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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 8:55am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:okay. Thanks. I won't. Sometimes I wonder if these people with horrible comments are humans 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 8:58am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:lol okay. Lol @ free mb. 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 9:02am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Follow nairaland people at ur own peril, many of them are just " fault finders". No matter how good intentions of the posts, they will attack the posters, many of the guys (attackers) can't try to go empty handed to ordinary girlfriend place not talk of mother in law. Even sister in law, I buy gifts not to talk a whole mother of ur wife or wife to be. Yet they will be Lamenting girls are bad, marriage is a scam Why won't be problems for them, when they refused to play the game according to dictate of the rules 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Raalsalghul: 9:05am On Jan 08, 2021 |
emmaodet: All good. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Mariangeles(f): 9:12am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: They want to usurp our culture with the western ways by all means...trying to change the narrative with words such as "entitlement mentality" "greed" and what nots... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 9:16am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: If your story is true, ......u have not seen husband o, but animal perhaps wife beater My sister and brother in law use to complain I don't use to call them regularly....... I have never thought for once (not saying o,) ....that why cant they call me if I don't call them? Such fight is fight with someone who loves me. The same way ur mother complained 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by jeff1607(m): 9:45am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Giving is good no doubt, but when you keep on giving you are seen as a good person but the day you stop things will change, then the receiver begins to feel entitled. 19 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by britiko: 10:01am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: You don't av to agree but av an open mind to learn. What does it mean when someone says your gift will make room for you? Proverbs 18:16 is a powerful statement that reveals the answer: "A man's gift makes room for him" (NKJV). ... God has put a gift or talent in every person that the world will make room for. It is this gift that will enable you to fulfill your vision. It will make a way for you in life. Peace!!! 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by idahme(m): 10:26am On Jan 08, 2021 |
donbachi: Even if he is the husband, the way women stress men in Nigeria is unbelievable. Is it how her children give her gift anytime they visit her. Relationship come become stressship 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by idahme(m): 10:38am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Graxie: A leopard doesn't change its colour, as good as your advice seems the mum won't change even if she gets a new man. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 10:41am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Please stop dragging our culture into this embarrassing act I have asked you what part of the Igbo culture stipulates that an intending boyfriend must bring a gift every single time he visits his girlfriend's mum. You no answer It's not like he doesn't bring gifts. He didn't bring it once and hell was let loose. Mama was even complaining about the drink she gave him.. Please stop involving our culture into this. It's not part of it 45 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 10:45am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: This one go just open e-mouth waaa and be yapping about, did you read where Op said the first time he went for a visit, he brought gifts for her mum? Be hyperventilating on matter wet no concern you.... 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 10:45am On Jan 08, 2021 |
So many wretched girls and families on this site,embarrassing hard working igbo weh no send you or your fiance money. Igbo families(especially moms) who go out of their way to make sure their sons are settled and their daughters marry good men that will cherish them are the ones who will expect gifts from her man anytime he comes? Igbo culture to leech of a boyfriend? Ha! No wonder they keep eating dry plantains morning afternoon and night. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 10:46am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Abeg shut up, go and read the rest of Op's comment on first page before drooling.. 17 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by pocohantas(f): 10:50am On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: It is entitlement mentality and I kind of understand Maria’s angle of bringing it close to home. It is more prevalent in the SE. I remember once we went to drop something at an uncle’s place and his younger kids received it. We weren’t home when the Opara called us and asked if Lagos has eroded our sense of culture. In a nutshell, he said we were suppose to bring wine too. Mind you, this my uncle is RICH, not audio richness. Even if OP’s mum is so entitled, OP should have known better. That she can’t make independent decisions is a red flag. 10 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 10:53am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: But what is wrong with you? You have been schooled by countless monikers on basic, sane facts, yet you choose to be dull, be using Igbo culture to cover how greedy you and probably your whole family are cos that can only be the reason why you, Op, and the other one you quoted are supporting each other Abi you no dey think ni, how do you expect a human to be bringing gifts EVERYTIME he visits his in laws? The day he doesn't have, he should go and steal just to please people abi? You are part of the reason people don't like Igbos that much, portraying them to be greedy, poverty stricken, money hungry bunch, so unfair to the good ones. 47 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 10:55am On Jan 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: The fact that she's using culture to justify the entitlement mentality just dey pepper me The Op still dey even defend the mama...No mind of her own Wahala for us wey get Mama wey no dey vex if gift no reach her hand 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 10:58am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Rara o, this thread ain't getting deleted, it should serve as a lesson to others on how to comport themselves and not be seen as hungry In fact, lalasticlala, mynd44 Seun, front page abeg, very interesting thread. 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by pocohantas(f): 11:01am On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: This right here is the main problem if you ask me. The effrontery to call the guy and scold him. Omo! I dey imagine as the call take go. Double wahala for who no get bf wey wan visit her mama. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 11:02am On Jan 08, 2021 |
JovialJune:They can delete it if they want to,we've already identified the entitled,hungry,downtrodden,leeching,poverty stricken women amongst us and their cohorts . People weh dey complain of ordinary malt weh them give person,yet go dey form useless solidarity for NL. Na this kind women go maltreat househelp ehn.... 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 11:03am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: This one doesn't even feel.remorse at all sha, having fun abi? It's either this thread is fake or you nor send the guy again since.it's fun to you, if it's the latter, jejely break up with the guy let him find someone who comes from a good family that can appreciate his little effort, cos you and yours ain't one at all. 28 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by rtdCivilservant: 11:03am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:The truth is that even if he goes ahead to marry u, he will forever not be cool with ur mother, he would some day use it against u. Except u just framed what u wrote down here, no sane human being would act the way u did, even if ur mum complained about him visiting empty handed, why the hell would u call him to reprimand him for that, who does that? Don't u think such attitude from u is an indication of the hell the young man will face in the union? 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Mariangeles(f): 11:05am On Jan 08, 2021 |
[s] JovialJune:[/s] Get out of my mention with your nonsense! How you or anyone think or feel about the Igbos is irrelevant! It doesn't change who we are. A GREAT PEOPLE! 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 11:09am On Jan 08, 2021 |
rtdCivilservant:it was my mistake and I regret doing that. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 11:09am On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Honestly fa, I mean, it's annoying there are people taking sides with Op, when common sense should tell them that giving gifts is voluntary, not compulsory, very simple something that doesn't need thinking too hard na, Different types of people dey sha, dem go dey show themselves small small online, it's a pity this is a faceless forum, we suppose seive the good ones from yeye ones so that people can take heed and beware, chai. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hathor5(f): 11:09am On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: And even threats of Western culture eroding 'our culture' when in fact Westerners bring gifts too when they visit. Most times when my oyinbo friends come over for dinner, I get wine, chocolate, flowers, you name it. But if for one reason or another they choose not to bring anything, no wahala. It's not compulsory to do it every single time. What makes it special is that they do it because they want to and choose to and not because it is a must EVERY TIME they come. A gift from the heart is more worth than a cultural obligation. 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TransAtlanticEx(m): 11:10am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Great people don't beg,neither do they expect anything from anyone! The way you painted igbo made it look like the exact opposite of what you just said. Let me just assume you are not in your best state of mind,because the way you keep contradicting yourself since inception is really funny 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by izzou(m): 11:10am On Jan 08, 2021 |
pocohantas: Scold am, come still hang up Hahahaha. 15 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 11:11am On Jan 08, 2021 |
JovialJune:it would be more fun for me if it's moved to front page. I would really love that |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 11:12am On Jan 08, 2021 |
JovialJune: I hardly answer urchins, wen you grow older than ur present age you will understand, plz start preparing for academic activities, ASUU called off strike already, posts on marriages are not for ur age Thou I blame op for bringing her family issue online for riffraff like you to ridicule 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 11:13am On Jan 08, 2021 |
I wnated to keep mute but beign that alot of people are telling this girl she is right i am begining to see her true self in her present comments and even the previous. I hope this is not the guy you said is having hard times financially (making you have the gut to abuse,shout on him and cut call on him) 1) No matter the reason you dnt shout on your guy (or else he is beign abusive and violent,in which two wrongs still dnt make a right) abuse or cut calls on him. 2)If you did that on trivial issue as this that means you have been doing it b4 and need to work deeply on your self. respect your man always. 3)He is still your boyfriend you introduced to your people. 4)Your boyfriend becomes a fiance after he has initiated marriage process. 5)He dsnt owe your mum anything on a visit as a boyfriend,and after he has turned fiance or in-law he brings what he can when he can (The main thing is there must have been a time he brought something on visit). 6)You have given the guy impression your mum will be influencing decisions both of you make in Ur home. and you cnt even stand for him if need arise. 7)you should take time to grow in mind or change your perception of life and things if what we are actually talking about here is you beign someones wife (na big task for mature minds) plus you are also a mother,you suppose don see things wey suppose don make you calm haba. And for those asking : a correct igbo home wont even harboure the site of a boyfriend more than once in their house talk of bringing gifts. if they see you once na introduction,the second time ua either coming for to start something or jeje sit on your couch and make calls. Infact the mother will even advice the daughter not to receive gifts from him so that if she changes her mind she can easily go with another person. The poor and really weird family amongst them will receive anything from the man and even make demands. It is not the IGBO way. A traditional igbo family never tax their inlaw 20 Likes 3 Shares
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 11:13am On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Egbami ke, who says you people are not great people? Who is arguing about that? The point most people are saying is, don't say nonsense is your culture, be bold and say it's only your own family abi ancestors or clan, so it will be easy to differentiate the great ones from the yeye ones, do you understand? Stop portraying Igbo's generally as bad, not all are bad, entitled, or hungry. 28 Likes 1 Share |
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