DaddyRochie1642:
I Hate Selfish Self Centered Women With Passion.

This is actually coming from a woman. Nice one.

KossyKiss97:


I seriously differ from your line of thought.

I personally don't think a lady should mention it to a guy. First of all, I advise ladies to be ambitious and self sufficient, never let a guy see you as a liability (very grave mistake).
If in the course of the relationship, you notice the guy is tight fisted or is not as selfless as you would want(cos i don't indulge stingy men either), then you can end the relationship or dumb his stingy a-ss!

Shikena!

Yes. People need to have tact. But from observation, such ladies who ask such questions got many guys disturbing them and wouldn't wanna waste their time being with someone who will end up taking from her or draining her emotionally and psychologically. Personal observation is key.

CsRockefeller:


Laughed really hard. Who formed the word "efulefu"? What does it even mean?

" Efulefu" is in idoma language meaning a senseless person.

jawalis:

I honestly do not have the strength for this blind argument. It’s clear to the blind that the set of women out now are nothing but leaches. They are parasites and with a very level of entitlement mentality.

Women of old were damn right leeches without nothing going for them but to marry and raise kids but the men never complained. It was simply how society made it and everyone knew their role. So Oga get ur facts right.

Men also feel entitled to a lady's pant immediately she says "Yes". Entitlement is Entitlement no matter the form it comes.

lexy2014:


Pls define "guys" and define "men".

A young man is a guy
An adult man is a man
In this my own context,I'm talking about the mind
If he's a guy upstairs he'll jump into conclusions
If he is an adult man upstairs, he'll wait to reason

MrBrownJay1:


may i ask.. what "can you take care of me" means, if not taking care of the babe's financial needs?!

Kindly ask d next lady that tells you such to elaborate. We live to learn. Thx

lekki1444:
this man you are not married stop lying. i know you wellwell. you live alone with 8 cats as companion

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ElasticStone:
You are very correct my G

Can you take care of me in a typical nigerian girl's language actually means "will you buy me iphones, card, take me for shopping, give me money to fix hair and nails whenever I need?"

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Lucrativress:

So when a "well-to-do girl" decides to ask that same question, what should now happen?

Unless she's handicap and she needs someone to carry her arround, take her to toilet, spoonfeed her, wash her clothes, then that question has another mean.
Assuming on your first date with a guy, how would you feel if the guy ask you, "Are you a virgin?" Or you go on a job interview and you asked, "Can you afford me?" How does that sound to you?
As I said before, no well-to-do girl will ask that question because the question is one of the FAQs of olosho.

SweetCunt97:
My comments got nothing to do with money or lack of it. There are psychological needs, emotional needs... Too bad most of u got only finance to offer... Pretty shallow if u ask me.

You won't be asking "can you take care of me" if your focus is emotional/psychological needs.

It you ask me, I think you are not just shallow, but you are also living in denial.

You can prove yourself wrong by asking your fellow women why they ask men that same question. Then you will realise how deeply shallow minded and empty you are.

klufs:

And what will you doing in that relationship if you think that low of him, if not for the money?

Meaning? Haven't u read where husbands fail their wives? Many would overlook flaws just to b Mrs to pass the societal expectations. You know this.

LordReed:


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lekki1444:

It is just Nigerian women mentality, they always feel that it is the man that will spend the money, because they are providing a service to the man, love is reciprocal, you take care of each other .

Lucrativress:

A guy that has done his studies on the lady he's intending to ask out would act on his finding's
I don't think there's more to this
If he decides to act on his finding's fine,if he decides to be sentimental and jump into conclusion, I'm sorry then he is quite stupid,if you think every good lady should be programmed in one particular way,that's unwise

lol, am a very liberal pers0n, and i believe every w0man should have their own pers0nality. But ur view ir0nically has the w0man n0t being her own pers0n on a 1st date other than being the mind game playing lady cliche out there. And c0me to think of it, why would a guy have to do a study on a gal, rather than have a direct meeting with her to kn0w her? This is why relati0nships fail. Expectati0ns. And to be h0nest, this is way out of the actual topic. I d0n't even kn0w how we got to this topic. Okay, the thing is, people d0n't kn0w what the meaning of 1st date is. S0me myopically think it's a marriage interview. It's n0t. It's just a hang out with s0me0ne u are interestd in to see if both of u have chemistry to start out a relati0nship. The em0ti0nal/psychological stuff c0mes after ur minds are made up. Then, u ask questi0ns like where's this going, can u take care of me etc. 0n a 1st date, u guys are strangers. N0w, u d0n't ask people u meet if they can take care of u, can you? Nah. Cos it's n0t certain u guys are a thing or would be.

trutht828:


You won't be asking "can you take care of me" if your focus is emotional/psychological needs.

It you ask me, I think you are not just shallow, but you are also living in denial.

You can prove yourself wrong by asking your fellow women why they ask men that same question. Then you will realise how deeply shallow minded and empty you are.

And you are a complete fool if you think this is about me. I've never used such phrase in all my life. Typical to turn discussion around to tryna pin shii on me. When a lady ask u next time, ask her to elaborate. I should ask my fellow ladies question like say e concern me? Guy fvck off

SweetCunt97:
And you are a complete fool if you think this is about me. I've never used such phrase in all my life. Typical to turn discussion around to tryna pin shii on me. When a lady ask u next time, ask her to elaborate. I should ask my fellow ladies question like say e concern me? Guy fvck off

You have never used such "phrase" before, but you are defending the use of such phrase. Doesn't that give you a hint that you are the bigger idiot here? Just asking.

Korllami007:

Unless she's handicap and she needs someone to carry her arround, take her to toilet, spoonfeed her, wash her clothes, then that question has another mean.
Assuming in your first date with a guy, how would you feel if the guy ask you, "Are you a virgin?" Or you go on a job interview and you asked, "Can you afford me?"
As I said before, no well-to-do girl will ask that question because the question is one of the FAQs of olosho.

Simple
I'd know the kind of guy I'm willing to share my status with on the first date,if it's one that is unserious or I might be in danger with a simple question for question or ignoring, if it's one I'm comfortably okay with his morales and attributes a direct answer will come out,kinide ,
Being blunt is not a crime,the intention of the question is what you should try to know

I completely agree with you.

blinkz4real:
"Can u take care of me" is not always what ur small mind is telling u she is thinking. She could mean can u be my support system, can I really share my thots n feelings 2 u n u won't tk me 4granted or tk advantage of me, can I confide in u, can u be a person who can advise her on d right path 2 success. How abt that?

Don't always think its ur money she is after bros, have respect 4 women pls n if others do it don't assume all of dem re like that.

Moreover u re the man are u not suppose 2 take care of ur woman? Anyway sha its for matured n responsible men 2 undstnd but pls try 2 reason things positively n u ll c women respect n adore u.

na lie ohh once woman ask such question don't read any other meaning to it than financial aspect and she'll only accept once she's convinced the man is capable. But some will just ask the question to know the guy's mind they may not really be the " no money no love" gang

Lucrativress:

If she says yes but only after we're married,but don't worry I'm not interested in your money,I'm doing fine for myself.I just want to be sure you're responsibly capable without having to waste my time

I will reply her, I just want know if she is responsible and Caring too

Minemrys:

lol, am a very liberal pers0n, and i believe every w0man should have their own pers0nality. But ur view ir0nically has the w0man n0t being her own pers0n on a 1st date other than being the mind game playing lady cliche out there. And c0me to think of it, why would a guy have to do a study on a gal, rather than have a direct meeting with her to kn0w her? This is why relati0nships fail. Expectati0ns. And to be h0nest, this is way out of the actual topic. I d0n't even kn0w how we got to this topic. Okay, the thing is, people d0n't kn0w what the meaning of 1st date is. S0me myopically think it's a marriage interview. It's n0t. It's just a hang out with s0me0ne u are interestd in to see if both of u have chemistry to start out a relati0nship. The em0ti0nal/psychological stuff c0mes after ur minds are made up. Then, u ask questi0ns like where's this going, can u take care of me etc. 0n a 1st date, u guys are strangers. N0w, u d0n't ask people u meet if they can take care of u, can you? Nah. Cos it's n0t certain u guys are a thing or would be.

You don't just go ahead asking every lady you come across out,do you?
Really?
Oh I think I like her,then fiam! can we date?
Really?
Just like that without thinking of anything?
Haba
Why would a Pastor waste his time with a known Prostitute when he maybe wants a Virgin,this isn't the matter of expectations but placing value on yourself as a man.
You don't just act,you think before you act

Liposure:
I'm i your father

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eneye1:

I will reply her, I just want know if she is responsible and Caring too

Good
Simple
No fight

Lucrativress:

Simple
I'd know the kind of guy I'm willing to share my status with on the first date,if it's one that is unserious or I might be in danger with a simple question for question or ignoring, if it's one I'm comfortably okay with his morales and attributes a direct answer will come out,kinide ,
Being blunt is not a crime,the intention of the question is what you should try to know

Social media>>> reality.

SweetCunt97:
You crybabies should go listen to Bill Withers song "Lean On Me" and be wise. Generation on mature responsible men is fast eroding unfortunately.

0n a 1st date? U didn't read what the OP typed, did you? U guys are basically strangerz on a 1st date. Both of u owe each other n0thing. It's a casual meet up. Same reas0n the rule, 'd0n't kiss or sex on the 1st date' is a thing. Cos u owe n0thing to him or her. It's after you've said yes to being in a relati0nship, and i'm sure naija gals dnt say yes that very day, that u can go all em0ti0nal.

Minemrys:

0n a 1st date? U didn't read what the OP typed, did you? U guys are basically strangerz on a 1st date. Both of u owe each other n0thing. It's a casual meet up. Same reas0n the rule, 'd0n't kiss or sex on the 1st date' is a thing. Cos u owe n0thing to him or her. It's after you've said yes to being in a relati0nship, and i'm sure naija gals dnt say yes that very day, that u can go all em0ti0nal.

Then you simply should ask her to explain what she meant. If it's favorable to you, u continue. If not, you move. Life's that simple

such a statement from a girl show poverty,hunger, selfish desire.many girls that use this statement are cheat an they are been stingy with their pussy.they can milk you dry if you are not wise.i have met 6 girls that ask me this question CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF ME I told them yes simple.The first one visit me the next day she ate rice an stew with fried chicken wish I use to prepare my stew because I like chicken alot I don't miss it in my stew,she drank cold juice.As usual I insert my sim card in her phone that day I found out the phone as been rust than their an wide like Lagos ibadan Express way.after that day that was the end.out of the six babes it was only one that was tight like super glue.So girls that ask such question are usually big burden.such girl u flog an go if you are capable an wise.No value for a girl when you depends on man for everything,u don't have anything to contribute to the relationship or bring ideas on how ur man go make money na just unnecessary demand.such girl can even tell a man to wash her pant if care is not taken.i don't tolerate nonsense.who quote me for saying the truth should hug transformer.

trutht828:


You have never used such "phrase" before, but you are defending the use of such phrase. Doesn't that give you a hint that you are the bigger idiot here? Just asking.

Typical. If that's what you saw, then u have the schools you attended to blame. Bye

Korllami007:


Social media>>> reality.

Which social media
We should have had a physical rapport or at least a friendly dealing before you just come out to say "I like you"
Kini
Is it like that guys behave,like just like that, you know a lady now now,next thing is,I like you,then really why are you now complaining?

SweetCunt97:
Typical. If that's what you saw, then u have the schools you attended to blame. Bye

What will you blame for your own obvious daftness? Your parents?

MrBrownJay1:


i think you misunderstand CARING for someone and TAKING CARE of someone... which are two different things. just because a man takes care of someone, DOES NOT mean he loves her. caring for someone emotionally has absolutely nothing to do with money. taking care of someone has all to do with money.



i fully disagree... LOVE doesnt mean that man should suddenly act like a mumu... this babe was taking care of herself before you met her (and will do so after you leave her life) therefore why should you take care of her (like a baby) because you guys are dating?! is she handicapped? will she stop working now that she is dating you? will you now pay her rent/school fees/ clothes/brazilian hair etc?!

love is a two way street, and although you may offer gifts to your woman (when you believe/decide she deserves one), love certainly doesnt mean that someone's life is now your responsibility.

There's no difference between caring for someone and taking care of someone. Also, women these days have been empowered and are doing well as men. Some take care of themselves and are very comfortable. All they need is companionship and emotional support which she might term CARE. Evening giving your partner attention and listening ears might be what some women term CARE.

If you want a woman and you make her an offer, she has the right to negotiate and demand care as her own term. That's why I said it depends on what you want. Most women are obsessed with their newly gotten freedom. This freedom has caused a loss of certain core societal values in our women. Chastity, discipline, Honesty, tolerance etc are now scarce in our women. Now, if you meet a woman who possesses these values, these scarce traits, are you saying you'd walk away just because she asked that you take care of her?


Also, like I said, love is an act of selflessness, an extension of the self for the purpose of the growth of oneself or another person. If you love someone, the only thing you should be concerned about is the growth of that person. And How can you help your partner grow without taking care of her? Charity is one major half of love. If you are not ready to give, to help, you shouldn't be talking about love. If you love your partner, you should try as much as possible to reduce your expectations to the barest minimum so that you can love her effectively.

Next time you want to talk about what you people of today are practicing, don't call it love. Call it what it is. Cathexis.