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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by fyneboi79(m): 1:07pm On Jul 16, 2020
jawalis:
I’ll say Yes. Fvck the b!tch after a while and dispose her. Mission accomplished
Same I will do.
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by OvaSabi1(f): 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2020
The best way to answer a tough and intimidating question is by answering with another question. First of all, acknowledge that you find that question interesting. Add that the question is making you see her in a different but interesting light. At this stage, she is wondering if she has mis-yarned. Be cool and calm. Tell her that it is the duty of partners to take care of each other but that the term means different things to different people. Then proceed to ask her what that term means to her and ask her for examples so that you can understand her worldview... and watch her stammer and rephrase until she tells you exactly what you want to hear.


By approaching the question this way, you are showing that you are a man capable of introspection and critical reasoning and this is an asset to any woman especially those who are hypergamous.


She may tell you that she wants a man who will take her shopping and buy her recharge cards and also pay the school fees of her younger siblings. Don't lose your cool. Tell her that it is the responsibility of a man to make sacrifices for a woman of value, who continuously inspires him to be his most confident, masculine self. And that you are ready to do this for any woman who you find to have this value. Make sure that you are all these things you claim you are, and not just bluffing oh. At this point, a sensible woman will start asking herself if she has the value that will make you take care of her. Some of us women are merely crafty. You have to be prepared for questions in advance.

After you have repaid her mind games to her, you need to withdraw and wait for her to come on to you again. Stop pursing at this stage but remain casual and in touch. As soon as she comes back to you, then pursue asking her out. I am a female and giving this advice for free because I been nor dey like to see as my naija brothers dey struggle.

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lucrativress(f): 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2020
Minemrys:

i disagree. Relati0nship is about respect. And a lady asking that questi0n 0n a first date, shows she doesn't respect you.
This isn't a matter of respect na kinide
Kilagbe kileju cry
This is a simple situation of being overly blunt
With tactical reasoning,he can answer it wisely
Instead of interpreting all sort of mannerisms to it,let him first think before he answers or ask the same question na.
Ewo tu ni respect nibe nsi?
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2020
LordReed:
Over generalization. When I was going out with my then girlfriend, she asked me this question and I gave an honest answer. Today that girlfriend is my very hardworking beautiful wife.

bro may i ask what is the honest answer you gave her?

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by lisa286: 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2020
XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?


I detest selfish people male or female...
But I've noticed that men are becoming greedy... Once they see a lady with means they start coining executive ways to beg... Annoying...

Money is important... Both parties should have means of income. Whatever gifts given by the male or female should be done in love and selflessly....

It's wrong to go into a relationship with financial motives...

But that doesn't mean you should roll with a broke ass or a financially irresponsible partner... Your partner(male/female) should be able to assist you out of a fix... When life hits you, you would wish you had someone who can take care of you (male or female)...

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Psoul(m): 1:08pm On Jul 16, 2020
If you want a good advice, never you seek it from a social media.

All these men saying they won't take the sh!t....I will leave her and so on, if you see what they do in real l;ife about women, you will be shocked more than Buhari.
This is why serious relationships are meant for only matured people. Though boys and girls have abused it.

When you are in a relationship with matured people, you wil not experience all these poo.

When you, as a responsible man meet a responsible lady and want a responsible relationship, I don't think such a question will arise.
When you meet a girl and probably want these boyfriend/girlfriend thing, I don't think she will be wrong to ask you if you can take care of her. Two of you are in a business. You want her kpekus and she need to be sure you can afford it. So what is the problem there if she try to inquire if you are capable of shouldering the responsibility or do you want it for free.

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Tunagee(m): 1:10pm On Jul 16, 2020
She doesn't have to ask that question before I let her go;once I notice she is very materialistic, and wants to have everything at all costs, then she would be shown the way out.

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lajet: 1:10pm On Jul 16, 2020
One stupid girl i was planning to take serious as my girlfriend on our first date she told me that she hate stingy guys. I pretended as if I don't heard what she said. I fucke*d her like 3 times and discharge her.

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by BigBizzy(m): 1:10pm On Jul 16, 2020
Nah mehn...I don't get angry with them...I simply put them in the fu*k category and explore
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by eneye1(m): 1:11pm On Jul 16, 2020
You will ask her,
Can you cook for me even if I ask you this cool in the middle of the night?
Can have sex with me any day any night?
Can you wash my boxers and clothes?
Can you be loyal and faithful to me 100%?
If she can answer very well and you are OK
Then continue
No be only woman need care ,men self need am

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by cloud(m): 1:11pm On Jul 16, 2020
blinkz4real:
"Can u take care of me" is not always what ur small mind is telling u she is thinking. She could mean can u be my support system, can I really share my thots n feelings 2 u n u won't tk me 4granted or tk advantage of me, can I confide in u, can u be a person who can advise her on d right path 2 success. How abt that?

Don't always think its ur money she is after bros, have respect 4 women pls n if others do it don't assume all of dem re like that.

Moreover u re the man are u not suppose 2 take care of ur woman? Anyway sha its for matured n responsible men 2 undstnd but pls try 2 reason things positively n u ll c women respect n adore u.
This is super story

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lucrativress(f): 1:11pm On Jul 16, 2020
lexy2014:


What do u mean by "morales of the lady in question"? What is there to be deciphered in "can you take care of me"?
The guy that went to meet a Slay Mama would surely know who he is going for before asking that question
A guy that went to meet a serious minded successful Lady or at least progressive Lady would also know before he goes to ask
So tell me,already knowing these two qualities and the same question comes from these two Ladies, se he'll just jump all at once and say ah no o,fine the question doesn't denote care or thoughtfulness of the man's feelings but it can still be asked.
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by hinere(m): 1:12pm On Jul 16, 2020
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Do you know of its a thing?

Are Nigerians open to the thought?

Well read more about surrogacy here

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by plessis: 1:13pm On Jul 16, 2020
Depends on the qualities of the woman.

If she's got every virtue, characteristics my ideal woman should possess, I'll double-take care of her.

But if na one materialistic, entitled woman wey use weavon cover her empty head, I go ask am if her father wey suppose take care of am, don die.
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by mcdokwe(m): 1:13pm On Jul 16, 2020
Gentle0wavez:


I wish I can like this a hundred times.
simple, create a hundred accounts

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Erickymania: 1:13pm On Jul 16, 2020
blinkz4real:
"Can u take care of me" is not always what ur small mind is telling u she is thinking. She could mean can u be my support system, can I really share my thots n feelings 2 u n u won't tk me 4granted or tk advantage of me, can I confide in u, can u be a person who can advise her on d right path 2 success. How abt that?

Don't always think its ur money she is after bros, have respect 4 women pls n if others do it don't assume all of dem re like that.

Moreover u re the man are u not suppose 2 take care of ur woman? Anyway sha its for matured n responsible men 2 undstnd but pls try 2 reason things positively n u ll c women respect n adore u.
Why are u twisting d issue wit 'could be'?
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by lisa286: 1:13pm On Jul 16, 2020
Lajet:
One stupid girl i was planning to take serious as my girlfriend on our first date she told me that she hate stingy guys. I pretended as if I don't heard what she said. I fucke*d her like 3 times and discharge her.

To what end?

Do you like stingy ladies?
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lucrativress(f): 1:14pm On Jul 16, 2020
eneye1:
You will ask her,
Can you cook for me even if I ask you this cool in the middle of the night?
Can have sex with me any day any night?
Can you wash my boxers and clothes?
Can you be loyal and faithful to me 100%?
If she can answer very well and you are OK
Then continue
No be only woman need care ,men self need am

If she says yes but only after we're married,but don't worry I'm not interested in your money,I'm doing fine for myself.I just want to be sure you're responsibly capable without having to waste my time

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by calebonuja: 1:14pm On Jul 16, 2020
galaxy2020:
Is very wrong for a lady to ask a man such question , when you are not her father.

Laughing
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by ire803386: 1:14pm On Jul 16, 2020
She should change it to will you take care of me
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jul 16, 2020
If any woman has a reason to ask you this question then know these 3 things

1: She is a desperate hoe AVOID AT ALL COST

2: She is the provider among her siblings in the family - that one person who hustles hard for everyone because that is her nature (they are usually under pressure for someone else to carry that burden) AVOID AT ALL COST. Large Poor Nigerian Families like to victimize the one family member who decides to bring bread to the table for everyone.

3: You have poor taste in women or you are a sugar-boy who looks for other women to depend on. LIKE ATTRACT LIKE

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by vickydevoka(m): 1:15pm On Jul 16, 2020
XshegzzyeeiX:
Good morning. Romancelanders.
Welcome to midweek.

So I'm of the opinion that in a relationship, a man and a woman ought to care for one another. But some women feel so entitled that they only expect a man to take care of them without reciprocating the gestures.

It's very wrong for a woman to bring that statement of "can you take care of me?" when I ask her out. I brandish her a red card immediately she makes such statement.

I detest selfish women, and I believe so many others do.

Only simps welcome such waywardness.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.

Feminists, waddaya have to say.
Alpha males, what's your take on this matter.
White Knights, let's hear you out.

Is it right or totally wrong for a woman to pop that question "can you take care of me" when you ask her out?
You are talking of our Igbo ladies @ early n mid 20s. They are called oriaku
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by pocohantas(f): 1:16pm On Jul 16, 2020
Psoul:
If you want a good advice, never you seek it from a social media.

All these men saying they won't take the sh!t....I will leave her and so on, if you see what they do in real l;ife about women, you will be shocked more than Buhari.
This is why serious relationships are meant for only matured people. Though boys and girls have abused it.

When you are in a relationship with matured people, you wil not experience all these poo.

When you, as a responsible man meet a responsible lady and want a responsible relationship, I don't think such a question will arise.
When you meet a girl and probably want these boyfriend/girlfriend thing, I don't think she will be wrong to ask you if you can take care of her. Two of you are in a business. You want her kpekus and she need to be sure you can afford it. So what is the problem there if she try to inquire if you are capable of shouldering the responsibility or do you want it for free.

Na man you be!!!

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Kingstanding: 1:16pm On Jul 16, 2020
ElasticStone:
You are very correct my G
. Only useless, hopeless, nonentity,slowpoke,mad,Olosho,aristo,Asewo and good for nothing will ask that rubbish question and youl still wanna listen to her again even Dangote, Mike Adenuga and Otedola can never make such a woman happy. Any women ask suck a question are insatiable in life. Thank God I have my own reliable and womanworthy as a wife.
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by vickydevoka(m): 1:17pm On Jul 16, 2020
galaxy2020:
Is very wrong for a lady to ask a man such question , when you are not her father.
My broda it was lyk dat b4 Sha, b4 9ja come hard. Women start agitating for equality. Now de gain more job than men buh to bring money still de hard Dem. If Dem buy small thing for themselves, Dem go post say I love de woman I'm becoming

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lucrativress(f): 1:17pm On Jul 16, 2020
Psoul:
If you want a good advice, never you seek it from a social media.

All these men saying they won't take the sh!t....I will leave her and so on, if you see what they do in real l;ife about women, you will be shocked more than Buhari.
This is why serious relationships are meant for only matured people. Though boys and girls have abused it.

When you are in a relationship with matured people, you wil not experience all these poo.

When you, as a responsible man meet a responsible lady and want a responsible relationship, I don't think such a question will arise.
When you meet a girl and probably want these boyfriend/girlfriend thing, I don't think she will be wrong to ask you if you can take care of her. Two of you are in a business. You want her kpekus and she need to be sure you can afford it. So what is the problem there if she try to inquire if you are capable of shouldering the responsibility or do you want it for free.
A successful woman that comes across a man below her class wooing her,if she doesn't ask him that question instantly then she is stupid sef
Sebi he doesn't want to know his level and go for his size abi
See this thing comes in different way's, don't let us say no to it altogether
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by AududuNine11: 1:18pm On Jul 16, 2020
XshegzzyeeiX:
.

PS: I've braced up for your criticisms, insults and cuss words.


Lol
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Nobody: 1:20pm On Jul 16, 2020
ibkonekt:
if she asks can you take care of me, i will say yes only if you are a virgin below 25. you get to be entitled at your peak fertility but would be trained by me in the process. the indoctrination must be cleansed

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Ournolly: 1:20pm On Jul 16, 2020
Gentle0wavez:
The question is intimidating.
There is nothing intimidating about the question, more like irritating.

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Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Lucrativress(f): 1:21pm On Jul 16, 2020
Kingstanding:
. Only useless, hopeless, nonentity,slowpoke,mad,Olosho,aristo,Asewo and good for nothing will ask that rubbish question and youl still wanna listen to her again even Dangote, Mike Adenuga and Otedola can never make such a woman happy. Any women ask suck a question are insatiable in life. Thank God I have my own reliable and womanworthy as a wife.
Look at your words Sir
If you keep generalizing like this you'd be surprised what life would throw at you in a dirty package, could be a gem in a rough pack,just stop generalizing,values and morales are known through actions not always word's
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Nobody: 1:21pm On Jul 16, 2020
She wanted to press ur mumu button! U did the right thing now, showing that gold digger the door, which kin nonsense question is that, she should av been straight forward and say " When u die do u av enough money to take care of me" girls like that aren't worth a second of attention, show her where she belongs, in d olosho market!/
Re: When Asking Her Out, Let Her Go If She Asks You This Question by Angelfrost(m): 1:21pm On Jul 16, 2020
24SEVEN:



This your write-up is called Theory. In Life, it is not practical


Practical African culture places the man as the provider for the woman. So men grow up knowing that responsibility is theirs. infact it is almost in the subconscious. There is nothing wrong in accepting such responsibility. There is no selfishness to it anyday, a woman should be certain that her needs are secure.

and for guyman like and my kind, who lust after very beautifully crafted masterpieces of women, her need is our very command.

This is highly narrow, dim, and unintelligent... Get with the times.

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