shantti:


mental disorder is madness, are u telling me that nymphomaniacs are mad people?

Mental disorder is not "madness" are we grew up to perceive. Let me give you some examples, people like Ted Turner, founder of CNN, Mariah Carey, Van Damme etc are living with bipolar disorder, will you call them "mad people".

Nymphomaniacs have this compulsive and insatiable sexual desire, do not have issues with sleeping with several people to meet that urge. Their minds are continually obsessed with sex, which tends to adversely affect their daily functioning.

CalliDora1:


A house gird can do all that because that is basically her job. Does she go for any other outdoor jobs like the wife? No.



You think so?
A man once posted here on nairaland how his wife travelled for only 8days and he was left to take up her role while she was away. Within three days, he was already feeling the heat and complaining bitterly. a He then admitted the wife was a super woman and appreciated her so much in that post. So you asking which chores, try switching roles with your woman one day and see if you can cope for two days.

Super woman for wetin, to cook, clean house, wash clothes and others?

That's not enough reason to deny sex, there are other biological or psychologically reasons at play. Shey na all dey she do chores, and moreover some ladies are lazy fa

Women enjoy sex when they are less stressed out. After having children the stress of taking care of children , husband, family, and work is a serious burden on them n unfortunately they have to keep these in balance.


Omo ko easy.
So men we have a role to play as well. Assist her, cherish her n relieve her of burden n remodel her u will have what u want

Who said? So all those wives committing adultery are not in a marriage?

bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?

mariahAngel:


Don't mind him.

Polygamy will lead you to an early grave because of sex. No go do pass yourself o!

Not just early grave for the man but also the competition between different wives and their kids can ruin a beautiful family. except the man is an exceptional leveler and this is very rare and probably 1 out of every 100 polygamous home

Honestly, this thread is interesting and very educative for we the about to marry. I learnt situations won't be the same after marriage and they're never going to be back like it was during the dating period. Know your partner well before committing yourself to a marriage.

Kuns84:


Why wait 50 years for Risen's update when we have Ned Nwoko

Not every man has the comfort of billions.

Extraneous variables, as I said.

zainabicy:
This is because after a while d man stops trying to make d woman orgasm. They take and take and take.

So after a while, we sef lose interest, children dey, work dey.

So your own problem is orgasm,
Cum down here,I give and give and give
But...!

DrDax:


Not every man has the comfort of billions.

Extraneous variables, as I said.

touché

A problem was stated, he provided the most brilliant answer for that particular problem. He never said this will make all other problems go away. He is not forcing this on anyone too.

bizme:
Your thinking is sound, but I doubt that polygamy is the perfect solution. It's not all men that are cut out for polygamy.

Oftentimes the couple is counseled to communicate more, but I personally am not certain how effective that is.

sureboykris:

Would love to. Just that society won't allow it..

Don’t play the society game, try it. No one would hold you, they would complain yet no legal action can prevent you.

At the end of the day, you will realize that when your days of sex drive are over, fighting hard to secure the future of your children with different mothers will be the order of the day.

Splitmind:


Doing house chores isn't an occupation, of what financial gain does sweeping the house bring?

I'm saying women should leave all Accounting, Medical, Business and Political jobs they do today for the men like it was in the past to stay home and practice home making and petty trading.

That way the women complaining about men not having enough money can sustain the polygamous relationships

Says who, even here in Lagos, Nigeria. Many are paying to get their apartment cleaned while they go to their work place. Besides I'm not talking about only house cleaning, I'm talking about how women of those days works their ass out to support the family.

Kuns84:


I'm well within my rights to assume that the rate of sexless marriages is consistent across all race.

lol And you'd be wrong.

It is normal when you start occupying your mind with the weaknesses of your spouse or you think more of your expectations that are not met. At times satisfactions or thinking about their ex

Will answer your question when I finally get married

Hotbutt:
The reality is this.
For most women, their husbands become very Ugly and unattractive in their eyes.
The husbands sef would not help matters. Most of them will now develop one kind big "Beer" Belly all in the name of "Enjoying good life". They won't workout or go to do the gym.
They will now be as fat as what I can't say.
If I'm lying, look at your daddy and tell me how he looks.

Do u know what it means to keep seeing just one particular face everyday all the days of their lives it's not easy. You will just get bored.

As for the Sex part, they are already exhausted and tired of the Sex sef. They can even stay one full year without craving for it especially when kids have started coming.

Everything just changes.

Assignment:
1) Look at your Daddy. Then ask your mummy when last she had good SEX with your Daddy.
You would be shocked at her response. I know what I'm saying.

Lol...All you stated are mostly applicable to women. They grow fat and flabby, quicker than their men.

This is why many men have concubines outside. Zero urge for their wives.

If you have those still interested in drilling their wives after 5 years, those wives should give testimonies

zainabicy:
This is because after a while d man stops trying to make d woman orgasm. They take and take and take.

So after a while, we sef lose interest, children dey, work dey.

What's this one saying?

bizme:
I am aware this might not be the experience of every couple but the many couple I have interacted with, the story is pretty much the same: the wife losing interest in sex once she gets married to the man and especially once children start coming.

For certain couples it isn't as obvious as that, the wife simply approaches sex as a mechanical function that she needs to get over with and perhaps do something else.

Why do you think this is so? Can one say it's because once married the woman feels socially secured and doesn't need to put in any effort to win the man? Or does it have anything to do with changing biology?

There are many things that will make a woman lose interest in sex after marriage -

1) More responsibilities and things to worry about like taking care of children, cooking, cleaning, taking of her husband, her job etc. By the time she gets to bed, she's so tired that all she needs is someone to rub her back and bum so that she can fall asleep.

2) Relationship issues like petty quarrels with her husband, pointless little arguments that wear people out, back biting etc. The trigger for these arguments or quarrels could be infidelity, money etc.

3) Husband growing bigger and slower in bed that makes sex boring, and not something to look forward to but an obligation.

4) She has body image issues and feels that she is no longer sexy again because she has grown larger and slower. Her husband probably has made some unpleasant comments regarding this either during quarrel or jokingly

5) No romantic effort from the husband to put her in the mood. Saying "oya now" to her in bed with erect d1ck is not romantic.

6) Over familiarity with her husband. Almost "brother and sister" type closeness in a marriage that relegates sex to last on the list.

7) She is probably getting it somewhere else? It's amazing how most people think this is the issue but it's only a small percentage of women who actually resort to this. Most women will just lose interest in sex and carry on as if it doesn't really matter. However this could be dangerous and could lead to situations where a man who has access to her, and who is able to decode that she's sex starved, can take advantage of her by making a "bold move". This is where you hear "one thing led to another" and next thing them dey knack person wife inside toilet, for office, inside car, backyard, inside boys quarters with house boy or gate man etc.

She just wanted to get married so she was giving sex on demand, and even pretending that she was enjoying it but now that she has married and aim achieved, no need to pretend.

All in all, remember that, as a young single girl, most women only had to worry about themselves and had all the time in the world to look and feel sexy. Most of them did not live with their fiancé so had space to actually long for them. Also while dating/wooing, the man went out his way to make her feel good (romantic gestures, gifts, clubbing, restaurants, weekend get away etc) but now that they are married those things are not happening again for various reasons.

Also for the person who said he wants to marry a nympho, be careful what you wish for. Remember that as a young single man you have the ability to fvck all day long. But after marriage things will change, you'll grow older (and probably slower) and your wife (after kids and probably getting bigger, and not really having the time to look sexy) might not have the same effect on you as she had before even though you still love her. So who will be satisfying her extra large sexual appetite and strong sexual urges/cravings?

dataslid:


Super woman for wetin, to cook, clean house, wash clothes and others?

That's not enough reason to deny sex, there are other biological or psychologically reasons at play. Shey na all dey she do chores, and moreover some ladies are lazy fa

if the woman is a house wife, then no wahala but if she also goes to work to provide for the home too then you are very very unreasonable and you deserve to be alone and hire a house help who you can screw and order around .Ok?

dis

bizme:
To
1.) Good one.
2.) I believe that effectively moderates how one should take your advice. You are not a practicing polygamist, you have not been one and you are unlikely to know for sure if polygamy is the solution to the point being raised.
3.) Actually, it's not a myth, it's very recent history and many with old parents or grandparents will readily corroborate the main gist of my submission. It has nothing to do with feminism. A man that feels the need to be defensive in the face of feminism and using polygamy to do that, is actually a weak man. A real man logically assesses his situation and evolves an intervention, not because of some feministic ideology but in spite of it as though it never existed in the first place.
4.) And no, it is fallacy and not fact. You are generally not allowed to elevate an opinion to the level of a fact.

Some of us don't mind waiting for you to try out polygamy as a solution to deprioritization of sex by women post-wedding; then we can see if your advice is the solution. :-) Right now, you are not qualified to enthrone a suggestion you haven't tested to the pedestal you are placing it on.

Ned Nwoko debunks your theory as myth
Polygamy is very good and ok for a strong independent free willed man which we should all aspire to be

Do you know that feminization and gynocentrism of the Western world to advocate for female supremacy and matriachy first abolished polygamy
Why?
Female wanted power over men ,and in polygamy that desire is nullified by vying competition among women

Next after abolishing polygamy they introduced alimony in divorce

After alimony they introduced biased femcentric family court legal system laws that only favours women in divorce with regards to custody of children

My brother Better wake up

omoharry:
if the woman is a house wife, then no wahala but if she also goes to work to provide for the home too then you are very very unreasonable and you deserve to be alone and hire a house help who you can screw and order around .Ok?

Why can't she do both
I thought women are good at multitasking

eastOFwest:


There are many things that will make a woman lose interest in sex after marriage -

1) More responsibilities and things to worry about like taking care of children, cooking, cleaning, taking of her husband, her job etc. By the time she gets to bed, she's so tired that all she needs is someone to rub her back and bum so that she can fall asleep.

2) Relationship issues like petty quarrels with her husband, pointless little arguments that wear people out, back biting etc. The trigger for these arguments or quarrels could be infidelity, money etc.

3) Husband growing bigger and slower in bed that makes sex boring, and not something to look forward to but an obligation.

4) She has body image issues and feels that she is no longer sexy again because she has grown larger and slower. Her husband probably has made some unpleasant comments regarding this either during quarrel or jokingly

5) No romantic effort from the husband to put her in the mood. Saying "oya now" to her in bed with erect d1ck is not romantic.

6) Over familiarity with her husband. Almost "brother and sister" type closeness in a marriage that relegates sex to last on the list.

7) She is probably getting it somewhere else? It's amazing how most people think this is the issue but it's only a small percentage of women who actually resort to this. Most women will just lose interest in sex and carry on as if it doesn't really matter. However this could be dangerous and could lead to situations where a man who has access to her, and who is able to decode that she's sex starved, can take advantage of her by making a "bold move". This is where you hear "one thing led to another" and next thing them dey knack person wife inside toilet, for office, inside car, backyard, inside boys quarters with house boy or gate man etc.

She just wanted to get married so she was giving sex on demand, and even pretending that she was enjoying it but now that she has married and aim achieved, no need to pretend.

All in all, remember that, as a young single girl, most women only had to worry about themselves and had all the time in the world to look and feel sexy. Most of them did not live with their fiancé so had space to actually long for them. Also while dating/wooing, the man went out his way to make her feel good (romantic gestures, gifts, clubbing, restaurants, weekend get away etc) but now that they are married those things are not happening again for various reasons.

Also for the person who said he wants to marry a nympho, be careful what you wish for. Remember that as a young single man you have the ability to fvck all day long. But after marriage things will change, you'll grow older (and probably slower) and your wife (after kids and probably getting bigger, and not really having the time to look sexy) might not have the same effect on you as she had before even though you still love her. So who will be satisfying her extra large sexual appetite and strong sexual urges/cravings?

The only reason is if she is weaponizing the sex to profit at the expense of the husband
Or
She's fasting
Or
She's medical unfit

luminouz:


Lol...All you stated are mostly applicable to women. They grow fat and flabby, quicker than their men.

This is why many men have concubines outside. Zero urge for their wives.

If you have those still interested in drilling their wives after 5 years, those wives should give testimonies

Oil dey your head

eastOFwest:


There are many things that will make a woman lose interest in sex after marriage -

1) More responsibilities and things to worry about like taking care of children, cooking, cleaning, taking of her husband, her job etc. By the time she gets to bed, she's so tired that all she needs is someone to rub her back and bum so that she can fall asleep.

2) Relationship issues like petty quarrels with her husband, pointless little arguments that wear people out, back biting etc. The trigger for these arguments or quarrels could be infidelity, money etc.

3) Husband growing bigger and slower in bed that makes sex boring, and not something to look forward to but an obligation.

4) She has body image issues and feels that she is no longer sexy again because she has grown larger and slower. Her husband probably has made some unpleasant comments regarding this either during quarrel or jokingly

5) No romantic effort from the husband to put her in the mood. Saying "oya now" to her in bed with erect d1ck is not romantic.

6) Over familiarity with her husband. Almost "brother and sister" type closeness in a marriage that relegates sex to last on the list.

7) She is probably getting it somewhere else? It's amazing how most people think this is the issue but it's only a small percentage of women who actually resort to this. Most women will just lose interest in sex and carry on as if it doesn't really matter. However this could be dangerous and could lead to situations where a man who has access to her, and who is able to decode that she's sex starved, can take advantage of her by making a "bold move". This is where you hear "one thing led to another" and next thing them dey knack person wife inside toilet, for office, inside car, backyard, inside boys quarters with house boy or gate man etc.

She just wanted to get married so she was giving sex on demand, and even pretending that she was enjoying it but now that she has married and aim achieved, no need to pretend.

All in all, remember that, as a young single girl, most women only had to worry about themselves and had all the time in the world to look and feel sexy. Most of them did not live with their fiancé so had space to actually long for them. Also while dating/wooing, the man went out his way to make her feel good (romantic gestures, gifts, clubbing, restaurants, weekend get away etc) but now that they are married those things are not happening again for various reasons.

Also for the person who said he wants to marry a nympho, be careful what you wish for. Remember that as a young single man you have the ability to fvck all day long. But after marriage things will change, you'll grow older (and probably slower) and your wife (after kids and probably getting bigger, and not really having the time to look sexy) might not have the same effect on you as she had before even though you still love her. So who will be satisfying her extra large sexual appetite and strong sexual urges/cravings?

Your no.7 point just destroyed all the others.

If she is so uninterested in sex in the first 6 points, how in hell did she get so sex starved that a stranger would now take advantage? Or sex starvation means something else?

What you don't know is this, the women who truly experience what you say are very few in numbers and have stayed longer in marriage,say for 15-30 years. How do you explain a marriage of 2 years having such issues if the wife is not cheating? So your number 7 is the anchor and disruptor of your whole write-up.

Dapcity247:


Why can't she do both
I thought women are good at multitasking

You dey mind the hairy human?

luminouz:


Your no.7 point just destroyed all the others.

If she is so uninterested in sex in the first 6 points, how in hell did she get so sex starved that a stranger would now take advantage? Or sex starvation means something else?

What you don't know is this, the women who truly experience what you say are very few in numbers and have stayed longer in marriage,say for 15-30 years. How do you explain a marriage of 2 years having such issues if the wife is not cheating? So your number 7 is the anchor and disruptor of your whole write-up.

Chop knuckle

Women weaponize sex in marriage

Marriage is the only institution where u get less regular and quality sex especially wen the kids start popping up

The best solution is to either have concubines or polygamy, naturally men are polygamous so this won't b a problem

No woman can weaponize sex for me!!!!

If u understand ursef as a man and u understand women's sexual makeup, no woman will weaponize sex for u

Women dont marry men that they are sexually attracted too but marry men who are financially stable and ready for marriage

APLHA bleeps BETA BUCKS

Hassanmaye:

Men love sex more than women, is a biology, men are designed to be polygamous in nature, do men do menstruation Take care of baby? Men always are ready for it

that's a very shallow way of thinking. That men don't menstruate is an evidence for loving sex more?

omoharry:
if the woman is a house wife, then no wahala but if she also goes to work to provide for the home too then you are very very unreasonable and you deserve to be alone and hire a house help who you can screw and order around .Ok?

So it's only housewives that are capable of giving their husbands regular and quality sex ahbi SMH!

Thought women were good at multitasking

Una wan do career sluts for ur boss at work but una no wan Bleep ur husband steady and regularly ontop say u dey work, una dey craze!