SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

the social media

lilmax:
Men didn't change

Women changed.....most of the ones unmarried at the moment are rotten


They are not intelligent, innovative

They just want to party, hookup, hoe till the find a SIMP that is moved by tears, then hold him down for marriage because he has low self-esteem

According to studies, the simp eyes tends to open in the 7th year of marriage, we can say dna can cause his eyes to open, or he's no longer moved by her body

I won't entirely agree with you ( choice ) but I'd say it's the environment you found yourself in.

The truth is that do in our fathers time they provide for the home.Nowadaus some men will just be targeting a rich or hardworking babe to marry do that he will be surving on her .

Ofemmanu1:

Thank your start say you no marry a man like me.

Na beating I go take format your brain.

Serial wife beater spotted here

Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

Thank you for saying this.
Marriage is hard. Our mothers didn't have much choice than to stay in their marriages. No matter how bad the circumstances.
Now, women have goals and options which they are ready to exercise.
However, that's not to say that the husband or wife is to blame. It just means it is harder to sustain a union of compromise (like marriage) when both parties are actual human beings with rights, ambition, weaknesses and different personalities.

patani:


I do not think men having extra marital affair is a new thng...Our fathers were more promiscuous. That I can say for sure...Women only knew it was norm in those days and they never take action by divorcing thier husbands..Todays women will not blink before calling you out


I think the whole issue boils down to unnecessary expectation and fake life...Those things are now more values than real essence of marriage...Women are more empowered good thing for women folks but bad for society building (Thats just the fact)

@Bold:

Not true.

Some men want to continue enjoying the privilege to misbehave because they are the 'head'/provider.

Any society that is 'succeeding' because of the oppression of a gender would not last long.

AgainstIslam:
I hate it when someone creates a topic and then starts quoting everyone that comments in a bid to make the topic make front page.

Is it your quoting? You are the only one who is indifferent here, check yourself and stop being boring to guys around you.

Primary reason is a failure to adapt to the changing roles of the woman in a home. That's number one. Yes, women now work, but everyone should remember and perform their primary roles at home. Men are the breadwinners, women are the homemakers. Anything done outside these primary roles is supposed to be in an assistance/secondary role. Women should not be the ones bearing the burden of providing for the family. They can only assist where necessary to complement the man who should be pulling his own weight. Likewise, a man can assist with shopping and cooking once in a while, but it is not his primary duty.

Number two: pressure from the world to conform to the world's standards.

Number three: abandonment of Godly principles for marriage.

Uyi168:
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The moment you bring the concepts of devil or any of those religious constructs into a discussion, you simply kill every form of logic neeeded to dissect the issues raised in the discussion..

The physical things can't happen unless it's manifested in the spiritual.

I know you may not understand or you might say you choose not to see it this way but it's the truth.

We can't just do anything in the physical or do you think you do things at your will? Lol what you do now has been seen in the spiritual sphere. So no reason. You can't just phantom it.

tradepunter:

Only reasonable thing I have liked by our Nairaland prophet

Bro, that's human nature.

Sometimes we say reasonable things and sometimes we say stupid things..


No man is perfect.

Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

just because your father always beat your mother to pulp doesn't mean other men are like that

Adeplus:


The physical things can't happen unless it's manifested in the spiritual.

I know you may not understand or you might say you choose not to see it this way but it's the truth.

We can't just do anything in the physical or do you think you do things at your will? Lol what you do now has been seen in the spiritual sphere. So no reason. You can't just phantom it.

. K

Because people in today's marriages are selfish, impatience, rude, obnoxious, golddigging, anoying, greedy and overweight.


Who da hell wanna get married nowadays anyway? I have had sex with atleast 160 women already.. from prostitutes, married women and single women, fat, short, tall, beautiful, ugly you name it. most of them i cannot even remember their names or faces.

The truth is simple, back then our mothers suffered lots of injustices. Back then our women had no say and many had to abndon anything called career or goals just for the family. Back then as a girl, you only hope for two things, marriage and children.

Nowadays women want more! Civilization has shown them that they too can be presidents, CEOs and so on. Women have also seen the calamity that comes from depending on men for their continued existence. Gone are the days of of the king regins supreme, nowadays it is all hail the king as long as the queen is pleased!

In conclusion, adapting is key! Men who do not adapt will end up divorcing more than once same goes for women, true wisdom comes when you realize marriage is very similar to a business contract, everyone must play their part or the contract is null and void!

Marriage do not tends to last these days the main reason is *eye opener to money*

Let me sight an instance

I work in a cold room , at my place of work there was this woman who came to patronize us along with her beautiful girl , I noticed this sudden change while attending to this woman unlike when she comes alone without her girl ,we play jokes a lot ,there is this customer relationship , at this particular day while attending to her

What she could speak out was
Pls face your work ooo she won’t marry you if you are broke I was like wow !!!
Of which I wasn’t even looking at the girl

An eye opener to wealth is the cause of sudden marriage breakage

SchoolPedia:


A healthy marriage will surely last.

CORRECT GUY

salt1:


I think what changed is expectations: love came into the equation and faithfulness is expected. The men want their mothers in this century and the women want movie characters.

Lol @ the bolded

sisisioge:
Marriages are no longer lasting because times have changed and the incidents are not entirely willing to change as well.

Back in the days, everyone knew their place:

1. Men were absolute financial provider while women were absolutely responsible for house keeping
2. Men expected and received total submission, afterall he who pays the piper dictates the tune.
3. Men worked, women were either housewives or helped with their husbands businesses.
4. Men were transparent with their affairs, instead of cheating, they rather take another wife which was totally acceptable by the wives.
5. Men provided the support system required for molding/grooming children.
6. Because she knew her place, she dared not denied oga seeex. Refer to number 1 above.

Nowadays, the world has changed. Everyone brings finances to the table. Remember, he who pays the piper reserves the right to dictate the tune. She cant be hustling in the field like you and still be expected to contribute domestic efforts like a full time housewife. Even seex will suffer as shes just as tired as you. It is well sha...Communication and fairness will make things better.

Great points!
4. A second wife was not really acceptable- you can see that from the distrust among the children. They had to tolerate the other woman.
5. Men didnt provide the support system: they came home to sleep, have sex and eat (some added "to flog kids after the mum had already punished the child". The women did ALL the grooming
The women and their children also bore severe domestic violence in silence: a trend that is no longer acceptable today.

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

Marriages nowadays do not last because of
Social media distractions, ease of contact by many men willing to send money to sample the kpekus of both single and married women, and easy access to feminist rhetorics.

Back in the days,

The world has changed but some people have decided that things must remain the same . Peoples needs, wants and desires have also changed . The way we live has also changed. Many can live without partners and still be alright in today’s world. People can do well without partners who stress or frustrate them

womenareapes:
just because your father always beat your mother to pulp doesn't mean other men are like that

At least I knew my father unlike you

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

The devil is innocent.

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

social media and lack of submission

Marriage then was an extended family affairs rather than this nuclear nonsense.

During our parents time you will hear that they quarrelled and settled easily. Now some men use to beat women that leads to serious injury or death..Na person wey dey alive get husband o.

One factor is seriously missing , Jesus. This generation is "too know" generation. They want everythingto have intellectual meaning and sense . We have followed the western way and want to rationalize everything forgetting that God'sways are not our way! We want to do marriage our own way of which it is an institution founded by God!!

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

Pochettino:

Serial wife beater spotted here

I for beat all the nonsense and ingredients cheap food away for your head.

Reading

Social media.
Feminism
Slay queen.
Etc

gypsey:
Because people in today's marriages are selfish, impatience, rude, obnoxious, golddigging, anoying, greedy and overweight.


Who da hell wanna get married nowadays anyway? I have had sex with atleast 160 women already.. from prostitutes, married women and single women.

you ve seen it all

Cutehector:
Nobody is marring their best friend of the opposite sex.

I guess you are not married. Please don't ever fall for that claim.

Rather, marry a God-fearing lady that you are well older than, financially better than (i.e. she should be working - busy), of the same tribe with you, same faith (not just same religion) with you, and most-importantly, is HAPPY SUBMITTING to you. Make such a lady happy and you would experience bliss non-stop in your marriage.

Meanwhile, while making her happy, please know when to say "NO" to her desire/request and stand on your ground till "eternity", at least, until you are convinced (as the head of the home) that the road is clear for the request to be granted. That is, if it ever deserves to be granted. Even Eve would have wished Adam (being her head) denied her "fruit-eating" request and cautioned her from having further conversation with the serpent that convinced her to eat the forbidden fruit. Though, it would make her unhappy at that moment but that would be better than Adam granting her request out of stupid love/affection, which eventually brought misery to both of them and the entire mankind.

Bonus Tip:
If you are favoured enough to get the lady described above that is not from a broken home but raised for at least two decades by both parents (not aunties, etc.) with good family history, and she has no child or womb issues from any previous relationship; don't bother negotiating her bride price because you are taking "peace of mind", "long life" and "increased prosperity" back home as a wife. Your responsibility is just to take good care of your Jewel. Despite these, pray concerning "your finding", and involve those that can help you attain spiritual guidance on it because marriage is not an eatery/shopping event, but a very serious lineage's activity that can either make or mar the lineage, and not just the son involved. All the best.