you. Honestly I am really surprised at some people's comments here. The lady is really a very wise young woman who is dating a complete child eRex: |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by toprealman: 5:40am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Ningen:nice thoughts......just to add that it is also ok if the 52 yr old decides to stay on her own. Life is all about the choice we make. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by KenModi(m): 5:41am On Jul 05, 2020 |
graciousolo:That lady definitely dodged a bullet; the guy is more naive than realistic. Men are polygamous in nature my a$$. What a lazy, dry excuse. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by illicit(m): 5:43am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Everyone can't be like your mum |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by jamesbridget13(f): 5:46am On Jul 05, 2020 |
So with this ur gf na bad person! Oh pks, stop all these. If u don't like d babe again just tell her, period! When has remarrying after d demise of a spouse an offense? No matter d age, u re free pls Women don suffer sha. All forms of excuse |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by fareed69(m): 5:47am On Jul 05, 2020 |
chinchonglee:God bless you. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by fyneboi79(m): 5:53am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:free the girl please, she's only concerned for the long run . |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by AdamEleanya: 5:55am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:This is a really dumb And sexist post. If it was your dad she said this about. You won’t even mention it. Your girlfriend is a good person for her to be thinking about your moms loneliness. Besides if she doesn’t try she’ll be all over your household trying to run things and don’t say your mom ain’t like that. 5yrs is enough time to mourn someone anything more than that . You need to get your mentality checked |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by definateli: 6:00am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Misogynistic, myopic |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by vasco01(m): 6:02am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Bro your girlfriend is running from your mama wahala after your marry her She no want make your mama no come disturb her matrimonial home with casala oooooo That's why she suggested that your mama remarry At least e go make your mama concentrate on her own house than coming to cause trouble for another Wife house My bro your girlfriend wise die She know the implecation of mother's in-law especially if you are one of those mummy's boy toh
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| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by retake89(m): 6:03am On Jul 05, 2020 |
Mvici:You think with your anus |
| Re: My Girlfriend Asked Me To Tell My Mum To Remarry & I Have Lost Confidence In Her by Nobody: 6:08am On Jul 05, 2020 |
[quote author=WaywardSon post=91269558]You should be enraged but not for the useless reason you posted, if ya dead sod off! IDC but its plain disrespectful to me js. Ima lose my shiiiit if someone says something like that IMO. Idk how close you guys are tho[/quote Learn to write correctly and politely. What is IDC, Ima, Idk, IMO? |
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