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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Mariangeles(f): 9:13pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
izzou: It didn't seem to me like she was angry angry... Can you please tell us what part of Igbo culture makes it mandatory for a boyfriend to bring some offering to his girlfriend's mother anytime she visits Not mandatory, but out of courtesy. As for the op, she needs to stay single for a while. She does not even have a mind of her own She made a mistake, and I believe she's learned from comments here. She deserves a chance to make amends and settle things with her fiance. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 9:20pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Mariangeles: She shouldn't blame him if he sees her mother in a different way. I wish her well 18 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Deffjam: 9:25pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Trayceey:u don see say u no get sense bah? You better go beg ur guy. But that ur mum shaa....person like me fit no come back to that house again. 18 ladies came out last sunday when pastor called for marital blessing. 54 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Deffjam: 9:27pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Graxie:she should not marry him? Haba aunty? Haba mana? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Regex: 9:59pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Make it a standard that whoever you date from now on should bring gifts when coming to see you. You should break up with your fiance. He's still a kid. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by femi4: 10:00pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Trayceey:Na wa o....Where is it written that every visit by your boyfriend must be accompanying with gift for your mum You n your mum are wrong, 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 11:07pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Deffjam:na bcoz say d guy no get money Na.. D mumcy been dn dae find way 2 discard am since, she dn finally see opportunity. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 11:08pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
Lol.. some people though. The guy no owe you and your mum anything at boyfriend and girlfriend level. In fact if it was me, shame will not allow me tell the guy what my mum said. waaaat?? Ordinary boyfriend? If you now marry nkor? You mum will now turn tax collector? Babes, it's not right. Let the guy do it from his heart if he feels like. Not you people forcing him. My mum would never do such. I remember when my eldest sisters boyfriend ( now her husband) used to come to our house then, my mum will be the one running Helter skelter to entertain him and never expects anything from him cos she feels they are both children. And On his own, he'll just bring rice for us at Christmas without asking him. You and your mum should calm down. Haba! 50 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by seanwilliam(m): 11:14pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:retreat! Officer retreat ! 27 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by KnightsTemplar(m): 11:17pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
OP you and your mom didn't get it right at all and that is the truth, More especially you. You just shouldn't have confronted your fiancee about it, what you would have done is to schedule another visit with him, and when you guys are going tell him to get something moderate for your mom. There is a possibility he unintentionally omitted getting something for her, it can happen to anyone. Secondly it is too early for your mom to be expecting things from him. 11 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 11:26pm On Jan 07, 2021 |
seanwilliam:who doesn't know chief logo Benz a.k.a nwaneni, except ya new 2 this forum.. It's obvious the girl and her mother don't like the guy because he's not flashy and doesn't seem like the destiny helper they've been praying for.. She only keeping him on the side to fall back on before menopause 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 3:08am On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou:The matter tire me aswear. The woman even complained of the drink she offered the dude and the daughter quickly called her bobo to hala, nawa. If I were in the dude's shoes, that would probably be our last phone call. This kind future wife and mum in law, ike gwuru. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by DesChyko: 3:40am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Eli Eli Lama Sabbactani. Please do him the biggest favour of his life and call off the relationship. He's obviously what our teenage boys today will call a client. It's only at a police check point that you must come with something when you visit and never expect anything in return. There are 1001 reason why he couldn't buy anything. He probably at the moment couldn't afford something he thinks is okay, or he doesn't feel it is necessary, or doesn't know what to get, or couldn't get anything close by when he felt the need to come along with something.. I mean, humans are different! We aren't robots programmed to behave in a particular way. Let the young man go. 32 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 3:52am On Jan 08, 2021 |
There is nothing as great as good companionship. Gifts or no gifts. His presence alone is all the gifts you and your mom needed. It shows he is not a Playboy. He is serious in being acquainted with you and your family. There's nothing great as when a stranger visits you to know about your welfare. What even your family members will find very hard to do. Shey you go marry? On your wedding day, will you tell me you expect all the guests there to give you gifts? Even your family members, not all of them will bring gifts but you'll be happy that they came right? Please change that mindset. 50 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 4:21am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Please, sit this one out. You've been digging a hole and should know when to stop - you're not the only Igbo person that has responded here neither are you the only Christian (saw some quotes from the Bible). I somewhat perceive you wouldn't have acted any different than the mother did, which is ok. Just don't try to cover such poor behavior under the banner of "Igbo culture." Stop it! The guy dodged a bullet. No man needs such pressure from to-be in-laws and much worse when one's to-be wife can't even cover his 'shame' before her family. Almost seems like his time and presence are worth nothing - such a shame! Mariangeles: 47 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by SweetCunt97(f): 4:30am On Jan 08, 2021 |
J111333:But you know it ain't cool to go see an intending in law empty handed nwokem. The lady no wise though |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by SweetCunt97(f): 4:32am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:Be wise, talk or relate with wisdom. She's your mom does not make her immune to mistakes. Remember say na you wan marry, and such action will make d man think twice and you'll continue washing plates and sweeping d house for ur mom. Better get sense and call him... Simply tell him it's a cultural something. 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Raalsalghul: 4:53am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: 22 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 5:19am On Jan 08, 2021 |
SweetCunt97:My dear, that was just an ordinary hello visit. He didn't go there with elders, neither was it the first time he visited. The first time, yes I will go there with probably a bottle of wine for her dad and on my way out, share some money to the kids around. I also will give some money to her mum if they are not financially comfortable. I say this because I see giving cash to financially comfortable people as insulting. Other times, I may buy some beverages and I may not. It's not mandatory and it depends on my relationship with the intending mum in law. I won't want to give the impression that I'm trying to buy her consent. 43 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by emmaodet: 5:20am On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Baba how your side now? Compliment of the season. This thread sweet me die i swear, i just dey laff since 15 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by emmaodet: 5:24am On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by emmaodet: 5:25am On Jan 08, 2021 |
GayPontiff: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by SweetCunt97(f): 5:41am On Jan 08, 2021 |
J111333:OH OK. Thought it's iku aka. She sha no do am well. Hope it won't spoil d relationship sha if so, na her mumsy cause am. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by addictiv(m): 5:54am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by StPete: 5:58am On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Nna eh be fearing God na. Chai, u finish this babe o. Now she won't be able to eat for the next 2 weeks 17 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by rtdCivilservant: 6:14am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:With this u just confirmed that u are a bad person, i wish ur bf will call off the marriage. Nonsense. 30 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by nitoriolohun(m): 6:31am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Pls don't misquote the scripture, the gift here is talking about talents. That wasn't the first time the guy visited and when he did he brought something. Is it everytime one will be carrying nylon up n down. The guy knows well that giving gifts corrupts and he might be there to ascertain some doubt,believe or concept. The woman should have used it as an opportunity to have an unbiased mind with the young man and enjoy his company than making an issue over gifts. 36 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 6:51am On Jan 08, 2021 |
SweetCunt97: So in Igbo tradition, na only the guy dey go Iku aka n'uzo abi? I just dey ask 13 Likes 1 Share |
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