Trayceey:
My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

J111333:
The matter tire me aswear.

The woman even complained of the drink she offered the dude and the daughter quickly called her bobo to hala, nawa. If I were in the dude's shoes, that would probably be our last phone call.

This kind future wife and mum in law, ike gwuru.

The lady's problem is that she can't even think on her own

At first, she didn't see anything wrong. But because mama dey vex, she decided to see reason where there was none.

The mama was even annoyed that she entertained him without getting Ankara, or Bag in return

Chai

Mariangeles:
How come nobody understands the principle of giving gifts and the honour that comes with it?
It is not about what you give, it is the thought that counts.
If the young man had brought something as simple as fruits and the woman complained, then she would've been wrong.

It has nothing to do with poverty. Only someone with poverty mentality would think expecting gift(s) from someone is out of place, and only someone with inferiority complex would think it is a thing of shame to except gift from a certain someone.

"A man's gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men"

Giving gifts will make way for you in the presence of Kings and great men.

britiko:


The bolded refers to your talents, (what value u have) and not material gifts like bread.

That been said, its good to give willingly, not people developing entitlement mentality and when you don't give it becomes an issue.

Hathor5:
You should have never told your boyfriend what your mother said. BIG mistake!
Even if you mend the relationship with him, he will feel different about her from now on and I can't blame him.
Expecting people to always give you something every time they visit is pure greed or the result of poverty. I don't know which one it is in your case.

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

Graxie:
Please don't marry him, he will always hate your mom. You did wrong by telling him what your mom said. It wasn't his first time and he didn't go empty the first time. Your mom is greedy.

Trayceey:
that's your family

iamL:
Your mum should have been more concerned about his behavior and the kind of man he is.

Trayceey:
My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Chujor1634:
Your mentality and that of your mum is so annoying, to think that you had to even call him him instead of talking sense to your mum is the height of it all.

GayPontiff:



No offense o, but be offended all u want.
You and ur mama need deliverance .
Contact me for recommendations.

If the guy marries u, each visit to your mum will now cost him a cow and a new house shebi?
That he even went to greet her which is the highlight that deserves accolades suddenly gets swept under d carpet. U proceeded to hang up call on him.
Now ur seeking justification publicly.

If u want to enjoy ur marriage in d future when u don marry eh babes, no be everything momsi talk u go swallow.

Juliearth:




I wonder why she didn't give him credence for paying her mother a visit. Only a man who means business would do that.

Fiscus105:



A wise mother had seeeeeeeeeen that, if a guy that has not entered their house completely, can be so insensitive like this,.......how much is Eva? Soap, etc. The fiance action is enough to know he not matured enough to be calling responsible man,.... A man ready to carry responsibilities of wife and kids, just like you and others are complaining.

If he bought something and mother complained is too small, that would have been a different story.

Mariangeles:
Trayceey, delete the thread, otherwise, foolish people without home training will continue to insult your mother.

Trayceey:
I've tried to delete it. It's not working. How do I go about it?

Trayceey:
I've tried to delete it. It's not working. How do I go about it?

rtdCivilservant:

With this u just confirmed that u are a bad person, i wish ur bf will call off the marriage. Nonsense.

Trayceey:
why not call it off yourself? Nonsense

emmaodet:





Baba how your side now? Compliment of the season.

This thread sweet me die i swear, i just dey laff since

Fiscus105:



Why won't she? Going to ur in law place around festive period and you go thr empty handed, Whc type of careless and insensitive fiance is that, such guy will not be sensitive to pay sch fees and dropping food money in future, if she tries to marry such animal


Yoruba will say..... Ko moju Ko Mora (one who doesn't know what is shameful)

Fiscus105:



Why won't she? Going to ur in law place around festive period and you go thr empty handed, Whc type of careless and insensitive fiance is that, such guy will not be sensitive to pay sch fees and dropping food money in future, if she tries to marry such animal


Yoruba will say..... Ko moju Ko Mora (one who doesn't know what is shameful)

Fiscus105:



A wise mother had seeeeeeeeeen that, if a guy that has not entered their house completely, can be so insensitive like this,.......how much is Eva? Soap, etc. The fiance action is enough to know he not matured enough to be calling responsible man,.... A man ready to carry responsibilities of wife and kids, just like you and others are complaining.

If he bought something and mother complained is too small, that would have been a different story.

Trayceey:
must you be insulting? With the way you sound, u re not responsible and reasonable enough, so your opinion doesn't count

Raalsalghul:


The Op go don dey regret why she bring the topic come Nairaland.

Raalsalghul:


The Op go don dey regret why she bring the topic come Nairaland.

emmaodet:





Baba how your side now? Compliment of the season.

This thread sweet me die i swear, i just dey laff since

TransAtlanticEx:
Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

TransAtlanticEx:
Omo dey alright.
The thread just dey help expose all the worthless women we've got on NL.

Trayceey:
You're so dumb. Just because u have access to internet via operamini free mb, you have the liberty to type trash. I'm guessing you are a teenager who comes here to catch cruise, so I won't waste my time and energy on u