| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Memyselfu2009(m): 7:03am On Sep 10, 2020 |
SAME DRAMA HE IS FORMING DO EXACTLY SAME TO HIM BUT MAKE SURE THE GUY IS YOUR RELATIVE THIS WOULD SET HIM STRAIGHT |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Freedomfsl: 7:04am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Whatever you tolerate,you accept.
Zero boundaries means massive disrespect.
If you don't show a man how to respect you now,it will get worse when you are married. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by AreaFada2: 7:06am On Sep 10, 2020 |
czarr:
read your last statement again and tell me if it made sense....if the sensible and responsible ones are scarce doesn't that mean husbands are scarce? eh...Einstein. Lol. Husband Na husband Na. Good or bad. Some women will marry any man ready to marry. Especially evening stuff.  Funny story from OP. They guy is at least honey. She can decide to stay or walk. Na her choice. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by maasoap(m): 7:19am On Sep 10, 2020 |
cicodeblazzer:
u are a big fool and a deceiver. Its ur type that uses your demonic advice to destroy the families and relationships of vulnerable others seeking advice. So u are advicing the op to go on war of will with her man? I was thinking u are going to tell her to stoop so low and conquer whatever the devil is trying to do to break she and her man wit gud qualitiz (THAT IS CALLED KEEPING/STICKING TO HER MAN AND SAVING HER RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE @ ALL COST....which is one quality and duty of every mature and sensible woman). The op should re-examine herself(there must be sometin she lacks which he gets when talking with the ex) and use her onions to replace the ex. Can't you give your own advice without insulting another person? Looks like you want chop ban. Now look at your own advice, telling someone to pretend to be someone she's not! |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by EM123: 7:20am On Sep 10, 2020 |
If u know anybody he listen to , complain to him or her , especially his mother , then watch how he will change , if he continue and u don't know any other solution , b4 u take any action want to take. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by maasoap(m): 7:26am On Sep 10, 2020 |
swiz123:
He might have lost his girlfriend, but he didn't lose his friend.
Talking to her in your presence means that he has nothing to hide. so my dear, do away with insecurities. That's a total disrespect! No one should be treated like that. Can the man take it, his woman talking to her ex in his presence for hours and frequently? |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by halogate: 7:26am On Sep 10, 2020 |
In life, everything boils down to what u make of it.
I and my ex- can talk for close to an hour, even though her insecure husband doesn't even want to hear my name.
Like someone rightly said, being married doesn't stop her from being a great friend. Infact I see her as my sister now.
It all boils down to maturity and mutual respect for each other. 1 Like |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Onlinecashout: 7:29am On Sep 10, 2020 |
I won't blame the man though.. I was once in such situation- chatting with ex- when we are both in different serious relationships.
Its addiction- if they both meet- bed go suffer- does that mean u will now leave? No dear- one day he will act normal |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Dbarrzx: 7:32am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Two things are involved, 1. Breakup 2. Him been killed by the woman's husband. But either ways it goes, it'll surely end in premium tears. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by NeoWanZaeed(m): 7:35am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.
I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.
My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.
My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.
They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.
Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.
He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December
I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...
Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!
sorry for the long post.
Probably he is the father of the lady kid. Run... |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Nitah1: 7:36am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.
I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.
My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.
My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.
They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.
Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.
He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December
I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...
Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!
sorry for the long post.
Than God you do not know the part you fit in�, boyfriend or fiance.....very funny. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by jaxxy(m): 7:36am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.
I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.
My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.
My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.
They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.
Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.
He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December
I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...
Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!
sorry for the long post.
Yes u are overreacting. Exes can always be civil especially if they have respect for marriage and each other’s place and space. Sm exes were frnds and not just come and go lovers and maintain the frndship part. Some are genuinely good people and see no reason to end total communication with a good person just because they were their exes. I must state this depends of the kinds/type of exes involved cos some are up to no good and shud be checked or even discontinued. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 7:37am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Simply start comunicating with your ex in his presence as well. Text your ex to call you in his presence. If he complains, then rehearse his line to him.If that does not change him, then jejely start looking for a husband as the one you think you have has a soulmate in another man's house. |
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| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by catwalq(f): 7:53am On Sep 10, 2020 |
goshen26:
Which kind advise be this?
She will never have her man if she does that, and the home of that woman too is gone. They both loose so everybody wins |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 7:54am On Sep 10, 2020 |
LadyTianna:
Simple solution: Start calling guys in his presence. Tell them to feel free to call you too. Talk for long periods of time with them. Make sure you smile, laugh and joke while on these calls. Your man's brain will reset 
If he complains, tell him they're just your friends and you didn't quarrel with them two wrongs dont make a right. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Parisian: 7:56am On Sep 10, 2020 |
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| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Crownstar01: 8:00am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.
I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.
My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.
My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.
They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.
Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.
He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December
I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...
Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!
sorry for the long post.
Move on with your life. He has no respect for you and already cheating on you. 1 Like |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by goshen26: 8:23am On Sep 10, 2020 |
catwalq:
They both loose so everybody wins Hmmmmm |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by gbemishile: 8:23am On Sep 10, 2020 |
He has no respect for ur feelings.
Sit him down and explain ow his actions hurts u.if he changes,then good.if he doesn't,then walk away,cus even in marriage,he wouldn't respect ur opinion or feelings. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Alwaysachick: 8:24am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Na express your fiancé dey go o |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by vickydevoka(m): 8:24am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Biglittlelois:
You are not over reacting dear, bear it in mind that a man or woman cannot constantly talk to their married ex for hours without intimate talks and desire to see, and you and I know exactly what will happen when they set eyes on each other, pls end whatever it is you have with him and move on, knowing his family doesn't mean a thing. U might be right. Buh husband no be watin Dem de go market buy o. N also how old is she. Dat was how my fine aunty was doing until she finally became unmarried without kids. She always advice us, is better to try than to say it's not possible |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kingsolar: 8:31am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Biglittlelois:
You are not over reacting dear, bear it in mind that a man or woman cannot constantly talk to their married ex for hours without intimate talks and desire to see, and you and I know exactly what will happen when they set eyes on each other, pls end whatever it is you have with him and move on, knowing his family doesn't mean a thing. Sense no go kill u. I always tell people u can always n always knack ur ex weda married or un married |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:39am On Sep 10, 2020 |
swiz123:
He might have lost his girlfriend, but he didn't lose his friend.
Talking to her in your presence means that he has nothing to hide. so my dear, do away with insecurities. What kind of fuckery is this? She is not only a married woman now, her husband is against the interaction between his wife and the guy! That home is a few steps away from crisis and you are here thinking upside down. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by mechanics(m): 8:44am On Sep 10, 2020 |
You know what to do, you better flee. |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:44am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Zzor:
you will not run now,later it will be my husband is an unrepentant womanizer sleeping with people's wives.Husbands are not scarce,it is the sensible and responsible ones that are scarce If I catch you! |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:47am On Sep 10, 2020 |
LadyTianna:
Simple solution: Start calling guys in his presence. Tell them to feel free to call you too. Talk for long periods of time with them. Make sure you smile, laugh and joke while on these calls. Your man's brain will reset
If he complains, tell him they're just your friends and you didn't quarrel with them Very good advice! |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:49am On Sep 10, 2020 |
cicodeblazzer:
u are a big fool and a deceiver. Its ur type that uses your demonic advice to destroy the families and relationships of vulnerable others seeking advice. So u are advicing the op to go on war of will with her man? I was thinking u are going to tell her to stoop so low and conquer whatever the devil is trying to do to break she and her man wit gud qualitiz (THAT IS CALLED KEEPING/STICKING TO HER MAN AND SAVING HER RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE @ ALL COST....which is one quality and duty of every mature and sensible woman). The op should re-examine herself(there must be sometin she lacks which he gets when talking with the ex) and use her onions to replace the ex. You are a complete liar |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:51am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Brachaa:
Excuse yourself from that relationship. For the simple fact he does not respect you, ditch him and don't ever look back.
This man is not into you otherwise he won't have any cause to be thinking about a married ex. Or have the guts to say that thrash to you. what's the point leaving with a cold heart? How will you even live happily with him knowing he's still attached to his ex without fear or regards for you. And he can even wake up one day in the future and tell you he wants to bring her in. Mehnn forget about him, this guy doesn't love you one bit.
Are you married?? Haba! You were ll be wicked o! No space for trying in your heart no? Chai! |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:54am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Memyselfu2009:
SAME DRAMA HE IS FORMING DO EXACTLY SAME TO HIM BUT MAKE SURE THE GUY IS YOUR RELATIVE THIS WOULD SET HIM STRAIGHT Good one |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:57am On Sep 10, 2020 |
Freedomfsl:
Whatever you tolerate,you accept.
Zero boundaries means massive disrespect.
If you don't show a man how to respect you now,it will get worse when you are married. If she takes this shit now she should surely expect worse. Set the tone for your relationship from d start... No faking. You fake it you regret later |
| Re: My Fiancé Disregards Me, How Do I Handle This? by Kdon2: 8:59am On Sep 10, 2020 |
halogate:
In life, everything boils down to what u make of it.
I and my ex- can talk for close to an hour, even though her insecure husband doesn't even want to hear my name.
Like someone rightly said, being married doesn't stop her from being a great friend. Infact I see her as my sister now.
It all boils down to maturity and mutual respect for each other.
Another liar is here talking bullshit! He will not take this from his own girl o! |
