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Eulalia:
I'm sure the reason youre busy singing the "I love her" anthem is because she has opened her legs for you too. Imagine a woman who after two kids from different men is still unrepentantly opening her legs for a third man? Just know you won't be the last cos to such people, " nothing dey there" is always their mentality. That is why its easy to open and close at will.

Ihe na suso na egbuebgu.

Or11:
It's better to marry a fertile woman who can give you kids that one without kids but infertile. That's if you plan on having kids.

oyatz:
Thank you and God bless you.


You have a deep understanding of the situation at hand.



For certain complex reasons, it's very very difficult for single mothers to stay without sex for long and easily give out sex generously because;

1) They have been having sex over time and it's naturally difficult to stop.
2) They don't have fixed partners and they must have sex, so they easily agree for guys that approach them.
3) Most are always broke because their baby daddies always abandon them to carry the responsibilities for the kids alone. This make them to look for guys that can sleep with them and give them money or take care of them and their children.

4) It's not happy State. They too want somebody to love them. They need someone to kiss them, carry and pet them.

One lady,whose husband traveled out just after two years of marriage and abandoned her in Nigeria once told me that she has thrown her wedding rings away and that she sometimes cried alot many nights, alone with a little son in their flat, out of loneliness and frustrations.
After some years, she couldn't be paying for the flat, she just packed her things and moved back to her mother's house.

Things became so bad that she started reaching out to her Ex-lovers (like me) for companionship , financial assistance and of course, sexual fulfilment!



She became very unhappy when after some years, someone met her husband abroad and call her that 'guy man' has already moved on with his life and living with another woman. She once begged me to connect her with a responsible man that can re-marry her.

TheRedpillguy:
Hehe wow, you guys don't even try anymore.

uromii:
Actually lost my husband who traveled to Finland since 2016 , I have not heard from him since then. some people said he was implicated in a crime, its so complicated. please help me if you can. Acess 0807 344 826. I have to use my son's acct no, because mine have not been functional for long. God bless you

Heathrow44:
Ur mom just told u the truth they always hide ??/ women have this internal hate for men which I believe stems from being treated as women by d society and a society where it feels women aren't equal but the society has changed now so they shouldn't be bearing so much inborn hatred for men! They mask it a lot but in their little rooms they wished they were men and in deir next life they wish they would come to d world as men, they won't tell u this cos is painful to admit it that they prefer to be men than women but being a woman isn't a bad thing, to all d women out there don't ever doubt that u re valuable and can change the world!

spiceadole:
A lady has 2 children for 2 different men..she has become a subject of discussion online.

Her counterparts do 3-6 abortions and men marry them without asking questions.

Las Las,Abortion has advantages.

I would NEVER keep a pregnancy outside wedlock and be a single parent.

paul100:
Never trust that kind of woman.For her to have two children with two different men wtf,who does that? It means she must have slept with more guys.
Sorry to say this,that your girl can never been loyal.She will not be able to control her sexual urges.Think of what happens if you are not around maybe you travel or something like that.

Modified:Yes,people change from bad to good and it is not good to judge people from their pasts.But we all know that this OP will find it hard to trust this girl.He will like to go through her Facebook,WhatsApp etc.He will always suspect something if he heard her laughing while making call with a guy.
It is the OP life.It just stated my opinion.ABEG MAKE NOBODY MENTION ME AGAIN,IT'S GETTING TOO MUCH

spiceadole:
A lady has 2 children for 2 different men..she has become a subject of discussion online.

Her counterparts do 3-6 abortions and men marry them without asking questions.

Las Las,Abortion has advantages.

I would NEVER keep a pregnancy outside wedlock and be a single parent.

Or11:
It's better to marry a fertile woman who can give you kids that one without kids but infertile. That's if you plan on having kids.

uromii:
yes sir Egemba Uromie, I have to use my son's access account because mine has not be functional for long now. God bless you

PS573:
I'm in a relationship with a lady I love so much, she's so loving, caring and kind to me and after some months I asked her (Can you marry me?) She replied yes and she asked are you sure you can marry me? I replied YEs.

After Two weeks time she came to my house sadly, I asked what's wrong with her? She asked me again' are you sure you can marry me and I replied YES and YES, she said OK!

She opened up to me after some months, that she have "Tow kids from Two different men".... I felt so bad,speechless and confuse for a while, I just closed the conversation that day but till now I'm still confuse because I loved her before she opened up to me.

Please I need your advice what to do because I'm confuse and scared right now.

I appreciate all comments

PS573:
I'm in a relationship with a lady I love so much, she's so loving, caring and kind to me and after some months I asked her (Can you marry me?) She replied yes and she asked are you sure you can marry me? I replied YEs.

After Two weeks time she came to my house sadly, I asked what's wrong with her? She asked me again' are you sure you can marry me and I replied YES and YES, she said OK!

She opened up to me after some months, that she have "Tow kids from Two different men".... I felt so bad,speechless and confuse for a while, I just closed the conversation that day but till now I'm still confuse because I loved her before she opened up to me.

Please I need your advice what to do because I'm confuse and scared right now.

I appreciate all comments

Longbean11:
What's her reason for her not to be with the two men? Ask questions b4 u put ur head

paul100:
Never trust that kind of woman.For her to have two children with two different men wtf,who does that? It means she must have slept with more guys.
Sorry to say this,that your girl can never been loyal.She will not be able to control her sexual urges.Think of what happens if you are not around maybe you travel or something like that.

Modified:Yes,people change from bad to good and it is not good to judge people from their pasts.But we all know that this OP will find it hard to trust this girl.He will like to go through her Facebook,WhatsApp etc.He will always suspect something if he heard her laughing while making call with a guy.
It is the OP life.It just stated my opinion.ABEG MAKE NOBODY MENTION ME AGAIN,IT'S GETTING TOO MUCH

GIdiata:
I was actually waiting to see something sensible as this.
God bless you Man. thanks for telling the Idiots that commented before you that she didn't do him a favour.

NIGERIANS are so used to bad things, drunk in EVIL that when someone does the right thing, he/she gets accolade for doing the right thing.

she's that good and she had to wait till marriage proposal to tell him d truth. hear her; are u sure u will marry me? knowing fully well she isn't very clean, she decided to make him swear allegiance before revealing the truth. holding him to ransom emotionally. she's just looking for pity Expecting to be considered out of pity.
at least she told you d truth na

women and emotional black mail abi trying to hold someone to ransom emotionally and at the end they will always blame men. just like a woman demanding for favour when d guy is almost closed to penetrating during sex and if he says yes and doesn't fulfill it, she will cry d guy used her.

boys like me Sha, thank God no serious relationship only friends with benefits and flirting

lastclaire4:
I agree with some of the things you wrote but "why did she wait for marriage proposal" that is a part of her life that brings regret. You dont expect to tell everyone of some things until you have gained their trust. Some people will act like you will always have their back but when the chips are down the story changes. It is not that easy to say things. Have you ever met any girl that will tell you she aborted just like that? But these are same girls getting married every week and that part is between them and God.

Heathrow44:
Well that she said the truth is a ploy to get pity and sympathy from u and in d process u lose control and get emotional and leave ur sense of judgement for pity! If she was really forth coming with d truth she wouldav said it to u long before u both started getting serious, she has seen ur weakness and made sure that u loved her to a fault b4 bringing out her olosho past! Mr. Man do urslf a favour and dump that girl and get urslf a good woman u like that isn't married, save urslf all d drama of single mothers, this girl is trying to press ur mumu button and she's trying to play smart but she has fish brains and u should tell her and show her that, u re too young to get into a Ist marriage with this nuisance, ur kids deserve to grow up in their own homes without having to fight with step sons and daughters, save ur kids drama, don't let love kill u and turn u into a shadow of urslf! This woman don't love u, she's using u to take care of herself and kids monetarily! Av u ever asked urslf y the two men that she had this kids with y they are not taking care of her?? Or y she hasnt gone to dem? Mr. Man Ubunja has talked about this many times of how women use men to meet their financial needs when they need sex they go 4 d bad boys, she was promiscious during her young age given her best self to those two men and all of a sudden wants to sell her rotten body to u, she should stay on her own after all there re many self made independent single mothers like her all over d world, her's isnt any different! Don't fall 4 this cheap scam done by Nigerian girls and their counterparts in Europe and north America, she's trying to scam u and make u feel pity for her, if u want t knw how she really feels abt u, tell her u aren't marrying her again, watch her closely and u will see all of a sudden she would continue her olosho business and get another guy to marry her and this tym she wont make d mistake of telling the man she's a single mom! Don't fall for that lie that she's a good woman that's y she told u the truth, that's what she hoped to achieve by telling u d truth, to see her as pure and mean well for u whereas she's just a cold blooded psychological manipulator, she's psychologically manipulating u and this time with Sex and Self pity and sympathy, ! Don't fall in love with her caring or any nonsense she's doing, she has done it b4 with those other men, so she's already a pro in those areas, u can't compete with single moms that has tasted dicks all over cos they've been there, they've done that, she should take care of the kids she born, after all nobody forced her to open her legs and not to use condom if she wasn't ready to be a mom!

eneazi:
A man reached out to me via email three days ago. He has been married to his wife for 10years now. He got to discover a month ago that the wife's supposed younger sister who has been leaving with them for five years now (the girl is 20) is actually his wife's child she hid this fact from him for the past ten years and he got to know about this from an old friend 9f his wife.(though he is yet to confront her)
My point is for the fact this girl of yours is honest enough to come clean that should count. She knew what was at stake, she would have hid the truth from you and trust me you wont even know. She was ready to risk everything you share now to avoid problems in future. HONESTY is hard to come by these days.

Heathrow44:
Well that she said the truth is a ploy to get pity and sympathy from u and in d process u lose control and get emotional and leave ur sense of judgement for pity! If she was really forth coming with d truth she wouldav said it to u long before u both started getting serious, she has seen ur weakness and made sure that u loved her to a fault b4 bringing out her olosho past! Mr. Man do urslf a favour and dump that girl and get urslf a good woman u like that isn't married, save urslf all d drama of single mothers, this girl is trying to press ur mumu button and she's trying to play smart but she has fish brains and u should tell her and show her that, u re too young to get into a Ist marriage with this nuisance, ur kids deserve to grow up in their own homes without having to fight with step sons and daughters, save ur kids drama, don't let love kill u and turn u into a shadow of urslf! This woman don't love u, she's using u to take care of herself and kids monetarily! Av u ever asked urslf y the two men that she had this kids with y they are not taking care of her?? Or y she hasnt gone to dem? Mr. Man Ubunja has talked about this many times of how women use men to meet their financial needs when they need sex they go 4 d bad boys, she was promiscious during her young age given her best self to those two men and all of a sudden wants to sell her rotten body to u, she should stay on her own after all there re many self made independent single mothers like her all over d world, her's isnt any different! Don't fall 4 this cheap scam done by Nigerian girls and their counterparts in Europe and north America, she's trying to scam u and make u feel pity for her, if u want t knw how she really feels abt u, tell her u aren't marrying her again, watch her closely and u will see all of a sudden she would continue her olosho business and get another guy to marry her and this tym she wont make d mistake of telling the man she's a single mom! Don't fall for that lie that she's a good woman that's y she told u the truth, that's what she hoped to achieve by telling u d truth, to see her as pure and mean well for u whereas she's just a cold blooded psychological manipulator, she's psychologically manipulating u and this time with Sex and Self pity and sympathy, ! Don't fall in love with her caring or any nonsense she's doing, she has done it b4 with those other men, so she's already a pro in those areas, u can't compete with single moms that has tasted dicks all over cos they've been there, they've done that, she should take care of the kids she born, after all nobody forced her to open her legs and not to use condom if she wasn't ready to be a mom!

stanliwise:
Lol at the bolded, why are you been thankful for not having a serious relationship?

SweetCunt97:
If your love ain't strong enough to come to terms with her situation, kindly let her be. Two kids and it didn't show on her body? Impressive.

stanliwise:
Lol at the bolded, why are you been thankful for not having a serious relationship?

GIdiata:
bro all these daughters of Jezebel eh! Person gats take precautions