Mariangeles:


Nne, don't.

It is what they expect you to do...don't give them the satisfaction any further.

Trayceey:
You're so dumb. Just because u have access to internet via operamini free mb, you have the liberty to type trash. I'm guessing you are a teenager who comes here to catch cruise, so I won't waste my time and energy on u

Mariangeles:


Thank you.

I don't know why people type things on nairaland they wouldn't do in reality.

I asked some guys here if they can dare go to an in-law empty handed, one said he would, the other was just going round in circle.

For me, I can't even dare to do that.

emmaodet:


Hahaha

Abi oooo. What a life, what a family.

How are things at your end bro?

Fiscus105:



Follow nairaland people at ur own peril, many of them are just " fault finders". No matter how good intentions of the posts, they will attack the posters, many of the guys (attackers) can't try to go empty handed to ordinary girlfriend place not talk of mother in law.

Even sister in law, I buy gifts not to talk a whole mother of ur wife or wife to be.

Yet they will be Lamenting girls are bad, marriage is a scam

Why won't be problems for them, when they refused to play the game according to dictate of the rules

Trayceey:
thanks. You're right. It's festive season and that's the more reason it became a problem.

Mariangeles:
How come nobody understands the principle of giving gifts and the honour that comes with it?
It is not about what you give, it is the thought that counts.
If the young man had brought something as simple as fruits and the woman complained, then she would've been wrong.

It has nothing to do with poverty. Only someone with poverty mentality would think expecting gift(s) from someone is out of place, and only someone with inferiority complex would think it is a thing of shame to except gift from a certain someone.

"A man's gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men"

Giving gifts will make way for you in the presence of Kings and great men.

Mariangeles:


I don't agree with you, but we can understand a verse of the scripture differently, depending on how it was ministered to us.

donbachi:
Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

Graxie:
Please don't marry him, he will always hate your mom. You did wrong by telling him what your mom said. It wasn't his first time and he didn't go empty the first time. Your mom is greedy.

Mariangeles:


They want to usurp our culture with the western ways by all means...trying to change the narrative with words such as "entitlement mentality" "greed" and what nots...

Fiscus105:



Why won't she? Going to ur in law place around festive period and you go thr empty handed, Whc type of careless and insensitive fiance is that, such guy will not be sensitive to pay sch fees and dropping food money in future, if she tries to marry such animal


Yoruba will say..... Ko moju Ko Mora (one who doesn't know what is shameful)

Fiscus105:



For him to come to in-law house, not his own martenal house o ,empty handed not even when he is yet to marry their daughter Is enough to know one character, don't forget he also got angry instead of remorse when she told him how her mother felt, such fiance is animal in human skin.

If she ever marries him she will regret

izzou:


Please stop dragging our culture into this embarrassing act

I have asked you what part of the Igbo culture stipulates that an intending boyfriend must bring a gift every single time he visits his girlfriend's mum. You no answer

It's not like he doesn't bring gifts. He didn't bring it once and hell was let loose. Mama was even complaining about the drink she gave him..

Please stop involving our culture into this. It's not part of it

Mariangeles:


They want to usurp our culture with the western ways by all means...trying to change the narrative with words such as "entitlement mentality" "greed" and what nots...

pocohantas:


It is entitlement mentality and I kind of understand Maria’a angle of bringing it close to home. It is more prevalent in the SE. I remember once we went to drop something at an uncle’s place and his younger kids received it. We weren’t home when the Opara called us and asked if Lagos has eroded our sense of culture. In a nutshell, he said we were suppose to bring wine too. Mind you, this my uncle is RICH, not audio richness.

Even if OP’s mum is so entitled, OP should have known better. That she can’t make independent decisions is a red flag.

The fact that she's using culture to justify the entitlement mentality just dey pepper me

The Op still dey even defend the mama...No mind of her own

Wahala for us wey get Mama wey no dey vex if gift no reach her hand

Trayceey:
I've tried to delete it. It's not working. How do I go about it? Okay. Thanks

izzou:


The fact that she's using culture to justify the entitlement mentality just dey pepper me

The Op still dey even defend the mama...No mind of her own

Wahala for us wey get Mama wey no dey vex if gift no reach her hand

JovialJune:



Rara o, this thread ain't getting deleted, it should serve as a lesson to others on how to comport themselves and not be seen as hungry

In fact, lalasticlala, mynd44 Seun, front page abeg, very interesting thread.

Trayceey:
I'm not regretting. As a matter of fact. I'm having fun

Trayceey:
why not call it off yourself? Nonsense

JovialJune:



But what is wrong with you? You have been schooled by countless monikers on basic, sane facts, yet you choose to dull, be using Igbo culture to cover how greedy you and probably your whole family are cos that can only be the reason why you, Op, and the other one you quoted are,

Abi you no dey think ni, how do you expect a human to be bringing gifts EVERYTIME he visits his in laws? The day he doesn't have, he should go and steal just to please people abi?


You are part of the reason people don't like Igbos that much, portraying them to be greedy, poverty stricken, money hungry bunch, so unfair to the good ones.

rtdCivilservant:

The truth is that even if he goes ahead to marry u, he will forever not be cool with ur mother, he would some day use it against u. Except u just framed what u wrote down here, no sane human being would act the way u did, even if ur mum complained about him visiting empty handed, why the hell would u call him to reprimand him for that, who does that? Don't u think such attitude from u is an indication of the hell the young man will face in the union?

TransAtlanticEx:
They can delete it if they want to,we've already identified the entitled,hungry,downtrodden,leeching,poverty stricken women amongst us and their cohorts .
People weh dey complain of ordinary malt weh them give person,yet go dey form useless solidarity for NL.
Na this kind women go maltreat househelp ehn....

izzou:


The fact that she's using culture to justify the entitlement mentality just dey pepper me

The Op still dey even defend the mama...No mind of her own

Wahala for us wey get Mama wey no dey vex if gift no reach her hand

Mariangeles:
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Get out of my mention with your nonsense!

How you or anyone think or feel about the Igbos is irrelevant! It doesn't change who we are. A GREAT PEOPLE!

pocohantas:


This right here is the main problem if you ask me. The effrontery to call the guy and scold him. Omo! I dey imagine as the call take go.

Double wahala for who no get bf wey wan visit her mama.

Scold am, come still hang up

Hahahaha.

JovialJune:



Rara o, this thread ain't getting deleted, it should serve as a lesson to others on how to comport themselves and not be seen as hungry

In fact, lalasticlala, mynd44 Seun, front page abeg, very interesting thread.

JovialJune:



This one go just open e-mouth waaa and be yapping about, did you read where Op said the first time he went for a visit, he brought gifts for her mum? Be hyperventilating on matter wet no concern you....

Mariangeles:
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Get out of my mention with your nonsense!

How you or anyone think or feel about the Igbos is irrelevant! It doesn't change who we are. A GREAT PEOPLE!