Sawzer:



It's somehow mutual too, I've never been in love but I don't think I'm really worried about that. Or should I be?

My worry has been how I'd be able to get all the material things I would love to have like a 2020 BMW M8 competition Gran-coupé, travel around the world and eat different dishes. I'm more worried about being broke because I'm materialistic.

I also wish to impact the world positively, especially Nigeria. If I'm blessed with enough money, I'll like to take care of the poor, disabled, sick, etc.

Different people with different priorities.

I think the issue here is deciding what's more important to you. I guess you can say I've realised there's something like vanity and I've decided to just find contentment in whatever steps I get to in life.

uchenageme:
Love is totally different from what young people fantasize about. Most young people think aboit sex when they say love. But its deeper than that.

To me love is being responsible. Putting the needs of someone or others ahead of yours. Hurting ,if necessary, just to make sure the other is happy and comfortable.

Love is sacrifice. It's living for others. It's what makes a father/mother stay hungry to make sure their kids are feed. It's what makes you deny yourself of luxuries to make sure others have enough.

Now for the one seeking love, are you ready to give these to another individual who is not related to you by blood? If not, then you are not ready to receive love. Just continue with transactional relationships that most people have and mistake for love.

Apart from transactional love, I want to believe that love (real love) is achievable if you genuinely look for it even in that transactional relationships sef.

Okay, your last line daunts me a little but I believe I can try. Learn how to sacrifice.

Right. Sacrifice what exactly?

Sixfeetbelle:


Different people with different priorities.

I think the issue here is deciding what's more important to you. I guess you can say I've realised there's something like vanity and I've decided to just find contentment in whatever steps I get to in life.

You're right
I just went through the thread and I realized my post wasn't necessary
I hope you find love though. But one thing I know is that you're emotional tonight prolly because of the movie you watched. It's a phase, sleep on it and you'd be fine tomorrow.
People most likely wouldn't find true love while they are looking for it, It just hit you like a train (if it would because some people will never experience true love)
The key is to be happy! Have a nice night and fairly tale dreams!

Shortyy:
Sorry to bust your bubble dearie. In these days love setting. Love is sex and money.

There is no sincerity. Even when you sincerely open your heart wholeheartedly to love and accept them, they'll play you like a football. (Chelsea vs Man U kind of match). But if you're very strong and want to keep attempting till you find the right person, break a leg then.

But I'll advice you to carry all that love and give to your family and the less privileged, they're people that need it the most and will cherish it.

You are definitely one of those girls that has made it difficult for me to trust girls thus finding it difficult to fall in love again; for your INFORMATION, love is not all about SEX AND MONEY.
There are still some of us who want to love for love and be loved back. We want to explore the fun and joy that love brings; we want to have a companion not a partner, we want to feel and not to think, we want to share not give and we want to give and not take.
Do you even know what love is?
Have you ever experienced true love?
I doubt it otherwise you wouldn't have said that.
To the Op:
I share your fate but in my case I had experience love and it is something I am craving for more than anything.
To say I knew how and when I fell in love with her, I can't tell because it was genuine; you will never know until you find yourself in his arms, laughing your rib out, jumping like a baby and having an unexplainable feeling inside you then you realize that you are definitely in love.
My Advise:
Don't bug yourself looking for it rather give yourself to it, it will surely come.
Stop looking at the wrong places and start looking at the right place.
Stop expecting it to be a particular person rather allow it to lead you to the right person.
Handsome/Not-Handsome is not love neither is money nor sex.
It could be close to you or far from you, just give it a chance.
Don't look down on her (love) when she comes knocking cause you never can tell what it has in store for you.
Finally my dear; live life and let it live you, love all and love none; look inward and outward you never can tell, be sincere to yourself and let your character define you then and only then true love will find you.

From your write up I can tell you are educated and have a certain expectation from your future significant partner. I would like to chat with you privately and get to know more about you, that’s always a start, we never know were this tide takes us. To know how I look and sound, check out my YouTube videos from the link below.

Sixfeetbelle:


Apart from transactional love, I want to believe that love (real love) is achievable if you genuinely look for it even in that transactional relationships sef.

Okay, your last line daunts me a little but I believe I can try. Learn how to sacrifice.

Right. Sacrifice what exactly?

You cannot get love in a transactional relationship. In such relationships. You get something ( sex, companionship, money etc) in exchange for some other things (sex, your time, your intellect etc) anytime one of these "commodities" is no longer available the attraction dies and so does the relationship. In a true love relationship, the commodity on sale are your essence and that of your partner. And because they do not fade or get finished the love endures.

That's why true love is very rare.

Love is a beautiful thing. But it will hurt like hell when things don’t go the way you want it to

Sawzer:


You're right
I just went through the thread and I realized my post wasn't necessary
I hope you find love though. But one thing I know is that you're emotional tonight prolly because of the movie you watched. It's a phase, sleep on it and you'd be fine tomorrow.
People most likely wouldn't find true love while they are looking for it, It just hit you like a train (if it would because some people will never experience true love)
The key is to be happy! Have a nice night and fairly tale dreams!

Thank you for your kind words. I'll do just that.

Good night.

Pancakeey:
Love is a beautiful thing. But it will hurt like hell when things don’t go the way you want it to

I'm already dreading this part of it sef.

lordaltruist:


You are definitely one of those girls that has made it difficult for me to trust girls thus finding it difficult to fall in love again; for your INFORMATION, love is not all about SEX AND MONEY.
There are still some of us who want to love for love and be loved back. We want to explore the fun and joy that love brings; we want to have a companion not a partner, we want to feel and not to think, we want to share not give and we want to give and not take.
Do you even know what love is?
Have you ever experienced true love?
I doubt it otherwise you wouldn't have said that.
To the Op:
I share your fate but in my case I had experience love and it is something I am craving for more than anything.
To say I knew how and when I fell in love with her, I can't tell because it was genuine; you will never know until you find yourself in his arms, laughing your rib out, jumping like a baby and having an unexplainable feeling inside you then you realize that you are definitely in love.
My Advise:
Don't bug yourself looking for it rather give yourself to it, it will surely come.
Stop looking at the wrong places and start looking at the right place.
Stop expecting it to be a particular person rather allow it to lead you to the right person.
Handsome/Not-Handsome is not love neither is money nor sex.
It could be close to you or far from you, just give it a chance.
Don't look down on her (love) when she comes knocking cause you never can tell what it has in store for you.
Finally my dear; live life and let it live you, love all and love none; look inward and outward you never can tell, be sincere to yourself and let your character define you then and only then true love will find you.

Thank you for your kind words. I'll try to imbibe your words of wisdom and work with it.

Let love lead me to the right person. Okay. I'll do that.

Sixfeetbelle:
Chim ooh! Local girl is tired. Ole ihe bu ihe nkaa?

The Genesis of the matter.

I just finished watching a romantic movie and I've been sighing longingly for over an hour. What is in this "love" that people are falling into everyday yet I've been unlucky in finding that place? And although I hear people say "there's no love in Nigeria", I can't help but doubt them when I see my timelines on Facebook. Wedding every Saturday, love in the air. Or is there own feem trick?. Does love segregate?

What pushed me to write this thread?

I just realised that as old as I am, I've never been in love before and I'm suddenly coming to the unpalatable conclusion that at the rate I'm going, falling in love may never happen to me (wails uncontrollably). I want to love somebody's son and I want somebody's son to love me back. Is it hard to do?

There was a time I thought I knew how to achieve this feat but conditions are not favoring my initial plans of travelling abroad, doing a whirlwind romance and falling in love like they portray that they do over there, so I've decided to cut my coat according to my cloth, literally, and just do the type practiced here. So early this year, I made a research (Aproko) on how best to achieve this and voila: Nairaland Romance section popped up in brilliant hues.

Romance-land and the word "love"

But contrary to my expectations, romanceland has failed woefully in trying to help me attain this goal (these peeps here don't know what love is). With their incessant need to discuss on repetition topics ranging from preeks and kitten to redpill and feminism, even broke guys and entitled ladies all day long, I've found it hard to actually pinpoint a topic/thread that centers/teaches on love and how to fall in it. Thus asking, should I consult another section and try my luck over there? Maybe politics section? Those guys over there "sound" vicious enough and since the violent taketh it by force...

What I need?

So I've taken it upon myself to make the necessary clarion call on behalf of all the single people like me who has never been in love before, and for those who wish to experience it again to get the directions they need. As I am ignorant about how to go about falling in love, I'd implore those with expertise to help us with plentiful knowledge on the matter so that we can all learn and apply it.

Specifically, I need clarification on: where the entrance called "love" is located so I can go and fall inside or is that it is no longer accepting applications at this time? Has the door of love finally closed?



Thank you.


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Tis going to happen at the appropriate time unexpectedly....stay calm and breathe....

abidex0z:

Tis going to happen at the appropriate time unexpectedly....stay calm and breathe....

Stay calm and breathe.



Right. Got it.

Sixfeetbelle:


Stay calm and breathe.



Right. Got it.

Exactly.... sometimes when you are looking for something, it might seems out of sight, however when you are not looking at all, it will juss Happen beyond your own imagination....

Try n love those eyeing you

Pancakeey:
Love is a beautiful thing. But it will hurt like hell when things don’t go the way you want it to

Then don't expect too much from it.

Expectations is what makes love hurt to the bone marrow.



sixfeetbelle which movie be that?, I wan check something

luminouz:


Nawa o.....


U avoid people in love? That jealous much?


Well, being so nice, you can love me.....no homo dou

Thanks man. It always trigger this feeling of being abandoned or the odd one. Girls do visit most of my male folks except me and occasionally one guy too.
I go to eatery or date myself and I sit alone, if a pair comes - I try to finish up quickly and leave. Sometimes I do try to listen to what they say or be looking at them in a way they won't notice. (Man is dieing silently)

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm tired of seeing people fall in love. I've awwed, I've day dreamed. In short, my jaw aches from how hard it smiled after watching that movie.

See my female version o
Dates none

Love none

Valentine none

Anyone crushing on me, none.

GF none.

See my life
There is this guy and his girlfriend that plays chess, they were doing all their sweet sweet, hold hold. I just looked away let me not cry The way I use vexation win the girl but, drew against her guy eh. Heh.

I just want to experience that "heart pounding" feeling. I'm tired of dealing with crushes.

I say, this your post was just making me think of why I am single, took me some time before I fell asleep.

Sixfeetbelle:


I could have sworn somewhere up there in my post had enough clue to ascertain my gender, most especially if the pink "f" tattoed on my moniker was misleading.

this sound so familiar

Sawzer:



It's somehow mutual too, I've never been in love but I don't think I'm really worried about that. Or should I be?

My worry has been how I'd be able to get all the material things I would love to have like a 2020 BMW M8 competition Gran-coupé, travel around the world and eat different dishes. I'm more worried about being broke because I'm materialistic.

I also wish to impact the world positively, especially Nigeria. If I'm blessed with enough money, I'll like to take care of the poor, disabled, sick, etc.

Sounds like a presidential candidate to me.

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm already dreading this part of it sef.

Ikr. Lol It just hurts when you think the person you said you’ll spend forever with is about to leave.

Aaaargh. Your heart will begin to constrict

JOACHINpedro:

Then don't expect too much from it.

Expectations is what makes love hurt to the bone marrow.



sixfeetbelle which movie be that?, I wan check something

Lol, how can you not expect too much?
If you’re not expecting too much that means you already had it at the back of your mind that the relationship was never going to work.

And what movie is six feet belle?
The only six feet movie I know is six feet apart.
It’s a really nice and heart warming movie. You’ll like it

lordaltruist:


You are definitely one of those girls that has made it difficult for me to trust girls thus finding it difficult to fall in love again; for your INFORMATION, love is not all about SEX AND MONEY.
There are still some of us who want to love for love and be loved back. We want to explore the fun and joy that love brings; we want to have a companion not a partner, we want to feel and not to think, we want to share not give and we want to give and not take.
Do you even know what love is?
Have you ever experienced true love?
I doubt it otherwise you wouldn't have said that.
To the Op:
I share your fate but in my case I had experience love and it is something I am craving for more than anything.
To say I knew how and when I fell in love with her, I can't tell because it was genuine; you will never know until you find yourself in his arms, laughing your rib out, jumping like a baby and having an unexplainable feeling inside you then you realize that you are definitely in love.
My Advise:
Don't bug yourself looking for it rather give yourself to it, it will surely come.
Stop looking at the wrong places and start looking at the right place.
Stop expecting it to be a particular person rather allow it to lead you to the right person.
Handsome/Not-Handsome is not love neither is money nor sex.
It could be close to you or far from you, just give it a chance.
Don't look down on her (love) when she comes knocking cause you never can tell what it has in store for you.
Finally my dear; live life and let it live you, love all and love none; look inward and outward you never can tell, be sincere to yourself and let your character define you then and only then true love will find you.

The post jumped right over your head.

Please I'm not stopping you from loving, or finding anyone. I'm talking about what is happening in the society today and what I've experienced.

Go back to that my post, this time around, calm down, read and digest.

Shortyy:
Sorry to bust your bubble dearie. In these days love setting. Love is sex and money.

There is no sincerity. Even when you sincerely open your heart wholeheartedly to love and accept them, they'll play you like a football. (Chelsea vs Man U kind of match). But if you're very strong and want to keep attempting till you find the right person, break a leg then.

But I'll advice you to carry all that love and give to your family and the less privileged, they're people that need it the most and will cherish it.

Haba don't reflect ur negative vibes on her na, y u like dis, who burnt u dis bad kwa?

manual no dey dis love thing, to all Dia own, mine na trust and respect, it's been easier that way to classify dem ladies around me Sha

RealEzee:
Haba don't reflect ur negative vibes on her na, y u like dis, who burnt u dis bad kwa?

manual no dey dis love thing, to all Dia own, mine na trust and respect, it's been easier that way to classify dem ladies around me Sha

Read to understand, not to comment.

When will these bimbos learn to understand that movies are not real and majority of the actors and actress struggle to maintain stable relationship behind rolling cameras? Therefore, it is simply idiotic to base your life on the scripted, lovey-dovey scenes of a movie. I remember as a kid, after watching any of the American action movie, we hit the street, intent on replicating what we just watched or seen. But as we became adult, truly, we unlearned this habit. When will you unlearn yours? At 35, 40, 50?

In any case, it appears that as Nigerian ladies become older, the more they act and behave like kids. While it is expected that a semblance of maturity should accompany age, our ladies, unfortunately, have shred the validity of this notion to pieces.

At the end of the day and no matter how we carry ourselves on an anonymous online platform, we can never escape from reality, no matter the amount of romantic movies we watch. This is because reality is always cold and indifferent.

@sixfeetbelle, nobody can love you because you're a fake and wishy-washy with your exaggerated verbosity and ITK.

Shortyy:

Read to understand, not to comment.

u need da advice more tho
Drop negative vibes, geez

MrTAnonymous:
Love has no manuals dear, it can happen at anytime, anywhere.
All you need to do is to open your heart and mind to romantic opportunities, be open minded, be ready to commit and be true to yourself, know what you really want and go for it.

You seem intelligent judging by your write - up. I hope you find true love soon.


Incase you don't know na me talk

Hmmm... Mr Aquarius

Pancakeey:


Lol, how can you not expect too much?
If you’re not expecting too much that means you already had it at the back of your mind that the relationship was never going to work.

And what movie is six feet belle?
The only six feet movie I know is six feet apart.
It’s a really nice and heart warming movie. You’ll like it

You hope for a better yield in relationships, you don't expect it cuz it's no longer assured.
Sixfeetbelle na op.

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm scared. I don't want someone to break my heart ooh

It's better I don't fall in love than to have it shattered to pieces afterwards. That's my dilemma.

Diz man or woman too much sense is worrying you

Shortyy:


The post jumped right over your head.

Please I'm not stopping you from loving, or finding anyone. I'm talking about what is happening in the society today and what I've experienced.

Go back to that my post, this time around, calm down, read and digest.

Oh yeah I have read through the post and have digested it; I was referring to your thoughts about what you think of the SOCIETY; please dear what is happening in the society today is not being doing by every existence of the society thus your thoughts should be streamlined.
Yes we all are products of our society; but truth is we all are what we made of ourselves.

The post jumped right over your head.

Please I'm not stopping you from loving, or finding anyone. I'm talking about what is happening in the society today and what I've experienced.

Go back to that my post, this time around, calm down, read and digest.
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Oh yeah I have read through the post and have digested it; I was referring to your thoughts about what you think of the SOCIETY; please dear what is happening in the society today is not being doing by every existence of the society thus your thoughts should be streamlined.
Yes we all are products of our society; but truth is we all are what we made of ourselves.