Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

Afikoo:


Of course I have suspended it.

I am working earning 80k. I need more. I have tried.
That's the last kart of my tweet comes in place.

How can one get out of this average life. I need a better job

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

FanOfMyself:

okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

Sixfeetbelle:


Do you have farm?

Besides, you said they assisted which means they didn't do all the farm work by themselves. And in this day of technology, assisting in farms sounds like child's play

oceanized25:
While 80k is not really high, it is not abominable for marriage either...i find It strange that people(most)are shouting"go look for money first,focus on money",I will bet my balls that they(some)don't have such regular amount coming in monthly...because others are talking, they also want to feel among.

Op,it's is alright to try n increase or better your income, but don't think the money is not enough for starters(just you n wife)most of those niggars talking up n down there will kill to be in your position...see them rushing for N-power n u will understand.

UyaiIncomparabl:



Honestly, it's a sad reality. With that age, does he even have prospects of getting better jobs? Now that the age limits to applying for a job are under 28?

I just hope he scales through this phase. 80K na small thing, since the girl hasn't even started earning. They will be living in tight finances. The best thing will be for both of them to work on getting a sustainable income.

thesicilian:
With the marriage plans, it seems you were heading into the life of the average Nigerian family man living daily from hand to mouth and praying fervently for the next day's meal. Thank God for your girlfriend and in-laws who God has used to redeem you (whether their intentions are genuine or not).

My advice to you is that you should invest most of your salary into marketable skills, keep your certificates aside for now. Learn a skill that you know can set you up within 6months to 1yr and then start your own business based on that skill. It could be in IT, Real estate, engineering, construction, general grade, etc, just something with good potentials that God can bless for you.

ticker:
real estate? how?

Notatribalist:
With 80k how can he go into real estate?

Afikoo:
.

I am 32. I have been working for 7 years here. Also working while in school. Just finished last year and got a pay rise to 80k as security administrator.

Baba, my issue isn't the marriage. My issue is the money. I am desperately asking on how best improve my income. Concrete suggestions on what I need to lay my hands on now to get started. I am tire of submitting applications

ufotty2001:
Nigeria is d only country where a girl will be a tailor and the family will expect her to marry Dangote son

Tadeknkeepcalm:

so for your mind now, everyone can get rich.

isn't wealth relative?

so what if all these options fail. he should never get married? note: this guy is not dirt poor

Afikoo:
.

She is not going. She is advising me to suspend the marriage and let's work to improve our income. Both of us.
Now I am just confuse it I am to just ignore the relationship and focus on myself or get someone that'd is equally earning.

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

Chummynoni:
Take yur time bro. If she is meant for you,she will stay wit u no matter what. If i share my story, you wud know that what is yours wud always be yurs no matter the circumstance.

Lifepodcastng:
I feel like you’re just too concerned about the money that you’re not looking straight. Your girl put you down bc of money and you’re fidgeting? Lmao. Shior. If I see that 80k steady money add to myself now, every girl in Nigeria will beg to marry me. You better throw away that babe and find better woman. It’s like you people do not look straight. If she was earning atleast 60 already then you guys can raise 140 monthly and with that you can start a wonderful life. Do a small court wedding and save at least 50k every month. Since you’re security, you don’t even need much, buy in bulk and stay true to yourself and your wife. Do not let anyone lie to you. You’re doing ok. Life is not enjoyed at the top, the beauty of life is at the bottom and if you’re average then you’re blessed. I’m still baffled sef. The fact that you did not even think of the insult dey pain me honestly. The girl family no think say their pikin useless, them dey find person wey go die for their child. See that family have lost respect for you. You’re sounding defeated sef from your write up. Personally if I see steady that that your money ehn, ha person go die. You think the charisma in men has anything to do with their money? I do not see that charisma in you. At least not from this post. You people think it’s easy to be a man? You’re a grown man, 32 for that matter, do you know how many lady will be praying to see a man like you? See I have a friend who’s 29 and looking for a serious and godlike relationship. If you are sound minded and focused in life, women should troop before you. You throw away disloyalty to talk about money? If I catch that your babe ehn, I go twisted head, she go see say men different from men. Nonsense. You think say na money dey sustain life or relationship? Mehn if you’re not wise, or understand life, you’ll keep being a puppet for your wife and her family. Person wey no respect you when you get can never respect you even when you have, if they latter do then it’s totally fake. Call that babe, tell am to give you your ring back. Tell her you want to be alone for a while, take that time read more, sharpen yourself and get to know Christ and you’ll see women beg you to marry them.

Heryormilekan:


Wow! You're wise. I finished service last month also, have been freelancing on upwork prior to my year year, I also blog and do domaining. You can check nairaland business section there are some embedded mini importation threads there.

Please do apply for available vacancies in my field too.

chiomaP:

Thank you ☺️� Well-done dear, we will all survive.

FanOfMyself:

okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

Heryormilekan:


Welcome. Also try to learn more about FB ads it will really help