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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020

someone u havent met yet is already insulting u and bashing u cheesy

for what?
he probably sounds like psychopath and for ur own safety i suggest u dont visit him
from the way u said he sounds he could be a rapist for all u know or a woman panel beater
block his whatsap number and stop recieving his calls
and by the way naija is burning right now so the last thing u should be talking about is love and relationship

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by SweetCunt97(f): 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

He's violent plus he'll use his mouth to finish your self esteem. The idiot is looking for a naive lady to deceive hence the nonsense about genotype... Don't fall for such crap. Imagine ordinary one month and he's behaving like a cunt!

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020*

Now that we are here....What do you want us to do?! Don't you have common Sense?!!
See that dude doesn't like you, he's just after ur pussssy and immediately after that he'll dump you..Now get over yourself and move on.Mtchewww

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Fairview1(m): 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020

ArewaOduduwaBia:
Must u bring everything to nairaland? Now, what do u want us to do about what u just penned down? I will advise that u go join the protest. #End SARS.

Man, you are very wuked my man! Take it easy on the young babe naa.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Next2Bezee(m): 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

You're still confused after seeing all these red flags? Ha! shocked

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Vulcan24(m): 10:26pm On Oct 21, 2020

Most men at that age are arrogant and fill of life, they eventually calm down or go worse

Nonetheless it is a woman that usually calm them

Take it easy with him and massage his ego, he's looking for a wife and would probably keep talking you down for now

Life is a game

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by donmarshia(m): 10:27pm On Oct 21, 2020

Young woman, please don't visit that guy unless you want to risk being taken advantage of.

Verbal abuse is also not acceptable, neither should you abuse him.

Please tell him politely that you do not think it wise to visit a man alone and at this age.

Someone who really cares about you will understand.

Shine your eye ooo!

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Emoney05: 10:27pm On Oct 21, 2020

You have no business going into a relationship 22 in nigeria. You should be in school . You need to grow up and be matured first so that you won’t cause problem at home if you marry early. Marriage is for matured adults not kids!

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Benzemma(m): 10:27pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

abeg carry your Kaya comot for my way, we have something more than this nosense you are saying here.

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:27pm On Oct 21, 2020

U get liver o dey post this kind thing when people dey die on the streets of Nigera abi na Dem abroad run away b this

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Jh0wsef(m): 10:28pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Sometimes it's not really about going for older guys, it's about how you and a guy blend, the chemistry, vibes. Even much older guys behave like kids on little issues, it's personal upbringing and mindset

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Kumarsjunk: 10:28pm On Oct 21, 2020

YOU ARE GLUTTON FIND YOUR MATE

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by AnanseK(m): 10:28pm On Oct 21, 2020

Xoly:
Love is not all about understanding each other's love languages. Love is accepting his/her flaws....

Including violence?

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Melonny(m): 10:28pm On Oct 21, 2020

Xoly:
Love is not all about understanding each other's love languages. Love is accepting his/her flaws....

something dey worry you. So love to you is to accept flaws? Accept someone that takes everything too seriously?
Op, life is too short to carry other people flaws as a load, adding more baggages to your life.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Lee99: 10:29pm On Oct 21, 2020

Op don't let me curse you, at the time you were posting this rubbish people were being massacred and you're here talking about man, in this period? Just have sense don't be unfortunate #EndSARS #BuhariMustGo
#End SWAT

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by yemmit90: 10:29pm On Oct 21, 2020

iRepNaija1:
OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.

Dont judge from what she posted here, young girls below 25yrs are mostly stupid and lack respects.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Iamziggy: 10:30pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

shey u go date me... I swear I no get wahala at all..

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Joshmanuel10(m): 10:30pm On Oct 21, 2020

U can come and ask d hoodlums they have the answers
Bastard person with misplaced priority
Are u sure u will be alive to see next year with the ways things are going

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by uthlaw: 10:30pm On Oct 21, 2020

iRepNaija1:
OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.

who say may u tell us story....Sabi Sabi!

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Fairview1(m): 10:30pm On Oct 21, 2020

Ategberoson:
your parents seems to have given you enough sex education at tender age and believe me is helping you now, thank you Op for taking your ground. a man that's yet to engage you is verbally insulting you and you don't see such guy as misogynist?

misogynist get married too either by societal pressure or just to save face from the family but that doesn't mean their nature won't come up
after the marriage...

you saw which quality in him? I don't think you understand the word quality? you better keep your pussy and boobs intact for your future husband because I don't see any future with that dude if what you typed here is real

disconnect him before he press you more to give inn. I'm advising you as a brother now, any man that can't find other means to reason with you in the aspect of seeing each other, such guy doesn't worth flirting with not to talk of dating

MATURITY!

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by sexuential: 10:30pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Runaway now while u can.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by EbukaHades10(m): 10:31pm On Oct 21, 2020

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

Until when Verbal abuse go turn physical abuse, maybe na den ur clear to eye.

U better carry ur two slippers,nack am together,put am for head and jp

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Draei: 10:31pm On Oct 21, 2020

TheCork:

Crackhead.

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by ayobaye(m): 10:31pm On Oct 21, 2020

He will deal mercilessly with you. You don hear me?

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by kodix(m): 10:32pm On Oct 21, 2020

Are we talking about boy or girl in Nigeria now,may huge thunder fire your head there,nonsense

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by mysteryman2014: 10:33pm On Oct 21, 2020

Must u date him.

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Viicfuntop(f): 10:33pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Thanks.. I already begged thou...

You actually begged him; lol. He asked a question and you said you don’t care and the next thing was insults. You know he could have ignored you or stopped talking to you instead of insults but he chose to be that way.
Girl, this is not your age mate. He is far older and you said he is domineering. Dont make this mistake. This guy is clearly going to be abusive if he isn’t already. You don’t even know him that well. You just know him through the phone. You think going over would change things?
And again, don’t you have some self dignity or self respect? You are apologizing for nothing. I can’t advice you not to date him but please trust your guts at this point because you clearly need it.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by zakkxx: 10:34pm On Oct 21, 2020

My sister don't go anywhere he has taken different concoction waiting on you to finish work. if he truly loves u he will wait till marriage. This statement look stupid but the day u will visite his house after he rape/force u he will be the president of the relationship. he will treating you with break up at the slightest provocation. I am a man I am advising u like a brother some men go de vex why I de expose this secrete. if u want to eliminate stupid men just insist on no sex till marriage they will all run don't be angry God is protecting u. but if u no hear them go chop u like suya. if he insists on you coming, go with your friend and live his house together with your friend or if you are going alone meet him at a neutral ground like eatery or cinema or even open place no go the guy house oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo a word is enough for the fool and non is required by the wise.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by AlphamaleTech1(m): 10:34pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Like seriously? Be like say u dey another planet ba?

Well, no be wetin dey do u dey do Nigerians now.

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by GreenDee(f): 10:34pm On Oct 21, 2020

rhynoemmie:
till dem burst your eye glass
set awon motivational speaker

lmao,she no go see d phone clearly to explain the kind beating she go chop for d guy hand..you never marry person he don dey insult you..you still dey call am love,dey apologize..nawa oo love don suffer oo, Op leave that guy and date your age grade and someone that will treat you right,if not you go apologize taya, better marry someone wey understand you.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by alizma: 10:35pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Your instinct is correct. Just move on and let him look for his type. He is asking for your genotype, a signal that he maybe be asking for your hand in marriage soon. But going by his behaviors as stated by you, I will advice you don't get too close so much that you will be tempted to "manage" his proposal when he eventually proposed.
I am married and I can tell you that men who truly love the woman they want to Mary do not abuse them in courtship because they see more than just a girl but the mother of their baby

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by happy200(m): 10:35pm On Oct 21, 2020

ladywealth:
Thanks.. I already begged thou...

you must realize yourself first before you go into any relationship, then you would have known what you want as a lady, and from a man.
By then verbal abuse will mean nothing to you because then you would realized that people react differently to different things and at different times.

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