₦airaland Forum

mosdii:
I dey surprised too oh.... her brain na tabula rasa

so you follow see am o

cooooooks:
If Zzor is 15, is she allowed in the romance section?

Ogbeni, dnt quote me, its obvious she faked her age on nairaland... She acts very childish and stupid

Zzor:
que behind mr fahbulous

And why did dis low life piece of shit mention me?

TheCork:
Preparing covid19, 3rd wave. Winter round the corner mennn. No one is taking chances oooo

may the Lord be with you man

Toks2008:
You spoilt the whole thing with you stating that naija men maltreat the ladies who stood by them when they had nothing.. That is a lie from the pits of hell.

The problem is that ladies who suffer with their men usually feel that the man must not be with any other lady when the money comes and once the guy tries another lady they just see it as maltreatment which is not so.

No naija guy will ever ever neglect a lady who stood by him When he had nothing.

Furthermore, there is a huge difference between a lady who was there for a guy and a lady who was there with a guy when he was suffering.

your statement in the second paragraph confirms everything in my post

FahBuLous:
may the Lord be with you man

We good sir. Nice one!!

What do you mean by don't quote me?

If you do not want to be quoted, do not comment.

FahBuLous:
Ogbeni, dnt quote me, its obvious she faked her age on nairaland... She acts very childish and stupid

milann:
you are a bitter misandrist posing as a feminist. You should be arrested

Okay.


Now that you got that off your chest, do you feel better?

TheCork:
Preparing covid19, 3rd wave. Winter round the corner mennn. No one is taking chances oooo

May the Lord be with you man

cooooooks:
What do you mean by don't quote me?

If you do not want to be quoted, do not comment.

Ogbeni.. FEM

How many rich men are looking for leeches?





Again, Zzor is not the majority of Nigerian women. Most (say they) want equality and are out there.

Edusouls:
Ehhh leave the poor men alone nahh, go and find rich men that would cater for all ur life troubles and ur family, how much do ur father have?and ur brothers?, lazy women everywhere..

Zzor:
your statement in the second paragraph confirms everything in my post

Since you don't understand and you are too proud to ask for clarity let me help you out.

When a lady is there with a guy she is just a spectator and a leech still cos all she did was spend the little the guy had with him, drink the little Garri the guy managed to buy and she was only there hoping the guy will make it without any material support and in most cases, such ladies only remained cos they did not see a better guy to woo them.

But the lady who was there for the guy went out of her way to help the guy with the little she had and she was there for him hook n sinker supporting the guy in every way possible and she shunned several advances from rich men.

The latter has no premium whilst the latter is the real deal... The latter was just a leech waiting for a time line for the guy to make it....

quote.

FahBuLous:
Ogbeni.. FEM

cooooooks:
quote.

You de fine trouble eh.. Ah go come beat u dey o

victorian:
That's why we have so many divorce cases flying everywhere.
Women are not ready to sit still and keep suffering emotionally and financially.

Eyes don open.


Later men will troop online saying they are scared of marriage, as if they are saints.

If one cant stay faithful and responsible to one's partner, then Such person has no business talking about marriage.


As a woman don't allow your husband walk all over you. Cos there is high tendency he will keep on doing it over and over again.

Please what's your point. I don't get your message clearly

quote.

FahBuLous:
You de fine trouble eh.. Ah go come beat u dey o

Toks2008:
Since you don't understand and you are too proud to ask for clarity let me help you out.

When a lady is there with a guy she is just a spectator and a leech still cos all she did was spend the little the guy had with him, drink the little Garri the guy managed to buy and she was only there hoping the guy will make it without any material support and in most cases, such ladies only remained cos they did not see a better guy to woo them.

But the lady who was there for the guy went out of her way to help the guy with the little she had and she was there for him hook n sinker supporting the guy in every way possible and she shunned several advances from rich men.

The latter has no premium whilst the latter is the real deal... The latter was just a leech waiting for a time line for the guy to make it....

Don't waste your time on that girl, she's unintelligent and shallow, I really pity those taking her serious, the truth is that she's a jobless and lonely female who lurk around seeking for attention with her childish posts.

Iceyjayz:
Don't waste your time on that girl, she's unintelligent and shallow, I really pity those taking her serious, the truth is that she's a jobless and lonely female who lurk around seeking for attention with her childish posts.

luminouz quit all this hate and behave yourself,the person you quoted is a matured man and does not reason the way you do,i get his point even though I disagree with him,i choose not to drag further.Be going about patronising people to join in your hate,Snitch.

Zzor:
luminouz quit all this hate and behave yourself,the person you quoted is a matured man and does not reason the way you do,i get his point even though I disagree with him,i choose not to drag further.Be going about patronising people to join in your hate,Snitch.

Are u fuqin serious right now

How can I be iceyjayz

Chai!! Luminouz has entered your brain so deep you dont even see reality again.

I dont do alternates...how many times I go tell you that na?

Sixfeetbelle:
Okay.


Now that you got that off your chest, do you feel better?

Lol...you no dey taya ni?

Not all men have this mentality even though it could be termed rampant.

Personally, i would not want anybody to ever query me about my money, so i never query anybody about how they spend theirs.

Mutual respect too is very important in relationships...


Even if you have 5 wives, learn to treat all with respect.

PoliticallyInco:
It is a lack of fundamental understanding of human psychology and the hypocritical denial of what is right and wrong because of economic and societal gender inequality. BOTH SEXES ARE GUILTY OF THIS.

From our ancestors in many species of hominids, and even early homo sapiens we originated from, the women were mainly minders of the offspring while the men went out to hunt. They take the risks and hunt, bring the kill home and then everyone eats. The women chose men based on how they could provide and cater for the family about to be raised. The women considered that pregnancy and child rearing was a risky affair hence the need for a strong and physically well to do male who could protect and provide during vulnerable times. He will kill game and bring it home to the woman. So instinctively, women choose men who are providers. Hence they want to be taken care of it is as simple as that. It is basic instinct.

However, this is 2020. The men must understand that based on instinct most women still think this way. They want to be taken care of. But brute strength is not what the women now seek or look out for in 2020. IT IS FINANCIAL STRENGTH THAT COUNTS NOW. With money almost everything is possible. So the women want a man that has money and will desire a man that has money. Most times it is when the money is there first that they now realize other things are missing. E.g. the man is not good in bed, the man is not caring, he is abusive etc.

Women too must also understand that this is 2020 and that the Sabre Tooth Tiger isn't around anymore. Hence they can and should go out and make ends meet. They need to be self sustaining and self sufficient. It is mental strength that counts now and not brute physical strength. THEY NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY CAN MAKE THIER OWN MONEY AND LIVE FINANCIALLY FREE. They go to school, get an education, think critically to set up a business by offering a service, or work in one and make their own money.

With respect to cheating, this a controversial topic. It is an individual thing. Some species are monogamous while many are polygamous. Humans are known to be polygamous mainly because they males derive pleasure from multiple sex partners. The males see the females as another game to chase and hunt. The more successful their hunting expedition is, the more it boosts their ego and creates satisfaction in form of high dopamine release. When another man chases their woman and gets her, it bruises the males ego that another male, a competitor, could win over their game and defeat them in their own territory and on their own tuft. This mainly has led to the promotion of the notion that Men can cheat but a woman should not. A cheating woman bruises the ego of the man so much that he looses self esteem. Meanwhile he enjoys cheating and the hunt for women. IT IS JUST HYPOCRITICAL DOUBLE STANDARDS.


Finally the traditional society,religion (created by man and promoted to keep men as leaders in the society), and other factors have made it in such a way that a woman must have a man and be married to be seen as complete. This was generally fostered by men who ruled most of these societies/communities. They made themselves the Grand Prize worth fighting and dying for, and the women too allowed this to go on for so long. "If you are not married as a woman at a certain age and stage in your life, you aren't complete" mentality. Marriage becomes a thing desired, covetted and prayed and fasted for by women. It becomes something they are shamed and afraid to leave regardless of how abusive the man is. The men have gotten it into their brains that they are even doing the women favours by removing the shame of being unmmaried from them. The society has pressed it into the brain of a woman that their role is to please and serve the man regardless of what he does wrong. Secondly the society has been discriminatory against women in many ways when it comes to employment, economic opportunities etc.

Unfortunately women will continue to be in this "prison" and "slavery" unless:

1. They start being financially independent
2. They remove that "I must marry" mentality
3. They stop seeing sex as a favour to a man
4. They chase their own goals and dreams and decide their future.
5. They stop seeing men as a prize they have won. Afterall they will mostly be doing the cleaning, child rearing, cooking, etc.

That was well said.
I was only pressured about marriage when my parent were still alive and I almost got married to the the wrong person due to pressure. I really wanted to honor my parents, becos they were wonderful to me and I was worried ( becos I am the last child )they were getting old and I really wanted them to be there to give me away when the time comes but death came anyway .
After thier death , that was it. I told myself that I owe society nothing ,absolutely noting ..This is my life and I want to be happy .So I decided to focus on my life and how to be very successful financially in order to prepare for my future & a comfortable retirement plan .

I intend to adopt a child when I am very comfortable and show love to that child all the way .I have always thought about adopting since I was in school...I had always felt I should take from the population of neglected children and make a life meaningful, rather than add to it . If I fall in love, then so be it , but if not , I would rather remain single than marry just becos I want to please our sadistic society .

I have been independent since I graduated from the university and I am quite content with the little I have .I I feel very uncomfortable depending on another person for my needs and I can live without a man for a very very long time without missing them at all. What bothers me each day whenever I wake up, is how to start my business & be successful.That is all.

Pls ladies, let the men be. Leave them alone.Be your own woman, if they offer to get you anything , reject it and tender your credit card to purchase those things yourself . Do not rely on them for any thing and do not offer them sex just becos you want to please them ..Do it becos you want it and you will never regret it even if the relationship does not work out.

Be your own woman .Work very hard and engage your time and energy in making our society a better place . There are so many things that requires our attention in the society , be an advocate for a course or a project that can shape our society positively .Volunteer your time and energy to things that matters most to you and not what society want from you.Be happy, love yourself very much and look at the world in a different light .The world is a beautiful place and its beyond the restricted world our society has conditioned women to be in .

I am sick and tired of men calling women all manner of names becos of what we can easily afford ourselves . Leave these men and thier money alone .Let them use it to patronize call girls and some ladies that are always ready to be thier bitch .
Be a woman of substance ...Be a happy person and they will beg to be part of your world

Zzor:
Most Nigerian men have this mentality that a good woman should not like money, she should be ready to suffer with them (they will maltreat her after the money comes), she should also not see anything wrong with cheating as long as they are providing for the family.

Why must a woman undergo all these before she can be tagged a good woman? Is she your mother?

No body says you shouldn't like money. But that you should learn to work for the money you so like.

No one said you should come and suffer with a man, but if you suffered to make your own money, you wouldn't have to suffer with a man, you'll readily meet a man who's at your own level.

To me I think the world had been polarized economically in favor of men a long time ago, and this as created financial disparity between both gender.

If fact what I think is a man has more chances of survival on his own than a woman, why, because there are legit hustles men could engage in for finance. Hustles that if taken of the rader lots of men will be as cornered and helpless as women.

But of course that doesn't explain the phenomenon of the fact in working class women, perhaps peer pressure and psychological upbringing will do.

That said, I think the economical situation in the country is the reason why most men are so conscious of where their money goes.

TheCork:
So u call yor sef poor simply coz u tryin to impression Zzor....correct? ..do u reliaze she from ordnary Ghana?
Bro do u need job?(no oofense)

is it true that you are from Ghana zzor?

professore:
is it true that you are from Ghana zzor?

Dont mind him,never believe anything that's not coming from me here

Zzor:
your statement in the second paragraph confirms everything in my post

you are really having a field day today.

Mrscarter:
I think if you're only dating then the guy shouldn't have to buy every little thing for her. If he buys her something it should be because he wants to give her a gift or make her feel special. But ion think the guy should be responsible for everything especially if they only been dating a short amount of time. If I was a guy that would turn me off. But once Ur married a man should support his wife but she shouldn't expect more than he can afford(I know girls who do this n put alot of stress on the guy) if they been dating a long time it's fair I think that the guy spends on U to some extent if he wants you to have things n U can't afford them yourself.
But never should us girls act like we are entitled to his money, we don't work for it we didn't earn it. Especially if he's a decent guy n faithful n all. If your man us broke but he's a good guy in every other way then inspire n motivate him to work hard n find a way to make money. Build him up n give him faith in himself n stand by him the same as U would if he were rich. Giving him the confidence he needs n motivation n you can be surprised what he could accomplish. And he will love you the more for it and be faithful n loyal to you n guys always remember that kinda thing. Good guys do. He will work harder to build a better life for you aswell as himself.
Dating guys for petty things like money for hair and iPhones and all that stuff that's just taking what you didn't earn. I prefer to have my own money n have no reliance on a man n that way our relationship doesn't have anything to do with money n we can enjoy the things that relationships are meant to be about.
But that's just wat I think.
As for cheating that's a deal breaker for me. ion see the point in being in a relationship if U want other ppl than Ur partner. Ur in a relationship for love n if U love someone how can U even think of someone else. Ion understand that.

I particularly like your conclusion.

Zzor:
Dont mind him,never believe anything that's not coming from me here

that's good, zzor give me a chance.

luminouz:
Lol...you no dey taya ni?

Nairaland men are aggravating.

I'm not talking about you, of course.

Sixfeetbelle:


Nairaland men are aggravating.

I'm not talking about you, of course.

I know @ last line but I just wonder you how get the energy for e-tussles.

Thats why I want you to rest small na.

Success Time Factor