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Saig:
That passage is not saying see evil and close your eyes or see someone about entering fire and take away your eyes. it is saying be focused and productive

Bye.. I don't have time to argue online....

Quality20:
Abeg allow them. It's possible ur friend is somewhere doing 3some with some sexworkerz

it's then the responsibility of another person to expose him

Whiteball:
Love/marital affair is a dicey situation. if i tell him and dey finally get married d woman will forever hate my generation for trying to kill her joy,if dey dont get married same tin goes. Am thinking i should tell him to pray more.. While i stay my lane

pray more
What then is the essence of prayer,is it not to reveal things?
So u choose to see ur friend fall into a ditch?
That is not friendship.now ask yourself what u would have done if u were the one to marry her and u caught her red handed in another man's house?

proclinician:
Are you a very jobless man? Why can't you mind your business? If you see that your friend in another woman's house or in a restaurant with another woman will you come to NL and write a long nonsense or seek a stupid advice. All these boys and their double standards is tiring.

This should be part of his business please . What are friends for ? Please , TELL YOUR FRIEND . The lady isn't worth married .

D

Whiteball:
I didnt see them f*ck . I wudnt wanna b at the centre of a collapse relationship and while writing i tried to b very discrete. i just wished i never saw her. My guy will b broken if i tell him .....one part of me say i should look away

Wisely hints your friend not directly and tell your guy B to monitor her if she will still come again before the wedding which will make you expose her finally to her fiance.

athaboi:
You no go face your front

Na dem. See dem.

It's very simple Whiteball. If you were the one, what would you want your friend to do? There lies your answer.

Juliusmomoh:
1 thessalonians 4 : 11-12.... Go and read it

Thank you.. sure will.

Whiteball:
Love/marital affair is a dicey situation. if i tell him and dey finally get married d woman will forever hate my generation for trying to kill her joy,if dey dont get married same tin goes. Am thinking i should tell him to pray more.. While i stay my lane

Tell him

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

Hmmn! Please save a life and tell your friend. What if she is pregnant for someone else or even have STD, will you be happy if your friend get such infection? Please tell him, at the long run, he will be forever grateful to you

This one strong...

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

I wanted to ignore but I know how dicey this kind of situation can be hence my resolve which I hope you'd follow.

Agree for a meet up with the lady in an open location and warn her sternly to drop all atrocities with immediate effect, tell her to cut ties completely with all and whomever she is frolicking with at once.

Tell her you are not gonna reveal anything to your friend but you will tell your friend to monitor her closely henceforth. Its all in her hands now.

Please ensure you take evidences, conversation recording, pictures, clues or anything just in case she wants to turn the tables around. You can't trust a girl much, she might want to emotionally manipulate your friend against you and say you want to sleep with her at the end the of the day you blame yourself for everything. They are that desperate and deceitful.

On the part of your friend. Encourage him to pray more, Advice him to do his due diligence and pay more close observation to the girl that you think something is off about her. If he ask why. Tell him the scenero that happened at the park the other day made you feel so and for the fact that you're meeting her for the first time. Do not say more than that.

If your friend find out by himself its fine, it will be as a result of a later infidelity on the girl part which you have sternly warned her about.
I think this is the best you can do at this junction as a good friend.

I hope this helps

If you are the real person, then QUIT the relationship. She cant eat her cake and have it! Some humans are selfish in some corn-tree

athaboi:
You no go face your front

Why should he face his front? If this babe ain't ready to marry, then why must she play with this guy's feelings?

@Whiteball You owe it as a duty not only to your friend, but to all real dudes out there to report this abberation. Now put yourself in your friend's shoes, will you be happy your friend witnessed this and didn't tell you? Remember the guy code man.
Bros before hoes.

Mtchheeew

CzarChris:
Why should he face his front? If this babe ain't ready to marry, then why must she play with this guy's feelings?

@Whiteball You owe it as a duty not only to your friend, but to all real dudes out there to report this abberation. Now put yourself in your friend's shoes, will you be happy your friend witnessed this and didn't tell you? Remember the guy code man.
Bros before hoes.

He dumps this one and looks for another — as if that next one will be any different.

With this people, it's better not to know somethings. If not, you will keep jumping from pillar to post.

Tell am ooooooo

Deborah98:
Tell your friend simple,did you say the wedding is two months away? Chai this is wickedness ooooh, what again is she looking for,why are women into this act of double dating,to me it doesn't make sense cos one day you will be caught in your own web, your friend don't deserve to be married to such a gal reason his belief and faith will be questioned when things take a rough ride. So you mean she dropped from the bus simply because she has another guy to smash,hmmmmmm things are happening..

another to smash

Please, God just used you to save you born again friend from a blatant lie and a Hoe. Tell your friend immediately and plan with him so the lady will no assume your the one that told him. Simple you r very mature as well as your friend too. Be a man. How will u feel if you come inside ur friend house after thief weeding and look at the girls face? She will always think you are discussing that with him.clear your conscience n set free ur mind.

athaboi:
You no go face your front

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

Please, God just used you to save you born again friend from a blatant lie and a Hoe. Tell your friend immediately and plan with him so the lady will no assume your the one that told him. Simple you r very mature as well as your friend too. Be a man. How will u feel if you come inside ur friend house after thief weeding and look at the girls face? She will always think you are discussing that with him.clear your conscience n set free ur mind.

This is why i don't like getting too close to any of my guys girlfriends... Because at the end of the day, i owe my real G's the truth. I don't like living with a guilty conscience. Now your case is a bit tricky. Except you can get an oral confession from her, i don't think there's enough evidence for you to conclude. Afterall she's entitled to wearing whatever she likes in the comfort of her own home

VULCAN:
An open relationship where she deceived her boyfriend, dropped from the bus to go spend the nite with the bf. Then when OP saw her she went to beg!

Buhari's hardship is destroying the brain cells of so many Nigerians now.

What a pity!

is op sleeping with them in their house to know if she is decieving him?
its not everything someone says here u just swallow
it is very possible the man is pimping his fiancee
is it not the same nigeria that some married men send their wives to italy and dubai to prostitute and the wives send money back to them?
abegi talk another thing

athaboi:
happy unraveling

From the way you behave here , it seems you are the very girl. If you meet your friend's guy with another babe two months to her wedding won't you talk ? You have successfully exposed whom you are . I pity your future husband if u can even find one ,judging with your behaviour.

ericwright:
Bro hold ur ear � like dis ; now listen to me...! that gal can Neva b trusted, hence Tell that your friend ASAP & wait 4 d consequences Leta cos if u don't he'll still find out & worst-off he'll knw u knew at some point & betrayed him. So what will it b ? Lose d HOE or ur manchy? Dis-loyalty is tantamount to overboard in my own side of d world.

sometimes just staying ur own lane and minding ur own business always
it has helped me during these yrs
no be every girlfriend and boyfriend or husband/wifey matter person suppose shook head put.u shook ur head inside u get burnt

Juliusmomoh:
1 thessalonians 4:11-12

1 Thessalonians 4:11 And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;


How e con relate to "mind your business"

studentofTruth:
He dumps this one and looks for another — as if that next one will be any different.

With this people, it's better not to know somethings. If not, you will keep jumping from pillar to post.

I don't know how much you know about the oil industry, if you are drilling for crude oil for example, you will drill very deep, in some cases you'll hit a pocket of gas, that doesn't stop you, you keep drilling till you reach your goal same thing when you're mining for gold. Never accept to play second fiddle in anything in life. Keep pushing till you hit what your looking for, there are a lot of bad girls out there, that doesn't mean there are no good ones. Keep searching till you get the real deal. It's always worth the wait.

If ur guy go ahead and marry that girl without telling him, honestly God will judge you.

You are duty bound to inform your friend in anyway possible and by any means necessary.

ojuu4u:
You are not different from that wicked fiancee, in fact same blood runs in your vein, try how to cool your temper, ............ur type can machete human to pieces.

No brother, i am calm and gentle by nature but i tell the truth because i am the god's advocate , may the peace of the gods be with you, sleep now thou son of man.

CzarChris:
I don't know how much you know about the oil industry, if you are drilling for crude oil for example, you will drill very deep, in some cases you'll hit a pocket of gas, that doesn't stop you, you keep drilling till you reach your goal same thing when you're mining for gold. Never accept to play second fiddle in anything in life. Keep pushing till you hit what your looking for, there are a lot of bad girls out there, that doesn't mean there are no good ones. Keep searching till you get the real deal. It's always worth the wait.

Keep searching, even if it means searching forever. Who has that time?

Good girl? Depends on what you mean by good. Every girl is good in her own way. Or rather presumed good. This one would have easily passed as a good born-again sister in the Lord if Op hadn't see her where he saw her.

Because we put so much expectation on them, they pretend to be what they're not — just to satisfy your expectations — instead of being themselves. Why can't she plan to settle with the guy she went to visit or people of his kind since she's sexually attracted to him? She's expected to settle with a "God-fearing" gentleman.

Another example of that expectation can seen in the way the OP judged the girl's friend who admitted to be the freestyle partying type. The OP is expecting born-again features.

My point is that girls, especially the so-called born-agains, pretend a lot because we expect them to be what they're not.