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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by olowodasha(m): 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
God should pls give us our own wife

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by cnonyechi(f): 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
Prof0fficial:
what do you expect when you marry a pretty woman. I can't see myself getting jealous for my woman when I'm 100% more cute..

You will be shocked one day.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Vince77(m): 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
Oizee:
Things I read here, so after dating someone else just bcuz of little misunderstanding that could still be resolved, u took her back and even married her. What kind of stupid love is that?

It's low self esteem. He probably thought he couldn't have gotten anyone better.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by FGonline: 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
Mariangeles:
Most couples these days are more like flat mates who can do as they please.
No respect for marriage again. undecided
Social media has made everything worse. Cheating nowadays is just a click away. Hmmm undecided
hahahaha
That's how one stupid woman tratin dat she will show her husband what I said to her,dat I should not delete it,dat he will track me and take me to court,laugh won kill me!!bcoz I know a hoe like her wouldn't allow her husband access to her phone and even if she does take action dat would ve bn d end of her marriage.as she came online later,
She was shocked to see me still very active,then she blocked me and I laughed again.

I no toast her o!!we had misunderstanding in a social media public group over an issue, which led to us exchanging words at each other.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Danniedpastor(m): 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:


If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly tongue tongue



Don't confront her.
Just act like you don't care. This would make her feel that you are not paying attention. Then monitor her till you catch her red handed.



It could also be that you are worried for nothing.
So, until you catch her red handed, don't act like you are aware.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by KristaPretty(f): 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
Tajbol4splend:




Shey your papa na babalawo ni

You no de see news about how magun de catch such cheaters. grin
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 10:26pm On Sep 05, 2020
Imagine a married man facing this shit. Somebody will now be telling me to fall in love. Fall in Love with who? those bitches? God punish love. I see another reason why I must marry more than a wife when I'm ready.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Mrsheff(m): 10:27pm On Sep 05, 2020
She's up to something by deleting her chat...
Secondly you are too slow for my liking..
Act up and let her know u have caught her.
Why would you allow her to be giving you excuse that he met someone when u guys have misunderstanding. So , she can't wait till you settle before having boyfriend....
According to yorubas proverbs
Infidel wife will kill herself or her husband..
If u have money do DNA and know your stand
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Astra101: 10:27pm On Sep 05, 2020
JerryLekki:
Uncle sir, You are in an open marriage. There is nothing wrong with it. Except your notion that you must not accept it. Probably programmed into you.


Oya, come and swear that since you married, you have not had something with another person. Especially in that university environment that you claim to hustle. Bros, come off it. There are things bigger than your ego

Wetin you dey yan?
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by donMIG(m): 10:28pm On Sep 05, 2020
Beetches!

U no dei fvck her well grin grin
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Abyima(m): 10:28pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.
Even if you are to.confront her, she might still deny again. I think you should invite a third party. Your mum, her mum or a psychologist. I think this will help. Confronting may go wrong and it might end in tears. You can close watch her too. Then make your self available when you catch her red handed. Please even if you have enough evidence, don't harm her. Divorce or forgiveness can be an option.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by od501: 10:28pm On Sep 05, 2020
shortgun:
I don't know how u guys manage to live with a cheating wife...ur life is always at risk if u live with a woman that can give herself to another man without blinking.
I feel like to beat the hell out of you from here angry

Be a man and take charge of ur home....seize her phone and get the password, use force if necessary.

A real man spotted!

I just pity all those "Ribina men" wey be forming romantic until the gal finally takes them to the grave. In a case, I will slap her moderately until the truth pops out from her mouth! Do they even know what it means for a woman to sleep with another man outside marriage? That's automatic death sentence for the man and children alike.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Pearly255(f): 10:29pm On Sep 05, 2020
Hahahahahaha

Marriage wahala

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Eniolakiite(f): 10:29pm On Sep 05, 2020
Hmmm. May peace never leave our homes.

Wondering where to go ?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--owNh2YIZ0&t=1s
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by udemzyudex(m): 10:30pm On Sep 05, 2020
You fought about it even before and after the marriage.

There is always a sign but people always choose to ignore it.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.
Whether your so called kids it's the ex that owns them only DNA test can tell.

These ladies hardly forget their ex, especially when that ex is more sexually versatile than their present partner. They always try to sneak back to experience that euphoria and ecstasy.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Joshmanuel10(m): 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2020
Are u d father of ur children??
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by knowhowk: 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2020
Shile981:
Imagine a married man facing this shit. Somebody will now be telling me to fall in love. Fall in Love with who? those bitches? God punish love. I see another reason why I must marry more than a wife when I'm ready.
You said it all .Don't just know why some Men decides to take the shit called "Love" and bury themselves in it .Bros Marrying more than a wife is not the Solution oooo ,If you marry 10 ,U are going to experiences shit x 10. Daughters of eve are same Including my Mother ,Daughter and sister ,No exemption .Oga get a woman ,Just Bleep ,Get Kids ,Work very hard to take care of ur kids ,Give Dem good Education ,Give the woman money for her upkeeps as she dey take care of ur Kids .Shikena ,If she begins there normal useless threats ,Nagging ,Denying you of sex ,Abeg find one side Chick runs girl to dey Hammer and settle No Marriage Promise ooooo

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Dayvidblue: 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2020
Biglittlelois:



I like it when pains is coming from a man for a change, soothing......

You derive pleasure from people's pain? Sadist.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Blackmann001: 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2020
...your the one causing all this trouble for yourself....

Women are like children, they can be decieved easily ..y would you stay so long apart and for too long from ur family..?

If your huzle is the main deal,move them to where you are..later everyone will settle in ..and if sh refuses,that's another story altogether...

Certainly your wife is cheating...no need for James band investigation, but to prove your point, just gather more evidence.......

God help us all

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by successtutor(m): 10:32pm On Sep 05, 2020
You are not the only married man here . pls don't let any marriage stress you. just be sure the 2 kids are yours. Enjoy your life and Bleep as many holes as you can that you won't even remember if her hole is existing. pls don't be stressed .

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Alex80s(m): 10:32pm On Sep 05, 2020
Some of the people advising u are either not serious or single and do not know how serious this is.

Apply caution and catch her red handed and free her , Simple!!!!!!!!

You are dying in silence. You are groaning in pains and people want you to endure it. For how long??

Do dna test for your kids if you are nor sure of there parternity.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by watchindelta(m): 10:32pm On Sep 05, 2020
This cheating is becoming too much, am scare to marry, I jst cnt stand my bae cheat on me come talk of my wife! Dam

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by smithbidy(m): 10:33pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.
Bros find a way to clone her WhatsApp to you phone or laptop. Get more clues and keep it for the future, you might need it when it’s time to tender your divorce notice to her family.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by InvertedHammer: 10:35pm On Sep 05, 2020
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Have you considered that many widows crying during burial are crying tears of joy or because of the expenses. It may have nothing to do with love for the husband.
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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by DrayZee: 10:35pm On Sep 05, 2020
frozen70:


Honestly, it's not a good experience to.have your wife date another man, men should just avoid anything that will lead her to such life Beyonce they test it out side ,it takes the grace of God to bring her back

Just keep monitoring her until you catch her and that is if you can catch her

Live your life and don't allow her attitude lead you to depression

Every man must make sure his wife doesn't need another man, if her problem is love give her enough, if it's sex give her enough, if it's care give her and if it's attention give it to her

Dont just give her room to get it else where because she will definitely get a better one than yours

Her problem isn’t lack of anything. If you like, give a woman the whole world, if she wants to cheat, she will still cheat.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by nonye420: 10:36pm On Sep 05, 2020
Mhen, it saddens my heart to always see post like this, like I am always scared of the type of women we have in our society now. I would advise you confront her about it politely, in a more pleasing manner and try visiting home more often, so as to have time for your family . Everything no be money o I pray God strengthens you! ��
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Coolcalmcollect(m): 10:37pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.
Mr man Nigerian women respond more to threat than loving words, sit her down during dinner with your two kids and tell her a story of how a friend of yours killed his wife and kids when he found out the wife was cheating on him, tell her you look up to such a friend and it's something you also can do.... make sure you have a cold smile on your face when saying that story while looking her in the face. trust me she will compose herself after that.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Dalby(m): 10:37pm On Sep 05, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Never confront her, why? She will never admit to it, so it is pointless.

In addition she would try to talk her way through it, and then knowing you are on her back find more skillful ways to cover her tracks...

Your only way to get the most info is to continue to play dumb, while you steadily collect information and evidence to build a case!!!

This is the most difficult thing but the best and only way...

undecided undecided undecided

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 10:37pm On Sep 05, 2020
flyingpig:
Just imagine, you're very wicked. So he should be sharing his wife with a man from her past? You're very wicked.

Okay he should start beating her or better still divorce her
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by udemzyudex(m): 10:38pm On Sep 05, 2020
annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.

You think it's that easy? It's better to divorce than to know that you're not cheating on your wife but she's cheating on you.

E no easy abeg
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by tholhusomhie: 10:38pm On Sep 05, 2020
You can keep suspecting until they finish eating her for you.

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