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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 12:14pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 12:18pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: A bottle of wine would have settled this whole ish. Maybe because i'm igbotic but i can't go to an inlaw's place for the first time emptyhanded as a man. Just my opinion. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 12:26pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: Read what you quoted again 1) It was not his first time. He brought a gift before 2) She is not his inlaw. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 12:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: Yes, i can't go to an intending in-law's place empty-handed as a man. It doesn't speak well of me as an igbo man. Just 1000 naira bottle of eva wine would suffice. It really isn't that deep. Nobody gives my daddy an invitation card empty handed, a bottle of wine accompanys it. And no, we are not hungry, broke or entitled. It's just a symbol of respect. By the way, i also grew up my wholelife in the west. Only came down to the east precisely Enugu for my tertiary education and i still know the basics. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 12:59pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
mogbolade43693: No, a bottle of eva wine which is 1000 naira or fruits worth 1000 would have sufficed. Banana 500 naira, oranges 500 naira making 1000 naira would do. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 1:05pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
ceeceeuwa: As in eh, 1000 fruits or a bottle of eva wine would solve this. It really isn't that serious. The poverty in this country is affecting a lot of minds. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 1:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: My father still gives a bag of rice every christmas to his in-laws. I am igbo from Anambra state. Abi na poverty dey cause all this rubbish. God provide for our men. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by MilesLamar(m): 1:14pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Madam, to be honest with you, if it's the first time he's visiting, the least he can get is bread na haba, Your man no try, this has nothing to do with hungry or poverty ignore all those comments madam. Good luck. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LordKO(m): 1:29pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: As much as it's not a cultural thing for a grown-up and responsible visitor to gift their host something, it's, however, one of those little things that matter in an interpersonal relationship, especially in a scenario like this. He didn't behave like a man with some sense of self-value. He was thoughtless, except he isn't well-to-do, or he forgot. And, of course, the OP and her mother were wrong too; while her mother's action typifies that of a typical self-absorbing person; the OP's action typifies that of both a crass and self-absorbing person. The reciprocity of goodness is the soul of a healthy relationship. Meanwhile, Pocohantas, before you start to cry betrayal and hatred, remember my advice as always - avoid deriding and debasing Igbo people and culture unjustly in your opportunistic and clout chasing schemes. You can have your way without bringing our people down. Smart people don't bring their people down to rise in any cause. However, should you decide to continue deriding and debasing anything Igbo, all in a bid to appear sophisticated and pure, you'll provoke someone like me into bringing your intimate details here. So, if you don't want to be derided and debased, avoid deriding and debasing our people. The said greedy attitude your uncle and his children exhibited doesn't represent the attitude of a majority of people from the SE as self-absorbingly and crassly asserted. By the way, you don't have any rich uncle anywhere; stop misinforming and misleading people who don't know you better. Non Igbo people can easily be ignored and forgiven of any wrong impression they've about the Igbo people and its culture, which many a times stem from bigotry and hatred but having an Igbo indigene disingenuously giving wrong information about the people and its culture is unacceptable. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by sapporo: 1:33pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: 20years ago your comment would have been EOD, boss asking us to abide by our culture in this modern age is out of place because all these gurls we have now, operate under foreign culture team slay i understand your morals, your personality is still rooted in how you were raised,some of have this upbringing to, buh now we evolve with the trends, anyhow they bring it we give it back. a cultured gurlfriend won't cut the call on her husband to be. A woman that wants a cultured man must be cultured herself, if you gimme foreign vibe mesef go come with maths set & tape rule. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 1:34pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: Na Yoruba guy i swear. No real igbo man goes to his in-laws place emptyhanded. It's not nice. Fruits would do,it doesn't have to be something big. My dad still takes bag of rice to his inlaw's every Christmas. My other uncle single-handedly sent his brother inlaw to dubai. And no, none of these things were expected of them. They did it because they wanted to and they had the means to. An igbo adage says that a person's inlaw is his God. But bear in mind no one forces you to do them. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 1:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:Please, can you give me your fiancé's contact? I would love to talk to him. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 1:43pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Thank you oo. Fruits e. g Banana, orange, Groundnut and a bottle of wine would do and it is festive period for God's sake. Na wa for people. Just 3000 would have made the woman happy. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 1:46pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Exactly. God bless you and provide for you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by pocohantas(f): 1:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: True. Hopefully she’ll learn... |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by pocohantas(f): 1:58pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: This was the exact scenario that played out with my uncle. It happens a lot in reality- but this is Nairaland sha. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 2:03pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Even cash gift is disrespectful master. An expensive wine for the man and expensive attire for the mother is enough. Your family really has great courtesy. I see why you cannot settle for less. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Afromentalist:why not search it on Google? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 2:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
sapporo: If you carry this toxic orientation into ur mariage .....i know it will wane down before you tie the knot, but if you try it, women will find it hard to leave with you 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 2:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: That is the way i saw it and that is what i imitated. A man that has paid his dues deserves to be respected. It's not really that deep to me. I do it and it has not taken anything from me. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LagBae(f): 2:17pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: YES. YOU WERE WRONG. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 2:21pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
JovialJune: Utterances are enough to know urchins, you married and you talk like this, not even married woman, I pity the poor man who finds himself In ur claws, anyway a girl who was impregnated and bundled to man's house......... we know how she will reason when other sound minds are contributing Thou I don't believe in epistle u commented above. Go and check meaning of riffraff and relate it with the way he-she like u behave 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Afromentalist: 3:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:No wonder at 32, you are not married yet. Who wants to marry an evening newspaper who neither has good character, youth and to top it all is a leech ? The guy was even trying sef. Cc. Transatlanticex 12 Likes
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 3:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Afromentalist:lol. It really pained you seriously . So unmarried ladies at 45 should kill themselves abi. Highest fool of the century. Come and collect his contact na. Anu mpama. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Afromentalist:lol no mind the mama. Na frustration dey do am. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 3:26pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
ethicallyright:One thing you should know is that giving women money is a form of putting them in their appropriate place in your life,exactly where you want them. The moment a woman collects money from you is the day she gets in that position and gives you leverage. Always do that to women,especially the ones that don't make money on their own but are dependent on a rich husband. 10 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 3:30pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Thanks Sir. I'll adhere to this wonderful advice throughout my life so that it will be well with me. Your wisdom is enormous, Sir. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 3:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Sir, I must confess it is better to follow well thought out principles like yours instead of following a school of thought like a robot. The redpill patients would think otherwise. I guess the general rule is to be wise with money while dealing with women, but if you want to control them , spend it on them since they are indecisive creatures motivated by wealth and riches. May you remain wise and Influential master. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Orisirisi ,o boy go and get life o Ur attitude and level you go point towards ur lifeless attributes. Because someone who has work and taking responsibilities of certain class of people will not be digging hole looking for mountain as you did 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by DrayZee: 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: “Animal” and potential “wife beater”, because he didn’t buy bread. Wonderful. 21 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 3:41pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
ethicallyright:Money is a very powerful control tool. It can control men too,but wouldn't work on a man that knows how to make his own money. So who do you turn to in this scenario?The woman. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 3:42pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
DrayZee: Because he was aggressive and stop talking to her when she told him how her mother felt . A mature guy will say, I sorry it doesn't come up to me, the issue would have died a natural death Any man who quickly block his gf on trivia issues is aggressive in nature and potential wife beater Though op might use heavy tongue, nevertheless |
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