Hathor5:


I have also made the observation that women often get it twisted as to what guys want and focus too much on meeting some beauty standards propagated by the media. I also believe that there are so many beautiful women out there that beauty is something easily available and it therefore becomes less impressive because everything that is easily available tends to lose its value.

But then, I also see how flashy girls receive more attention and compliments and how natural girls are insulted and sometimes even made a mockery of on social media, often for the way God created them, which I think is devastating and sad.

I am glad you have come to value inner qualities but what if you could find a beauty queen with a good character? Would you remain loyal?

It"s peace of mind for men, it's such as underated quality, at first it's usually the beauty that attracts and men tend to flock around that at the detriment of the less beautiful, but as a young man gets older he'll realize beauty isn't on his top 5 priorities.

Nengi's friend thought Nengi was the full package but ultimately Mike knew what may have been best for him. I don't think he was jazzed , he probably just didn't see her in his future plans. At least her story ended on a positive

Pearl543:
Uhmmmm Reading through this thread I have come to a conclusion that most Nigerians don't even know what love is. So a problem comes, instead of finding a way to solve it and making amends... You move on to the next available person and the circle continues that way

If you have anyone really geniue in your life, please hold onto them very tight o . Our generation have lots of fakes.

@bold how did you know that your bf/hubby is genuine? What yardstick did you use to measure his genuineness?

pocohantas:


I stopped bothering a long time ago. Even when they say “let’s just be friends”, I tell them not to worry. I have this friend and many guys still find it strange that we didn’t knack. Ironically, he is one person that I can move the world for. We started as friends and we remained that. You mustn’t muddle up everything with one fcked up love. Know people for christ sake!

Real friendship can be greater than any relationship. That's why you see people in a relationship having friends outside the relationship who they talk with more. Most people seeking for a relationship don't know how easy relationships would be if you start as great friends.

Coder2Client:


@bold how did you know that your bf/hubby is genuine? What yardstick did you use to measure his genuineness?

Their actions speak for them. Not just mere words. Forget the material things or whatever they stand to gain from you and check if at the end of the day they would stand by you and care.

Ayt27:

It"s peace of mind for men, it's such as underated quality, at first it's usually the beauty that attracts and men tend to flock around that at the detriment of the less beautiful, but as a young man gets older he'll realize beauty isn't on his top 5 priorities.

Nengi's friend thought Nengi was the full package but ultimately Mike knew what may have been best for him. I don't think he was jazzed , he probably just didn't see her in his future plans. At least her story ended on a positive

What are the other priorities?

I wish we humans were less shallow. Some people are less shallow and I envy them a little bit. I was telling an elderly couple yesterday what new car I wanted to get. And as I was telling them how beautiful it looked, they told me that when choosing a car this would not matter to them in the least. They went on explaining how they cared about the price-performance-ratio, maintenance cost, quality, the cost of service, fuel consumption, eco-friendliness and I felt shallow and stupid. Sometimes I think that some people have achieved higher levels of consciousness.

folake4u:


Hmm, it is well. All these scares one from entering a relationship or marriage cos everyone is "wilding" these days.

Would you rather have people stay in loveless marriages like they did back in the day?

Marriage = A complete waste of time.
Giving birth to Children = bringing poor souls to suffer in a shirty world.
Giving birth to children in poverty = This one self make i just shut up before I curse the idiots that will do this.
Spouse stop loving you ni stop loving you kor? Marriage is based on erotic love and it will always die, so carry your cross... sorry spouse and continue life, dem no beg you make you go marry.

Luak:
From day 1,I took the position of the provider, lover and defender. Anything she contributes is Jara. That way, I make her realize that a bird at hand is worth 2 in the bush

I like this strategy... but you probably will get hurt more if she falls out of love with you.


Wondering if it makes any sense to be the one to deflower a lady you are in love with while you are still both in love. How effective can that be in making her committed? Not withstanding that this goes against all moral and religious inclinations.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Although I don't do relationship as a real niggarrr....I just bang and move ahead...


But i must advise my real niggarrrz and baby girls....
In this modern age that partners don't show any sign again to tell or rather make you understand that they are not in love with you

Na shock them dey shock their partner

Damnn niggarrr!, I am following your footstep. I have being a simp all these while. Comman coach me to be a real niggarr like you

dave4rella:




Sad stuff

Highly

Klass99:
My classmate's story when we were @ University. I'll call her Nengi because she was just as hot as the BBN housemate (if not hotter sef)

Nengi was dating a working class guy off campus and would often visit him at his crib, she had some of her stuff at his place as well. She visited one weekend and all her stuff were gone (clothing, toiletries, etc) When she asked where her things were, dude said his crib had been broken into and the thieves made away with her things.

Thieves broke in but somehow only her things were missing! This was the first sign that things weren't right but none of us saw, what was to come. Mike did a 360 degree turn afterwards and started dating one of Nengi's close friends and eventually married her. I don't think they did proper marriage rites cos Nengi's friend got pregnant and moved in with Mike (not his real name) I hear they are still living as man and wife, several years later.

Nengi was devastated because she truly loved Mike and wasn't playing games on him, she also had a good character as far as, I could tell. So, I didn't understand the switch he made either. The shocker for me was the friend he went for. Adams Oshiomole will best describe the girl he ended up with.

Mike had proposed to Nengi prior to all this drama and if I remember correctly, he had gone to see her parents about his intentions. Some people say jazz was involved. I didn't know what to think back then or even now, except, fear men

Exact same story happened at imsu. Heard it was jazz and I believe it cos d difference is clear btw both ladies in beauty,class,behaviour and all that. This life eeh

Hathor5:


Would you rather have people stay in loveless marriages like they did back in the day?

No, I wouldn't

Hathor5:


What are the other priorities?

I wish we humans were less shallow. Some people are less shallow and I envy them a little bit. I was telling an elderly couple yesterday what new car I wanted to get. And as I was telling them how beautiful it looked, they told me that when choosing a car this would not matter to them in the least. They went on explaining how they cared about the price-performance-ratio, maintenance cost, quality, the cost of service, fuel consumption, eco-friendliness and I felt shallow and stupid. Sometimes I think that some people have achieved higher levels of consciousness.

My guess is the same priorities a lady would want in a potential husband, excluding attributes made based from a shallow premise.

Yes that consciousness comes with experience, a lot of my friends make that car mistake too, I just look at them and smile in my head.......that would tell me is that they are novices when it comes to cars.

Similarly,

Going for someone with from a shallow mindset would tell a more experienced observer they are novices too.

it's just the chronological order of life, you have a get in the shallows before you go into the deep.
Everybody was shallow at some point

Venerable612:


I like this strategy... but you probably will get hurt more if she falls out of love with you.


Wondering if it makes any sense to be the one to deflower a lady you are in love with while you are still both in love. How effective can that be in making her committed? Not withstanding that this goes against all moral and religious inclinations.

. The girls I deflowered kept coming back but I realized they did that though not necessarily because I deflowered them but because they felt I could be managed. It's a guy's responsibility to set the pace cos having something new to look up to excites an average girl

Even the lady I am dating now, I don't really love her. I have told her several times but she doesn't want to listen.

Lastmankc:
Even the lady I am dating now, I don't really love her. I have told her several times but she doesn't want to listen.

Lmao! Thanks for the laugh...

tegrianonigltd:


He is correct, a woman should love more, most women cheat emotionally, most men cheat without emotions. Once a woman cheats that way, she can even plan to kill the husband, or drain him or destabilize him to be wit that person.

You're right.
A man can cheat and still love his wife of girlfriend. Not saying this suit men but that's just the truth..
Once a woman starts cheating she's good has gone.

Luak:
. The girls I deflowered kept coming back but I realized they did that though not necessarily because I deflowered them but because they felt I could be managed. It's a guy's responsibility to set the pace cos having something new to look up to excites an average girl

I am not Sure what you mean by setting the pace.

My thought is that people date each other out of practicality. It’s a relationship of advantages that a lot of folks do these days. Once they stop getting those advantages, they lose ‘love’.

Finding a person who genuinely loves without any attached consideration is quite difficult these days. I am so scared to fall in love let alone get married.


Also, Social media has made keeping a trustworthy relationship More difficult. You can just go through your gfs/spouses phone and see her flirting Nd sharing nudes with random guys on Instagram and whatsapp.


It’s all messed up men!

blinking001:
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[quote author=pythondance2020 post=93125790]Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc[/quote
With a name like pythondance?good luck finding love.

pythondance2020:


Yeah a lot of relationships end this way.
I once had a female friend who had just met a guy living abroad from her village during the Christmas period and spontaneously started the marriage process with him (introduction).
She was still a student in her final year at the time. She confided in me that she was going to go back to school and start an argument with her school boyfriend whom she had been dating for almost 4 years. The plan was to use that argument as an excuse to break up within a month. Needless to say, the plan worked and she is now married and living with the the new guy abroad whom she never really had a relationship with and barely knew.
That gave me an insight into how some people choose to bring a relationship to an end. I see it as cold but that is sometimes the world we live in.

Find out from that lady, that marriage is hell right now and the said yankee husband is regretting his life

mine was when she succeeded in getting Federal Government Job and her mum became her best friend and have her final says that was when I knew our relationship is falling apart

Same goes for the Ladies.
Marry a Man who loves you more.
It has to be 100/100 to make 1 ohhhh.

yassjib:
mine was when she succeeded in getting Federal Government Job and her mum became her best friend and have her final says that was when I knew our relationship is falling apart

dingbang:
Marry a woman who loves you more

Slimsly100:


Guy, japa. There are men and there are MEN. Hubby knows the issue back and front, right from beginning to end

I guess you won't understand till a serious misunderstanding comes up.

MEN will always be MEN

Palema007:
Lol... Love never dies. As long as you understand that in love sometimes you let go, you don't always get the one you love. Sometimes you love people enough to let them go find happiness in another. I repeat love don't die!

If u define love as something that never dies, then it never dies according to your definition.
But u r not an authority nor expert.
So let’s go by the experts’ definition:

love
/ləv/
noun
1.
an intense feeling of deep affection.
"babies fill parents with feelings of love"
2.
a great interest and pleasure in something.
"his love for football"
3.
verb
feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).

By any of the 3 definitions love can die, and do die all the time in real life, and sometimes turns to hatred that’s as intense as the love was.
Stop being deluded.

CanadaOrBust:




Ok , let’s look at it this way: if the man does not love the woman, she’s still sure the children are her’s.
If the woman does not love the man, he’s not sure the children are his.

Which do u think is better?

This has ceased to be a topic for discussion.

luminouz:


*yawns*

So you can't love even ME more?

Nawa for.u ohhh

Nope.

UyaiIncomparabl:


This has ceased to be a topic for discussion.

Says who?

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

Well my own happened in a funny way, whenever I thought if him I started feeling bad for no reason.
During that time a colleague of mine dreamt of someone trying to deceive me and warned me to be mindful of who I called loved ones and that I wouldn't get anything meaningful from that place am in, she told me to reconsider the people in my life. Funny enough the ex was behaving funny , giving excuses and all sorts.
Well las Las he broke up with me after so much stuffs dat went on and realized he still had my number views my status like we are friends even though I made decision not ever talk to such a person, I avoid him like a plague.

Luak:
From day 1,I took the position of the provider, lover and defender. Anything she contributes is Jara. That way, I make her realize that a bird at hand is worth 2 in the bush

She must be really lucky to have you.

dingbang:
you see, they dont give a fvck if you do not agree.

Yea, your fellow male folks, since patriarchy runs in your bloods.

CanadaOrBust:


Says who?

Says me.